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    Hey guys,

    So what do you do when you are confronted with negativity? Either by email, to your face or by word of mouth....
    Do you ignore it, fight back, justify yourself or otherwise?

    I recieved an unexpected, uncalled for email and am wondering if I should even bother replying to justify myself (which is what I would normally do) or if I should ignore it. I do not owe this person and explaintion, hell I don't even know them!

    What do you guys normally do?

    k

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    Normally when it happens to me in person, I let the dumbasses have it with both barrels. I honestly couldn't care less what people think of me, how I live my life, etc., especially online. If you don't know this person, you could probably just blow it off hon. They don't know you, so their opinions are invalid.

    In my experience, the ones who insult you, do it because they are miserable with their own lives and want everyone else to be the same way.

    Fook 'em all babes. You know you rock.

    ~muah~

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    Well, there is what I do and there is what I should do.

    I will blast back some clever email clearly illustrating that they are a cretin. This intellectual composition will take an hour and then there is the satisfying rereading on how I told them to go to hell and how much they will enjoy the trip.

    what I should do is not reply and just ignore them because what they want is to know they got me riled up.

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    I ignore the sh*t out of it.It gives them no more ammunition to do anything else.Cut the sh*t out at the knees.
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    LOL Sitri.. But would you actually want to spend a whole hour writing out a reply to them? Hell, chances are they won't even understand all the words that you use. And, you'd be spending that hour on someone who isn't worth even a minute of your keystrokes.

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    I say just ignore them. If they took the time to send this to you, than they must not be happy in their life

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    Quote Originally Posted by krys
    Hey guys,

    So what do you do when you are confronted with negativity? Either by email, to your face or by word of mouth....
    Do you ignore it, fight back, justify yourself or otherwise?

    I recieved an unexpected, uncalled for email and am wondering if I should even bother replying to justify myself (which is what I would normally do) or if I should ignore it. I do not owe this person and explaintion, hell I don't even know them!

    What do you guys normally do?

    k
    I agree with the others... Ignore him/her!

    another alternative - the person exhibiting this type of attack usually expects and desires an argument or negativity in return. Why not add a flower and sunshine laced response?

    I found this highly effective, especially if someone truly pisses me off and I have the uncontrollable urge to lash out...

    Take driving for example. If someone flicks me off because I was ACTUALLY going the speed limit, I turn my head, look at them, and smile... sometimes I even add a cheery wave.. boy does that piss them off.

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    I have done that on the road too! LOL It really does seem to make them mad huh?

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    Quote Originally Posted by kryssy
    I have done that on the road too! LOL It really does seem to make them mad huh?
    LOL... eh.. sure does. I don't know about you, but it sure makes me feel better

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    I ask myself.........is this negativity going to affect me 10yrs from now? If not, then I ignore it........pissing them off.......

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    Rhiannon and mercedez have great points. However, I'm going to say, Is it worth it to respond? Depends on whether someone is just messing around to spread negativity, or is really out to get you for some reason. It all depends.
    This reminds me, all the people I went to school with who made needless and mean-spirited trouble for others are all dead, in prison, or alone and destitute. One famously bitchy and stuck up girl made the front page of the local paper for an act of notoriety. It sure is hard to turn the other cheek and not get down to their level, but just be patient. Like the man said, "Your time is gonna come...."

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    I'v got arrested once after I came out of the gym. To make a long story short, I got into a fight with two other guys. I was totally provoked because I was walking by and heard a large bang, and of course its human instinct to turn your head, I did. One of them said, "you got a problem?" I said, "are you going to make me have a problem with you?"

    Yea I threw the first punch, and knocked out 3 teeth of one of the guys while the second one ran away. Cops came, never went to court cause the two guys never pressed charges. (Apparantly they have been arrested before for drugs).

    But since then I learned to not get angry to the fact where I can hurt my future. I could of possibly went to jail for a few months or worse, I don't know. Or I could of wind of spending 10000 just to fix his teeth.
    (Try and take the first hit, it sure matters)

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    I think it depends upon the nature of what the negativity deals with. If it's just "I think that you are the biggest bitch...blah, blah, blah" I let them go. It's not worth my time...HOWEVER, if it has something to do with "messed up facts" then I will say my piece and correct them. If they choose not to believe it, too bad...but, I will not allow someone walking around spewing junk with facts that they don't have right.

    So...in short...LOL...it depends upon the situation.

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    Thanks guys you are all right on! It was just blatent negativity with no basis, someone who has nothing better to do with there time then pick the shit out of others because they are so unhappy and unfulfilled in their own world.

    You GUY ROCK!

    Thanks
    k xo

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    *muah* Hunny

    You know what they say.. "Misery loves company". Don't ever be their company. Fook the lot of them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by krys
    Thanks guys you are all right on! It was just blatent negativity with no basis, someone who has nothing better to do with there time then pick the shit out of others because they are so unhappy and unfulfilled in their own world.

    You GUY ROCK!

    Thanks
    k xo
    People like that don't deserve your attention and your wasting of energy on them !
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    If this was me a few months ago, i would say go get em! But certain things about me i have changed due to a request pretty much from a family member who passed. I NOW just can't know matter how hard i try get peeved at people. Now i will walk away, or online DELETE. God knows i have had my times on this board. Try me now!!!! Lol. I will not get upset. It's healthier to get negative people out of your life!!!!!!

    It's ok, and normal to get angry, just do so with a clear head, peace, and let it go. Angry, mean people drag the rest of us down. Don't need it.
    Good luck,

    Pamela

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    I ignore the sh*t out of it.It gives them no more ammunition to do anything else.Cut the sh*t out at the knees.
    Agreed.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhiannon
    *muah* Hunny

    You know what they say.. "Misery loves company". Don't ever be their company. Fook the lot of them.
    Sorry Rhiannon, but you triggered a song memory


    I Don't Mind At All - Bourgeois Tagg

    The time for talking's over now,
    I guess it's time to let you go.
    But I don't, no,
    I don't mind at all.

    It's getting so you never know
    when things are better left alone.
    But I don't, no,
    I don't mind at all.

    It's important to me
    that I don't see you laughing at me.
    But I'm smart enough to know
    that I have to let you go.
    But I don't mind at all.

    Sentimental tears will get you
    far as you might think they will.
    But I don't, no,
    I don't mind at all.

    Misery loves company
    but she will never foot the bill.

    But I don't, no,
    I don't mind at all.

    It's important to me
    that I don't see you laughing at me,
    but I'm smart enough to know
    that I have to let you go.
    But I don't mind at all.

    Several years ago
    I said goodbye to my own sanity.
    But I don't, no,
    I don't, no,
    I don't mind at all.
    "He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"

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    I'd ignore it-I generally like to avoid confrontation. I'd just try to be like whatever and delete it. I think trying to reply would make me dwell on it and dwell on a good reply. It's not worth it- maybe you could do something fun or watch tv to take your mind off of it.

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