I just started seeing a new guy and i really like him how do i tell him im a dancer?I dont want him to judge me before he knows me .. and how long should i wait to tell him? we been going out about 2 weeks..
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I just started seeing a new guy and i really like him how do i tell him im a dancer?I dont want him to judge me before he knows me .. and how long should i wait to tell him? we been going out about 2 weeks..
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My thinking is the sooner the better, dancing is a part of who you are, he needs to know that side too, and quite frankly you need to know how he feels about it. Plus, if you put it off too much longer once you do tell him he may wonder if there's anything else you've been hiding from him. Get it out there.
Good luck, I hope things work out for you.
I agree with RH. Tell him now.
FBR
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.





Yup, don't postpone it and tell. Nothing worse than finding out through third parties.
I guess you should fuck him first and then tell him you're a dancer. If you fuck him good he wouldn't care. Anyhow, I know a lot of girls who have problems in the relationships because they dancing........ That's part of the business. Where do you dance by the way? scores,vip,flashdancers,tens, penthose?????Originally Posted by Brooklyn link=board=1;threadid=1422;start=msg22125#msg22125 date=1082305909
Also, make difference what club.....
That guy better off not to know..... :o)
Different day, the same shit...
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thanks guys ... i think we will have the talk soon ...
I work at a decent club in charlotte,nc so hopefully he will be cool with itwish me luck...im going to need it
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Good luck, Brooklyn.
If you guys stay together, he will find out. If he can accept it, the sooner you tell him, the more honest you are being with him. If he can't accept it, then he won't be able to accept it later - and the sooner you know, the better.
The longer you wait the harder it will get. Good Luck



I would tell the guy soon, but Don't be apologetic. If he senses you are ashamed or you are waiting for approval from him, he will feel he has a right to tell you whether you should dance or not.
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I agree with everyone, especially jenny. Don't be apologetic. Be secure in what you do for a living, or otherwise he's likely to constantly badger you about when you're quitting.
And, he may or may not be able to handle it (look at the problems Kat is having these days). However, as much as it may suck to break up over this now, it will be 10 times worse in six months when you're more attached.
Good luck! I hope he's a sensible guy and can be accepting!
I think im telling him tommorrow so how do i say it with out sounding insecure about my job





Just explain where you work and why. When people understand your reasons, they feel more comfortable with you.... Sometimes guys think dancing means you've had 20+ sex partners, so you might need to reassure him that way.... You can talk with him about how you perceive and manage the social stigma that comes with dancing.





I have a close dancer friend who has been down this road before and, unfortunately, the odds may be against your guy taking this well. Still, 2 weeks is long enough to wait and it's time to go for it and just see what happens.
You know why you are dancing and what you hope to gain by it. Have faith in the strength of your convictions and in your goals. If he can't see you for who you are-not what you do-then you are proably wasting your time with this guy anyway.
Brooklyn, I've been dating a lot of dancers. I new they were dancers from the begining. Anyhow, dancers are special category of women. Some men cannot handle this category. But at the same time I have a lot of friends who date only dancers and they cannot stand regular girls.
To me it's all the same shit. And I think that it maybe a right guy for you or not right guy.... You're pretty girl, I'm sure so you can get anyone you want.
cheers,
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Thanks for all the advice guys i would be lost without you guys.... But I told him and he said that he understood and that he wouldnt judge me for that and that he still wanted to see me .. i dont know if the booty keep him or my good looks ..LOL but time will tell.
Way cool, Brooklyn! So far, anyway.
I don't mind saying, I've been experiencing some suspense for you.
Brooklyn, let me take your boyfriend to the strip club!
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Brooklyn, I know dancers who share my values and interests. They're stable, responsible and caring, much like you seem to be. The "I like being with you" factor is way more important than the booty.





I agree with Sporty on this one. The chase inside a club isn't all that different from outside. I find guys are attracted to the same type of girl be she a dancer or a girl outside of the SC environment.
Sure looks are an attraction but once the hot bod starts talking I decide pretty quickly if she's worth listening to or spending time with.
I hope everything works out for you.
I guess you could say im a down to earth girl... quality and my apperance matters i have alot of morals you probably wouldnt even know i danced if i didnt tell you but as u have heard it before a lady on the outside and a freak in the bed LOL oh and about my man and clubs he's a workalchoic cause he owns his own resturant so its hard to get him to do anything...but maybe i will take one day and get him a table dance....LOL
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