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    You have no plans to club at all. You come home, settle in, have a beer,and surf your favorite SCJ site. Then out of the blue the phone rings because it's Monday and you're usually at the club spending time with your fave like freaking clockwork. However, you've decided to turn over a new leaf. The "Monday like clockwork" shit is out the window. Yet still she's phoning you from her cell while at work wondering if you're going to be coming in tonight. What do you tell her?


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    Default Re:How would you handle this?

    Granted, I don't really have regulars [or more specifically, I'm no one's ATF, some regular guys like me but I'm not the reason they come to SC] so I think a "not tonight, another night perhaps, I need to change some things around."
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    Default Re:How would you handle this?

    Hang up and set her number to blocked on your cell.

    Seriously, I have zero tolerance for someone abusing having one's cellphone number to troll for business. Desperation is the single most unattractive trait there is.

    Now if she was calling to meet after work for drinks or just to say hello, it's a different story.
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    Default Re:How would you handle this?

    I see girls do this all night long when it is slow !!!
    Going through thier numbers on thier cell's to see who they can get to come in !!

    I have never been one who felt comfortable to do this.....
    I have a few customers I have become friends with, and I call them to see how things are , and that's about it...
    That's whay I make a better bartender then dancer I guess...


    So yes, letting her know you won't be in at her beck and call would be a good thing !!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moneywise link=board=9;threadid=1513;start=msg23648#msg23648 date=1086671056
    What do you tell her?
    Tell her that if she really wants to see you and make money, then come over to your place.

    I mean, why put up with the smoke, loud music, bouncers and nosy managers when you can have "oh so much more fun" in the privacy of your own home (or hotel)?
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    I think a simple and polite, no not tonight should suffice. Do not allow her to believe that she can fall back on you on a slow night. Personally, I would view the call as no more than one of those obnoxious cold call solicitations that we all get. Do you buy everytime you get one of those?
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    This one is simple. Just tell her you aren't going out tonite! Example: about a month ago, a girl I know that used to dance called me up on a Tuesday night. She lives a good hour away from me, but she was going to be in my area that night and wanted to meet me for a drink. But it would be after 11:00! Now I was out late the night before, and I do get up for work by 5:30 in the morning. So I just flat out told her, I am too tired, maybe another time. Now this is from a girl that is hot as hell, doesn't dance anymore, even when she did dance, she never wanted any money from me, and I said I wasn't going out! So if a dancer actually called me up to go see her in a club, it is very easy to turn her down. BTW, I am still kicking myself for not meeting up with that chick! LOL

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    Default Re:How would you handle this?

    Don't give out your phone number. Keep the club at the club.

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    Tell her your working....
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    Default Re:How would you handle this?

    I couldn't tell her I was working b/c she knows my schedule.

    I simply told her I was tired and not in the mood for the club thing tonight. This produced a "are you tired of me?" response to which I responded "not at all. I wouldn't mind your company at all tonight..just not at the club".

    She went into some dialogue about how it has been realyl slow tonight..blah blah blah. I rather promptly said I had to go and said goodnight.

    I would almost equate that call to a telemarketer which I barely give any more than 5 seconds on the phone.

    It's time to sweat a little bit.


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    Default Re:How would you handle this?

    If a dancer calls on the day of her shift, just say, "I can't. I have a friend coming over." Sound slightly embarrassed. The girl she can never see is the one she fears most.

    If a dancer really likes you and knows you get freebies outside the club, she'll offer freebies. Then you can tell her another girl is more dependable, and she'll try to be dependable, too.

    If you're in a club, you can send yourself an inviting text message, turn off your phone, and turn it back on when she looks the other way. She'll want to know what it says, so she can make a counter-offer.

    Dancers know the score. Most have been alone with a Rabbit at night and thought of dialing some guy's phone number.





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    Quote Originally Posted by Darren link=board=9;threadid=1513;start=msg23659#msg23659 date=1086696178
    Don't give out your phone number. Keep the club at the club.
    Darren, there is nothing wrong with giving out a cell # to a dancer. Some of my most classic moments and best laughs are when a dancer calls me up! Especially when they are stoned in the middle of the night and they leave wild messages on your voice mail! Those are classics! To me that is entertainment! Also, as you can tell from my previous post, there is that one time, when the dancer actually likes you, and calls you to go out and meet for drinks. And this chick I know, does not dance anymore and never took my money when she did! Of course I most likely fucked up by turning her down cuz I was tired!

    Anyhow, back to moneywise, I understand he is still a newbie at this. He just has to learn to roll with the punches. I am sure he will catch on very soon! And mw, don't get strongarmed by a dancer! You are the boss!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moneywise link=board=9;threadid=1513;start=msg23648#msg23648 date=1086671056
    Then out of the blue the phone rings because it's Monday and you're usually at the club spending time with your fave like freaking clockwork. However, you've decided to turn over a new leaf. The "Monday like clockwork" shit is out the window. Yet still she's phoning you from her cell while at work wondering if you're going to be coming in tonight. What do you tell her?
    what's the matter? don't like being part of a stripper's sucker-thon? truthfully, it doesn't bother me when it happens. however, that doesn't mean i'm going to the club. i agree with aggieed. so, why bother with pretense.

    Quote Originally Posted by Moneywise link=board=9;threadid=1513;start=msg23663#msg23663 date=1086697609
    I simply told her I was tired and not in the mood for the club thing tonight. This produced a "are you tired of me?" response to which I responded "not at all. I wouldn't mind your company at all tonight..just not at the club".
    She went into some dialogue about how it has been realyl slow tonight..blah blah blah. I rather promptly said I had to go and said goodnight.
    good response. i hoped you noticed that she ignored your invitation. anyway, it looks like you starting to figure out what you want from this stripper and you're starting to move towards that goal. if she isn't amenable to the idea. i recommend that you cut her loose with extreme prejudice.
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    Money said it. The key is that YOU are the boss. I have no problem giving dancers my number and MOST of the calls I get get are of the "hi, how are you" variety to confirm a schedule, make plans or just to chat. I've gotten a few dressing room panic calls over the years and turned them all down flat. It doesn't surprise me when it happens-dancers are salespeople and going through the "tickler file" is a time honored sales tradition. Once a dancer realizes that you won't respond to that she will generaly stop doing it.
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    I always say, "I would love to, but I need more notice. You should have called sooner". Except for the one time she called to say she was on her way to work. To which I replied. This is funny, I am there and just leaving. I waited to say hi, then left her so she could work.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Moneywise link=board=9;threadid=1513;start=msg23663#msg23663 date=1086697609
    I simply told her I was tired and not in the mood for the club thing tonight. This produced a "are you tired of me?" response to which I responded "not at all. I wouldn't mind your company at all tonight..just not at the club".

    She went into some dialogue about how it has been realyl slow tonight..blah blah blah. I rather promptly said I had to go and said goodnight.
    Ugh. You're a nicer guy than I would have been.

    Look- stripclubs have open doors for any vagrant off the street ponying up cover charge as welcomed inside. There is no purpose for an "invitation" so her call serves no purpose. It's simply trolling.

    I'm also floored that your decline to visit was followed up with SS and whining of how slow it has been. It's pretty clear where you fall inline with her respect hierarchy. That reality alone would have been enough for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by polecat link=board=9;threadid=1513;start=msg23679#msg23679 date=1086732482
    I'm also floored that your decline to visit was followed up with SS and whining of how slow it has been. It's pretty clear where you fall inline with her respect hierarchy. That reality alone would have been enough for me.
    I probably didn't help things by asking how her night was going. I believe I spurned the rest of her comments. (nice guy still inside fighting fora chance to resurface)

    Nevertheless, the bottom line is my 1G to 1200 per month is going to reside in my pocket and will only be taken under my terms. I'm really determined to ensure that happens. I'm still cool with her but I will begin dictating some terms or (gasp) I will move on.


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    This is nuts.

    A lot of strippers have my cell number, but it's NOT so they can call me to come patronize them at work.

    Tell her you're not coming in that night.

    Jeez.

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    Default Re:How would you handle this?

    Rath,

    If you read my comments on page one you'll see I did just that.

    She has called for a few other things as well.

    *let's hangout at the beach (caught me napping = no)
    *let's have lunch (great afternoon that could have been an even better evening. You'd have to read some of my old TRs to se why it wasn't)

    This was just the first time in the 9 months I have been force feeding her twenties that she trolled my number. Based on my my response I don't think she will again. If she does I am going to take that opportunity to gain more leverage.

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    The total opposite of what we are talking about but relevant nonetheless....

    I was in the men’s room of a favorite SC yesterday where I overheard a cell conversation between a customer and a dancer. The guy had come in for his birthday because the dancer had told him she wanted to help him celebrate. Tuesday is a very slow day in this club and the dancer had decided to blow-off her shift and go to the beach.
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    Small world, Yoda. I think I might have overheard the other end of that conversation yesterday. But hey, I think at a lot of metro Providence dancers blew off commitments yesterday. Play the impulses and you'll never be disappointed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SW2 link=board=9;threadid=1513;start=msg23705#msg23705 date=1086787990
    Play the impulses and you'll never be disappointed.
    You guys have been coming up with some good one liners lately. Great observation.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Moneywise link=board=9;threadid=1513;start=msg23702#msg23702 date=1086771775
    She has called for a few other things as well.

    *let's hangout at the beach (caught me napping = no)
    *let's have lunch (great afternoon that could have been an even better evening. You'd have to read some of my old TRs to se why it wasn't)
    I've read all your past trip reports, and in all cases they still have a high appearance of big gain for her, with little gain for yourself. This is a one-sided relationship in it's purest form.

    Stop for a moment and think of how many occasions she has done anything completely self-less specifically for you? It's always been 100/0 or 50/50. Maybe this realization might help you see through the forrest what this "relationship" involves. If you're still okay with this, fine. It's actually the case with 90% of the stripper->customer relationships (most shooting for high frequency of "mutually beneficial" 50/50 with cash being the mutual part for half, with no false pretenses behind it) and there's nothing wrong with this. The only problem is when the customer starts to have illusions of it being something different, which in this case often times sounds as if it might be... and the frequency of 100/0 occasions with zero gain for yourself also suggest this.

    There is a genuine humanity between your relationship the moment she does something completely focused towards you, unselfishly and with nothing that she stands to gain. Something as simple as buying you a small gift, giving you a card, etc.etc. Even something as stupid and insignificant as an agenda-free email with kind words.

    Your a human so you know what normal humans do for people they are fond of (take what you've been doing for this stripper, for example). Men have a tendency to lose sight of this in the SC world, create all sorts of mental excuses for the other party, and these are the ones that get cold-called on nights off or asked to run errands, do favors, or extend loans.

    If you're blowing 1G+ a month on this person, I can't think of a less deserving recepient. While a lot of the SCJ's will try to equate sex as being some bartering chip or balancing piece, it goes well beyond just that. It can help justify expenditures, but it doesnt justify any feelings you may be imagining this person actually has. In your case, neither is present.. sorry to say.

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    Quote Originally Posted by polecat link=board=9;threadid=1513;start=msg23717#msg23717 date=1086815987
    Men have a tendency to lose sight of this in the SC world, create all sorts of mental excuses for the other party, and these are the ones that get cold-called on nights off or asked to run errands, do favors, or extend loans.
    This is gonna sound like boasting or self-promotion, and I'm a little (but not too) sorry about that.

    There was this stripper I was "dating" last year. Like the other strippers I "date", every few weeks, whenever we both were free, I'd take her out to dinner somewhere and then to a hotel. I'd give her a fair but (at least here in NYC) far from exhorbitant amount of money for this (although the dinners were very good ones).

    At one point she told me about this OTHER customer of hers. She'd call him when she needed a ride somewhere (in New York few of us have cars) or something picked up or moved somewhere or some chore done. She wasn't sleeping with him (she had no reason to lie to me about that), although he clearly wanted to.

    She said she knew she'd never be able to get away with asking ME for that kind of shit.

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    My point being -- beyond a chance for some empty boasting -- that if you have self-respect, you're treated with respect. If you come on like a dishrag, you get treated like one.

    (This is true outside of strip clubs, too, obviously. But for some reason, a lot of guys who know this everywhere else seem to forget it as soon as they enter a club.)

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