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    Hey, I've been dancing for a little over two months now and I've been doing pretty well. However, yesterday was the worst day I have ever had at work! Sundays are usually good, but it was dead all day and only one girl had enough to even pay house after 6 or 7 hours!

    My city isn't all that great for money, but my club is the cleanest club in the area and I love working there. Usually I have no problem making decent money. I guess this one was just rough for everyone.

    Anyway, my question is, how do you cheer yourself up after you hve a bad night? I know all of us have had one, whether it was financially or because of rude customers, girls, or management. In this job my attitude about it changes so much depending on what kind of night I have. Today I am all grumpy and I need a little pick me up! Do any of you have some sort of post-crappy-night ritual you'd like to share with us? Thanks!

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    Default Re: How do you make yourself feel better after a bad night?

    I say something to the effect of that there are good nights and bad nights, and as long as teh good nights outweigh the bad nights, then all is well.

    And when there is a long series of bad nights, I remind myself that if I can still pay my bills and have a little extra, then it's not so bad.

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    Default Re: How do you make yourself feel better after a bad night?

    That's true, they always seem to balance out. This week I had my best night ever and my worst night ever, fancy that!

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    I plan a road trip to a new club I've never danced at before! this cheers me up, and the next time I go to work I will always have a decent night (making me question my plans to leave ).


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    why is that?

    when you think about leaving your club because you aren't making money.....then you start making money!

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    Default Re: How do you make yourself feel better after a bad night?

    After a bad night, I go home and make comfort food and watch some love movie (Sweet Home Alabama is my current favorite )or take a bath. If it was a bad night all around, a bunch of girls will go to an all-nite restaurant and trade "tonight sucked" stories. It sounds cliche, but I swear this stuff helps.
    And after enough bad nights, you can get burnout, so try to take breaks--vacations, just sitting around the house for a week, visiting your Mom (always works for me I have a really cool Mom) It will help you look forward to going back to work.
    Sorry you had a bad night

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    When I started dancing I would be devestated after a bad night, but the last few years there've been a couple times where I've found myself driving away from work with less than a hundred bucks smiling and singing. I think what it comes down to is how much you enjoy your job. I feel great when I sell lots of dances, but I also love the music and the dancing and the smiling, even if no one's there to see it.

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    I usually go home and take a LONG hot bath. I have this great aromatherapy candle from Bath & Body Works that I light and the scent helps me unwind. If I'm upset or sad, I'll eat some chocolate and then curl up with my dog and cat. My animals ALWAYS make me smile. But if I'm angry, (this sounds kind of silly but it really does make me feel better) I'll pop in my pilates DVD and do a 20 minute workout. Even though it's close to my bedtime, it makes me feel like I'm somehow working the frustration out of my body. Having a bad night sucks; I hope you feel better
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    When I have a bad night, a butt massage from my boyfriend always makes me feel better. a bit strange..but it always puts a smile on my face.

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    I agree with paris. I love to travel and I think trying new clubs is important. and its really cool to tell a customer, oh I just got back from... I love to travel. it leaves a sense of well roundedness and adds interest to a guy you are typically trying to get to spend mula on you. besides that it allows you a break without losing mula. I drive from nc to ga then to nola and work my way back, I love it!!
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    I usually try to tell myself that I can't do well everynight and that because of the struggling economy many dancers are suffering, not just me. It is hard sometimes, yet the next time I go in to work I try to be even nicer then before to everyone around me, and it really does pay off. It takes alot of strength, but it's the only way to get yourself out of a funk mood sometimes.

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    Default Re: How do you make yourself feel better after a bad night?

    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    why is that?

    when you think about leaving your club because you aren't making money.....then you start making money!
    yes that is so true...

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    Also I don't know if this sounds bad or not, but if I have a bad day or a string of bad days, I allow myself to cry about it without guilt. Sometimes it gets frustrating for me and I usually have the attitude that I'm just complaining and crying would make me weak, etc... but I've found that when I cry and whine and complain it away, then, like the other girls have said, take a long hot bath or treat myself to a nice meal or something, it's kind of like therapy!

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    I'm like Lena--a bad night at work doesn't make me feel bad. It just means it was a slow night. Bad nights are when something bad happens at work, not when the money's bad. When I have to take care of myself is after a really busy night when I'm exhausted, or when I've had an unpleasant experience. Fortunately it's weighted very heavily towards the former.

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    Default Re: How do you make yourself feel better after a bad night?

    A cup of hot tea and a bubble bath.

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    Considering I've had a crappy week and worked 5 days straight, I find getting smashed works occasionally... But otherwise, playing with my animals/being out in the sun/domestic chores/cooking something chocolately.

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    Re: How do you make yourself feel better after a bad night?

    Hi, after any day od dancing, going home to kiss and hug my 3 boys makes any kind of day alllllll worth while!!!

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    Default Re: How do you make yourself feel better after a bad night?

    If I earn shitty money - I do feel a little used esp. if I feel I have actually been productive that night. A bad night also applies to something unpleasant happening as well. After a "bad night" at work... I do go home sulky.

    I will sometimes vent here or over at my yahoo group.. the venting helps.. however.. not to sound too commercial (as I sell the stuff)... I also have a capful or two of my Goji Juice... and it helps as well.

    Generally tho'.. it takes me approx. half a day to "get over" the crappy night I had and approach the new night refreshed.

    I remind myself that each night is new. I could have a fantastic night tonight or the next night I work.... tho' I have to work to be able to have that fantastic night.


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    Soak in warm bath with epsom salts or fragrant oil.
    Listen to relaxing or favorite music.
    Call a friend, or send some e-mails.
    Comfort food, but not overdoing it.
    Hang out with the pets, or watch wildlife.
    In extreme cases, a drink or two....
    Sleeeeep.....................

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    i eat and eat and eat and eat some more.
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    Bad days are just that bad days. I try not to let myself slip into my bad day even while I am at work. I consistantly tell myself it will get better and if it by chance it doesn't, I go home reminding myself I did the best I could and not everday will be a big $$$ day. Take a hot shower, treat myself to something yummy and knit! Knitting is my current form of therapy...
    I comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable.

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    I go on stripperweb and smoke a joint
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    smoke a bowl
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    I do something to pamper myself. It can be anything from just painting my nails to taking a bubble bath. Also sometimes, if it is starting to get to me, my hubby will give me a full body massage. That always makes me feel better!!

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    I think that the best way to try and make yourself feel better after a bad night is to just not take it personally. Yeah, easier said than done, but the quicker you say "Hell, it was just one night" the better you will feel. If you allow yourself to sulk then the next night may be just as bad because you will project a bad attitude even if you dont think you look like you are.

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