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    Default Does every woman that is fascinated with dancing end up doing it?

    If so, I better get ready for a divorce, the more research I am doing, the more fascinating it's getting. My hubby would so leave me if I pulled that one.

    I just wnated to say you have all been sooo nice since I started putting out feelers about my storyline, thanks.

    But seriously, is that how you got started, just sort-of interested?
    How do you shoot the devil in the back? What if you miss?

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    Default Re: Does every woman that is fascinated with dancing end up doing it?

    I'm curious what has made you interested in strippers in the first place.

    I got interested when on a night out, some friends dragged me into a club and I saw what was going on and it looked like fun. Then I saw all the money changing hands and knew I had to try it. I asked for an audition and that's it. That was in August 1995 and I'm still dancing, still doing well, still enjoying it.

    BTW, you'll get MUCH better information if you actually do the job yourself.

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    Default Re: Does every woman that is fascinated with dancing end up doing it?

    Okay, fair enough.

    Hmmmm...???

    I have always been somewhat interested in what motivates a stripper, besides the obvious financial. Also, I have been in modelling (regular, not nude), acting and sold adult toys so I have always been interested in the "performing arts". I considered it for a while when I was 19, and in retrospect am glad I didn't at the time, because I was pretty messed up in the head.

    I am interested in the storyline because they seem like (generally, I am sure there are exceptions to the rule) strong, independent women. They are taking care of themselves, supporting themselves and better yet, using a power that all women inherently have (although some seem permanently unaware), how cool is that? I was similarily impressed when I went to a wonderful seminar hosted by Nina Hartley. She is a pretty cool chicka.

    I don't think I would ever have the guts to actually do it myself. I'm pretty daring, but I don't think I could do it convincingly (with any kind of confidence). Plus I am going back into the army part-time and I could not imagine the shock of looking down to see my commanding officer sitting there .

    The biggest reason why it would be tempting now is because after my baby I really lost a lot of confidence. The pregnancy and everything really took a lot out of me , self-esteem wise and I am only now (20 months later) starting to get back to where I feel pretty hot again. A few more weeks working out should do it, although I think my new boobs are here to stay.

    Not to mention that my hubby would divorce me if I did.
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    Default Re: Does every woman that is fascinated with dancing end up doing it?

    Hmmm

    I got into stripping based upon the money alone, I didn't think I ever would do stripping but it seemed better than waiting tables for the rest of my life to afford school. Low self esteem and stripping? I think a lot of girls do it for that reason (ones that I've worked with anyways), I don't think I would for that reason alone. Those drunk bastards can be cruel and quite the pain in the arse. But people build up their confidence and self esteem in various ways, so maybe that works.

    Risking a relationship for this? Eh, I wouldn't do that.

    It's a job, I don't think I'd put ANY job before someone I loved regardless of how much money I make. Men/women tend to have that wonderful flaw of jealousy and insecurity that could definitely break a relationship. Even if for a little while he said "Oh, I'll be cool with it", It'll change.

    But I see stripping as a job, nothing else.

    Going back to the beginning; My reason for stripping was that it was better than any other job could get me. I want to be able to work around my schedule, and have it be flexible. I like getting cash at the end of the night, etc.

    If you're not strong, You'll definitely be taken for a ride in this business.

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    Default Re: Does every woman that is fascinated with dancing end up doing it?

    Quote Originally Posted by Poysyn

    The biggest reason why it would be tempting now is because after my baby I really lost a lot of confidence. The pregnancy and everything really took a lot out of me , self-esteem wise and I am only now (20 months later) starting to get back to where I feel pretty hot again.
    This pretty much sums up why Deanna started dancing, well why I wanted her to anyhow. She had had our 2 kids exactly a year a part so she was pretty much preggo for 2yrs straight and had less than zero self esteem.
    I was working as a bouncer and she was a bartender at our local titty bar, we both saw the money being made and wanted it for ourselves, and several dancers and I thought Dea would be an awesome dancer....
    Anyhow to make a short story long, We started at a dungeon we visited as customers and the allure of being up on stage(we did live sex shows) grabbed her, and on my 28th birthday she auditioned at a strip joint as a present for me, and hasn't looked back since.
    Granted this industry isn't, and I repeat isn't, for everyone. Dea's self esteem shot through the roof, but we have both seen it destroy women who suffered from low self esteem.

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    Default Re: Does every woman that is fascinated with dancing end up doing it?

    Obviously not... what would Hooters do for waitresses??? LOL
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    Default Re: Does every woman that is fascinated with dancing end up doing it?

    You mentioned wanting to dance even though you have a baby and a husband. Isn't your first loyalty to them, no matter how much fun you think dancing would be? Also, before you pack your bags and head to the nearest strip club for an audition, remember that from the outside dancing may look much more fun/glittery/cool than it actually turns out to be. As someone who has never danced before you are still unaware of the many pitfalls that dancing holds for some people. The grass is not always greener...dancing is very hard work emotionally.

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    Default Re: Does every woman that is fascinated with dancing end up doing it?

    It sounds like you're attracted to the character traits you perceive in strippers and wonder if you could add those traits to your self-image by stripping.

    The answer is maybe, but there are definitely easier ways...



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    Default Re: Does every woman that is fascinated with dancing end up doing it?

    Yes, you are all absolutely right, which is why I don't do it, and wouldn't do it. I have chosen other ways to build myself up and am happy with the route that has taken me.

    But thanks for your comments, especially yours Blade. It's nice to know other women struggled the same way after pregnancy
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    Default Re: Does every woman that is fascinated with dancing end up doing it?

    Anytime..I may not be a dancer but I've been in the trenches for a long time and try to educate as many people as I can...without woorking tooo hard

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    Default Re: Does every woman that is fascinated with dancing end up doing it?

    A couple nights ago a woman who never danced told me she thought all women had a secret fantasy of being a stripper.
    Well, the idea sounds fun, but the hard work will stop a lot of shoots and giggles seekers. I have worked with the women who try it on a lark, and don't stay. Sometimes luck is the only variable.
    The saddest story I have is of meeting a beautiful young blond girl who wanted to strip. I told her what I could and half-jokingly said, "It you hate men already, that helps." She nodded silently and steadily. I only say this because some say dancing turns women into bitter, money-grubbing man-haters. I feel a woman has to already have some hard feelings OR great inner strength to stay in stripping. The things a dancer sees are just concentrated, twisted aspects of the normal world.

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    Default Re: Does every woman that is fascinated with dancing end up doing it?

    I had a bit of an obsession with the glamour/money aspects. I finally tried it last week and I love it!! But it took a while for it to go through its phases of: they make money, look how confident they are, they get to play dress up, could I ever do that?, I could do that, I'm doing it.

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