What age is good with me? Once they're old enough to engage in such activities it's not really me that's going to actually get to make that choice. Hopefully, I'll have taught them enough to make an intelligent decision as to the right time and the right person and for the right reasons by the time they reach that point, but in the end all I can actually do is try to INSTILL WITHIN THEM the knowledge, wisdom, and good sense required to make the decision that's most appropriate for themselves. What I CAN'T do is prevent them from doing something like having sex by telling them "don't," and what I WON'T do is try to prevent them from doing something like having sex by implicitly, much less explicitly telling them there's something wrong with what they're naturally chomping at the bit to do.Originally Posted by BigGreenMnM
And as far as what anyone else, all the way from the Elementary School teacher to the High School Janitor tells them, I could give a good G**Damned less... 'cause if I've done my job as a parent correctly, the lines of communication will still be open and we'll have long since crossed the bridge re nervousness or whatever when it comes to talking to me about things like sex, so I'm not too worried my otherwise intelligent child will be sent off on a tangent by someone else because I'm fairly confident he'll just ask me about whatever they've told him if he has any questions. Furthermore, I'd LIKE for him to hear, consider, analyze, etc., other viewpoints and ideas, 'cause that's a huge part of what he needs to learn to do while he's growing up and, in the end, my views are not necessarily the only way for him to go or what he'll ultimately decide to adopt as his views. I'm trying to raise a child who can think for himself, and feels free to have his own opinions, values, etc., even if contrary to mine - not a clone.



Remember,I have 5 daughters.
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