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    Default Dancers-Do you have customers who are friends also ?

    I was just wondering this because there is a dancer I have been getting dances from since March and I would consider myself a friend of hers. Right now I not looking for anything to happen, but I do enjoy spending time with her. We have met 3-4 times for breakfast before she starts her shift, and once went for dinner after she was done. I have paid some of the time, and we have split the bill the other times. She gave me her email the first time I met her and her phone number the next time, it is her only phone number because when we are together it usually goes off 2-3 times from her friends or from her mother. She tells me to phone her after I have been to the club for a dance, and if she isn't busy she does take my calls. She hasn't asked me for anything, but if I was able to do it, I probably would. I really enjoy talking with her and hanging out, am I just a customer or could I also be a friend as well ? Do any of the dancers here have any customers who are friends as well ?
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    Default Re: Dancers-Do you have customers who are friends also ?

    I have guys that I'm more friendly with than others, but if I'm taking his money, then it's still just a business relationship rather than a personal relationship.

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    Default Re: Dancers-Do you have customers who are friends also ?

    I'm sorry to break this to you, but you are just a customer to her. She may honestly like your company more than some of her other regulars, but if she's taking your money, you're a customer. You say you are not looking for anything to happen. Good. You enjoy her company and the situation as it is. Keep it that way. Anything else are you are sure to get your heart broken, your bank account emptied, or both.
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    Default Re: Dancers-Do you have customers who are friends also ?

    Your question was exactly mine a couple of years ago. I searched long and hard for answers but found none and it was frustrating. The girl in my experience said to me one day when refering to another guy that was there to see her that he was just a customer...I asked well do you think the same about me? No she said you are a "friend". I had no idea what she meant. I have learned that she meant I was a regular that she liked to hang out with but it was a money relationship as emily aludes to. Its real hard to get past the original money relationship and I only knew we were friends when she said to me one day, I like you and am not trying to get anything from you...and thats when I stopped wanting something from her too, namely sex...but don't forget why these girls strip, its not to make friends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by primetime21
    I really enjoy talking with her and hanging out, am I just a customer or could I also be a friend as well?
    Remove the money from the equation and you'll have your answer.
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    I have some customers that I consider to be friends. After a certain point in the relationship I rather see them to see them and converse and hang out than to take their money, even if they still insist on paying/tipping me. I also have friends who arent from within the club walls that come to see me BECAUSE I'm their friend and they still want to tip. Money tends to be a hinderance to customer-to-friend relations, but not 100% of the time, IMHO.
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    My oldest dancer friend, Chase Morgan, attracted me as a customer (long before I became a DJ) on our initial encounter. In fact it was the first time I ever got a lap dance.

    It didn't take me long to figure out the dynamics of the lap dancing issue. After one more time getting a dance or two, I realized that buying dances may get you attention, but very rarely promotes friendship on any kind of deeper level. I instead tipped her lavishly when she was onstage, but didn't hang around trying ogle her at the rail (a sure indication that you aren't good friendship material). It was a compliment to her skill as a dancer (she is very, very good), rather than an attempt to purchase sexual attention of any kind.

    I knew i had attained a trusted friend status when I was invited to hang out in the office with her and the manager when it wasn't too busy. I wound up visiting her frequently at her house, and would go to see her at the various clubs she worked in, regardless of whether the club was especially good or not. In fact it was by going to see her repeateadly at a slower club that I got my foot in the door and landed my first DJ gig. Unfortunately she tired of the low profits and moved to another city for a while, so I never did get to work with her, though the club underwent a dramatic transformation.

    My girlfriend has several guys who call her, but the calls are work to her, and quite often she will become totally exasperated when the phone rings, without knowing who it is, just at the thought she might have to talk to a customer. If she takes the call she will brace herself first and assume a false persona to make them feel well-received.

    There is one customer she has that she really does like as a friend, perhaps, but he only comes into town once every few months, calls her very, very rarely--and never tries to touch her when she dances for him. In fact they spend as much time talking in VIP as anything. Unlike other customers, he never tries to ask her out for dates, etc., so she can relax with him a lot more.

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    I agree, if your still paying her and getting lap dances/VIP it would find it hard FOR ME to have a good friendship. Your eating breakfast and chatting, and 1 hour later she's naked in front of you. I dunno, not friendship type material for me.

    There is this one dancer that on her break she likes to chat with me. We come from the same backround, similar age and all that good stuff. I know im using her "time" and know she could be getting dances like crazy, so I usually give her money, which she often is hesistant to take (odd you dancers might think) but it makes our chatting a lot less tenseful (if thats a word) then if we were talking, then 5 mins later getting a dance from her.
    Of course this is me and my opinions.

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    Default Re: Dancers-Do you have customers who are friends also ?

    I have friends that started out as customers. I did see an opinion I disagree with, "If she's taking your money, you're a customer." I have a harder time taking my friends money, but I'm at work nonetheless, and I am doing a service. I am much more likely to give them deals, like this one friend of mine, I gave him 2 VIPs for the price of one.

    I have another friend who doesn't even offer to pay, and I think that's rude, but I haven't had another opportunity to say anything, and I will if it happens again. I wouldn't go to their places of business and expect free services. But friends cut each other deals if possible. If I was seeing/sleeping with a guy on the other hand, I wouldn't take his money, or if I really wanted to be seeing him, it would seem too much like prostitution.

    And Gabe, I don't think it's odd she reluctantly takes your money. We're not all unethically greedy as your post implies.

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    Default Re: Dancers-Do you have customers who are friends also ?

    "Freind" as in I'm happy to see them come in, enjoy spending time with them, etc., yes.

    "Freind" like think about them when I'm not at work... no.

    But that's just me.



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    As much of a friend as you plumber or doctor. Some you can have a friendly relationship with, but you are not meeting them for golf on the weekends...

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    Default Re: Dancers-Do you have customers who are friends also ?

    I have customers who are friends but friends who give me their money! But you never know........I know many girls who date guys that are customers first. Personally, I never have found anyone who interested me enough. Of course, I have been married for almost 7 years now (all of them dancing) so that was out of the question. But it can happen. I even know some girls who end up marrying someone they meet at the club ! Just depends on the chemistry. Just don't push her- if she wants you, she'll let you know! Good Luck
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    i have a friend i met in the club... but i dunno about friends with like regular.. i guess if he wasnt a sleeze bag it might be dooable

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    Yeah, heaps - I've met some of my best friends at my work (-:

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sitri
    As much of a friend as you plumber or doctor. Some you can have a friendly relationship with, but you are not meeting them for golf on the weekends...
    Plumbers, doctors, and other conventional service providers don't grind on their clients' laps.

    This changes the equation.

    The vast majority of men are not going to have a friendship, in the normal sense of the word, with someone they pay on a regular basis for this kind of service. That isn't to say it's impossible, or that dancers can't be genuinely friendly with customers. But most guys are going to want more, no matter how well they control the desire, and very few women are immune to the effect this has on the dynamics of friendship.

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    I've been seeing a dancer for over three years, and I always help her because I specifically ask her to not go to work but to spend evenings with me. She still works, and I sometimes go in to the club and tip her well (so far as I know, no one in the club knows we see each other) but when I ask her to not go to work, I feel obligated to make sure that decision does not hurt her financially. I do not feel in the least bit used, I proposed this relationship and in fact feel lucky that she can control her work schedule so well that we can see each other often. If she had a normal job, she'd have to go to work or lose it. It might not work for everyone, but it seems to be working for us.

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    My closest friend is a girl who I met when she was a dancer. I became her best customer and we gradually started getting together for an occasional lunch or dinner. When she quit dancing we continued to get together and eventually became close friends. Our ages are very different which probably makes it easier to be just friends. It's almost a father-daughter relationship now. I think this is pretty common. There are a lot of lonely older men out there and a lot of dancers who never knew a father. Sometimes they get together. If they're lucky.
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    Fondl just curious but are you married? And do you share your "friendship" with her sugardaddy?

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    I prefer not to cross the line. It has only happened once but with dire consequences (you live and learn), but IMHO, it's best to keep work and play separate.
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    Goldclubbing, yes I am married and my wife knows my friend well. I am not a sugardaddy, we are just friends.
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    I do consider very few of my customers friends. I have this one guy whom i met a while back and his personality is my equal! he is very funny, he is just like no other that i've ever met. he has never put me in the akward sistuation meaning asking me if i will sleep with him, he has never crossed the line, and we go out to dinner together, he is just the coolest person i have ever met in my life.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser
    Plumbers, doctors, and other conventional service providers don't grind on their clients' laps.

    This changes the equation.

    The vast majority of men are not going to have a friendship, in the normal sense of the word, with someone they pay on a regular basis for this kind of service. That isn't to say it's impossible, or that dancers can't be genuinely friendly with customers. But most guys are going to want more, no matter how well they control the desire, and very few women are immune to the effect this has on the dynamics of friendship.
    They may not grind, but I have been friendly with my doctor and he has massaged my prostate for me. And my plumber, well that's another story. The point is that the relationship is based on a initial exchange of money. You may come to know one another, and I have been social with my dentist or other people that provide me services. But it is rarely a true friendship.

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    Default Re: Dancers-Do you have customers who are friends also ?

    Friends is a pretty broad term and subject to interpretation. I really like all the dancers I know at the club and I'm sure they "like" me. Would either of us call the other regarding a flat tire on the interstate or a dead battery? I doubt it. But on the other hand, if I can do something reasonable for them that doesnt bleed over into my personal life I will do so.

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    I had a customer who became a very good friend of mine....still is. And NOT in a sexual way at all. Just someone who I began to think of as a big brother. It happens, and I'm grateful for all the help he's given me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sitri
    They may not grind, but I have been friendly with my doctor and he has massaged my prostate for me.

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