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    So like everyone has said ... I'd find a new ATF sooner or later. But this one is using a technique that I've never seen before. Her approach is that of sincerity. Is that possible inside a stripclub? I think I've had enough dances with the ladies to seperate her intentions/motivations from the pack, but in the back of my mind ... I just think that she's read me and figured out how to approach me as a customer. The only thing that throws this out of the question is the fact that her approach started when I only got a couple dances from her (barely spending any money) and way before I started getting lots of dances from other girls (she never saw me buying many dances as her shift is different from the girls I used to get dances from). Maybe it was the slow tortoise approach, but everytime I see her, I get more and more attracted to her.

    She drops by my table and pulls up a seat to chat when the club is dead, when she's done the rounds and no one has said yes to her for dances ... even drops by when it's really busy. When she says she'll be right back, she's right back in minutes unlike the usual "I'll be right back" routine that I've gotten from many of the others (who just sit in the dressing room/or sit down in a chair all by themselves). She's told me that she really doesn't chat with guys she's danced with and I believe that. It was months before I even accepted dances from her ... I knew she was beautiful, but never approached her. During that time, I'd see her with customers, but always alone when things weren't as busy.

    Not only is she utterly beautiful, but she's charming and very sweet. She's different ... she's tried talking me out of buying dances, she's told me I really didn't need to tip her at all with our dances and that we can just chat when I'm at the club (we've probaby spoken more at length than the actual dances). I have never seen this kind of behavior before and it's just overwhelming. It took awhile, but she's really grown on me.

    I know that she's there to work, and I've been a good guy in not asking one of the most hated questions ... but she just makes me want to ask her if we can get a lunch sometime to get to know her more so she doesn't use her time on me when she can get dances from other guys. It hurts to hold that back, but I know that it's just her job ...

    the curse of an RIL.

    Is what I am interpreting as sincerity real? What would you think? Would you do anything about it?

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    In a strip club "real" is sometimes not real at all. I'm not saying that this girl is definitely playing you but, if she is, she wouldn't be the first dancer to try this approach. If asking her out is your ultimate goal then you may as well do it and see what happens. You are going to be miserable until you do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by junkieSCJ link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24853#msg24853 date=1088937681
    She's different ... she's tried talking me out of buying dances, she's told me I really didn't need to tip her at all with our dances and that we can just chat when I'm at the club (we've probaby spoken more at length than the actual dances). I have never seen this kind of behavior before and it's just overwhelming. It took awhile, but she's really grown on me.
    I have been subject to this type of behavior before (faves protesting that I don't HAVE to be buying dances from them and also discouraging me from tipping them). I wouldn't say it's all that common, but it happens.

    Quote Originally Posted by junkieSCJ link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24853#msg24853 date=1088937681
    I know that she's there to work, and I've been a good guy in not asking one of the most hated questions ... but she just makes me want to ask her if we can get a lunch sometime to get to know her more so she doesn't use her time on me when she can get dances from other guys. It hurts to hold that back, but I know that it's just her job ...
    I've always stuck to the view that if a dancer wants to socialize with me outside the club, she will ask. So, in your place, I would not ask her to lunch. I'm not telling you not to. I'm just telling you I wouldn't.


    Quote Originally Posted by junkieSCJ link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24853#msg24853 date=1088937681
    Is what I am interpreting as sincerity real?
    I wouldn't be at all surprised if she's sincere. I wouldn't be at all surprised if she likes you. However, that doesn't necessarily mean she has a shred of romantic interest in you.


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    sigh....sometimes, it's like watching lemmings jump over the edge of a cliff.

    Quote Originally Posted by junkieSCJ link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24853#msg24853 date=1088937681
    But this one is using a technique that I've never seen before. Her approach is that of sincerity. Is that possible inside a stripclub?
    sure, it's possible. the problem is that customers sometimes confuse a stripper's sincerity with mutual attraction.

    Quote Originally Posted by junkieSCJ link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24853#msg24853 date=1088937681
    Maybe it was the slow tortoise approach, but everytime I see her, I get more and more attracted to her.
    well, your attraction to her is a given. however, do you think she's attracted to you?

    Quote Originally Posted by junkieSCJ link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24853#msg24853 date=1088937681
    Not only is she utterly beautiful, but she's charming and very sweet. She's different ... she's tried talking me out of buying dances, she's told me I really didn't need to tip her at all with our dances and that we can just chat when I'm at the club (we've probaby spoken more at length than the actual dances). I have never seen this kind of behavior before and it's just overwhelming. It took awhile, but she's really grown on me.
    "she's different", huh? if i had a dime for every time a customer said a dancer was different. careful, i wouldn't start building that pedestal just yet.

    Quote Originally Posted by junkieSCJ link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24853#msg24853 date=1088937681
    I know that she's there to work, and I've been a good guy in not asking one of the most hated questions ...
    a typical "nice guy" move. you're hoping (a false hope) that she notices that you're different or special from her usual customers.

    Quote Originally Posted by junkieSCJ link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24853#msg24853 date=1088937681
    but she just makes me want to ask her if we can get a lunch sometime to get to know her more so she doesn't use her time on me when she can get dances from other guys. It hurts to hold that back, but I know that it's just her job ...
    "she makes you want to ask her out?". to be brutally frank, from what i could gather. she really hasn't done unusual anything to encourage your attraction to her. it seems to me as if your urge to ask her out is entirely of your own creation, not hers. have you ever considered the fact that perhaps, she sits besides you because she thinks you're a harmless PL?


    Quote Originally Posted by junkieSCJ link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24853#msg24853 date=1088937681
    Would you do anything about it?
    well, you have two options:

    option #1: you can contiune to build that pedestal by going to the club to slobber and make goo-goo eyes at this dancer. you will never ask her out because you really don't want to know the answer. if you're lucky and if she is a nice as you make her out to be, she might notice your attraction and take the appropriate action. IOW, she won't suck every last shekel from your wallet. OTOH, she might take you for a long, long ride. in the end, she will cast you aside. especially, after you tell her that you built a shrine in her honor which you keep in your closet.

    option #: ask her out and get it over with. all she can do is say "no" or she might say "yes". whatever the answer may be, at least you'll get it out of your system. out of curiousity, i have a question for you. if she does say "yes", what is suppose to happen next?

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    Strippers will often find a guy to hang out with (read: a place to leave her drink and cigs) and use him as "home base" as she makes her rounds. Its especially true if youre buying drinks...nothing warms a strippers heart more than a bar tab. I wouldnt take her "friendliness" as anything more than that. If she wants to go out with you she will let you know.

    Oh, and I bask in your reflected glory. Ive NEVER had a stripper try and talk me out of giving her money.

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    She does sound good and I'm sure she sincerly likes you as a person and as a customer, if she wanted more than that though I'm guessing there wouldn't be any questions about it, you'd know.

    I'm guessing, like FBR mentioned, she likes having a home base or a safe zone, somewhere where she can get away from the cretins, somewhere where she can scope out who's spending and who's not, someplace where she can comfortably have a smoke or drink, it may also make her look like she's in demand to the other customers in the club.


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    I like the differing responses between the blueballs and the pinkies on this one.

    I havn't read Punk's response because its too long-winded and douche-bag like though.....

    More response later....off to swim n get drunk...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24877#msg24877 date=1088981168

    More response later....off to swim n get drunk...
    Sounds like fun.

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    forgive me for the long-winded response, Katnip. here's a couple of short questions that won't tax your attention span. it requires a stripper's unique perspective on the subject:

    when you notice (assuming that you would deign to notice or acknowledge it) a RIL-type customer making goo-goo eyes at you. do you take the appropriate action immediately or later on? before or after you clean out his wallet? or do you just hope he doesn't act on the impulse.
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    I wouldn't try to figure out what her intentions are - you will drive yourself nuts doing that, but I agree about the homebase interpretation being the most likely.

    As far as asking her out guys, would you ask her out if she was an average looking woman? Or is it all just small boring chit-chat, you have nothing of significance in common, and your just hoping to get into her jeans? Cause if it's the later I really really really wouldn't recommend asking her out. If you two really hit it off though and there is a lot of common interest then well, might as well go for it. Worst she can say is no.

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    I wouldn't put too much stock in emotions felt inside a club. I agree with a previous post, unless you are asked out, assume it is not there.

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    Sometimes a dancer is in the hustle zone.

    Sometimes a dancer is in a "relationship building" mood, ie, reeling in a regular.

    Sometimes the dancer is just tired and would rather hang out with someone cool who is a good hedge for future dances rather than sitting at the bar listening to some drunk stripper go on about her baby's daddys new tattoo....

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    Sometimes a dancer doesn't really know what she wants and invests time exploring options. Who knows, next time she might give you her "get even with my jerk boyfriend" dance or an invitation to lunch. Let the game come to you.

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    Ok, it's time to me get into this. This is where I'm at with my ATF. I say go for it! My ATF does this to me all the time. She'll be with a customer more than likely she spots me or she's on stage she'll come over and hangs out with me. I don't hold her up if she wants to make money. That's her choice and everytime she'll ask if I'm going to be hang around later. More than likely I am and she'll come back later. No big deal.

    I say ask her. What's the worst thing could happen? She says no and makes you get dances from her. My ATF encourages me to get dances from her. If I don't get them she gives me the "evil eye" one look at that and you want to say ok. She looks hot doing the "eye" anyway so I can't say no to that.

    Maybe she is just using me as a "home base" but this is every night that I come in. She even asked me one time if I cheat on her when she is gone. I told her I get a few from other girls that are old friends but that's it.

    I say go for it.

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    If you ask her out, I'll be money that she will smile, bat her eyes, and say "maybe" in a mischevious way....further prolonging the mystery and uncertainty to you!

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    I think Katrine has nicely summed up about 99.9% of what is going on here and what the outcome will be. The remaining .1% is what keeps RILdom alive and well...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24927#msg24927 date=1089099461
    If you ask her out, I'll be money that she will smile, bat her eyes, and say "maybe" in a mischevious way....further prolonging the mystery and uncertainty to you!
    sure, that's an appropriate course of action for a stripper and it's not that mysterious or uncertain. how do you know when a stripper will go out with a customer? when she actually shows up. anything else is just talk and talk is always cheap in a sc. if she says something along those lines, he should know that she isn't interested and he can move on. unfortunately, these RIL types just don't get it and will continue hang around while she cleans out his wallet, until it dawns on him that she will never go out with him.
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    Thanks for the replies everyone. When we had first started conversing, she had mentioned that she was in a relationship. This is one of the first things she brought up to me because she didn't want to create any false hope. At that time, my mentality was that it didn't matter ... I was in a stripclub and all emotions felt inside were to just be kept at the club and not taken home (the reason I didn't even bother to think about a guy in her life). As I got to know her, that changed. It was my fault in thinking that there was something there as our conversations continued ... she sounded as if she was alone, single.

    It dawned on me that ... well I was being a fool in thinking that, so I just asked her about her boyfriend and we talked about him a little bit. Maybe it was because she and her boyfriend barely have time for each other since their schedules were different or the fact that they really don't talk much about what she does as long as she comes home to him. This is why sometimes she sounds like she sounds alone ... because well, some things they just don't discuss. Sure I'm also there to relax with, but I'm that other ear for her.

    She noticed the sadness in me and felt really really awful about it. She asked if there was anything she could do about it which was really sweet. She joked about the fact that she shouldn't have started talking to me, that she should've just given me the dances and kept quiet like she does every other guy that asks her for a dance. The look in her eyes when she was trying to help me figure out what I should do. She's the real deal, this girl is genuine.

    As for what mr_punk asked, what would have I wanted if things had escalated? Well actually, sure I know that intimacy was a factor in all this considering the locale ... but I really just wanted her to be a friend, someone in my life that I could be around. She's got a good heart and it's tough to find that (ANYWHERE) ... when I do, I try to include them in my life. As corny as that sounds, I would like her to be one of those people, boyfriend or not. Doubt that an outside friendship will ever come out of this once I stepped into the club and got a dance with her.

    I'll just take it for what it's worth ... that I was lucky to have met someone like her. She's made me a believer that I can find goodness anywhere.
    *You can point and laugh at me now ...

    I'm going to take a little break from all of this, I do want to see her again ... I just don't know when it will be. For so long, I have kept my emotions out of it, telling myself that it was all a fantasy. With her, it just wasn't ... it was just two people getting to know each other and enjoying each other's company even when there were no dances involved.

    Thanks again for all your replies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by junkieSCJ link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24940#msg24940 date=1089126416
    When we had first started conversing, she had mentioned that she was in a relationship. This is one of the first things she brought up to me because she didn't want to create any false hope.
    Nah, she wanted to try and clearly define some things "off limits"... standard operating procedure.

    Sure I'm also there to relax with, but I'm that other ear for her.
    Valiant, but you're being a doormat.

    She noticed the sadness in me and felt really really awful about it. She asked if there was anything she could do about it which was really sweet.
    No. Doing something about it would have been really sweet. Talk is cheap and nothing but air.

    This is what really seals the deal for me. Men of virtue have always played the role of confidant and counselor a time or two from a "friend" level, but if they have to ASK if there is anything they can do, it's not real- since they are sensing you're too 'white knight' for anything and they can get away scott free as a verbal rejection of the offer is always going to be the result.


    but I really just wanted her to be a friend, someone in my life that I could be around. She's got a good heart and it's tough to find that (ANYWHERE) ...
    Outstanding viewpoint, but it's being wasted on someone creating that illusion that you need and desire. Yes, she's good at this.

    What "good heart" creates a zone for you to be a shoulder, ear, confidant- but only under the ground rules that you have to pay to be there, pay her and discard the entire 'entertainment' quotient the locale is setup to provide? She knows this and if your self-esteem was where it should be, you should also know this and see how unfair it is for you.

    That unfairness, and mutual knowledge of that fact is what deems it as unreal to me. This should be something she feels poorly about rather than encourages to continue with ZERO contribution on her part.

    I don't know how long this has been going on or all the specifics, but if all you've described is accurate, I find it annoying that sucker #217 has latched on to this game and still oblivious to it. Where's your sense of self-respect, man?

    Yah, I've played counselor for a dancer or two in my days, but the pretext of someone 'genuine' rewards this as it's a natural human tendency if they truly find value in your companionship. Some dancers only have the club as the 'safe' place to get away with this thing, but if they truly do care about you in the slightest bit in return, they better be getting your ass in for free, pay for your drinks a time or two (even if they have to badger or sneak a deal with the bartender to get around your denial) and the occasional gift or two.

    Someone driving out to a club, paying to get in, paying for drinks, and paying someone to be their emotional tampon doesn't dictate a 'good person' in my book- it dictates someone that has found a doormat with no self-esteem that they can either create the illusion they appear to need, or be genuinely entertained in the process by being selfish.

    I'll just take it for what it's worth ... that I was lucky to have met someone like her.
    Actually, sounds more like she was lucky to have met you. It's just a bummer she doesn't have the decency to return the favor.

    She's made me a believer that I can find goodness anywhere.
    Hey, if you invent goodness where there is none, I'm sure this is true. The next time a Highway Patrol officer pulls you over and gives you a ticket for doing 70 in a 65, be sure to give him a big hug for being a genuine friend and caring about you so much.

    Sigh.. I don't mean to piss on your parade, but REAL good people don't behave this way. You sound like you're a really sweet, giving, caring guy- but you're being much too forgiving and fictionally putting yourself higher on her priority list than you truly are. If you were anywhere in her top 100, you'd be getting in for free or she would have done SOMETHING besides a look or smile to reciprocate. And no, I dont mean a date, sex or anything like that. Something simple and stupid like a card, a drink, sharing food or a snack, a bought or made gift.. SOMETHING.. ANYTHING. Hell, she knows you're dreadfully single- even stashing a thong in your jacket pocket when you're not looking would be a sufficient token. If you've glanced over anything like this, then maybe yeah- she's for real, but you haven't given any indication of such.

    Alternatively, I'm betting there is no 'boyfriend', she's probably gone home with a guy or two since you've been visiting her ... and you've also probably been the subject of conversation of that "sweet poor guy that pays to come in and pays me to hear my troubles"

    Again, valiant and redeeming qualities friend, but I really feel you're wasting such noble deeds on a source that is undeserving... especially given how many other truly wonderful, reciprocative and warm women that are out there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by junkieSCJ link=board=9;threadid=1577;start=msg24940#msg24940 date=1089126416
    I really just wanted her to be a friend, someone in my life that I could be around. She's got a good heart and it's tough to find that (ANYWHERE) ...
    the next time you go to a sc looking for a friend. print out the statement below and read it whenever you get the urge to be friends with some stripper.

    "if i was looking for a friend. i sure wouldn't go to a place, where i have to pay money to talk to a friend and pay that friend to sit on my balls." - ANGRYTHUSTRA (ASS-C) aphorism on the subject of stripper "friends".
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    No offense J, but I had quite a different reaction to PCs post. I am not quite as cynical as mr.p or anything (LOL - just giving you a hard time mr.p ) but honestly my reaction is that PC (and mr.ps) advice really were meant with the best of intentions - looking out for the bros you know.

    I am no expert on dancers, and I am just a much a sucker as the next guy when it comes to separating acting from reality, particularly when the lines are being dealt by a beautiful woman, but one of the reasons I was curious about reading the posts on this forum and on the sister site is to gain some insights into the minds of the dancers. Without that insight bud, I'd be thinking the very same thing as you junkieSCJ. And more than the postings from the guys, it has been the postings from the dancers that have helped to open my eyes to how good many dancers are at acting out a part... but then nobody makes us go, quite the opposite, we go willingly, and we pay for it... so no fault to the dancers, but PC and Mr.P are right in suggesting that she may just be hustling you, and doing a damn good job of it, and doing it without the least little bit of remorse/regret for fooling you.

    I am sure you are a nice, honest, decent guy junkieSCJ, which unfortunately can make it all the more difficult for you to see it when you are being hustled. If this doesn't work out, well a lot of us have been fooled, so no shame, but remember that your buddies are here to help you see the situation for what it is. If it does work out, well you will be our hero


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    Junkie,

    I feel compelled to chime in now that I have read enough of this thread.

    I feel your pain and to a certain extent was right where you are just a few months ago. Listen to the advice given here. You'll receive a wealth of opinions. Some you'll want to hear. Others, such as PC and Mr_P you might regret having read. The bottom line is they're all given with your best interest in mind. Don't fool yourself into thinking you're building something with her if you're paying for:

    1. conversation
    2. laps
    3. drinks
    4. the occasional request for tipout help

    The next time you go in try sitting with her and carrying on a conversation without buying any dances. She'll eventuall get a bit ancy. Tell her to go make her money and that you'll be around for awhile. If she accepts that and returns then you might have something there. Otherwise, I am sorry to say, you're probably not much different than the next customer.

    We all find these things out the hard way. Chalk it up as good experience and press on to the next "good hearted" lady of the night. Experience is the life blood of strength.

    MW


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    I thought this thread was going to be over, but I wanted to reply because I did leave things out. I appreciate all the advice that has been given and am taking it to heart. I just wanted to let you know why I really do believe that this girl is what I believe her to be. It may be due to me being naive still or I must have been really lucky to not have a tarnished image with the girls I've met as most have been pleasant (I've experienced the bad side as well). So, here are a few things that led me to believe that she is the real deal, even from the start:

    - She's never asked me to buy her a drink, and she's made sure that I don't ever say yes to the waitress when they see us conversing (I've never paid for conversation either)

    - She never asks for tips and appreciates any that is given

    - She's never asked me for dances after our first dance session

    - On some days, I've come in to watch, she'd come by to chat and we'd just be there ... talking / joking ... not even getting dances that day (of course, I'd tell her she should wander around so she can make her money ... and that I don't become the target of other PLs). This would last a couple of hours, her not even mentioning dances at all.

    - She's avoided eye contact with some customers (basically easy money since they look like they want to get dances) to continue conversing with me. I'd mention that these people looked like they want dances (since I know that feeling), and she'd just shake her head as if I should know better by now ... eventually, the other guys would get their dances.

    - If I go to the rail to catch her stage show ... even with me being the guy dropping the fewest dollars on stage (she's fairly popular and usually attracts a crowd), I'd get a lot more attention than I thought I'd deserve. When I watch from afar, when our eyes cross, I can see her crack a smile as she leans back on the pole and dances to the music.

    Last, but not least (polecat, this ones for you):
    - When the floater came by to check up on us a couple weeks ago, she (the floater) didn't notice that we were in the dance area (and I had gotten 5 dances by that time) ... when the floater asked how long we'd been there, my fave said, "Oh we just got in, this is our 2nd dance". After the floater left, she gave me a smile, pushed me back, came up to my face, and she said "If you were one of those other guys, I'd have told her this was the start of our 6th dance"

    So, there are a few reasons why I have a smile on my face more often than not.

    And yes, she has a boyfriend, as he's interrupted some of our conversations previously through her cell phone ... with her not looking too pleased most of the time.

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    Junkie, there's always that small possibility there could be something to build upon. However, having just gone through pretty much the exact same thing you're describing right now I have reason to doubt.

    You'll only truly know if there's any substance there when you ask her out, she says yes, and you find yourself doing things outside of the club without paying for time. Then you might have something to use as a foundation for a relationship.



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    Maybe you should ask her out - see what happens. Personally I can't see the point of pining after a woman that you can't have, or that doesn't (and probably never will) reciprocate the feelings. Even if she is an honest to goodness nice person, there are many nice women out there (although maybe not so good looking as this dancer is). So ask her out... if there is something there great, and if not, you will get it out of your system.

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