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    My first post on SCJ.... read it and weep, ya' fuckers! I hope you all welcome me with open arms.

    I have recently read the dramatic kissing thread. In lieu of this, I have a question for you guys. If the situation were reversed - your SO was going to SC and kissing dancers or receiving extras or whatever you personally do, and they were lying about it and you found out, how would that make you feel? Do you lie about it? And do you think your SO has cheated? I found that I could feel it when my ex cheated, and it made me look elsewhere emotionally which may have led to physical indiscretions....

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    Glad to see your post here and Lord knows, my arms are always open.

    I'm sure I'm odd about this, but I've never been particularly jealous or possessive. Either a woman wants to be involved with me or she doesn't, and I'm not going to fight her about it. I don't demand physical exclusivity because it's not only unrealistic but counterproductive to my sexual nature and probably hers as well--if we share similar sexual predilections.

    My last relationship of three years was largely an open relationship; she saw other people fairly regularly, me not so much, as I'm very aware that fantasy is rarely better than reality and my reality with her was pretty damn amazing in the sex department--the best ever, frankly. But she kept coming back because she knew where her bread was buttered sexually and I didn't judge her poorly for her appetite or attitude (slut is not a dirty word to me!), and that suited me just fine. My apparently disturbing lack of jealousy has caused problems, however, resulting in the ever-popular "You give me all this freedom because you don't care about me," nonsense, and it makes being involved with sexually restrained or merely sexually-average women a near-impossibility. But I've always made it clear that emotional loyalty is what's key for me and it's non-negotiable--I will not be second to any man at that level. But when it comes to sex, everyone gets an itch that needs scratching sometimes, and if you're a hot chick, there's lots of people willing to scratch it for you and that's OK by me--just tell me and don't be a dumbass about physical protection. It's all about what you bring to the table and still realizing that you can't be all things male to her no matter how much of a Superman you think you are, but if you have given her what she needs emotionally and it's returned to you, it's not really a problem with a like-minded woman. Thus, I let them roam as they will--that whole, "If you love something set it free..." sort of thing.

    Emotional loyalty is far, far more important than physical fidelity--to me. Like I said, I'm sure I'm odd about this, which is OK by me. Plenty of normal people out there to make up the difference.

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    Welcome Erotictonic.

    I do not go to clubs looking for extras, nor do I accept them. My SO is aware that I go to the SC occasionally when out of town on business. While I do not come back home and tell my SO that I went, if asked, I do answer honestly. As I said before, I do not go to the SC looking to smooch or recieve extras from a complete stranger, and I adhere to this strictly. So, yes, I would be upset if this was her motivation for going to the SC, and she acted on it. As far as lying goes, I would feel extremely disappointed, I would be disappointed with both situations, however, the lie would far outweigh the act. I live by the rule that if you can't share an experience with your SO honestly, you shouldn't be doing it. It's all about trust. As my relationship with my SO sits, I would bet my life on the fact that she has never cheated, and neither have I.
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    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24100#msg24100 date=1087373501
    I have recently read the dramatic kissing thread. In lieu of this, I have a question for you guys.If the situation were reversed - your SO was going to SC and kissing dancers or receiving extras or whatever you personally do, and they were lying about it and you found out, how would that make you feel?
    a role reversal question. i think i'll skip it , if you don't mind. it will probably be easier to tell my motivations for cheating. so, why do i see other women and how would i feel if the situation was reversed? Casual Observer pretty much summed up my perspective:

    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24108#msg24108 date=1087390108
    I'm sure I'm odd about this, but I've never been particularly jealous or possessive. Either a woman wants to be involved with me or she doesn't, and I'm not going to fight her about it. I don't demand physical exclusivity because it's not only unrealistic but counterproductive to my sexual nature and probably hers as well--if we share similar sexual predilections.
    i would add the following caveat. sometime ago, i came to the conclusion that monogamy is an unnatural state for myself. i don't believe that one woman can somehow complete or fulfill my every desire. don't get me wrong. in most areas, one woman is plenty. OTOH, in other areas. one woman can come tantalizing close, always ends up falling short. i mean no one has just one friend, right? in my experience, the vast majority of the women (including some strippers) that i've been involved with in a relationship that i took seriously, did not share my sexual predilection.

    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24100#msg24100 date=1087373501
    Do you lie about it?
    to save my ass, sure. like i said, most women (and men) do not have this perspective. most women (and men) do get jealous, possessive and angry. so, i'm not going to even bother to justify that my primary reason for lying is altruistic in nature.

    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24100#msg24100 date=1087373501
    I found that I could feel it when my ex cheated, and it made me look elsewhere emotionally which may have led to physical indiscretions....
    so, you think he cheated and that made you cheat too? you know, out of all the time i've cheated on another person. i don't ever think i even once blamed the other person.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mr_punk link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24129#msg24129 date=1087405040
    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24100#msg24100 date=1087373501
    I have recently read the dramatic kissing thread. In lieu of this, I have a question for you guys.If the situation were reversed - your SO was going to SC and kissing dancers or receiving extras or whatever you personally do, and they were lying about it and you found out, how would that make you feel?
    a role reversal question. i think i'll skip it , if you don't mind. it will probably be easier to tell my motivations for cheating. so, why do i see other women and how would i feel if the situation was reversed? Casual Observer pretty much summed up my perspective:

    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24108#msg24108 date=1087390108
    I'm sure I'm odd about this, but I've never been particularly jealous or possessive. Either a woman wants to be involved with me or she doesn't, and I'm not going to fight her about it. I don't demand physical exclusivity because it's not only unrealistic but counterproductive to my sexual nature and probably hers as well--if we share similar sexual predilections.
    i would add the following caveat. sometime ago, i came to the conclusion that monogamy is an unnatural state for myself. i don't believe that one woman can somehow complete or fulfill my every desire. don't get me wrong. in most areas, one woman is plenty. OTOH, in other areas. one woman can come tantalizing close, always ends up falling short. i mean no one has just one friend, right? in my experience, the vast majority of the women (including some strippers) that i've been involved with in a relationship that i took seriously, did not share my sexual predilection.

    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24100#msg24100 date=1087373501
    Do you lie about it?
    to save my ass, sure. like i said, most women (and men) do not have this perspective. most women (and men) do get jealous, possessive and angry. so, i'm not going to even bother to justify that my primary reason for lying is altruistic in nature.

    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24100#msg24100 date=1087373501
    I found that I could feel it when my ex cheated, and it made me look elsewhere emotionally which may have led to physical indiscretions....
    so, you think he cheated and that made you cheat too? you know, out of all the time i've cheated on another person. i don't ever think i even once blamed the other person.
    I do appreciate your honesty. I also think that if you disagree with someone concerning "cheating", that you shouldn't lie. You should tell the truth, tell them who you really are. If they can't handle it, then move on, and find a better match. It is not fair. I actually hold the same perspective, but I won't lie about it to any mates. I don't just Think my ex cheated, I know he did, alot. I'm not blaming anyone. I'm saying that if I was getting everything I needed emotionally, that I would not have had a wandering eye. It's totally my fault for staying in a relationship where I was not happy. I asked for an open relationship many times with no response. Why didn't he agree to it? Because he was afraid I would leave him if I was with other guys. He wanted to cheat and lie about it, he didn't want to offer equality.

    Why wouldn't you answer my question: How would you feel? Because you would feel like a fucked over fool if you found out your wife was having an affair behind your back, which is exactly how she would feel if she found out.....It's not just the cheating, but the lying that makes you feel like such a fool. Everyone knows but you......

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    I think that going to a SC to watch some Tand A and flirt a bit with the entertainers is not cheating. I go with my wife to a club and she knows the game thats played by some of the girls. She's not threatened by it or the hot young bodies providing the entertainment. It is entertainment after all so if I go and hang with a dancer I like over a drink or ten so what, she's comfortable with herself enough to know that these women are mostly there to make some money, and she knows that the ones their to fuck over men or whatever the trip I'd stay away from. Just like their are asshole costomers their are asshole dancers as well.

    As for being cheated on...I don't want to know if it happened...but if my wife is respectful of our health and wealth then it is only sex not love. Communication is key.

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    Welcome, ET!

    My hubby had himself an ATF for most of the time we dated. She was the kissy-kissy type, too; all of her regulars got sound smacks on the lips when they came in, again when they bought dances and one last time when they left. A few got the DFK action when the bouncers weren't looking (hey, I was her co-worker. I know these things.).

    I didn't mind. Yes, I'm sure everyone is greeting that with skepticism, but I didn't mind. He's a fucko who buys out entire shifts, so he wasn't the proverbial 237th lick off the Tootsie Pop if it went to DFK. Besides, I trust him. No matter who rides that lap or kisses those lips, his heart is mine. What's a little smooching to the center of his universe? Not a damned thing other than, "Well, that was fun. Now it's time to go home to the real deal."

    Jealousy is actually the side-door reason why she's not his ATF any more, and I don't mean I was jealous. She was, insanely so. I wondered why he wasn't seeing her any more, and he told me that she was being an ass sbout him having someone special. Apparently it bothered her to no end that she could do her worst to him yet could never get beyond being a temporary change of pace from me. Go figure, eh wot?
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    I'm not blaming anyone. I'm saying that if I was getting everything I needed emotionally, that I would not have had a wandering eye.
    If I had a quarter for every time I heard this truism from a woman, well, I'd spend more time in strip clubs, let's just say that.

    It's totally my fault for staying in a relationship where I was not happy. I asked for an open relationship many times with no response. Why didn't he agree to it? Because he was afraid I would leave him if I was with other guys. He wanted to cheat and lie about it, he didn't want to offer equality
    I don't know your situation, so you'll forgive my presumptuous position here, but if you offered him an open relationship because things were obviously not working, that's a poor way to attempt fixing it for anyone because it sends the message, "I want an open relationship not because I'm secure in our relationship and I want you and I to be able to explore our sexuality with other people, but because I want you around while I'm looking for someone to take your place."

    However, if you offered him an open relationship because you thought mutual freedom to explore other sexual avenues would help, then that's a whole different story, though perhaps obviated by his condition of lying and unfaithfulness in an otherwise exclusive arrangement.

    No question about it, open relationships or non-jealous/possessive tendencies inject complications into a relationship because they can appear to place into question the intrinsic, inherent value of someone to another person. I won't pretend that it's an easy arrangement to create, but I've come to accept that, as Mr. Punk said, I have to be with someone that shares my sexual attitude and predilections because otherwise I'm fundamentally dissatisfied with the relationship. I don't need to be with X number of women at any given time--one woman is usually plenty of woman, I just need to be able to explore unique opportunities as they arise and as they appeal to me (or ideally, appeal to us as a couple), all the while knowing that my relationship is emotionally secure.

    This approach to open or shared relationships is not as glamorous as one would think, because given the seemingly unbridgeable chasm between how men and women typically approach issues of sex and love, it's a brutally hard concept to get across to a woman that you can indeed be entirely committed to her at an emotional level and still want to inject other people into the relationship for the purpose of mutual sexual fulfillment. It's damn difficult and yet, after lying to myself for years for the sake of a relationship, I've simply come to accept that this is how I am because of how much I love women. Simple (or not so simple) as that.

    I've rambled, and probably not all that coherently. My apologies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24132#msg24132 date=1087408627
    I asked for an open relationship many times with no response. Why didn't he agree to it? Because he was afraid I would leave him if I was with other guys. He wanted to cheat and lie about it, he didn't want to offer equality.
    I dont see it as being even closely attached to having fear of losing the SO... it's instead it doesnt buy or yield him anything. He's already cheating, right? So, he's got the best of both worlds. A stable, faithful SO with convenient availability, and his side flings. Total "cake and eat it too" scenario.

    I know of a LARGE number of scenario's like this and they are typical of manipulator/controlling men. They want the best of both worlds- a controlled sex toy with undying loyalty, while also having free reign to go screw any young stripper/woman on the side they so choose. It's nothing new. The sad thing is, most of the women I know in these jams totally are aware their SO/husband is cheating, but haven't confronted or approached.. they just do the same thing; hint around about open relationships to give their man a floodgate to open up, or hint around about how the relationship is going (usually with zero response or desire to talk about it), or some even go overboard with trying to compensate (new lingerie, lots of enticement, etc.etc.).

    Of the men participating in this kind of thing, they dont want an open relationship because that gifts the SO the same freedom, which reduces his control/freedom and convenience with the SO.. even without any fear of losing her. The control comes from having a neglected SO with a certain hunger for attention. Give her the same freedom, that hunger wanes and reduces his own satisfaction of neglecting her.

    Those with that kind of rooted "fear" of losing their SO usually don't have the self-confidence/esteem to have the epic cheating exploits. They expend more retention efforts back home.

    Just my $0.02 from seeing a LOT of this amongst friends/peers, and hearing the testimony from both sides.
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    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24132#msg24132 date=1087408627
    I also think that if you disagree with someone concerning "cheating", that you shouldn't lie. You should tell the truth, tell them who you really are. If they can't handle it, then move on, and find a better match. It is not fair.
    well, i never said it was always fair. in fact, most relationships aren't equitable in every given situation. sometimes, there is compromise and hopefully there is some reciprocity. anyway, it's a noble concept. unfortunately, it's not always applicable when it come to this issue.

    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24132#msg24132 date=1087408627
    I actually hold the same perspective, but I won't lie about it to any mates. I don't just Think my ex cheated, I know he did, alot. I'm not blaming anyone. I'm saying that if I was getting everything I needed emotionally, that I would not have had a wandering eye.
    my fault. i thought you meant that you were suspicious that he was cheating. anyway, when you say,"I actually hold the same perspective.", do you the same perspective as i? i don't think so, erotictonic. you see, it doesn't quite work like that for me. if i sleep with another woman that doesn't mean, she's fulfilling a need that my SO can't (or won't) fulfill. sometimes, men do cheat to fulfill a need. sometimes, men cheat because they like meeting different women and it's really no reflection upon the other party.

    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24132#msg24132 date=1087408627
    I asked for an open relationship many times with no response. Why didn't he agree to it? Because he was afraid I would leave him if I was with other guys. He wanted to cheat and lie about it, he didn't want to offer equality.
    it's a common reaction. like i said, most relationships aren't equitable in every given situation. most women (and men) do get jealous and possessive concerning this issue.

    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24132#msg24132 date=1087408627
    Why wouldn't you answer my question: How would you feel? Because you would feel like a fucked over fool if you found out your wife was having an affair behind your back, which is exactly how she would feel if she found out.....It's not just the cheating, but the lying that makes you feel like such a fool. Everyone knows but you......
    i thought i did answer your question in my first reply. i'll expound my answer. i'm not the jealous or possessive type. so, i really don't spend time wondering if my SO is cheating on me. in fact, there is only one incident in my life when i was confronted with the issue. it's a long story and kinda strange in some ways. long story short? at the time, when i found out about her cheating i didn't have any feelings of anger or betrayal, but feelings of remorse and regret. however, those feeling were not solely directed in her direction because of her actions.

    Quote Originally Posted by polecat link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24153#msg24153 date=1087423882
    The sad thing is, most of the women I know in these jams totally are aware their SO/husband is cheating, but haven't confronted or approached..
    it's a coping mechanism. it's not that much different than a PL who thinks a stripper likes him, but is afraid to ask. it's not that much different than a stripper giving an LD and the customer cums. they know, but they really don't want to know the answer.
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    Welcome, erotictonic. Hope to see you here more.

    Q If the situation were reversed - your SO was going to SC and kissing dancers or receiving extras or whatever you personally do, and they were lying about it and you found out, how would that make you feel?

    A I don't search for extras, but when a dancer has put my hand on her breast, I haven't run off screaming.

    If she's doing the same thing, I've got no basis to complain.


    Q Do you lie about it?

    A I don't talk about it. Is that a lie? A misrepresentation? I don't know. I guess it is to some degree. A woman does things that cause an erection, and she rubs on it. But no penetration or extra fluid emissions occur (unless she has them). Is that cheating? I don't know. I guess it is to some degree.


    Q And do you think your SO has cheated?

    A Yes. But things like jealousy, hatred, anger, and such make me feel bad, and I don't care to spend precious life feeling bad. You do what you can to remedy a situation that sucks, and then you move to happier times and better things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lilith link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24138#msg24138 date=1087413139
    Welcome, ET!

    My hubby had himself an ATF for most of the time we dated. She was the kissy-kissy type, too; all of her regulars got sound smacks on the lips when they came in, again when they bought dances and one last time when they left. A few got the DFK action when the bouncers weren't looking (hey, I was her co-worker. I know these things.).

    I didn't mind. Yes, I'm sure everyone is greeting that with skepticism, but I didn't mind. He's a fucko who buys out entire shifts, so he wasn't the proverbial 237th lick off the Tootsie Pop if it went to DFK. Besides, I trust him. No matter who rides that lap or kisses those lips, his heart is mine. What's a little smooching to the center of his universe? Not a damned thing other than, "Well, that was fun. Now it's time to go home to the real deal."

    Jealousy is actually the side-door reason why she's not his ATF any more, and I don't mean I was jealous. She was, insanely so. I wondered why he wasn't seeing her any more, and he told me that she was being an ass sbout him having someone special. Apparently it bothered her to no end that she could do her worst to him yet could never get beyond being a temporary change of pace from me. Go figure, eh wot?

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    Quote Originally Posted by polecat link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24153#msg24153 date=1087423882
    Quote Originally Posted by erotictonic link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24132#msg24132 date=1087408627
    I asked for an open relationship many times with no response. Why didn't he agree to it? Because he was afraid I would leave him if I was with other guys. He wanted to cheat and lie about it, he didn't want to offer equality.
    I dont see it as being even closely attached to having fear of losing the SO... it's instead it doesnt buy or yield him anything. He's already cheating, right? So, he's got the best of both worlds. A stable, faithful SO with convenient availability, and his side flings. Total "cake and eat it too" scenario.

    I know of a LARGE number of scenario's like this and they are typical of manipulator/controlling men. They want the best of both worlds- a controlled sex toy with undying loyalty, while also having free reign to go screw any young stripper/woman on the side they so choose. It's nothing new. The sad thing is, most of the women I know in these jams totally are aware their SO/husband is cheating, but haven't confronted or approached.. they just do the same thing; hint around about open relationships to give their man a floodgate to open up, or hint around about how the relationship is going (usually with zero response or desire to talk about it), or some even go overboard with trying to compensate (new lingerie, lots of enticement, etc.etc.).

    Of the men participating in this kind of thing, they dont want an open relationship because that gifts the SO the same freedom, which reduces his control/freedom and convenience with the SO.. even without any fear of losing her. The control comes from having a neglected SO with a certain hunger for attention. Give her the same freedom, that hunger wanes and reduces his own satisfaction of neglecting her.

    Those with that kind of rooted "fear" of losing their SO usually don't have the self-confidence/esteem to have the epic cheating exploits. They expend more retention efforts back home.

    Just my $0.02 from seeing a LOT of this amongst friends/peers, and hearing the testimony from both sides.

    Well, for one reason or another, they do fear you leaving. It may be because they won't have anything to fall back on, or that they will lose that needed control of another person, but it is there nevertheless. Yes, I agree that it was totally selfish, as was the rest of the relationship. It was TOTALLY about what he wanted at the time, with NO regards to me. Why did I stay so long? The only thing I can come up with is that I was a stupid moron. Of course, I was trapped in his web of bullshit. About the last 3 years or so, I didn't even pay any attention to what he was doing at all. I just didn't care anymore. I think it was just easier to stay than it was to leave. What a life experience that has changed me forever. The sickness involved in taking advantage of a naive young woman just makes me shake my head in disgust. And the lies - if they lie about that, what won't they lie about? Anything to get what they want.... Don't you guys ever feel guilty????? Not necessarily trying to judge as much as understand.

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    i dont have an ounce of respect for people who cheat..... IMHO they are lower than dog shit on a shoe......I say if u cant be faithful stay out of a SO relationship or find a SO whose into the open thing. Not being honest is dangerous to all involved and there is no excuse for it. NONE.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Isis link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24218#msg24218 date=1087463287
    IMHO they are lower than dog shit on a shoe......
    I didn't think anybody had gotten derogatory on this thread yet, excellent, let the flaming begin! Don't get the wrong idea, I take no offense to this post because I consider myself to be 100% honest in my marriage. That is my profile says it all, while the way in which I approach life may vary greatly from many of the other posters, I hardly see myself as justified to issue harsh criticism and derogatory remarks. What gives you the right?
    Just here to live and learn.

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    LOL. Maybe I should've kept my ass over on the pink site.....

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    Never complain, never explain. Keep everything in its own compartment, and minimize your health risks. No one gets hurt if you do it right.

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    And it was going so well up until now...

    Agreed on compartmentalization. In everything.

    Two more cents.
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    Quote Originally Posted by RCJ link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24226#msg24226 date=1087478152
    Quote Originally Posted by Isis link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24218#msg24218 date=1087463287
    IMHO they are lower than dog shit on a shoe......
    I didn't think anybody had gotten derogatory on this thread yet, excellent, let the flaming begin!
    oh crimmy! can't a woman express any personal opinions over here..... Apparently not that's reserved only for male posters I guess. I mean come on, ya'll want to dicatate what we can say, when we can say it, where we can say it, how we say it but dont want to follow any of ur own rules .

    Do I really need to quote the many, many, many, many derogatory remarks u guys make about women and especialy dancers

    oh forget it. Here's one more female ya'll have run off this site. enjoy the sausage fest

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    Nice scooter, Isis. Can you make it go?

    Women come and go; a pickup truck is forever (especially in Arizona)....

    I'm just glad the good ones stay for a while.

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    Hi ET!! Welcome over, we DEFINATELY traded up from Dr. Laura!

    I think that its really important to have a sense of humor and take the Blue Baller's comments with a grain of salt!

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    they have free dirty stories here! Yezzzzzzzzzzz!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Isis link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24218#msg24218 date=1087463287
    I say if u cant be faithful stay out of a SO relationship or find a SO whose into the open thing. Not being honest is dangerous to all involved and there is no excuse for it. NONE.
    hold on, you just said something very funny, albeit unintentional. what your absurd notion actually came true. what if every sc customer from the mongers to the business traveler to the bachelor party reveler all decided to fess up. i wonder what would happen? hmmm.....

    husband: i'm going out for a couple of hours, honey.

    wife: ok, where are you going?

    husband: nowhere special, just to the stripclub.

    wife: and why are you going to a stripclub?

    husband: oh, i've been going twice a week for the last three years and i spend about $400 of our money per visit. it's fun, it's got booze and naked women who will sit on your balls for $20 while grinding her ass. in fact, if i spend enough of our money. she might rub her knee against my boner. well, i'm off. see you later.

    wife: touch that doorknob and you won't have to worry about some whore sitting on your balls. if you go to that place. i'll break them for the next ten years. still want to go?

    husband: er...no. what on tv tonight?


    meanwhile, the sc is deserted, but for a large number of desperate dancers, broke college kids, blowing tumbleweeds and the sound of chirping crickets.

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    Hmm I think the point was to stay single OR in an open relationship if you can't be faithful, not to fess up all of a sudden but instead to not get into a situation where you have to lie

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    Quote Originally Posted by SpinKitty link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24295#msg24295 date=1087546956
    Quote Originally Posted by mr_punk link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24283#msg24283 date=1087535489
    Quote Originally Posted by Isis link=board=1;threadid=1537;start=msg24218#msg24218 date=1087463287
    I say if u cant be faithful stay out of a SO relationship or find a SO whose into the open thing. Not being honest is dangerous to all involved and there is no excuse for it. NONE.
    hold on, you just said something very funny, albeit unintentional. what your absurd notion actually came true. what if every sc customer from the mongers to the business traveler to the bachelor party reveler all decided to fess up. i wonder what would happen? hmmm.....

    husband: i'm going out for a couple of hours, honey.

    wife: ok, where are you going?

    husband: nowhere special, just to the stripclub.

    wife: and why are you going to a stripclub?

    husband: oh, i've been going twice a week for the last three years and i spend about $400 of our money per visit. it's fun, it's got booze and naked women who will sit on your balls for $20 while grinding her ass. in fact, if i spend enough of our money. she might rub her knee against my boner. well, i'm off. see you later.

    wife: touch that doorknob and you won't have to worry about some whore sitting on your balls. if you go to that place. i'll break them for the next ten years. still want to go?

    husband: er...no. what on tv tonight?


    meanwhile, the sc is deserted, but for a large number of desperate dancers, broke college kids, blowing tumbleweeds and the sound of chirping crickets.

    Hmm I think the point was to stay single OR in an open relationship if you can't be faithful, not to fess up all of a sudden but instead to not get into a situation where you have to lie

    Yes, good observation.

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