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    How has it changed since you first became a stripper?








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    lets see,.. today begins week 5. financial situation dramatically improved. sex life 1000% better. relationship stronger (he's so proud of me!). posture improved. english improved. confidance/self esteem improved. (i AM so HOT!) a reason to buy/wear slutty clothes. only problem is sleep time really screwed up. (never ever stayed up this late). all in all, im really into it now, no turnin back.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wildlands1
    lets see,.. today begins week 5. financial situation dramatically improved. sex life 1000% better. relationship stronger (he's so proud of me!). posture improved. english improved. confidance/self esteem improved. (i AM so HOT!) a reason to buy/wear slutty clothes. only problem is sleep time really screwed up. (never ever stayed up this late). all in all, im really into it now, no turnin back.
    Sex life improved? How's that?....that's great btw, i'll look foward to that one.

    LOL, reason to buy slutty clothes....I agree!! I always loved stipper gear, even though when I had no intentions of becoming one.

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    my sex life is worse, but otherwise I agree with the above

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    My sex life got worse and then better. Otherwise I also agree with above.

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    What happened Bridgette?

    I basically lost my desire to be touched in a sexual way. I think it's because the only way I can do my job is to detach myself from my body.

    This seriously depresses me too.

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    em, i feel your pain!!

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    No major changes except I socialise much less and on my nights off now I prefur to stay home instead of being the party animal I used to be.

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    I was able to have a lot more freedom. I started at 18 and was overwhelmed with my independence. I still love the fact that at the drop of a hat, I can go wherever I want and do whatever I want. I'm almost done with my bachelor's degree, and I love that I've done it all by myself. In a way, I appreciate it more. If it weren't for dancing, I'd probably be struggling with a hostess job or something and still in my first year of school, with subpar grades. My confidence is higher than it was before I ever danced, probably because I know I can rely on myself to get by. Another great thing is that I can see through all of the "game" guys at school try to run on my friends and I. When they try to hit on me, they don't know what hit them. I also feel that I am stronger person because I'm a dancer. I am much more resilient with things (tragedies, stress, drama etc.) And to sum up the positives, I am a MUCH better judge of character due to all of my experiences throughout dancing.

    Drawbacks include not wanting to be touched. Also, I'm annoyed by men much more than I used to be, and I have extreme anxiety when people intrude on my personal space. If I'm at Target, the mall, whatever and people get too close to me I feel like I can't breathe.

    Overall I'd rather be dancing at this point in my life than working any other job. The pros far outweigh cons.
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    The biggest change in my life since I've started dancing is my confidence level and how I carry myself. I was somewhat insecure and very shy. I now carry myself with confidence. I've learned how to talk and interact with strangers.

    I worked as a waitress for almost 4 years, 4 days a week, 7 shifts a week (just under 40 hours.. you know how restaurants are), trying to save to get back to college. But I was paying all my own bills, insurance, etc and I could never quite do it. Now after 6 months dancing I'll be back in school next fall.

    I now get to wear all kinds of clothes I love and was afraid to wear before. My posture is better. My body is much better. Dancing has done wonders for my legs and butt...and motivated me to start working out regularly. I used to hate my breasts because they're real, but now I love them. I learned how to put on makeup... natural looking and dancer/clubbing makeup.

    My bodies sleep schedule is messed up, but I can handle that. My sex life is great, but I think that has more to do with my SO than anything else.
    All in all I love what the job has done for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aussiepunkshocker
    No major changes except I socialise much less and on my nights off now I prefur to stay home instead of being the party animal I used to be.
    Same here! I used to love to go out on the weekends; now I'd rather stay at home most of the time and watch a movie or go on the computer.

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    My biggest changes are

    -I am making a sick amount of money that distorts my savings
    (unless the IRS is doing the math) Sick is always a perception

    -My sex life is way better (but I lie alot more to the guys I am sleeping with)

    -my knees hurt!!!!!

    _my body looks incredible!!!!

    -I am getting a lot more as a model now.

    -My so's are more insecure

    -Guys seem more simple to me, they have basic needs and most have absolutely no GAME!

    -I am way more likely to smack a freak for licking me during a LD (oh wait that wouldn't have happened before dancing)


    -my very favorite is this


    This site has gathered together a group of elite women....not the typical dumb girls (sorry) that I have worked with........these girls are smart, sexy and in control, and most important aware of their life goals


    SW is my favorite part about dancing

    girls hate me in real life, I am either a sex object (even before dancing) or a threat.

    Sw girls are real, hot and very educational, plus they are comfort to a girl that needs GF's

    smooch to my gilrs here


    hope it helps

    you have to take control of your life as a dancer, make your money, invest, do things right

    your life is yours right now, make it so!
    do the things you want now


    dancing is awesome if you do it right!

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    I still party all of the time!!!!

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    Hmmm...my life? Well, I am richer and fitter, that's for sure!

    Oh...and I'm more clued up to when a man tries to pull a BS stunt on me.
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    When I first became a dancer, I went through all of the changes you've described. I felt better about myself, I had all sorts of $$, I travelled all the time. But keep in mind (and consider this a "spoiler" if you're very, very new to this business)--THINGS CHANGE.
    All of the changes you experience when you are new are wonderful. They give you a self-confidence most of us never had, they may change your view of yourself in a positive way, which makes most aspects of your life seem alot better.
    However, I noticed that after about 2 1/2 years, those things started to fade, little by little. I became more concerned about how I looked (and not in a positive way--a girl I knew called it "re-learning to hate the body") and compared myself to every 18-year-old that walked in. Money seemed to go faster, and come in slower than before. My relationships with the men in my life came to have either sexual undertones (even with friends) or nothing at all. I attribute this to the constant sexual energy I was putting out at work, and not necessarily receiving. It became exhausting. Sex became sort of a chore.
    My advice for if this happens in some way to you, take a break. Make yourself miss dancing. When you go back, you'll get a feeling similar to what you had when you started.
    AND SAVE YOUR MONEY!!!!!!
    Sorry if this brings anyone down, I don't mean to. I just wanted to respond to the question in as honest a way as I could. It may not happen to everyone, but it did happen to me. I have been on a 6-month hiatus (so far) and I feel like it's getting better. I miss dancing. I am even learning new poe tricks with all my spare time and planning out a new work strategy for when I go back.
    Whoo. This was a long post!

    -slashingbeauty

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    what a great topic!!


    im only 20,and left school a year early (not to dance, but thats what i ended up doing anyways!) so while my firneds were working at mac ds, i was pulling a few thou a week, and travelling wherever whenever! ahh the freedom.

    2 years on, i have spent more money then i should have, ( im gonna start saving, i promise!!) i hear from people from school, and they are still living at home with their parents working for $5 an hour! lol


    its nice to have been able to do anything i want,financially ( lol except save!)

    my sex life,got better for the first 6months or so. now its pretty shitty. my bf can barely touch my pussy without me flinching away!!

    confidance is worse. panic attacks like crazy! i still cant go out in public by myself without having one!

    my wardrobe is worse.lol i spend more money on stripperclothes and shoes then real clothes!!

    my lifestyle in general is better, i love the travelling,living independantly,do what the hell i want.


    its a small price to pay for something i wont be able to do later in life so easily.

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    Wow, I can relate to so many things that have been mentioned in this thread.

    The Bad
    My sex life has gotten worse. I know the flinching away feeling when my husband tries to touch me. I also feel that when he does try to touch me, it's not because he loves me and wants to be intimate, but because he has a "stripper" body to fuck.

    People getting too close in public, I understand. I was actually in line voting today and this older lady behind me kept pushing my butt with her purse. I stepped to the side because I almost felt like I was about to loose control with her.

    And the age thing. I feel old. I am 29, and although men always guess between 20-24 I still feel a little insecure about it. I think I spend more on anti wrinkle crap than I make!

    The Good
    I've also come to the conclusion that men are nothing but ATM machines. They are all alike. That has helped me in my other job (sales). I'm not intimidated by anyone anymore, and it's been showing in my commission check
    Even with the fear of aging thing, my confidence has definately improved.

    The extra money is good. We are definately ahead now and have a nice little stash saved. I don't think that would have happened by now without the jump start from dancing.

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    I really really like having money and not feeling like it is a constant struggle between having fun [and I mean fun like going to a movie twice a month] and paying the bills. I like having that confidence to just walk up and talk to people and be goofy and happy. I like dressing up for work.
    I loves my boyfriend. He met me right after I started working, so there wasn't any "honey I want to start dancing" type of discussions. me: I'm a dancer. him: cool.
    I like being able to say "I'm gonna take a week off from work" and just doing that.

    I don't like having this sort of "secret life" from my family and some friends.
    "I still have my name
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    I have not run away from home
    Doesn't seem so long
    If I now embrace
    Every single thing I've never known"

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    Ahhh... The good; able to sleep because I don't have to worry about money, hot/sexy bod (my abs are super sexy), excitement, get paid to go out and have fun instead of paying to go, meeting lots of new people, making friends, learning so many new things (like financial, taxes, savings plans), and eating healthier to look better.

    Bad; I hate men sometimes, same goes here about not wanting people to touch me (I've always been that way, just worse now), up at hours I wish I was asleep (I'm a morning person and my body hates this), worry too much about how I look, not able to have friends out of the dancer community very easily due to people thinking I'm going to steal their husbands or that I need to be "saved", think I'm crazy sometimes for liking this so much! Cigarrette smoke sucks!!

    I really do like it and wish I could make as much money during a day shift as a night shift.
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    the good.....working just the weekend to focus on school. bout 12hours!!!! I am such a brat!!!!!......never being strapped for cash....taking off work when I want to travel...I don't put up with any shit......anymore. I have learned to stand up for myself. I am able to afford a personal trainer.

    the bad....having a secret life with family and friends!!! Not trusting anyone!!!! Having a huge electic fence up...and if anyone comes near.....zapp!!! no sex life... I don't really like to be touched.....

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    When I was dancing...

    The Good

    -MONEY, OF COURSE!
    -It did wonders for my body, especially my legs and ass.
    -Gave me more self confidence, more so in the beginning though. Towards the end I started to lose it a bit but getting into a relationship with a man who hated my job didn't help matters.
    -I went to work whenever I wanted.
    -Didn't have to take shit from people like you do in the retail world. The customer isn't always right! If you don't like somebody you can tell them to fuck off!
    -Social interaction with some of the girls. I worked with some truely amazing women.

    The Bad

    -My relationship with my boyfriend was rocky. He hated my job so much, constantly berading me, interogating me, comming into the club and messing with my money. The end result was him giving me an altimatum...him or dancing even though I was a dancer before we started dating. I chose him even though I didn't want to quit dancing. I miss dancing terribly but won't go back in fear of losing him.
    -The money got shitty towards the end. At my club, it got to the point where if you weren't a whore, you weren't making shit. I don't do extras so my money started to suffer.
    -The restrictions on the clubs by the city I worked in. The first week I worked at my first nude club it was turned into pasties and thongs a week later because of the politicians who have been trying to get the clubs shut down in that city for years. When a club goes full nude to pasties, thong and no-alcohol the club loses buisness and the girls lose money....LOTS of money.
    -How sad it was to see nice girls who had bad drug problems, particularly heroin addiction.
    -How sad it was to see so many girls turn tricks and risk AIDS, STDS, Pregnancy, and getting busted for prostitution. Some were so desensitized to it they would talk about doing it like I talk about what I had for breakfast that morning.

    I miss some of the girls I worked with and wonder where they are, how they are doing, and if they are still dancing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MisfitBunnie

    -How sad it was to see nice girls who had bad drug problems, particularly heroin addiction.
    -How sad it was to see so many girls turn tricks and risk AIDS, STDS, Pregnancy, and getting busted for prostitution. Some were so desensitized to it they would talk about doing it like I talk about what I had for breakfast that morning.

    I miss some of the girls I worked with and wonder where they are, how they are doing, and if they are still dancing.
    omg, that's sad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by aussiepunkshocker
    No major changes except I socialise much less and on my nights off now I prefur to stay home instead of being the party animal I used to be.
    That happened with one of my ex's too. She started to just stay home, and watch a dvd instead of going out. She loved her free time, and even had a complete night to herself without me. she just needed her space to relax and refresh for another week.
    My last girl melted in the sun

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    I just finished my second week of dancing and I am LOVING it. I have more self-confidence and am learning more new "stripper moves" each time I'm at work. I have made some fabulous friends at the club - everyone has welcomed me with open arms there. I feel a part of such an elite group of women and I'm very proud to be a member! Thanks so much to Susan-Va who is on this board for all her help with getting me a job at the club! MUUAHHH Susan!!! You rock!

    I broke up with my b/f the first week I started dancing b/c he said "I refuse to date a stripper" so I said "well don't then" and broke it off. He was too controlling and got really upset about the whole dancing thing. He could not accept the fact that dancing is in my blood and a part of me and a lifelong dream. He was unnecessarily worried about me and did not approve of what he called the "stripper lifestyle". Well whatever that lifestyle is I'm living it and loving it. Good riddance to such a creep as that who could not accept me as I am!

    I would say the biggest setback is lack of sex in my life. I used to have a lot of it - w/my b/f and before him, lots of guy "friends with benefits". Since I started dancing my friends with benefits seem to be less available for sex and ready to explore it with other women instead. This happened to me recently with a friend who turned me down to have sex with a less attractive older woman. Uh, excuse me - who's the stripper here with the better body? Certainly not her! I don't understand men's behavior at all. They confuse the hell out of me.

    So I'm kinda lonely in that regard and horny! But all in all I would not trade my dancing for the world - I love it! Hopefully the right guy will come along soon for me! But right now I'm kinda down about the whole dating scene - sick of rejection and game-playing so I think I might just lay low for a while and concentrate on my dancing.

    Last but not least, I second what Ashley Rose said - you ladies at Stripperweb are phenomenal. I really appreciate the comradeship and kindness we all have for each other. Yes, we are a sisterhood of strong, brave, kick-ass, gorgeous strippers and proud of it!



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    [QUOTE=DCFoxxx]I just finished my second week of dancing and I am LOVING it. I have more self-confidence and am learning more new "stripper moves" each time I'm at work. I have made some fabulous friends at the club - everyone has welcomed me with open arms there. I feel a part of such an elite group of women and I'm very proud to be a member!

    I broke up with my b/f the first week I started dancing b/c he said "I refuse to date a stripper" so I said "well don't then" and broke it off. He was too controlling and got really upset about the whole dancing thing. He could not accept the fact that dancing is in my blood and a part of me and a lifelong dream. He was unnecessarily worried about me and did not approve of what he called the "stripper lifestyle". Well whatever that lifestyle is I'm living it and loving it. Good riddance to such a creep as that who could not accept me as I am!
    [QUOTE]

    Good for you!! Yeah, if a guy cannot support you in what you want to do than he's not the one for you.

    This reminds me, lol....My SO other suggested for me to be a stripper w/o him knowing I wanted/have the intentions of becoming one. I didn't say anything bc I wasn't sure how to tell him either....I know I know, i'm silly for not telling him. But I will be visiting him this wknd at the Sunny state & i'm gonna tell him. Hopefully he'll take it well, but hey....he suggested it to me too.

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