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    Arrrrgggghhhhhhhhhh
    !!!!!!!
    I just really need to tell someone who understands...I can't talk to my non-dancer friends because they wouldn't get it fully.
    Every time I walk into work, it's like, I feel negative energy just being shot into my body...And when I leave that energy is still with me & sometimes I can't sleep right..I'm having really messed up nightmares when I never even remembered my dreams before working there. It's not the customers, it's my coworkers. I stay out of everyones way, even so far as getting there very early so I'm not in the dressing room while they are.
    I've been there a month, you think it would have gotten better. I hang with one dancer, and shes a good egg, not ever competitive because she has a rich husband, but when shes not there..It's hostile.
    The staff/manager of course is friendly, and I tip them very well, we hang out outside work too(Again, I don't ever talk shit because I know it will get back around)...One girl even told a support staff person to "Stay away from her, she's trouble"...WTF? And SHES the drug addict, not me.
    Regulars tell me crap they say & it has backfired because they now know the real me, and choose to spend on me now(Discretely)..this is good but only fueled the fire.
    I hear you all talk about how you get along with your coworkers & I'm jealous!
    Ok thank you for reading I needed to get that out of my mind.

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    oh jesus.. i felt the same way my first night at dollhouse..

    and it just got worse..

    but there are some nice girls there, you just have to wait around.. Um, they have clicks.. like highschool.

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    i thought all clubs sucked, and it was MENT to be a chore to go to work?!

    i find very few clubs where it feels like home.when i do, its like gold

    just ignore them all to your best, think of it as, your there to make money not friends kinda attitude, sounds like it horrible situation to be in tho.

    can you just change clubs? the girls there must be REALLY territorial ( sp?!) maybe they havent had a new girl round for awhile?

    hang in there

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    I feel your pain. The last 4 months have been like that for my roomie and I at our club. Due to this, we threw in the towel on Monday night and switched clubs. Now, so far, we are making more money and having more fun. We're in a good mood when we get home and have been sleeping better!! I had been at my club for about a year and a half, so I know I was not the source of the drama, but there were 2 gals (they have been there no more than 6 months) who were directing some sort of animosity towards my best friend and I. Management was working on handling it, but I didn't want to wait for these gals to fuck up enough to get themselves fired, then have someone try to blame us. We left with our dignity in tact and are happy with the move. We also left on good terms (management said we can come back when we're ready) and the gals (only 2 of them) who were causing us the drama don't realize how many peeps at our club liked us and are upset at our evacuation. Three or four years ago, I would have let it slide off my back, but I'm too old to be dealing with this high school type shit. Oh, and they did have their attempt to get us in trouble with management thwarted due to the fact that they blatantly lied. [EDIT] I forgot to add: One of my managers told me and I agreed that the club used to be the least drama clubs that we have either worked at EVER, and that's why we loved it so much, but that the last 4 months have been more bullshit drama than either one of us has seen at any club.

    Don't let others get you down. If it gets too bad, just move clubs. Hold your head high and give everyone the big "Fuck Off!" You'll end up being happier.
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    Girls suck. At work I pretend to be friends with the girls. In reality, all my true friends- are guys.

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    Ah..I really don't want to switch clubs...It's one of the non extra clubs..
    The management does not screw around with people who break rules either, which I like. They actually fired the top night girl who had been there a long time & put her on 6 month suspension for bringing in an underage friend.
    I'm really scared they are going to plant some illegal stuff in my bag/locker, thinking of asking management if I can keep it in their office.
    Oh and last week one made it a point to ask me before I left, "How did you do, what did you make, we're those guys spending?" ..Umm...How dumb do they think I am?? If I want to share a guy, they are the last ones I'd do it with!
    You're right about the cliques too, there is one queen bee, and like 2 little lackeys.
    They drink too, you think that would make them a little nicer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EvilPixyDust
    You're right about the cliques too, there is one queen bee, and like 2 little lackeys.
    They drink too, you think that would make them a little nicer.

    ahh sounds just like the movie mean girls...lol... drinking doesn't make ME nicer - that's for sure!


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    Hopefully it gets better!


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    They're just jealous because you're probably one of the more popular ladies. Jillian is right it does sound like that movie "Mean Girls." Don't worry, they'll get what they deserve soon enough.

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    Dont tell them if you have a good night cuz they'll set you up to get robbed. Duh.

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    Ignore them - you're there to make money, not freinds, and that goes for management too.

    I do a little ritual when I pick up bad energy. There's a tree outside my house (well, there's lots of them, but there's one special one) and I sit with the tree until I can go into my house with no outside bad energy.

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    take care that you are not consciously or unconsciously attracting that bad energy to you. Take a moment to clear your mind and aura befor you go in, and be positive and radiate good energy. Simply do not accept their bad vibes. Your good energy will start to turn theirs away. I can tell that you loath to go in and get anxious and depressed-well, guess what kind of energy that will attract! Remember, no one can make you feel bad without you letting them.

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    I remember those days. The first club I danced at I left crying because the girls were so mean. They are VERY clicky. I then went to the club Im at now and didnt do great either... no one liked me, I never understood why. But when I left for a while and came back everyone (including the girls who I thought hated me) are really nice.

    When I came back from being gone for a couple years I worked a Monday night. I happened to sit with a guy who sat in VIP with me and spent about $500 (really good for this club on ANY night) I came back a couple days later. Im sitting in the back smoking and a dancer looks straight at me and says " I heard a new girl was here on Monday night having sex with a customer in VIP", implying it was me. First of all, our "VIP room" is 6 small booths behind a sheer curtain with bouncers checking in every minute. This is a VERY LOW contact club. I just ignored her.. the funniest part was a few minutes later one of her friends came out who remembered me from before and started chatting, saying she remembered me, a few other girls chimed in too. I looked at the sh*t starting b*tch and she wouldnt even look at me. I know she felt like a freaking idiot... haha... I just wanted to laugh at her...

    What I do with the girls is pretend to be great friends. I chat with them, listen to the gossip and stuff. But i never ever ever repeat anything I hear. I have yet to have a problem at this club and I doubt I ever will. I dont get along with everyone but the girls Im not friendly with I just ignore... it works great. You make your money girl.. remember... everyones out for themselves in this business. Some girls need to talk down to others to make themselves feel better. Its not YOUR fault that theyre insecure and mad about YOUR self confidence.
    ~Audrey

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    Thank god I'm so into myself and making money that I am totally oblivious to the other girls.

    In Hustler San Fran, this one girl tried to pick on me every chance she got and I was only there a few days. I just pretended she didn't exist, did not acknowledge her. I also do not trust girls who are sickly sweet and overly friendly. I think they are trying to snow me.

    You're doing the right thing, just don't talk to anyone and keep your eyes and ears open to potential risks the other girls might be putting you into.

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    Don't worry I got yelled at , talked behind my back and stuff just ignore them they are doing that because they are jealous and they see that you are better than them by not getting into drugs ! But thanks god I made a friend where I worked and we just hanged out together ! If she wasn't there I would just do my own thing and pretend to like everybody and didn't got involved in their shit !

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    sometimes I envy men!they seem to all get along as if I were a code or something!

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    I worked at doll house for 3 years and never had a problem. I f you do your job and not talk to any of the girls there shouldnt be a problem. Then there is nothing negative anyone can say about you if they dont know you and if your busy all night then you shouldnt notice what others say. Girls are always jealous about the other big money makers and that why alot of girls a dh arent big money makers because they sit together and gosip. Just do your job and dont hang out with the employees.

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    Ok two codancers who previously just ignored me, actually said something to me today, and we laughed because I said I almost had a heart attack hearing them speak LoL I don't know what changed, maybe because I'm not the newest girl there anymore & the one who is is being very annoying lol
    We ended up going out after work & they're very down to earth..go figure.

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    Yup, just like junior high. At my first club I felt like I was surrounded by children. (Well, some of them *were* teenagers -- others were just dumb.) Other dancers gave me a nasty vibe -- much, much worse than most customers. Being around them was the thing I hated most about working there. A few of them lied to management about me after I started making money. I was terrified, and thought I'd lose my job, but the managers knew I was a clean dancer, and made a lot of money for them, so nothing happened.
    I think that's the main thing to remember -- people like this can suck your energy and make you miserable if you're not careful. But if you protect yourself mentally and emotionally, they have no real power over your life. I think Scorpio's advice is spot on. I know it sounds retarded, a bit, but pretend you have a force field.

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    Quote Originally Posted by michele1
    I worked at doll house for 3 years and never had a problem. I f you do your job and not talk to any of the girls there shouldnt be a problem. Then there is nothing negative anyone can say about you if they dont know you and if your busy all night then you shouldnt notice what others say. Girls are always jealous about the other big money makers and that why alot of girls a dh arent big money makers because they sit together and gosip. Just do your job and dont hang out with the employees.
    mich is right. And once you start hanging with co workers at work, your money drops significantly (or at least mine does)
    Work for me is just that...work, i try my best not to socialize with anyone but the one's paying me!

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    Exactly tampa. Dont hang out with these people. Thats why you have drama.

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