OH MY GOD. I had typed the perfect message earlier, and when I tried to post it, it got lost somehow. I've taken another stab at it, but this one's a lot less consise and much more incoherent. Stay with me, though. I need all the help I can get.
The bottom line is that I'm having problems responding to guys who wanna see me outside the club. Often, I'll take their number, and that will be the end of it. Sometimes I give out a fake number to guys that won't shut up, especially if they're from out of town. But with guys I see at work repeatedly, it becomes harder and harder to come up with excuses. I'll say, "I've just met you. I like to know I can trust a guy." or "I meet so many guys in here that ask me out that seem like decent people that if I agreed to see them all, I would'nt have time to breathe. But he'll say, "Well, how many times to I have to come in here before you'll trust me?" "How can I get the chance to know you better?"
Should I just tell them that I just don't meet customers outside the club? Even if I did, I'm sure some guys would still harrass me about seeing me somewhere... "I'm different. I'm trustworthy. Let's go to dinner." "I feel like we really connect." Most of it's complete bullshit. But sometimes, a guy I've talked to quite a bit will start to really give me the impression that he has feelings for me. I know that sounds ridiculous, but it's true. Usually these are lonely pathetic guys that I can't help feeling a bit sorry for. I'm a good conversationalist and sometimes feel this is to my disadvantage. Not to seem conceited, but I'm not at all surprised when a guy is really impressed by me and starts to see me as more than just a stripper. And I don't fucking wanna date these guys!? So whats a girl to do? How do I get around this without it ending up like a personal rejection to them? What do I say? Sometimes I wish I were more of a flake so the guys would think of me more as an object and not as a potential girlfriend. I mean, I have NO problem with men objectifying me. I say that's my job. I make no bones about being a STRIPPER.
So I'm not comfortable with regulars. It depends on the club, though, how much of a problem it becomes. The club I first started working at, it was never that much of an issue. But lately I've been hopping club to club to get away stalkers with whom I've run out of excuses. The club I'm at now doesn't do a lot of business, but the guys that come in usually have quite a bit of money. But, so many of the girls there will meet the guys for dinner or something, to keep them coming in. That just seems like too much of a mess for me to want to get into. I did meet a guy for dinner once whom I really trusted and had been my customer for months, but it was terribly uncomfortable. And I can't believe that doesn't get incredibly sticky. What guy isn't gonna expect sex after something like that? Just another mess I don't wanna deal with. Plus, I'm sure a lot of the girls who do this do a lot of extra shit, no matter how many times they deny it.
I have a boyfriend of two years who I've always been faithful to. Should I just cut all the madness off at the source by telling the guys I'm taken? I really feel like this would cut in to my money. I've even thought of telling the guys I'm a lesbian and that I have a girlfriend, as I'm sure this would open doors for lots of fantasies, and it would be an individual rejection of a guy, but instead the whole gender. I'm sure I'd still get harrassed about dating them anyway, but at least I'd have a solid excuse I could stick to - that I don't do dick. Although, this would have to be a throughly thought out lie, complete with all sorts of stories.
Some of the girls I've talked to just lie, lie, lie. They'll agree to meet the guy for dinner, taking some money from them to set the date, and completely set them up. If the guy comes back and asks about it, they'll have an excuse like their fuel-pump went out, or they had to pick up their son, or whatever. But having to do that kind of lying would just stress me out more than ever, I'm sure.
I'm not good with confrontation, and no matter what occupation I'm in, I'll stress myself out trying to keep people happy. Stripping is no exception, and dealing with all this madness burns me out pretty quickly. And while I have somewhat prefabricated responses to the questions I get most frequently, I'm starting to think they need a makeover, because I'm still having the same problem over and over. Any advice? I would REALLY REALLY appreciate some insight. I really like stripping, but if I can't somehow get around this problem, I'll never be able to work consistently. I always end up quitting for months at a time.
Thanks for any help.



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......I have had the same problem too in the past. I used to know girls that would go out to dinner n such (sex or no sex I dont know) because they felt ok with that. All of this of couse under the SC's nose. I guess thats they way they personally wanted to operate? No shame in their game.


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