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    After my experience tonight I believe it's time to move on. I'll explain it all in my TR. However, I enjoy going to this club b/c it's one of the only clubs in the area that focuses on my favorite brand of music. So how do I move on without moving on? ???


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    Well, since my attention span isn't too long, I didn't read your whole story. But if you mean you do not want to be a dancers regular anymore, it is simple. Don't sit with her, don't buy drinks, don't buy dances etc. Believe me, she will get the point! And she will move on to whoever gives her the most money! Don't worry dude, no use wasting energy over a stripper!

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    Just say no...

    As long as you can deal with the "Why", things will be fine. Otherwise since you know when she works, go another night and spend. Girls will make sure she hears about it and she has time to process that before you see her again...and dont answer the phone if it is her.
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    Default Re:How would one "un"regular himself?

    I know the easy way would be to just go to another club. However, no money grubbing female is going to run me off. I go there to enjoy the music mostly and plan on going there for a long time to come. One of the other dancers whispered in my ear last night as she was walking out the door in regular clothes "I've been wanting to do nasty things to you". lol

    It's time to broaden the horizons.


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    You are *paying* to relax and have a good time.

    No offense to any of the ladies, but you don't owe her anything. You have already paid for it.

    Enjoy yourself, and spend your money as you wish. Don't let her run you out of the club. I hate to sound like mr.p, but if you are really special to her then she won't charge you to be with her. As long as she is charging you you are just a customer, and as long as you are a customer, treat it as a business transaction. You've given her your cash, so you are even. If you were at an ice cream store you wouldn't feel guilty for trying a new flavor.

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    Yikes!

    Now you understand a little more why I said get the money in cash, not laps. Saw this one coming.

    How to "un"regular oneself? It depends on the reason why--Do you still like a dancer but now she doesn't do it for you, or do you just want to dump a dancer?

    In the case of the former, I did this once at my favorite club. When I first started going, I would get 4-5 laps from her and it was nice. Not spectacular, nice. As I moved on in my needs and expectations, she was not going to meet them, but she was a) a nice person who would never ripoff me or anyone else and b) still going to be around for awhile and going to have a lot of pull with the other dancers in the dressing room.

    Because I didn't want to burn a bridge with her, I weaned her off me: 3 laps, then two, then just 2-for-1s, then just conversation and a polite turndown. She was disappointed in losing an income source, but in seeing my other choices of dancers understood why and we're still cool.

    Now in your case, this dancer has apparently deluded herself into thinking she is now your wife and can control your actions, wallet and everything else in the club. She's clearly a whack job, and the other dancers know it as well. Tell her the $130 she still owes you is severance pay, and that you are no longer interested in her services or her tales of woe. Deal with the tantrum sure to follow, and move on.

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    Moneywise you've definitely "jumped the shark" with this gal. My question is, considering that you want to stay at this club, do you really want to cut her clean, or use that $130 as some sort of leverage?

    Personally, I would never front/loan money to a dancer. But if I were already in that situation, I'd simply explain to her that she can keep the $130, but if she wants your continued business (i.e. more money), she's going to have to settle the tab one way or another. Considering her belligerence, I doubt that's going to happen.

    There's no point in getting your blood pressure worked up over this, so cut your losses, find yourself another gal (or two) and enjoy. Let her be the one who has the stroke. If she continues to interfere or guilt trip you, ignore her like you never knew her. When someone is that selfish and full of entitlement, its hands down the worst thing that you can do to them.
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    Default Re:How would one "un"regular himself?

    To un regular yourself- just stop spending money on whomever or whatever you are wanting to distance yourself from.

    As soon as you stop spending you will begin to be ignored and thus become an unregular

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    LOL. I wish it were that easy Tigerlilly. She has definitely taken her self down a good number of notches on the "MW cares" pole. I'll still hit the club and I am not going to schedule anything around her work nights. She'll get over it. Hell, it's just money.


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    Man, from a glance at the topic of this thread, I was clicking here with thoughts of portraying the importance of eating more starchy foods and lean meat/protein... but since it's not....

    The solution to this and just about every other mystical scenario the universe can throw at someone lies in one simple concept: respect. You have to ensure you have this for: a) yourself, and b) those around you. When you slip-up one or the other, problems are bound to happen.

    In your case, you're dealing with someone that is absolutely void of respect for those around her. If you maintain this for both yourself and everyone else, you'll have no issue. Respect for yourself enough to know where you are, what the purpose of the club is, and who the customer is. Respect for her and her peers, enough to not resort to anything childish, unprofessional or spiteful.

    Your situation with this dancer is over. I'd also kiss your loan goodbye since this is the path of least resistance. I doubt she had any high priority of this anyways given she's missing any respect for you... but who knows, maybe some day down the road she'll surprise you. I'd continue going and anything she says, respectfully outline your visitation, your paying to get in, and how your spending dollars are what you use to pay for entertainment. I'd also haphazard a guess that anything she has to say in response is simply deeply lined SS(tm) so I'd really pay it little mind. She has had PLENTY of opportunity to display even the slightest humanity towards you in the past, so I'd think any calling out she tries to receive this in return are just further ploys to freshen the "sucker" paint she's already draped across your forehead.

    This woman really gives strippers a bad name and helps reinforce the "entitlement" stereotype. It was pretty clear from your first post about her and I've said it before and will say it again- people like this really are undeserving of anyone's time, attention or spending... especially in contrast of all the really stellar, earnest and respectful people out there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Moneywise link=board=9;threadid=1530;start=msg23987#msg23987 date=1087289129
    After my experience tonight I believe it's time to move on. I'll explain it all in my TR.
    outstanding job, MW. your training is complete, my son. go forth and spread the Gospel of the Lubricated Finger among the unwashed suckers . seriously, you're a better man than i, MW. after reading your TR, i was hoping you would be curious enough to find out, exactly how far money can get you in a sc. you really could have taken advantage of the situation, if you were so inclined. in any case, i'm just pleased to see that, you now realize the money is in your pocket.

    Quote Originally Posted by Moneywise link=board=9;threadid=1530;start=msg23987#msg23987 date=1087289129
    However, I enjoy going to this club b/c it's one of the only clubs in the area that focuses on my favorite brand of music. So how do I move on without moving on?
    "move on" as in leave your club or "move on" as in move away from this dancer? no, need to leave your favorite club. i agree with Chili's "cut her off at the knees" method. you're probably going to face some temper tantrums, more heartbreaking SOB stories, and perhaps some hinting offers of more even mileage. don't fall for it, just be yourself and she'll get over it and go in search of another sucker.
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    Default Re:How would one "un"regular himself?

    The problem with becoming a regular at a club is that dancers will crash land on you as soon as you enter the premises, whether or not they've had business with you. I'd kindly suggest you go to other clubs so you can really unregular yourself



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    Default Re:How would one "un"regular himself?

    Stop tipping her?
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    LOL, I can't believe I'm saying this MW, but please don't stop going to that club, this is getting good, I'm interested to hear how she behaves the next time you're in the club.




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    Quote Originally Posted by happy_camper link=board=9;threadid=1530;start=msg23996#msg23996 date=1087307213
    Just say no...

    As long as you can deal with the "Why", things will be fine. Otherwise since you know when she works, go another night and spend. Girls will make sure she hears about it and she has time to process that before you see her again...and dont answer the phone if it is her.
    Phone correspondence will now be cutoff. As a matter of fact, I can block her number from getting through on my cell. I think I will do that before I hit the sack. I had already seen hints of jealousy last night. It was rather interesting. It’s amazing what happens when you take the green out of the equation. :o


    Quote Originally Posted by Chili Palmer link=board=9;threadid=1530;start=msg24028#msg24028 date=1087328023
    Now in your case, this dancer has apparently deluded herself into thinking she is now your wife and can control your actions, wallet and everything else in the club. She's clearly a whack job, and the other dancers know it as well. Tell her the $130 she still owes you is severance pay, and that you are no longer interested in her services or her tales of woe. Deal with the tantrum sure to follow, and move on.
    LOL. This is brilliant and right there along the lines of how I am going to approach future interaction with her. I know there will be interaction. However, she might want to ease up on the dramatics. She’s only raising her own blood pressure.


    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish link=board=9;threadid=1530;start=msg24031#msg24031 date=1087329644
    My question is, considering that you want to stay at this club, do you really want to cut her clean, or use that $130 as some sort of leverage?
    I want to use the $130 as some sort of leverage since she still thinks she owes it to me. However, I don’t know what kind of leverage to use it for. Perhaps mr_p will school me. I’m not expecting to get any of it back. I can play with the idea of her owing it to me though.


    Quote Originally Posted by polecat link=board=9;threadid=1530;start=msg24070#msg24070 date=1087343587
    Man, from a glance at the topic of this thread, I was clicking here with thoughts of portraying the importance of eating more starchy foods and lean meat/protein...

    This woman really gives strippers a bad name and helps reinforce the "entitlement" stereotype. It was pretty clear from your first post about her and I've said it before and will say it again- people like this really are undeserving of anyone's time, attention or spending... especially in contrast of all the really stellar, earnest and respectful people out there.
    hahaha Kill the carbs!

    I agree. She does give the large number of wonderful women out there doing their thing with integrity, respect, compassion, and genuine personalities a bad name.



    Quote Originally Posted by mr_punk link=board=9;threadid=1530;start=msg24076#msg24076 date=1087348702
    outstanding job, MW. your training is complete, my son. go forth and spread the Gospel of the Lubricated Finger among the unwashed suckers . seriously, you're a better man than i, MW. after reading your TR, as hoping you would be curious enough to find out, exactly how far money can get you in a sc. you really could have taken advantage of the situation, if you were so inclined.any case, i'm just pleased to see that, you now realize the money is in your pocket.

    move on" as in leave your club or "move on" as in move away from this dancer? no, need to leave your favorite club. i agree with Chili's "cut her off at the knees" method. you're probably going to face some temper tantrums, more heartbreaking SOB stories, and perhaps some hinting offers of more even mileage. don't fall for it, just be yourself and she'll get over it and go in search of another sucker.
    Why thank you kind sir. Perhaps you could elaborate on the bolded words above. Move on as in simply distancing myself from her. I also like Chili’s avenue of approach. My next visit will be very interesting.


    Quote Originally Posted by Richard_Head link=board=9;threadid=1530;start=msg24086#msg24086 date=1087355267
    LOL, I can't believe I'm saying this MW, but please don't stop going to that club, this is getting good, I'm interested to hear how she behaves the next time you're in the club.
    LOL Dude. There will be more because no ungrateful person is going to stop me from doing what I enjoy doing where I enjoy doing it however I would like to do it.


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    " spread the Gospel of the Lubricated Finger among the unwashed suckers"

    Eww, I hope it's finger-condomed "unwashed" finger.

    I had a customer come up to me during my stage-set and say "This girl who was just sitting here thinks she owns me, but she doesn't, can we go to the VIP room when you get off stage?" so I do, and of course other girl was royally amazingly pissed off and of course didn't believe me, but it has gotta suck being "owned." Especially in my club, where apparently one is claimed and owned within ten minutes of walking in, regardless of whether you've been there before.

    And agreed, you can either cut her off cold or gradually, but either way there will be some brave other stripper that will pounce.
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    Don't burn your bridge completely with the former ATF, but do set behavioral standards she's unlikely to meet. Then decide what counts when you consider offers from other dancers. New girls walk in the door every week, and you play with other girls they'll never see.

    Plus you're six-three. There's a reason why the NBA gets the best groupies. You should be able to score at will.

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    MW, I haven't had time to read the trip report but I'm sure I've lived it a dozen times. Just stop spending money on her-I prefer the cold turkey method myself. She will get the hint and she won't waste her time with you once she realizes the well is dry.

    I never limit myself to one club or one dancer in any one club. Except for my now-retired ATF, all of my regulars know I may not spend on them everytime I am in the club.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Luna Maiden link=board=9;threadid=1530;start=msg24098#msg24098 date=1087372734
    I had a customer come up to me during my stage-set and say "This girl who was just sitting here thinks she owns me, but she doesn't, can we go to the VIP room when you get off stage?" so I do, and of course other girl was royally amazingly pissed off and of course didn't believe me, but it has gotta suck being "owned." Especially in my club, where apparently one is claimed and owned within ten minutes of walking in, regardless of whether you've been there before.
    lol
    I have no doubt, based on previous experiences ,that former fave #1 would have a heart attack if I started courting fave #2 (esp if we hit the VIP).. I'm going to have some fun.


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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us link=board=9;threadid=1530;start=msg24110#msg24110 date=1087391401
    I never limit myself to one club or one dancer in any one club. Except for my now-retired ATF, all of my regulars know I may not spend on them everytime I am in the club.
    You make a very good point. Unfortunately I visit this club just as much for the musical score as anything else I experience there. It's the only "halfway safe" club in town that plays my music 99.9% of the time.

    I'l be careful when I make reference to the safety of the club. They just hired a bouncer that looks as though he's stil la sophomore in high school. The dude says excuse me under his breathe about twenty time while doing his "walk". I was kidding the manager about it the other night and told him I would bounce for them. According to the manager, bouncers are rather transient folks. If I ever needed a second job I would definitely bounce at this club.


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    Not to be flippant, but the topic of this thread is a trick question right?

    Right?
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    Music? They play music in strip clubs??? Lol, Ok, I've used that one before, but seriously, I use a much more scientific and highly sophisticated method for choosing wich SC's I spend my time. Quality and quantity of South American dancers.
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    LOL. Quantity and quality thankfully insn't a problem at this club. They even have two hot South American dancers. One knows she's hot. I've talked about her before in previous TRs.

    I keep it simple man. I just love to hear my hip hop and sip on my vodka while carrying on a little conversation.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer link=board=9;threadid=1530;start=msg24123#msg24123 date=1087401011
    Not to be flippant, but the topic of this thread is a trick question right?

    Right?
    I'm sad to say it actually wasn't.


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    Ok MoneyWise, I'll tell you how to get rid of her but don't tell anyone; I would get banned from the "Big Girl Stripper Club" in a heartbeat! (insert laughter here), There are multiply ways to do it but it depends on your mood and how well you value the dancer involved.
    1. If your in a good mood and you like her, tell her to sit down and you guys need to talk, the "break-up" with her like you would a girlfriend. Tell her while she is attractive to you and you like her, you two just are not meeting eye to eye lately. Tell her that you hope she's not upset by this but, you just need time to figure things out.
    2. Not so nice mood and you're kinda tired of her, when you walk in make sure she knows your there, then ignore her till she makes the move to approach you. Then make small talk and barely pay attention(ie, tip girls on stage, go potty ect.), then when she asks what's wrong tell her flat out. "I don't want to spend time with you right now, I'm just in a bad mood, I just came here to relax a little before I went home and I didn't bring much money to do any dances with."
    3. Your in a foul mood and you're starting to hate the girl
    If you and the mgmt. are good friends; piss her off enough to go off on you, then do dances with fav #2 then tell mgmt. former fav#1 really offended you and that you can take your busiess elsewhere if it continues. Trust me, if you are a high-roller, the mgmt. will back you up and bitch at her for being rude to a V.I.P.
    Hope these help, but if you wanna be really vindicative, private me and I'll help!
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