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    Does your family know about your dancing?

    Just wondering what other people have gone through as far as telling your parents or other family members that you dance (or NOT telling them). I am definitely not telling my dad and my mom and I are very close and usually talk about anything but I'm so nervous about telling her - so I haven't yet. I might just tell her I'm a waitress but I'm more leaning towards telling her nothing right now. I come from a very religious upbringing so I think that's where so much apprehension might come from. I am sorta fearful inside to tell them! I'm over 30 so I should be over this already, BUT I am not a good liar and don't like to keep things from the people I am close to - I'm not sure what to do! I LOVE my dancing, am proud of being able to make money doing something I enjoy, and am not ashamed of it in the least but I know a lot of people obviously would think it was a "slutty" job or what have you, especially old-school older people or more traditional people in general! (PS - I don't even work in a nude club!) (All my friends know and are VERY supportive already.) Anyone have any advice or go through this same situation yourself? Any advice would really help calm my nerves on this! Thanks everybody in advance!



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    Other than my husband, who was a bouncer when I was dating him, no one in my family has a CLUE that I ever danced.

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    My whole family knows. Are they happy about it? No, not really (except my SO) but I don't care what they think. They are supportive and know that I need to do whatever I need to do...and besides that...I will do whatever I WANT to do. LOL

    You have to do what is best for you. If you would feel better telling them and not "living a lie" so-to-speak, then by all means, tell your family. However, if you are apprehensive about it because you are afraid of being disowned or what-not...then it may be best to leave it be.

    I personally did not care what my family said, liked, desired...whatever. It's about what I want. Of course, now my family is ok with it cuz I'm on LOA...LOL...but you know...in the end, you have to do what you need to do for yourself.

    Good luck!!

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    Thanks Susan and Venus! Really great to hear from kindred spirits on this subject! Venus - what does LOA mean?



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    Leave Of Absence.

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    My mothers side knows, my fathers side has no clue.. They think I bartend...

    I also agree with Venus....



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    Everyone from my biological family to my adoptive family to my friends know what i'm doing for work. The only ones who DON'T know are my kids and that is more out of my fear of how other people with treat them than a fear they wouldn't accept it etc. Not everyone is thrilled but most are very supportive if nothing else. My SO is my biggest supporter and is great about the whole thing.



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    My mom decided to be a cretin and told my dad, to hurt him. She found out by accident....anyway, I only regret that it bothers him.
    Keep it a secret.

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    okay, once again proving I'm a tremendous dork:

    I told my family I waitress. My mom asked "it isn't one of those topless places is it?" me: "yes, it is ma." [ha! no! it's nude! ], but she is okay with it as long as I don't tell my Granny.
    My [older] brother thinks it is just waitressing - he didn't know where until he decided to accompany my boyfriend to pick me up one night:
    bro: so... she's a waitress, huh?
    bf: . . . yeah.
    bro: at like, a TGIF?
    bf: *trying not to laugh* not exactly.
    bro: at a club or something?
    bf: yeah.
    bro: like. . . a night club?
    bf: uhhh. yeah.
    bro: with dancing?
    bf: not so much. more just hanging out. some people dance.
    bro: maybe I should go in to see if she's out of work yet [I was late]
    bf: NO!!! uh... you're too young, it is 21 or over.
    bro: oh. okay.

    I is NOT fond of my brother.

    Anyway, pretty sure my dad thinks I waittress too, I think. my sister is too little to care.

    The rest of the family and some friends of the family think I waitress is various stages of disrobe. heehee. The thing was I think my grandmother asked me what was the name of the place I waitress, and being dumb I couldn't just make up a name, so I said "golden club" which sounds like 80+ singles. Gawd. Just imagine it, for a moment, you'll be entertained.
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    Well my mom and dad know, they're not to happy about it still. I think I'm sorta shund from the family in some ways. My kids don't know. My ex husband and his family still are trying to figure out if I am or not. His dad told me one day that stripping in bars is not good for the kids, my response was I'm not stripping in a bar and so on. Cause I work in a BYOB club. HEHE!! Part of my other relatives know also. Of course my man of 3 1/2yrs knows, cause thats how we met. I was working at the club when he came in the club for the 1st time, while visiting a friend.
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    I LMAO at crescentluna's post!!

    I asked my mom when I was 16 what she would think if I stripped and she said she'd disown me, so I was a little hesitant to tell her when I started at 20. I told her I was waitressing at a topless club and that most waitresses ended up dancing, which is somewhat true. So about 2 weeks later I told her I was dancing. I eased her into the idea. Now she says that she wished she could have done it at my age. I eventually told her that I originally lied to her, but she doesn't care. I have one of those moms that would support me no matter what I did.

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    My hubby knows,& my sister-in-law (whom I work with). The rest of the family probably thinks I'm a lazy house wife that leaches off my husband and does nothing all day... except "work-out"... a lot. How do we always manage to have extra money??? -We "save".


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    I told my father after already dancing for over 2 years. My younger brother has known all along. One aunt and uncle knows. My step-mum.... well.. my father doesn't want me to tell her however I don't take her for an air-head.. so I'm hoping she has put 1+1 together. I soo want to tell her. My younger step-brothers don't have a clue.

    As for how my father is taking it - the same as he took when I told him I was a Pagan Witch LOL After being raised Catholic all my life (the whole hog - incl. confirmation). He won't really want to talk about it.

    He is okay with it as long as I exit it better than when I came into it. He will be extremely PO'ed if I left and was worse off for it. Plus he would like for me to not tell my step-mum or any other family members ever: so I'm a waitress to the rest of the family.


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    I to come form a very religious upbringing.
    I had been waitressing in another club, I told my mum I was going to work somewhere else and she straight out said that I was going to dance wasn't I? so I told her yes, she isn't happy about it but she loves me all the same.
    My dad thinks I waitress in a strip club, no one else in my family knows.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DCFoxxx
    Just wondering what other people have gone through as far as telling your parents or other family members that you dance (or NOT telling them). I am definitely not telling my dad and my mom and I are very close and usually talk about anything but I'm so nervous about telling her - so I haven't yet. I might just tell her I'm a waitress but I'm more leaning towards telling her nothing right now. I come from a very religious upbringing so I think that's where so much apprehension might come from. I am sorta fearful inside to tell them! I'm over 30 so I should be over this already, BUT I am not a good liar and don't like to keep things from the people I am close to - I'm not sure what to do! I LOVE my dancing, am proud of being able to make money doing something I enjoy, and am not ashamed of it in the least but I know a lot of people obviously would think it was a "slutty" job or what have you, especially old-school older people or more traditional people in general! (PS - I don't even work in a nude club!) (All my friends know and are VERY supportive already.) Anyone have any advice or go through this same situation yourself? Any advice would really help calm my nerves on this! Thanks everybody in advance!
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    Oh, gawd, I forgot about the bf's family! Oh boy.

    bf's mom at dinner: if you're moving in with Luna you'll need to find a job quickly, you know, if she's just a student she can't have that much money, and you should help out.
    bf: well, ya know she works part-time.
    bf's mom: chris, that's not NEARLY enough for the two of you.
    bf: well... she works as an exotic dancer.
    bf's mom: Oh! well! I guess she does have enough money then... but you should still help out!
    bf's dad: And when we go to visit we can go see her!
    bf: *shakes head*
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    Mom & Dad both know....I even told mom I did a voyeur video LOL...She wanted to be sure I was safe as the number one priority, and second, that I was SAVING my money. Shes big on investing! I've always been kinda off the beaten path, so a 9-5 was never destined to make me happy..they realize this.
    Dad was kinda in a state of shock...when he finally said something 3 minutes later..it was.."Well, guess I'll have to stay outta there" LoL...
    Sibling does not know!!! And never will...I love them, but they're a hard core traditional conservative..(And the most judgemental person ever!) I would NEVER hear the end of it till my dying day!

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    i tell my parents something involved about working with tiny catering operations. considering they would feel selling drugs was more respectable, i don't know that i'll ever tell them unless it somehow comes up. i don't keep up with the rest of my family much, but they wouldn't care all that much in the end, except to borrow money, heh.

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    Thanks everybody - your posts really encourage me not to mention add a healthy dose of humor Luna! And PixyDust I can relate on the conservative sibling thing!



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    I didn't have the chance to tell my mother because my boyfriend told her in order to force me to stop dancing. At first she was very disappointed that I left college 'to become a dancer'. Technically that's not true but I digress. I told her that I stayed in bikini in Jersey 'cause I knew being topless would make her feel bad. Then she asked how much the topless girls in Manhattan make and she got outraged that I didn't go fo the top money! Man, so much for her rock solid principles.

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    how about the conservative parents, and conservative so's parents.. ERRR

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    DC- I know girl, she acts more like a parent than my parents...Are you the "baby" in the birth order? Age gaps cause problems too..Kinda like, whenever I do something new to me...she goes "oh yea yea been there done that"..grrr...
    Yeah it's hard to explain my schedule, as those who do not know I dance think I do an office job..But that catering cover is a good one!

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    My entire family and all my friends know. I'm very lucky that Mon and Dad are very supportive. (Dad is gone now, RIP, but I hope he still approves!) My mom has come to the club for specail events to watch me dance, the hardest part is keeping her off stage! At 67 it ain't that pretty!!!

    You know your family better than anyone. I have never judge someone on their decision to tell or not, because all families are different. Do what you feel comfortable with.

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    I haven't had the nerve to tell my family. I told my bf, my room-mate, and one close friend who used to work in a peep show. I wanted to tell my brother the other night on the phone but chickened out. I think my family would accept it -- they're really nice and tolerant -- but would worry and call me all the time to ask questions. They do that enough already...LOL... nice, but exhausting!

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    I really wish I could tell my parents, I hate keeping stuff from them. However, I am an only child and I think if I told them, it'd kill them! I am planning on telling them I'm a telemarketer, but I haven't yet. I'll feel so bad about it =(

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