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    A quote from FBR latest post in the Drama thread.
    BD's name came up a couple times. I good naturedly gave her a little bit of shit about it. She looked at me all serious and said "FBR, we're friends. You should be happy that I have some stability in my life."
    This got me thinking, can you really be friends with a dancer and still be a customer?

    IMHO the answer is “no”.

    Yes there are dancers with whom I’ve established a special customer/friend relationship and on occasion discuss life outside of the SC as if we are “friends”, but there she is sitting “half naked” in front of me and most of the time during our conversation, I’m really thinking “Hey, I’d really like to take you home and fu** you”. Hell, I have lady friends at work and in my social life and haven’t thought once of taking them home and fuc**** them, well, maybe once

    In one particular instance, I’ve tried to separate the customer from the friend, but I just can’t do it…. The result is, I just stopped visiting her at the club. The results.... she's stopped talking to me

    So, what do you folks think, can a customer become a friend and still be a customer?
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    It seems we have to tell ourselfs "NO" to keep from getting fucked up in the head. Its a shame too.
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    In the long-term relationship, that I've spoken of before, the chronology was this:

    1 year of consistent dance, just dance. A reality check at 9 months said "I don't have any feelings for her" outside of dance. Dance, baby, dance - you drive me insane with it!!!!

    Then something happened which made me think about her personal situation and I started to just care about her and her situation for 1/2 year.

    Then I was RIL for about 1/2 year. which coincided with some things going on in her life. Still, all of it was in-club.

    Then I managed to put that RIL syndrome under for a whole 2 years and be a friend outside.as well as still dancing in th club together. You still can't help being turned on, outside, but in the back of my mind, I could easily put it aside as a bad idea. Even when she brought up the idea "What if we ended up together?", I would tell her there were things and people in her life, that I couldn't deal with and she could not care about me that way anyway (because of the types of guys she would pick as boyfriends).

    Then she said she wanted to make a "go of it" and I believed her. That lasted for 1/2 year. And I ended it.

    4 1/2 years.

    The 2 year period where I was the friend and the customer was real in the sense that I could keep the two things separate. We had some great times together. But in the sense that there was money flowing in her direction most of the time, in the final analysis after it ended, it corrupts my thoughts about the friendship. So in that sense, she did not let the customer relationship go because she was often getting money.

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    It depends on what kind of friendship. You can be friends with a woman you lift weights with or take dance classes with, and that does not necessarily mean that you can casually go to her home (assuming that you know) and just drop by. Same thing goes with strippers. You can be a customer/friend with one, but inside the club.



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    Carlos is right. You can have lots of friends for limited reasons.... A dancer could be your friend for head and surfing. Something like that wouldn&#039;t make a difference in the club.... But a complex best-friend thing where you know each other&#039;s vulnerabilities? I don&#039;t think so.... I do have that with a former dancer, but it&#039;s for a very unusual reason.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chuck link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17674#msg17674 date=1074351448

    This got me thinking, can you really be friends with a dancer and still be a customer?
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    So, what do you folks think, can a customer become a friend and still be a customer?
    Can you be a customer and be friendLY outside the club? sure. Can you continue to be a customer and actually be FRIENDS? NO

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chuck link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17674#msg17674 date=1074351448
    This got me thinking, can you really be friends with a dancer and still be a customer?
    i agree. i am assuming you mean the "talking on the telephone, taking in a ball game, sleep off a hangover at my house, takes one for the team by talking to some hot broad&#039;s ugly friend", type of platonic friend. if that&#039;s the case, why would you want to be that type of friend to a dancer (except to probably scam her other girlfriend dancers into bed)? initially, you probably didn&#039;t pick her out for a lap dance because of her "striptease" skills . that&#039;s what&#039;s i like about sc. it&#039;s all about pure carnality for me. i don&#039;t go there to make a new platonic friend.

    Quote Originally Posted by sadbuttrue link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17680#msg17680 date=1074354840
    But in the sense that there was money flowing in her direction most of the time, in the final analysis after it ended, it corrupts my thoughts about the friendship. So in that sense, she did not let the customer relationship go because she was often getting money.
    hold on, you spent 4 years chasing this stripper before deciding (or before she decided) to date her and you expected things to be different once you entered a relationship? heighten expectations can be a bitch. you know, it reminds me of a story. every once in a while, there is a mixed social gathering of, shall we say, like minded individuals. one of the conversations centered around how hide and move around funds so the S.O. wouldn&#039;t get suspicious. one new and painfully inexperienced member to the group mentioned, after hearing some of the figures being thrown around, that it would be cheaper to sleep with the S.O. because she wouldn&#039;t spend that much money and the level of service is the same. after a moment of dumbfounded silence and rolling of the eyes :o. another member sarcastically pointed out that his S.O. cost him twice as much and for half the level of service.
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    I certainly hope so! If I help , encourage someone to succeed into going into the business then I hope we remain friends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mr_punk link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17687#msg17687 date=1074365742
    Quote Originally Posted by sadbuttrue link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17680#msg17680 date=1074354840
    But in the sense that there was money flowing in her direction most of the time, in the final analysis after it ended, it corrupts my thoughts about the friendship. So in that sense, she did not let the customer relationship go because she was often getting money.
    hold on, you spent 4 years chasing this stripper before deciding (or before she decided) to date her and you expected things to be different once you entered a relationship? heighten expectations can be a bitch. you know, it reminds me of a story. every once in a while, there is a mixed social gathering of, shall we say, like minded individuals. one of the conversations centered around how hide and move around funds so the S.O. wouldn&#039;t get suspicious. one new and painfully inexperienced member to the group mentioned, after hearing some of the figures being thrown around, that it would be cheaper to sleep with the S.O. because she wouldn&#039;t spend that much money and the level of service is the same. after a moment of dumbfounded silence and rolling of the eyes :o. another member sarcastically pointed out that his S.O. cost him twice as much and for half the level of service.
    To respond to your question, I actually was trying to be only a friend during that two years. When she finally said that she wanted a full relationship, I thought she had reached a point in her life where she was tired of the numbskulls she was with. I should not have believed it and should have stayed with the former idea I had which was that she was incapable of a relationship with someone like me. Nothing on me, merely sad but true. I guess I believed what I wanted to believe.

    As to the second part, I&#039;m not sure I understand what you are saying or how it relates.

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    Actually, I kind of got lost in figuring out what was going on in your group, which doesn&#039;t fit into anything I think. I&#039;m just different, I guess.

    If you mean, did I think to the money thing was going to change when she became a friend? Kind of. But at the time. I chalked it up to she needed help and I liked her company. But it was actually the relationship after that made the friendship more suspect and caused me to count up the cost of the friendship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sadbuttrue link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17693#msg17693 date=1074368463
    To respond to your question, I actually was trying to be only a friend during that two years.
    i&#039;m curious, during that time you were trying to be her friend. you never felt nor wanted anything more beyond a platonic friendship? not even good old fashioned lust?

    Quote Originally Posted by sadbuttrue link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17693#msg17693 date=1074368463
    When she finally said that she wanted a full relationship, I thought she had reached a point in her life where she was tired of the numbskulls she was with.
    so, before you entered a relationship with her, you knew that she liked the "numbskull" type?

    Quote Originally Posted by sadbuttrue link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17693#msg17693 date=1074368463
    I should not have believed it and should have stayed with the former idea I had which was that she was incapable of a releationship with someone like me. Nothing on me, merely sad but true. I guess I believed what I wanted to believe.
    Quote Originally Posted by sadbuttrue link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17697#msg17697 date=1074371033
    If you mean, did I think to the money thing was going to change when she became a friend? Kind of. But at the time. I chalked it up to she needed help and I liked her company. But it was actually the relationship after that made the friendship more suspect and caused me to count up the cost of the friendship.
    exactly. as i mentioned before, it all a matter of expectations. it&#039;s like when you were a kid and you ordered sea monkeys or x-ray glasses from the back of a comic book. before your package arrived you got excited about all the cool things you could do with sea monkeys or x-ray glasses, until your order arrived :&#039;(. so, you had the expectation, despite your initial instincts, that she would be different in a relationship with you. the same principle applies in the story. the very green rookie, who didn&#039;t have the experience of some of the older members who were married or in a relationship for a much longer period of time. he had the expectation that, sex with the S.O. is the same as sex (real or imagined) with a non-S.O and cheaper to boot. if that were the case, the sex industry would probably close overnight. oh well, live and learn.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mr_punk link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17700#msg17700 date=1074375334
    i&#039;m curious, during that time you were trying to be her friend. you never felt nor wanted anything more beyond a platonic friendship? not even good old fashioned lust?
    Oh, it wasn&#039;t easy being with what I thought was the sexiest women on earth. Those desires were there. But I also did not think she needed another one of those people in her life, crazed people, stalkers, she needed a friend. They were kept in check by this and a number of other things.

    Quote Originally Posted by mr_punk link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17700#msg17700 date=1074375334
    so, before you entered a relationship with her, you knew that she liked the "numbskull" type?
    Yes, by numbskulls, I meant guys who were obsessed with her, but really did not really care about her. And yes, your Honor (j/k) I caved, at that weaker point in my life.

    Live and learn. Even with all the information I had taken in over the few years I had with dance and dancers already, I went in with eyes open. Maybe I knew her better than she did, with my original insight, but just got blinded.

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    I feel like Im friends with them but I know its just superficial. A midnight call from Miss B or Miss D asking me to jump start their car battery (thats a normal friend thing) wouldnt go over too well with Mrs FBR LOL

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    Wonder what the ladies think of this?
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17714#msg17714 date=1074393188
    I feel like Im friends with them but I know its just superficial. A midnight call from Miss B or Miss D asking me to jump start their car battery (thats a normal friend thing) wouldnt go over too well with Mrs FBR LOL

    FBR
    I agree with what you say FBR, and feel pretty much the same way. In fact, a few years ago, a dancer I was "friends" with did have a incident with her car at late night and did call me! Fortunately she only had my work number (pre-cell phone days). Yeah..Mrs. Brel wouldn&#039;t have had a good sense of humor about that! :o

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    Lots of dynamics at play here, but generally speaking I consider a friend to be someone that I know and enjoy spending time with, under that criteria yes I would consider several dancers to be friends. That doesn&#039;t mean we have to be friends outside the club, that doesn&#039;t mean we&#039;re going to drive each other to the airport, or help each other move, and so on and so on. There are lots of people I would classify like this (co-workers, clients, bartenders, waiters, my barber, the people at my health club, etc.). So yes in this instance I think you can be both a friend and a customer.

    Now if the question was can you be good friends, friends who do things together outside of the club, and be a customer at the same time, then I&#039;m with Chuck, too many questions about motives on both sides IMO.

    Isn&#039;t that the same with any good looking woman though, isn&#039;t it always about nailing them more than being best buds? Kind of the old "When Harry Met Sally" question I guess.

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    I think its generally not possible. However, in certain, very limited circumstances I think its possible. For instance, when I was going to clubs regularly (back in the day), there were several dancers with whom I was friendly. We&#039;d sit around at the bar and chat, occasionally see each other socially outside the club (not dating, just a "let&#039;s do lunch" kind of thing) and every once in a while, if it was a slow day or we were in the mood, or whatever, I&#039;d get a dance (hey, its better than just giving her $20 because she&#039;s having a slow day...yeah, I&#039;m kind of shallow like that).

    I do think it would be next to impossible to buy dances on a regular basis from a dancer and also be a good friend. At some point you cross from friend to ATM. Maybe a limited one like Carlos mentioned, just not a close friend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sadbuttrue link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17693#msg17693 date=1074368463
    To respond to your question, I actually was trying to be only a friend during that two years. When she finally said that she wanted a full relationship, I thought she had reached a point in her life where she was tired of the numbskulls she was with. I should not have believed it and should have stayed with the former idea I had which was that she was incapable of a relationship with someone like me. Nothing on me, merely sad but true. I guess I believed what I wanted to believe.
    Quote Originally Posted by sadbuttrue link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17697#msg17697 date=1074371033
    If you mean, did I think to the money thing was going to change when she became a friend? Kind of. But at the time. I chalked it up to she needed help and I liked her company. But it was actually the relationship after that made the friendship more suspect and caused me to count up the cost of the friendship.
    Quote Originally Posted by sadbuttrue link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17713#msg17713 date=1074390177
    Oh, it wasn&#039;t easy being with what I thought was the sexiest women on earth. Those desires were there. But I also did not think she needed another one of those people in her life, crazed people, stalkers, she needed a friend. They were kept in check by this and a number of other things.
    Quote Originally Posted by sadbuttrue link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17713#msg17713 date=1074390177
    Yes, by numbskulls, I meant guys who were obsessed with her, but really did not really care about her. And yes, your Honor (j/k) I caved, at that weaker point in my life.
    FWIW, a stripclub is probably one the worst places you can choose to meet a woman for a relationship. keep in mind, i&#039;m not talking about a fuck buddy, a friend with privilege, a mistress, or a BBBJ in some darkened corner of the club. a sc is nothing more than an artificially created social evironment for men. in a sc, men can feel free to indulge in their baser instincts without the threat of a lawsuit . BTW, that doesn&#039;t mean you can cut the cheese whenever you feel like either, guys .

    i hope that you keep one thing in mind when you first meet a dancer who flips your switch. she doesn&#039;t like you. you&#039;re paying her to pretend she likes you. in reality, she probably has no strong feelings one way or the other (like any other stranger). at best, she probably thinks you&#039;re just another socially inept PL who&#039;s impressed by the mere fact that she takes her clothes off in a sc. as a result, there really is no upside in being the "i&#039;ll hang around and keep spending money until you get tired of screwing numbskulls" nice guy.

    still, i can&#039;t say that i blame them. it is truly unsurprising the number of customers who are impressed by this fact. when coupled with a high dose of SS and the customer&#039;s own misguided belief that she actually thinks he&#039;s "special". is it any wonder, that he feels the need to place her on a pedestal so high that he needs 100 ft arms just to touch her feet. you think strippers are unaware of this fact and won&#039;t take advantage of it? quite the opposite, they depend on it. however, don&#039;t take it personal, it&#039;s just the nature of the business. objectifying women is allowed in a sc, but it always makes me squeamish when i see it taken to a excessive level.

    there is no rule that says you can&#039;t have a relationship with a stripper. i would just keep one finger close to the eject button, if i were you. the stripper in the club who seems to be, responsible, full of confidence, ready to satisfy your slightest whim (cause you&#039;re special) and just made of sugar and spice, probably isn&#039;t the same person outside of the club. you see, the very characteristics that attracted you to her in the first place may be the least desirable or a total facade once outside the club.

    for example, she may seem to be confident about herself in the club. that is, until some guy sends her screaming into the dressing room to look in the mirror after overhearing him say "her ass is kinda fat" or one of her regulars asks her if she gained any weight. don&#039;t worry you&#039;ll hear about that soon enough because you have reassure her for the next two hours that her ass is just fine. or how about the fact that in all the previous conversations, she neglected to mention the $10,000 in credit card debt (she needs help paying it off) because she has a taste for Manolo Blahnik shoes or the restraining order against her soon to be paroled ex-bf, not to mention the fact that your home smells like something out of a Cheech and Chong movie when she&#039;s over.

    now, instead of the relationship being fun, it becomes more like work. now, you have to satify her desires for companionship, support, understanding, money and attention (you think she would get enough of that at the club). all of a sudden, she not so cute anymore and that pedestal has long since crumbled into dust because you entered the relationship for the all the wrong reasons. this is a case of the big head doing the thinking for the little head.

    in closing, a sc is supposed to be all about you. fortunately,it&#039;s also about instant gratification for both parties, just make sure that she wants it more than you do. remember, it&#039;s your money in your pocket and they want it. if you&#039;re not satisfied with the service, take your money elsewhere. i don&#039;t care if it&#039;s for a dance or FS in a booth. however, don&#039;t just sit there and let some dancer hustle you into keep feeding the meter because she says you&#039;re special. odds are, you&#039;re probably not. she&#039;s only feeding (with your help) into your delusional "fantasy". if must rely on a fantasy inside a sc, instead of thinking about a romantic afternoon picnic in the park with a stripper. please, feel free to use my hindbrain fantasy instead:

    all the dancers in the stripclub are really amazons (scantily clad in fur micro bikinis) from the Kingdom of Fellatrix.

    their mission: to suck all the "manly juices" from any male unfortunate enough to cross their path.....................................and you&#039;re next. FYI, it works better in black and white.
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    i dont believe in a customer dancer friendship, because of the circumstances you have met. it was quite intimate and there is always that in the back of the mind. becides you dont have to pay to see or talk to a friend. dont qoute me on this this is only an opinion ( to clearify due to previous comments). i think itis just a client relationship nothing more, because once you pay them that is reaaly all you ever are. A CLIENT a way to make deffinate money.

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    Thanks to all my SCJ buddies for keeping me grounded on this point. I fall way too easy into thinking that I can be somewhat of friends with a fav. NOt let&#039;s go to the movies, but someone who talks about real problems with each other and she may actually care about things.

    Your comments let me rethink things objectively and naturally you are right - I&#039;m a customer who pays for the "friendship".

    I&#039;ve got to get out of this bad mental cycle. It would be a lot less complicated to re-start my SCJ adventures at a new club with no favs and just get an LD from someone I think is hot and move on. But why can&#039;t I make the break from the favs? I think it&#039;s because I do not go to a SC for the mileage or grinding. I like the small talk before and after...more to fill an emotional void and not a sexual void.

    I was close to making a bit of a break &#039;cause the fav was taking me for granted. As a first step, when I last saw her, I danced with another girl which I never do. Well after that the fav has refocused and the last visit was the best in ages. So now it&#039;s going to be even harder to address this.

    Enough about my rants...thanks for keeping me honest...oh, what to do, what to do......???

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    Ask out some real women...then suddenly the fav isn&#039;t as special anymore.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NVJosh link=board=1;threadid=1164;start=msg17963#msg17963 date=1074818320
    Ask out some real women...then suddenly the fav isn&#039;t as special anymore.
    LOL... He can&#039;t NV. I think Spanky is one of the married ones. :o

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    Well...he CAN ask them out, he&#039;s just probably a whole lot safer if he doesn&#039;t.

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    No I can&#039;t ask them - a real girl that is. I am one of the married ones. My (warped?) sense of values somehow gets happy with hitting the SC and having a fav, but I couldn&#039;t live with myself if I was seeing someone for real. Before I do that I would have to make a change in status with Mrs. Spanky which I am not ready to do.

    I am finding solace in the fact the the fav is just a fantasy type relationship and therefore not a threat to the married relationship. But then I struggle with the issue of is the fav a real friend or what -- I guess my model doesn&#039;t quite work, now does it?

    Damn these girls who make you feel great when you see them..how dare they - LOL.



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    Geez, they&#039;re not all cold hearted bitches, believe it or not some dancers are really genuinely nice people . I agree if you&#039;re looking for a relationship it&#039;s the wrong place, and it IS primarily about the money, but I disagree with those who say you can&#039;t develop a friendship on some level at a strip club.

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