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    husbands/bf's of strippers?

    this is for guys whose gals strip. my wife, of 4 wonderful years, started stripping recently. for a long time i had told her that she could make a heck of a lot more money easier, stripping than working with me. these last 4 years have sucked for our little self employed business due to Bush/ iraq/ terrorist worries/stock market. so she finally applied and wouldn't you know, now is making twice the bucks of before at least. we've always had a very loving/open/kinda kinky relationship and im not a jealous dude. its actually quite a turn on for us both when i occaisionally go in and watch her stage dance, or especially lap dance, discreetly of course, from a table away. shes really gotten into it and it has improved her self esteem/confidance a lot. she now even dresses almost illegally sexy when we go out like to the store when shes not working. BUT, I didnt relly figure in that while shes at work with crowds of guys worshipping her body, I'm home alonely with the TV, watching the clock tick and worrying. I know she'd never leave me for some younger/richer/handsomer customer ( ) and i'm trying to suck it up and deal with it all and not get jealous or mad, but this is really hard and its only just begun. what are some of you other guys feelings, or you ladies also. at least tonite i will go watch her for a few hours, what a relief, shhh, its a secret who i am.

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    I Bthink its all a matter of trust realy. I have dated my share of dancers (go figure), and I guess you just have to have the confidince to know that "your da man",lol.

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    Make the money you need to pull the business out of the dumps,then get out.

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    I think there are always difficult moments, but really, it's never that bad. I don't think most guys can handle it. I always just laugh at these customers who worship and fantasize about my wife. I'm sometimes tempted to go over to one after watching him drop a couple hundred, and say "Thanks for buying me lunch tomorrow, sucker!"
    If you ever start to feel jealous or upset, remember this: Having a stripper wife is like owning a brand new Ferrari. Everyone looks at it, most who do want it, and a few may even try to touch it, but you're driving, and it comes home with you to your garage every night.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KLR650
    BUT, I didnt relly figure in that while shes at work with crowds of guys worshipping her body, I'm home alonely with the TV, watching the clock tick and worrying. I know she'd never leave me for some younger/richer/handsomer customer ( ) and i'm trying to suck it up and deal with it all and not get jealous or mad, but this is really hard and its only just begun. what are some of you other guys feelings, or you ladies also. at least tonite i will go watch her for a few hours, what a relief, shhh, its a secret who i am.
    Think it through, get it straight in your head, and then move on and don't let it mess with you again. She's either yours or she's not - and it'd be the same whether or not she was dancing. Only difference with a dancer is they get hit on about 20X more often (or 50X, 100X, whatever it is). Point is, GET A GRIP ON IT RIGHT F****** NOW! Will mess ya'll up so fast it's unreal if you don't. If you love her and trust her... then have faith in her. Period.
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    Commando has it right on. I know you were asking the guys, but I've had my share of bfs, and they always manage to find something to occupy their time while I'm working at night. A hobby, internet, work, sleep, whatever. The worst thing you can do, IMO, is sit around watching the clock feeling sorry for yourself. Take heart in knowing you're the one she comes home to, with her pockets full of money.

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    Yes, I've been through all this. From the mouth of a wise older man: you need to have confidence. I was telling him about all my boyfriends who wilted from dealing with my job. It's easier said than done, but trust and confidence. Are Key. Period. She's already been with you for four years, that makes things better. I doubt she'd throw that all away over some knucklehead that cruised into the club thinking he was really going to get laid (hah.)
    Just don't keep any secrets from eachother.....I know it's rough, but rougher still is going broke together...that will ruin a marriage quicker than any bar job......

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    Unfortunatly, my boyfriend is the jealous type and eventually forced me to quit dancing. Well, he told me if I continued dancing he would break up with me and if I quit we would stay together (I danced even before we dated, we were friends for awhile before we ever dated so he didn't meet me at the club or anything but he did know I was a dancer). He just couldn't handle my job. He doesn't understand the buisness at all. When I would come home with a couple hundred dollars he would ask "what did you have to do for that money?" and I would be honest and tell him "dance." And he just didn't understand how men could just hand over money to you because you are beautiful and dancing for them. He doesnt understand that you don't have to do anything sexual to them. I've NEVER done extras and I've always made great money.

    Ahh...memories....having money...

    I forget what thats like sometimes.

    I'm just so happy working underpaying shit jobs. *sarcasm*

    I got fired from my job Thursday....

    Sometimes, I'd give anything to go back to dancing.*sigh*
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    There have been days where I've had to walk out of the club before I killed someone, I've always had to return rather quickly since I'm the dj, but those days for me are few and far between.It does grate on you last damn nerve sometimes,example: Dea was dancing for this one assclown and I was seated next to him(tipping like a good lil PL)He started running his mouth about her husband not really loving or respecting her cuz he ALLOWS her to dance "if you were MY woman you wouldn't be doin this cuz I would love and respect you too much to ALLOW you to show your body for a dollar"...anywho he kept it up and started talkin about kicking her hubbys ass if he ever met him(at this point I was ready to kill) so Dea(in her sweetest voice) said well let me introduce you to my hubby and said Blade, this guy has a problem with you ALLOWING me to dance...what do you have to say?I simply smiled,waved and said I don't ALLOW her to do anything, she dances because she wants to and loves it....Every time afterwards when assclown would see me he would start shit about something until I finally had him banned.
    Like I said these days are few and far between, she has been dancing for years and it still turns me on to watch her do stage work or lapdance, a few of her old regs knew I was her hubby and we would all joke about them buying my food and paying my rent

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    I was waiting for you to join in on this one, Blade! I agree, that's the shit that REALLY gets me sometimes. Just makes me want to take the guy for a long ride in the trunk of a car and disappear him. Usually get over it pretty quick though.

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    Yeah ya gotta get over it quick or it'll kill ya.Most of the time I'm too busy droolin to listen to the shit assclowns are saying however!

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    Quote Originally Posted by commando
    I think there are always difficult moments, but really, it's never that bad. I don't think most guys can handle it. I always just laugh at these customers who worship and fantasize about my wife. I'm sometimes tempted to go over to one after watching him drop a couple hundred, and say "Thanks for buying me lunch tomorrow, sucker!"
    If you ever start to feel jealous or upset, remember this: Having a stripper wife is like owning a brand new Ferrari. Everyone looks at it, most who do want it, and a few may even try to touch it, but you're driving, and it comes home with you to your garage every night.
    LOL - great words!



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    Quote Originally Posted by Blade
    There have been days where I've had to walk out of the club before I killed someone, I've always had to return rather quickly since I'm the dj, but those days for me are few and far between.It does grate on you last damn nerve sometimes,example: Dea was dancing for this one assclown and I was seated next to him(tipping like a good lil PL)He started running his mouth about her husband not really loving or respecting her cuz he ALLOWS her to dance "if you were MY woman you wouldn't be doin this cuz I would love and respect you too much to ALLOW you to show your body for a dollar"...anywho he kept it up and started talkin about kicking her hubbys ass if he ever met him(at this point I was ready to kill) so Dea(in her sweetest voice) said well let me introduce you to my hubby and said Blade, this guy has a problem with you ALLOWING me to dance...what do you have to say?I simply smiled,waved and said I don't ALLOW her to do anything, she dances because she wants to and loves it....Every time afterwards when assclown would see me he would start shit about something until I finally had him banned.
    Like I said these days are few and far between, she has been dancing for years and it still turns me on to watch her do stage work or lapdance, a few of her old regs knew I was her hubby and we would all joke about them buying my food and paying my rent
    LMAO



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    The world is full of idiots and we have to live with them cause you can't kill them all. Why anyone would come into a SC and feel the need to judge anyone is beyond me. Leave that to the Republicans and the Moral Majority who controls them. I see the SC as entertainment and nothing more. A PL who comes in and feels that they have an insight on dancers or their SO are probably still living in the basement of their mothers home.

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    Right on Commando and Bridgette! I have also found in my experience that it takes a strong guy to be able to handle my being in this profession! If they can't handle it then I don't need them! They should take heart in the fact that I am coming home to them!



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    thanks for all the helpful replies folks. they made me feel better, and last nites 4 hours watching her were pure heaven, heck, we didnt even make in the front door at home before the hot fun began! wow! my wife the goddess. i am SOOO lucky. (and she's half my age too!)

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    ....and she's half your age too?? good for you, KLR! Nice work! Be proud of yourself! Just assess the facts if you ever find yourself feeling down or lacking confidence, you should feel better!

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    Quote Originally Posted by VADEN
    LMAO
    Vaden, your post made me crack up. LOL
    Just cause you laugh at the same things I did in Blade's post.

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    KLR,
    Glad you are feeling better. I bet it is hard to deal with especially when you're home alone and just thinking of whats going on. But just remember that trust is the main issue...and honesty. If you are both honest with each other and trust each other completely then you shouldnt worry. I can understand though, because I get nervous about things like that too.
    Thats cool that shes half your age, too... Your wife and I are alike. I like the older men. wahooo

    In any case, good luck and cheer up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi
    Vaden, your post made me crack up. LOL
    Just cause you laugh at the same things I did in Blade's post.
    Oh sure pick on the bald guy!ANYWHO we all know how much fun the ASSCLOWNS are to deal with......

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    luna's bf: try not to think about it too much, have a hobby or something to distract you while she's at work. I play video games, or roleplaying games, but her working doesn't bother me because it is just comfortable relationship and if I do worry I remember how it all started and how lucky I am to have her.
    And if you do have a problem or something, don't bring it up in a big confrontational way, just offhandedly. that's what I do.

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    luna's bf: see, you don't even remember, see how unconfrontational that was?
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    luna's bf again: Blade, I've had people say stupid things like that before, the majority were girls, though I've had a few guys that are like: "I wouldn't want guys ogling my girl"
    me: "your GF wears sluttier clothing to the MALL. The only difference mine brings home money for it."
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    Happy to hear she is doing well, making money. It does take a very strong man to believe in your woman when she is in the adult industry. I have not been that lucky...yet. I would love for a man to trust i love him, and support me as well. Hang in there hun, she is with you. The green eyed monster is trying to hit ya..beat it! It takes time, as far as the dressing very "almost illegal" outside work, i think that passes, no worry. Support her judgement, and enjoy your life too. Find a hobby or maybe hit chat here on SW for support from others while she works, maybe start slowly weaning yourself off of going to watch her alot. It's a job, and remember if there is something that is bothering you or her, talk it out. But don't blame or accuse, support. Sounds like she loves you, and you her very much!!

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    Here is a flip side, and may change, but I feel like I would be cheating if I had a husband or boyfriend while I was dancing.
    If I agreed to a personal commitment with someone then why should other guys get to look at me like that, I feel it would be something that my man gets only.

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    Well, KLR, it sounds like you are doing pretty well. Most guys can't handle their wives/girlfriends dancing at all, let alone watch them in the club. And very, very few guys can handle watching them lap dance! I myself have had trouble with that one--it really depends on my mood at the time, though I always love watching my present girlfriend onstage, especially when I am playing the music for her.

    It is generally much easier if you are in the industry as well, so you are to be especially congratulated.

    Even this is no guarantee of immunity from trouble. I knew a DJ who had a lot of trouble about his girlfriend dancing. I made it a point to take very good care of her when she worked at my club for a while, and really tried to talk her up for table dances, since I knew she wasn't allowed to do laps. But even this was too much for him--one night when she was working at his club he freaked out at the sight of her onstage alone.

    I knew another guy who was a bouncer, and a king-hell stud with all the dancers. He broke his girlfriend's jaw when he found out--or thought he found out--that she had done a private party.

    It is cool that you find her dancing a turn-on, but if you start having trouble with it again, you might want to try going in to watch her less, and get involved with something yourself. definitely avoid sitting around waiting for her to get home, and wondering what she is up to or whatever.
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