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    I didn't comment on Chuck's question simply because I think he asked it in the wrong way. It doesn't matter whether she is a stripper or not. The question should have been...

    Can you be friends with someone you are sexually attracted to????

    My answer is no. Unless you are otherwise attached and would not cheat on your SO.

    If there is sexual attraction, any pretense at being friends is only playing the nice guy or gal till you get your shot or realize it will never happen and give up.

    Some examples...

    When I was frequenting real clubs a bud was hot property. He had a dance partner that was a "friend." She waited for her shot through 3 girlfriends and was clearly pissed about each one. After the 3rd breakup she was the rebound girl and made the most of her chance. They got married, have a son and have been together about 2 years.

    When I was 18, I played the part of friend for a year till I got my shot. LOL. It lasted about another year after. .

    My point is... men or women with a sexual attraction towards the other will be "friends" till the one with the attraction realizes they don't have a chance. "Ever." Then the "friendship is over. Period! I'm sure that's the point many strippers lose their regulars too.

    In the case of strippers, if the customer never loses sight of the fact it is only business, there will never be a problem. The problem is... the best of the best so thoroughly blur those lines it is easy to go RIL.

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    Default Re:Customer VS Friend Part 2

    Is it because they are so good or we want it to happen or a little bit of both?
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    Great points Fish. Friendship is a confusing thing. It's very easy to blur the lines between being friends with a lady and lusting after her.

    Hell, life is confusing, especially the relationship parts.

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    Fish, I think you're right with one exception. If a submissive has a secret surreal dark side, you can go there and still be friends. No one would even sense it, because the whole midrange of love/lust doesn't exist, but it's definitely a sexual attraction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fishnet link=board=1;threadid=1184;start=msg18008#msg18008 date=1074919948
    I didn't comment on Chuck's question simply because I think he asked it in the wrong way. It doesn't matter whether she is a stripper or not. The question should have been...Can you be friends with someone you are sexually attracted to????
    i disagree. i thought Chuck's question was very specific without being too generalized. you may not think there is a difference between a stripper and a civilian, but i think otherwise. which is why, it makes me a bit uncomfortable to intertwine the two groups because the conditions are not the same, even if you don't think it's possible to maintain a platonic level of friendship to a woman while being attracted at the same time.

    Quote Originally Posted by fishnet link=board=1;threadid=1184;start=msg18008#msg18008 date=1074919948
    My point is... men or women with a sexual attraction towards the other will be "friends" till the one with the attraction realizes they don't have a chance. "Ever." Then the "friendship is over.
    case in point, if a civilian man or woman has been put into the LJBF (let's just be friends) category by another person. i think that person is probably being very honest and sincere with you. sure, you may be a little heartbroken, but in a couple of weeks you'll realize that there are other fish in the sea and move on. OTOH, strippers aren't always that honest and sincere in the sc atmosphere. oh, they may try to give you the impression that there may be a little chemistry (SS) between you two but there isn't any chemistry. it's just a hustle to get you to come back to the club and buy more dances.

    Quote Originally Posted by fishnet link=board=1;threadid=1184;start=msg18008#msg18008 date=1074919948
    Period! I'm sure that's the point many strippers lose their regulars too.
    which is why many dancers try to take their regulars for a long, long, long, ride as possible by dropping a few hints here and there, promising a lot and delivering nothing to keep them interested. it's nothing more than "stripper mentality" at work.

    Quote Originally Posted by fishnet link=board=1;threadid=1184;start=msg18008#msg18008 date=1074919948
    In the case of strippers, if the customer never loses sight of the fact it is only business, there will never be a problem. The problem is... the best of the best so thoroughly blur those lines it is easy to go RIL.
    and the best of the best aren't really that good at blurring the lines themselves. she gets a lot of inadvertent help from the customer. which is why i always say if you're that interested in that type of a relationship with a stripper ask her out, to do otherwise is a bit self-destructive. for example, a RIL may know a stripper isn't interested in a relationship, but instead of taking the direct route to find out if there is an sincere interest. the RIL really doesn't want to know, he would would rather hope :o that one day she is going to declare her attraction to him. strippers know this and throw him a glimmer of hope every once in a while and milk this type of behavior for all it's worth.

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