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    I have a story I'd like to share with you. My club that I work at is gnerally slow, and I had promised myself that I would make at least 100.00. Last night, I was talking with a customer, who seemed like a really nice guy, polite. We talked for about an hour, he was all excited, and I could feel the sale building when we finally started talkin about the VIP private dnces .
    Now I know sometimes it's good to give a little to get alot. What I mean with this is that if you are able to cleverly conversate, the person will feel as if they're having a good time, at least. In a situatioon where a guy dumps massive amounts of $$$ on me I would be willing to buy this person a drink in return, or do a complimentary table. I learned that if I do not compromise, I will come out ahead in the long run. I found another gentelman later on, who was very nice to me and treated me with repsect, and I made my goal without compromising myself over a lousy 30$. Also, I felt good for telling him NO.
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    I agree, don't compromise on the price of dances, unless it's a special occassion/customer. There may have been a time or two where all I needed was a few more dollars, but I had no takers, so I'd give them a deal, but in general, bad idea. Yeah, they say that shit to me too about the other girls charging less for dances. I tell them, "Sounds like her problem to me, I'm here to make money, and I'm worth every cent I ask for, if not more."

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    When I was younger and first started dancing I was very niave and emotionally fragile. I can still remember this old dude that was a regular of mine when I first started. He always use ta put me down. I use to charge an extra 20$ to touch (no cookie of course) and he was like "pfft, 40$! I'll give you 40$ to stick it in you" (it was 20$ a dance by the way). I remember every time I use to dance for people I use to think it wasn't worth 20$ for just me dancingfor them....... that is how low he made me feel. Well that was the end of it, all his nasty degrading comments, that was the one that stuck! I stopped giving the fucker dances all together! He is now so polite to me and copliments me all the time. I have gotten better at dancing, my body has gotten better, and I am a hell of a lot classier. I don't allow touching for extra money any longer and I know that I'm worth their money. Dancing has jaded me yes, but for the better since I was such a low self-esteemed person before. Remember, u never have to put up with this shit. You can always walk away and you'll probably feel good about it as well.
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    I would just be like, Ha! I will wipe my ass with that $20. Go get a hooker, if thats what youre looking for.
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    I have a so-called regular who won't buy dances unless there's a 2-4-1 special going on, and never spends more than $20. That's his perogative, and I don't really mind, except he expects me to sit and wait around with him for the special to come on. I have to explain (gently) that I'm actually losing money if I do this, and he gets quite huffy about it. (Funny part is, he's always asking me to be his "girlfriend"; you'd think if a guy was trying to mack a girl, he wouldn't be such a notorious cheapwad.)

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    Your there to make money girl ! Don't give em free dances this is absurd like going to the hairdresser and not paying ! You are providing a service so he has to pay for it anyway who wants to be stucked with those cheap costumers !

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    I had a similar situation not long ago. Our club has $20 bikini table and VIP dances, but is topless on stage. While making my rounds, I stopped at a table with 2 men. I was talking to them and asked the one for a dance and he said that for $20 I should show him my nipples. I explained the law to him and then got up to walk away and said, "I can find someone who will give me the $20 without even dancing OR showing my breasts." Less than 30 seconds later, I had a customer in the VIP dance area who spent $200 on dances, didn't talk dirty, touch or harrass me about the laws I am unable to change.

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    You go girls for sticking to whats right for you!!
    Sometimes there comes a time when we learn the hard way. I did that once or twice or three times..damn I was hard headed.
    Sorry you felt you almost had to compromise yourself there. But, knowing that you found a better resource for money has absolutely had to make you feel sooooooo good!!
    I had a drunk regular who would always come (to a juice bar) on 10 dollar dance night and always ask me to do "more" for his dances. I did once let him lick me uuuggghhh I was sooooo dumb and young!! Finally, I said to myself one day that I dont have to do that and I am definitely worth more than that kind of shit I put myself through. So, I stopped dancing for him for awhile. Bad story but a good ending...he still came to the club to see me and stopped being an alcoholic around me.

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    I agree - compromising yourself is not worth it. Besides, if you do it once, you are more inclined to do it again and again, until it becomes the norm for you.

    I had an a-hole once try to convince me to let him jack off in front of me (under the table)while I did a lap dance, he would give me @200 for 5 songs. Instead of letting him cut a deal with me, I threw it back on him and told him that just for asking me to do that nasty stuff he's giving me $150 for 5 dances. I let him know how much he hurt my feelings by asking me that (wah, wah) and he ended up giving me the $200 for 5. That hasn't always worked for me though; I've been offered $$$ to let a guy kiss my boobs/touch my cookie/suck a nipple/see what lies beneath the thong and sometimes, my indignation routine works in my favor (meaning more money), other times the guy shrugs and sends me on my way. I may not leave him with more money in my garter, but I still have my dignity


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    In this business, compromise only leads to....more compromise. Give them a little they want more. Stick with your guns and you'll always come out on top!

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    you all will love this one. I work regularly at a club in Oklahoma. Most of the time we make decent money. like 250 a night or so. Here latley it has been VERY slow. Last night i left with like 40 bucks. Well, Halloween was VERY slow also. I was not amking any money, nor were any of the other girls, so I decided to go trick or treating for dollars. Most peole generously gave me a few bucks each. I asked one guy, "trick or treat" he asked what I was wanting so I told him a dollar. The he proceeded to ask me what he was going to get for the dollar. It is a DOLLAR!!!!! what do you want for a dollar. I aslo had a guy tip me a dollar on stage. At our club we do the whole put your chest in the mens face when they tip you. Well i did this for this guy and he said, and I quote, "Thats all I get?" OH my god!!!. It is just a dollar. You cant go to Wal-mart and get anything like this for a dollar. Go buy a pack of gum if you want more value for your stupid dollar.

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    I agree that you should never compromise yourself. Once when I was naive and new to dancing, I ended up giving this guy two dances for the price of one (and there are no 2-for-1 specials at my club). Then he had the balls to ask if I'd do a 3rd song for free. I saw that he had another $20 in his wallet, so I said no way. What a cheapass!

    Quote Originally Posted by Sinn
    I Last night, I was talking with a customer, who seemed like a really nice guy, polite. We talked for about an hour, he was all excited, and I could feel the sale building when we finally started talkin about the VIP private dnces .
    Sinn, an hour is way too long to be sitting and talking to a customer without getting paid. 2 or 3 songs tops is plenty of time for them to know whether or not they'd like to get dances from you. Plenty of guys try to waste your time and act like they're going to get dances later and they never follow through. The customer you had sounds like one of those types.

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    yeah, and I knew it too. I can tell, I know these types, tryin to get some free time. I can tell within the first 2 songs if he's likely to go with it, or he's going to be a timewaster. Some will try and change the subject, I watched him do it 3 times. Real slick
    Unfortunately, there was hardly anyone else in the club. plus I had to hit the stage 3 or 4 times, and needed someone to tip me!!
    In the end, who was foolin who? I went into our conversation expecting this to happen, cause Ive seen it before. Not only did he not get what he wanted, he left with his pockets lighter anywayss. Ha ha I love it.
    Last edited by Sinn; 11-04-2004 at 11:43 AM.

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