Which type of sexual encounter turns you on more?

[SportsWriter2]

I ask dancers this question, and the majority say they would be turned on more in an encounter with someone they thought was hot. Some add that it would have to someone they like (but not love).... If that's that way you feel, do you have any guilt about it?

[Dreamer]

Sex is definitely better with someone you love or even respect greatly than someone who is hot.

[Bridgette]

Sex is better with someone I care about, with whom I feel comfortable and cared for. It's nice if he's also hot, but that is sooooo not necessary. I'll settle for reasonably attractive with the right personality/attitude/emotion. Of course chemistry is the bigger part of sexual attraction for me....that certain something that makes someone a good lover for me. Not porn star good, but fits with me good.

[sander8son]

Why can't the person you love be hot as well? I guess i'd rather be with/get more out of sex with someone i love than just think is hot. Also, if you love someone, don't you tend to think they're hotter than others? You think they're whole person is hot, not just they're external organs.

[mr_punk]

for me, neither encounter is more advantageous over the other because "like" or "love" has little to do with the encounter. it all depends on well we click with each other and her skill level. a woman who looks good, but generates no heat on my sex-o-meter, leads to an unsatisfying encounter. a woman who i "like", but generates no heat on my sex-o-meter, can lead to an unsatisfying encounter also.

[electric_head]

I'd like to try some of this "sex" you speak of.

[Bridgette]

Why can't the person you love be hot as well? [snip] Also, if you love someone, don't you tend to think they're hotter than others? You think they're whole person is hot, not just they're external organs.

Of course the person I love can be hot, it's just that when I'm choosing someone to date or get close to, looks only get a certain amount of initial consideration; the personality and mentality is the deciding factor, and if I meet someone I feel chemistry with and whose personality and mentality I like, they get much further than a hunk with nothing but air upstairs. I definitely see someone I love as more attractive than others. That is part of loving them.

Back to the original comment - I can't get totally turned on by someone I don't care for and/or feel doesn't care about me. I have to have the emotional comfort and security for it to really be good.

[jennymodel]

I get turned on the most by someone who is really good at sex. They need to be somewhat attractive too.

[Moneywise]

I'm easily turned on by someone I very much care for that also matches or exceeds my thirst for intimacy.

[carmenNYC]

dont know if i've ever been in love, so perhaps i wouldnt know how sex when in love feels.

my past sexual experiences have been fucking phenomenal when it was just straight up lust, hair pulling, slam-me-against-the-wall-sex. it's been working for me so far...if it aint broke, dont fix it. fuck being in love!!hahaahaha... you dont have to be in love to have amazing sex.. but of course there has to be some spark there besides physical attraction.

[SportsWriter2]

Oh yeah, that works for me, too.

[MeganS]

Hmm, it seems to me that I prefer sex with someone whom I deem as hot (not just physical, but how they present themselves and hold themselves determines sex appeal to me) I seem to have some sort of a problem with once truly loving someone, the sex isn't phenomonal anymore. I guess deep down I prefer explosive, "gee we barely know each other" so let's just get nasty kind've sex.

When I've been flirting with a guy for awhile and then every time I see him my juices start running rampant, my god, I can tell that would just be some damn good sex, even if they kinda sucked, 'cause man oh man, I know exactly what I would be doing!

[Isis]

I ask dancers this question, and the majority say they would be turned on more in an encounter with someone they thought was hot.

if u asked me at work u might get that answer, but in real life I much prefer someone i'm connected to emotionaly

Some add that it would have to someone they like (but not love).... If that's that way you feel, do you have any guilt about it?

guilt about what exactly? dances ? or having sex w/o emotional strings?

either way- nah.... i have a few regrets, but I wouldn't call it guilt.

[woman]

emotions are crazy but i would rather have a "connection" with someone i care about. i'd be more inclined to try more things with someone i care about vs casual sex.
maybe i'm a prude and not living life like i should cuz we only have one life to live and it should be to the fullest. but i'm a sucker for love

[Darren]

Definitely emotional, but...

This is sure to piss some people off, but well there is no way to put this in a PC way.

She does NOT need to be a stripper hot, but I am turned on by visuals, and when I look down I want to see a woman in my arms that is roughly shaped like a woman. That means I want to see the female shape, not a big blob of fat rolls. I want to see long hair, not a butch/bowl cut boy hair cut. I love running my fingers through long shiney hair I want her to smell clean and of hot sexy perfume. I want to see that she has made an effort.

Yea go ahead and beat me up But I like sex, and I make a big effort to take care of myself. I work out regularly, eat carefully, keep clean and neat (except on the weekends when I am busy playing or working around the house ).

So I don't expect something I wouldn't do myself. She doesn't need to be *HOT* but she needs to be reasonably appealing or it just doesn't work for me. Looking back, all of the women I have been most emotionally attracted too have NOT been super hot, by comparison with most dancers but they were well balanced (good looking without being excessive, and lots of good personality traits).

Still, I am a guy and my bod turns on when I see a super beautiful woman. However just being an average looking guy I have never had a sexual encounter with a bomb shell so who knows, maybe I don't know what I am missing - hehe

[Tigerlilly]

I can't say I have ever found myself sexualy attracted to anyone that I wasn't emotionaly involved with...
As much as I appreciate the beauty of the human body for me it's only an aesthetic pleasure, that is unless there is an emotional connection.

Yeah I know, I'm such a girl

[sadbuttrue]

I don't usually post on these types of threads. But I have to say that the strangest part about me is that I'm not sure I can have sex with a woman I don't love. OTOH, that love may be for all the wrong reasons, but love nonetheless.

In the last attempt at a relationship, I was not interested in that, unless she showed me the love she said she had for me. Failing that, (and other reasons) it never happened. And that being with what I considered to be the sexiest woman on the planet.

>>>Sad But True<<<