I'm told too often by customers that I'm "Too intelligent/smart/etc" to be a dancer.
All snide, or sweet remarks in return that I could make to the customers aside, I honestly believe that my intelligence is hindering my money.
My girl friends (co-workers) at the club are always telling me to "dumb it down!"
I understand businessmen and egos - I KNOW to never try to outsmart the customer, or use words too large for their vocabulary, and in practice I have gotten better at feeling the guys out before showing TOO much of my brains.
I know that men don't attend a club for brains, they are there for boobs. But I make most of my money being MYSELF - talented in many ways, intelligent, and naturally pretty, with a bit of a wild side. Putting on a pretend person and becoming someone else is NOT an option for me. On the other hand, I don't mind temporarily editing myself to suit a particular customer or situation, so long as it falls within the realm of ME and who I really am.
My biggest problem is this - most men, whether spending a lot or a little money on me at the club, see me as WIFE/dating material. They see that "lady in public, whore in the bedroom" mentality in me. They think "WOW! An intelligent, beautiful girl who is a dancer and in college now.. I can take her away and make her my girlfriend/wife/mistress, and she will quit dancing and have her career/have me take care of her".
I don't mind this all too much - at least it falls outside of the typical male fantasy in taking a dancer home to fuck, or that all dancers walk around in trashy lingere and get kinky with their boyfriends (ok.. we do SOMETIMES, but that's another story!).
This doesn't happen every day, and it's a nice compliment. Sometimes this is from fellows I would actually date, and other times it's from guys that I am thinking "ewww, gross! or "you're MARRIED!".
Aside from those nice moments, oftentimes I find that guys like to keep me around a table for a long time. They like me to sit and drink with them. They like my conversation. This especially happens most often with the uber-business men, or the traveling out of town-ers. Or the "famous" people, as they are amazed that I treat them like a regular human being. Then suddenly I become one of the guys. I'm in on all their jokes. I have all their business cards. They talk to me like a normal human being. Meanwhile, all these other girls are at the table getting dances from the guys, and I have no money.
I've asked to be paid for my time, but the guys look at me like I'm nuts. It's like they have written me off their list for sexual entertainment.
I often get the following comments from these tables:
"You're too nice"
"You're too intelligent"
"You're so sweet and/or naieve"
"I feel like I know you too well"
"I'd love to hang out with you outside the club, you seem like a girl who has her shit together, but I don't feel comfortable spending money on you in here" (this isn't because they are cheap - mind you them/their table is spending big bucks on other girls at this very moment).
The main reason I stay at these tables longer than the 1-3 dances is because that's what the other girls are doing, and it's the "norm" for our VIP tables to talk for a while.. if they like you, sticking around to chat is a shoe-in to make a few hundred dollars at a table.
OK.
I need some serious help/input here...
Please keep in mind the following:
* IN our club on busy or slow nights the VIP area is more of a chat for a while (I'd say 15-20 minutes), dance, drink, chat, shots, dances, more talk, more girls, chatting, dancing..etc. About 1-2 1/2 hours in a booth = $100-300, depending on the customer(s), # of girls at the booth, etc.
* We do not make any money off drinks, do not have private booths or other areas for more private dances.
* Lapdances cost $20 each. Asking for or suggesting tips is not allowed. We CAN, however, ask to be paid for our time.
* Our club/state technically has a "no touching anywhere" policy as far as customer-dancer, and obviously no sexual touching, but we do contact dancing anyways.
* We are a topless club, not fully nude.
Thank you for all the help!
-L.



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