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    A weird thing happened to me last night..This guy (30ish) was dancing with two not so attractive women for a while.

    After i approached him, he couldn't look me in the eyes and said he was nervous even talking to me?? He mentioned that i was the best looking dancer in there, and then proceeded to say that i am a girlfriend trophy and not a stripper. (whatever, kinda pissed me off)
    So after i got on stage he had no problem tipping me (money flowing)

    Um, i dont like to be patronized. What the hell was all that about?


    anyone ever been in a similar situation? Like i dont think he ever directly looked me in the eyes the whole time??

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    Yeah it happens. Ugly strippers gotta eat too LOL

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    This may be completely irrelevant, but was the guy particularly bad looking in some way? Overweight or bad skin or whatever? Some people who are self-conscious about their appearance feel even more embarrassed or uncomfortable around particularly attractive people even if they are of the other gender.

    Personally, I am not much aware or, or concerned about, my own appearance...just don't think about it much. However, once when I was seeing an escort I happened to catch a view of the two of us (both naked) right next to each other in a full length mirror in the hotel room, and for whatever reason it occurred to me how hot she looked and how relatively dumpy I looked beside her...and of how I must have looked to her. It sort of ruined the mood for me and made me feel odd, maybe a bit ashamed or something. Again, not my usual reaction to a beautiful woman at all...just a single weird reaction for me, but I could imagine that maybe some guys feel that way all the time, or frequently, around beautiful women.

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    I'm not sure cause I wasn't there, but it doesn't sound like he was trying to insult you, especially since he tipped you well. He might have meant that you're so beautiful that instead of being a stripper you should be on the arm of a mega mogul. Sounds to me like he was intimidated by your hotness. If that's the case, you're doin somethin right!
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    there was a thread about this lawhile back...something like "too pretty to make money"

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    What the hell was all that about?
    Clearly, he was either intimidated or embarrassed by your comeliness.

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    yea.. he was not a bad looking guy? He was like 6 2' and maybe slightly thin..

    hmm... It was like he had some kind of condition if that makes sense.

    He seemed to do ok around the other girls when i asked them about him. Iv'e had guys say things like that to me before.. but they could look at me at the same time?

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    all i did was smile and tell him my name.

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    Before the homely dancers were around him...Did any other hottie besides you approach him before that? If other girls were sorta ignoring him/sitting at the bar, that could have made him even more insecure...I love the shy ones though, they take longer to warm up, but won't get dances from anyone else the next time in for your patience.
    Oh and hey, the day managers wife came in today to dance with us, did you ever meet her?

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    all i did was smile and tell him my name.
    Maybe that's all it takes; you could cause a coronary with the way you look, you know.

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    I had a guy who had a crush on me but was both too intimidated and embarassed by the situation to feel comfortable talking to me let alone get a dance!

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    He prolly felt threatened coz you are hot.
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    He was intimidated, plain and simple. Some guys are really insecure around beautiful women, no matter what they look like. I get that sometimes too, I'm sure we all do now and then. It sucks because you know the guy wants a dance with you, but he goes with someone else. Heck, I've even had guys turn me away and get a dance with a less attractive girl, only to stare at me while the other girl dances. Weirdos!

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    Yep, just sounds plain intimidated. I've never had a problem asking a dancer for something, what's the worst I could get . . . .. . NO ?

    Once you were on stage, you were out of reach, and an easier object to be comfortable around. When you are within touch, he freaked because all of a sudden he had no choice but to confront you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EvilPixyDust
    Before the homely dancers were around him...Did any other hottie besides you approach him before that? If other girls were sorta ignoring him/sitting at the bar, that could have made him even more insecure...I love the shy ones though, they take longer to warm up, but won't get dances from anyone else the next time in for your patience.
    Oh and hey, the day managers wife came in today to dance with us, did you ever meet her?
    Im not sure if he was around any hot dancers before the homely one. It was pretty busy. i love shy guys, but def. not this shy

    No, i never met her, never even heard of her. I never danced at your club for a long period of time, because i dont like the floor girl. But come to think of it the few days i worked there i did well...

    I wonder what she looked like? I know he is decent looking. I worked nights there.

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    maybe i should stop in and say hi? hmmm...

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    Quote Originally Posted by tampafldancer
    yea.. he was not a bad looking guy? He was like 6 2' and maybe slightly thin..

    hmm... It was like he had some kind of condition if that makes sense.
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    It's quite clear, without needing to further heap flattery upon you, that the guy was intimidated by you, and a bit of a wierdo as well.

    Jesus, I have seen all kinds of strange shit in the clubs, and the geeks don't always look like geeks, lol...
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    He was fishing for a mistress or trying to get a rise out of you...IMHO, he felt very attracted to you but didn't like the fact that you were dancing for all the men in the bar when he wanted you all to himself.....men can be cavemen sometimes....

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    Tampa- She is very tall even without the platforms, long blond hair(Which someone said was red before), cute baby face, about 32...If you worked nights you probably didn't see her..But the floor girl- Does her name start with an R by any chance???
    Black hair??? There was some drama involving her, another dancer & myself about how we couldnt be in the VIP chairs because we were daygirls..it turned into a shouting match in front of a customer, and continued in the managers office..We didn't get in trouble though.
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    Tampa, even your small masked picture reveals your natural beauty, but I think this was a special kind of intimidation.

    Men are visual. Some have highly defined preferences (love maps). You happened to have the look he loved, and he felt uncomfortable with you in the SC context. I suspect the feeling just overwhelmed him.

    Later, when you were more distant on stage, he got his feelings under control.

    He felt comfortable with less attractive women, and he may have had no problem with beautiful women outside his love map.

    I once saw a natural blonde with the prep school cheerleader look, which pretty much defines my love map. I wouldn't go near her for a month, mainly because she did extras for free. One day I gave in and we clicked instantly. It was the rollercoaster ride of my life until it crashed and burned.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FoxyRoxIt
    I'm not sure cause I wasn't there, but it doesn't sound like he was trying to insult you, especially since he tipped you well. He might have meant that you're so beautiful that instead of being a stripper you should be on the arm of a mega mogul. Sounds to me like he was intimidated by your hotness. If that's the case, you're doin somethin right!
    I agree. You were too hot for him to handle! Just shrug it off. His loss......



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    I've never understood the whole idea of being "intimidated" by the way someone looks. Much like enjoying a steaming plate of mustard greens, its a foreign concept to me.

    I welcome the uber hotties and semi-homely looking gals alike to try to lighten my wallet. If I like a dancer's look and she comes across as friendly and approachable, then it's all good. Frankly, if I ever got approached by a dancer of TFD's caliber, the only thing I'd be fearful of is going broke.


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    seven sea's YUCK! never been in there never want to go.. I can't believe you asked.. lol If you want to know where i am now.. pm me

    she has short black hair and not cute at all. There was a tread a while back about her.

    Drama involving her! ha.. that makes sense. But her name doesn't start with a k.??

    Hope you enjoy the club!!!

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    Since when is being just someone's trophy girlfriend better than being a stripper? Maybe he didn't mean to, but in reality he was just trading one insult for another. Seems like he doesn't like strippers all that much (since he thinks that being a trophy gf would be better), and thinks that one of the best things (or only things) an attractive woman can strive to be is arm candy? Whatever.
    I'd rather be a stripper, independent, not relying on anyone else to pay my bills and support me. I'd also rather be a stripper than be with someone who saw me as a trophy girlfriend. (I'd like to think that I'm deep/decent enough for someone to think of me as intimate relationship material, lol). I'd rather be almost anything in this world, including working fast food, than be someone's trophy. At least then I'd still have my pride. But to each his own.
    I believe this is another one of those chauvinistic remarks that men for some reason still find acceptable to say to someone who in their mind has lowered themselves to stripping, because I really can't imagine them saying that to an attractive woman they met under any other context.
    I don't think they even know this is insulting and wrong most of the time so I choose just to ignore comments like that completely. There's not much you can usually do to change someone's view on something such as this. They either get it, or they don't.

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    My SO considers me to be his trophy..lol But of course to him, and everyone else im much more then that

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