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    Default Would you tell your friend if his wife was cheating on him?

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    Would you tell your friend if his wife was cheating on him?

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    Default Re:Would you tell your friend if his wife was cheating on him?

    With me? Hell no. LOL!

    Otherwise, it's none of my business.
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    Default Re:Would you tell your friend if his wife was cheating on him?

    Of the married couples that I know, I consider myself equal friends with both the bride and groom.

    For this reason, I consider it a solemn duty to make available this kind of information to the victim in this role, which would be the "cheatee".. and have done so in the past.

    It is a two-step process though. I inform the cheater of my intentions and recommend he/she inform their spouse prior to my doing so, and give them adequate time to handle this themselves.

    A married friend of mine was screwing bar girls without his wife's knowledge (in my presence and 100% assured). As this endangers her life, my respect and friendship for her life surely overrules "embarassment" or trust with my other friend. I sat her down and informed her after he failed to do so after repeated promises to do so. Life first, drama second.

    This swings both ways. If someone in my circle is endangering someone else in my circle, it is my responsibility to them to take life/safety well over any dramatic or emotional thing. A broken heart can heal.. HIV/HSV/HPV does not.
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    Default Re:Would you tell your friend if his wife was cheating on him?

    Quote Originally Posted by polecat link=board=1;threadid=1555;start=msg24472#msg24472 date=1087780243
    Life first, drama second.

    A broken heart can heal.. HIV/HSV/HPV does not.
    That's a very mature approach and attitude. All couples should be so lucky to have such a friend.

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    I don't know, that's a serious question. Depends I guess.

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    I can't answer a simple yes or no.

    Wife confesses she porked a client at the office Christmas party, feels terrible, is tearful, never wants to do it again. No.

    Wife confesses that she porks everything in sight at any opportunity, not specific to age or gender. Yes.

    Between those extremes, it depends.

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    Default Re:Would you tell your friend if his wife was cheating on him?

    Since this is fairly anonymous I will tell you a little story. I once had a friend, a very close friend, whose wife cheated on him with me. :o I never meant for it to happen. I was 20. She was 22. They married young, had two boys and mad marital problems. She would always end up in the NCO club on Friday/Saturday nights. One night we both had had too much to drink. We danced. She danced very suggestively which prompted me to suggest continuing this in a more private setting. She snuck back to my dorm room at like 1am. I think I tapped it til the roosters woke up. I'll never forget those red laced panties..lawdy

    From that point on my visits to their house were never the same. She would flirt with me grabbing my ass, brushing a breast against me..every little thing to make me feel uncomfortable when he was elsewhere in the house or outside. I tapped it a few more times in my room. Did I feel bad? Hell yes I did. Unfortunately that little thing called testosterone spoke louder than my conscience. They’re divorced now. She’s remarried, happy, and has the kids. I often communicate with her via IM.

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    Default Re:Would you tell your friend if his wife was cheating on him?

    I would agree that discretion should be used if it appears obvious that it was a one time mistake. If there is even a hint that it is going to be a continuing problem, I would tell my friend. I agree that you should give the wife first opportunity to confess.

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    Default Re:Would you tell your friend if his wife was cheating on him?

    Depends I guess. all depends on the specific situation.
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