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    Default Writer looking for some help/insight from Dancers

    Hey everyone...I hope you don't mind me coming here to ask for a little help.

    I'm a writer who's working on a story set at a Bachelor Party, and while it's very much a guy story, the two girls who work the party are obviously pretty important characters and I really want to get them right. The reason I'm putting it in this forum is that one girl is brought along to observe a more experienced stripper because she's new, and the insight as to what dancers feel and think about during their first times is a big part of her character.

    Also, I'd love to get any insight into the things that guys don't see at a party like that: the preperation, the communication between a dancer and the DJ/bouncer/driver, etc. etc.

    Anything that you'd be willing to take the time to share would be much appreciated. I hope you won't think of me as some spammer or troll just looking to get stories and ancedotes out of dancers, because I'm very serious about this story, and this is the best way to get the story and characters right. I'm happy to discuss it here, or discuss via email if people don't want to share in a public forum (I think I can be emailed through my profile).

    Thanks in advance!

    EDIT: Mods - If you want me to post this in the customer conversation forum, I'll be happy to...I didn't think it was strictly a 'customer' question and fit here, but I'll abide by however you'd like to run your forum.

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    Default Re: Writer looking for some help/insight from Dancers

    I've never danced outside of the club, but am still fairly new to the industry and thus remember how crazy it was starting out. I wouldn't usually agree to help since most outside views of strippers has been warped, but I'm feeling a little more open to the idea after regualarly dancing for a "surrealist" author Feel free to PM anything specific you're wondering about.
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    Default Re: Writer looking for some help/insight from Dancers

    Quote Originally Posted by BruteSentiment
    Anything that you'd be willing to take the time to share would be much appreciated. I hope you won't think of me as some spammer or troll just looking to get stories and ancedotes out of dancers, because I'm very serious about this story, and this is the best way to get the story and characters right.
    This is the best way to get heresay , rumors and war stories of glory.
    Thats it.

    If your true to wanting to write about this,and be correct in your writings,then come aboard.
    Get a job in the industry,it aint hard to do.

    Look into the eyes of a few 18 year olds on thier first nights.Talk to them before,after, and six months later.
    Not only would you get your stories,i would bet you write them completely different then you originaly thought you would.
    I hope all goes well with your writing.It will be good to read something from an insiders point of view for a change and not some bullshit rag from an outsider looking in.

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    Default Re: Writer looking for some help/insight from Dancers

    I suggest having a or attending a bachelor party yourself, then there will be a few points of view you can tap into.. everyone ses things differently so it is always hard to say what others might not say.
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    Default Re: Writer looking for some help/insight from Dancers

    I worked private parties for 4yrs, trained girls to work parties, and I have no clue how to answer any of the things your looking for. It becomes so much of a second nature that you really dont think about it, at least i didn't

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    Default Re: Writer looking for some help/insight from Dancers

    I'm just going to move this on over to the Stripping board, Brute. It'll be a better way to get some input from dancers in that section.

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    Default Re: Writer looking for some help/insight from Dancers

    Hm. I've seen footage of my uncle's bachelor party and it was just a girl and a big bouncer dude who also set up the music and helped with the props.

    They arrived together, the big dude started setting up the stereo with music she wanted to play and all she did was get her props together while my uncles friends got themselves arranged in sort of a semi circle with chairs and then when everyone was ready the big dude hit play and she started her routine (which included rubbing her boobies all over my uncle's father who nearly had a heart attack!! Hahaha) and then to end with she gave t
    he groom a lapdance. Then they both packed up their things and left.

    I think all bachelor parties are different and it depends on who does them.

    Anyway, cant you just ... make it up? If you're writing fiction it should be fiction. Just hang out here for some little tips and incorporate them into the story. Or as gypsy_girlchild said, have your own bachelor party! If you can afford it. I could be fun.

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    Default Re: Writer looking for some help/insight from Dancers

    Thanks for taking the time to reply, everyone, and thanks for the move Rhiannon. I wasn't sure which spot on this board you guys would feel was appropriate for it.

    This story I'm writing is inspired in part from a bachelor party I recently attended , and a unique situation (I thought) that happened during it. In short, it was a small party (10 Customers, including the groom) and the company brought one dancer for the party, but also another girl who was just getting started in the business. Although I obviously enjoyed the primary entertainment, it was the writer in me who kept peeking at the new girl. It was hard to read the expression on her face. Eventually, thanks to the hustling of one of the two DJ/Bouncers who were there (Partially encouraging her to try it...I think he considered us a safe group...and partially encouraging us to get together enough tips to entice her), she did a routine and a couple of lap dances. After she did, and while the other girl had taken back over, the new girl just sat there with a very blank look on her face...and that's where your help comes in.

    I couldn't just ask her what she was thinking, as I didn't think that would be either proper conversation between a customer and a dancer, nor did I think she would want to talk about that with a total stranger. And I have absolutely no perspective on how a girl would feel in that situation considering the prevailing views in society, being a guy.

    I know where the story's going to go, and I know what's going to happen...but what I don't have is the ability to know the particular thoughts that could have been going on in my character's head. I know I'm coming at this from an outsider's perspective, and even if I could get a job in the industry, even if I took the time to gain the trust from people to share in their experiences, even then I'd still be an outsider because only women really know what it's like to be a woman in this world (this story will deal quite a bit with the ways men view, and the ways they learn to view, women). I know whichever way I go with this character won't ring true for everyone, everywhere, but I hope by learning from as many experiences as I can listen to, I can make it ring real, if you know what I mean.

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