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    Stripping Is ruining my libido!!!

    Hi everyone,
    Has any one else felt that stripping was ruining your libido.
    My stats: Been with the same guy for almost 5 years, this is the same guy that took my virginity. I have slept with one other person while i danced away from home and it was pre-ok'ed by BF. I told him that i was curiose what it was like with someone else.. and so on. Anyways, i have been danceing for about a year and a half and i have noticed that my libido has been effected. What i tell my self is causing this is because i spend 6 hours a day 5 days a week being sexy and flirty and all glamed up. When i come home to my much loved BF. the last thing i have energy for is romancing and getting in the mood. My Bf complaines that i never eniate (?spelling?) sex anymore. I just feel like i have been working these guys all night long squeezing them for what they are worth and eniating table dances... etc... that the last thing i want to do is come home and somewhat do the same thing for my BF. i know i should... i know that sometimes is better than never... but anyways
    hopeflly i'm not alone in this
    any tips?
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    What happened to the rest of your post?
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    Default Re: Stripping Is ruining my love life!!!

    It's normal to not want to initiate sex with your boyfriend.A lower libido comes with the job's territories.It is however,a temporary thing.I think you should take a little time off and recoop.What you are going through is normal.
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    Default Re: Stripping Is ruining my love life!!!

    If you don't have time for your boyfriend anymore, then you need to take a break. You need to recoop. This could be a sign of "burn-out" especially if you are dancing 5-6 days a week. Take a week or two off (if you can) and just pamper yourself and get to know your boyfriend again.

    Good luck!

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    that the last thing i want to do is come home and somewhat do the same thing for my BF.
    I hear that- I often feel like I'm so overexposed to sex and sexuality that it's boring and beside the point- I want to do and talk about anything but sex when I get home from work!

    I don't have any suggestions, just sympathy...

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    I had an incident like this the other night. I swing back and forth between wanting lovey-dovey affectionate slow flannel pajama sex vs. getting dolled up and performing. The other night I wanted to crank up music and PERFORM. My boyfriend turned off the music and turned out the light and it hurt my feelings even though I knew it was unintentional and I got all bent out of shape inside.

    I really think this was job related. Depending on whether I get good or bad feedback at work, I either want to be held (when other guys are jerks) or I want to show off (if I have the buzz from all the attention)

    I don't think it's fair to let it impact your SO, but that;s how I've felt.

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    unfortunately a lower libido is a common side effect if you work in the exotic dance industry, i had the same thing happen to me and it can turn ugly if not resolved. (like a breakup for instance) I agree with everyone else that you should take a little break and learn how to give to your boyfriend again, peace and love
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    Default Re: Stripping Is ruining my love life!!!

    I've experienced this to the point that I didn't even use my vibrator anymore. It sucks. Taking time off definitely helps. Also, drug use (of any kind- mild, moderate, severe) can negatively affect that area of your life as well. Even just smoking a little weed... It's not something I used to think mattered until I stopped and saw the difference.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vanessa777 View Post

    I really think this was job related. Depending on whether I get good or bad feedback at work, I either want to be held (when other guys are jerks) or I want to show off (if I have the buzz from all the attention)

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    I'm EXACTLY! Like that.
    I still love sex but I know what it's like when you feel you have to be sexy all the time. I get over this with thought control...When your man is the one who loves and respects you and doesn't see you as a sex 'object' but finds you sexy for YOU, then that makes me attracted, and makes me want to be intimate with him. Even if I feel it's the last thing I want to do, if I psyche myself up like that, I can be in the mood in not much time
    It does sound as if you maybe just work a bit too much at the moment, though
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    Default Re: Stripping Is ruining my love life!!!

    dancing has made me waaayy hornier, and i take it all out on my bf when i get home it looks like i may be the only one idk haha. but i'd say take some days off! you might be just exhausted,mentally, emotionally, physically..i know if i worked 5 days a week the way i dance my body would fall apart, props to you for being a hard-working girl babe, but take some time off!

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    I just want more sex when I dance. I dont know why either because I am hardly ever attracted to the guys I dance for but at the end of the night I wanna go home and do something with someone.lol. But I have been on and off with the same guy for 5 years also, he is amazing at sex and is very sexy but we have just been through so much together (in a bad and good way, mostly bad) that he just doesnt turn me on at all like he used to, nomatter what he does.. not sure whats up with that

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    It's common and I agree that it's a symptom of a "burn-out". Take some time off if possible, or coordinate a day off with your SO. Maybe buy some lingerie that is just for him. Or even go to a sex shop together and pick out something nice or even toys (this can be fun, you'll both have a giggle and hopefully come home with a bag full of things to play with together).

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    Lmao I didnt even realize that til you said it

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