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    Okay- When I started at my club the Dj stereotypically hit on me like crazy & give me the "Oh you're so different from everyone bla bla" lines. I took it in stride with a grain of salt.
    However, he was funny so I figured what the hell? And we hung out after work, but I kept myself under control LoL
    Problem- I don't know if he does this on purpose or what just to fuck with my head...but he plays a song during my set that has his EX girlfriend's name in it(And it's not a typical name either).
    I didn't realize it bothered me until just recently.
    It's a bit creepy, because he's talked about her with such venom, and it was all drama apparently (She was a dancer too BTW)...It *shouldn't* bother me if I have no feelings beyond wanted a fling, right? Ugh..My Scorpioness makes me want to know how I compare to this chick...And I hate being treated like I'm stupid & wouldnt find out he's taking poetic license on a few things he's said. My "guydar" is so wack, I only have sexual chemistry with jerks.

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    Default Re: Guy f'ing with my head...

    Do you guys really talk about their exes a lot? Hmmm, Anyways.

    It sounds like you're starting to like this guy, but I don't see why his ex is being brought up. Or why he is playing a song with her name in it? IS he not over her yet? If that's it, That's a huge red flag. But I wouldn't waste my time trying to compare myself to his ex.....For all you know, she could be a midget with a hump.

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    i dont know....maybe youre reading into things a little too much or maybe the guy is just a little crazy....

    But if oyu like him go out with him...if you dont then ignore him.

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    Maybe you have the XGF's look, and he's hoping you're just the GOOD part of her. Talk to him about it. Then again, maybe you'll find out he's not a jerk, and it will kill the sexual chemistry for you.

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    he's a strip club dj so right away we know he's at least a LITTLE nuts....I think talking to him is in order

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    Why all the drama with people at your club?



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    ohhh... i wouldnt date anyone who works at my club.. if it doesnt work out even more drama... you say its only a fling.. why bother at all and risk not working there when he turns on you?

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    Hey girl, I just got out of a similar situation, DJ telling me everything wonderful, strung me along for close to 2 months, never gave me anything solid, but always kept the door open and the lies just flowed out of his mouth.

    He kept me on the fence, and whenever I'd start to back off because he wasn't backing it up, he'd call, want to see me, start flirting heavily, talking shit. Blah blah blah. That's all it is, just a bunch of bullshit. In my situation anyway. And I actually thought he was different. I thought I could respect him.

    Thankfully I never fucked him, cuz I'd be feeling REALLY shitty right now, but everything came crashing down on him last night at work. He's been playing several girls at once, and as for the ones I know of, we all work together. Now, thankfully, we decided to be sisters about it and ganged up on the mofo, but still, it sucks. And I walked out of that club last night not wanting to go back.

    Before I was freed from the uncertainty, I agonized at work over the situation and could not do my job. He was a distraction, and the whole ordeal caused more problems than it was worth. I won't say run, but I will say, proceed with great caution. If you think it will interefere with your job, then back off.

    I know that occasionally, relationships in this industry work out, but I think they bust more often than not, and the resulting drama isn't worth it.

    So Blade, Katherine, that's where that stands now, thanks for listening you guys.

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    Amber,
    Ahh Thats exactly whats happening to me...I show interest back & suddenly the guy acts like I don't exist.
    My friend said I have a codependency trait of wanting to "fix" people's problems, thinking that will make me indispensible to them. All my crushes have been
    coming out of a relationship or have a sad story to tell.

    More BS related to DJ situation:
    1) Another dancer I hung with this weekend told me he almost got his ass kicked by her boyfriend because she & bf went to another club he works at, and he grabbed her & frenched her right infront of bf. LoL
    2) Then he was bitching to me that his ex bought her new bf a car. Not bitching because of the fact she is 13 years younger than the new bf & shes supporting him....But mad because she didn't get it for him.
    3) He'll tell me "Oh, X tipped me this much".... Which may be true, but I think it's tacky to say that. They tip more because they have been there forever & have regulars & it's fucked up to try and play us against each other.
    4) Me and the manager were talking, and I told him "Yea he said $20 is the min. tipout", the manager(who used to DJ) laughed "Don't fall for that shit, he knows not everyone makes $200 shift".

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    Damn, I've never worked with a DJ who was even remotely attractive enough for me to hang out with.

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    He sounds like a real winner

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    K, now I'll say run.

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    What AZ said.

    Re: the codependent "fix him" trait - that's common. For both males and females. Females commonly want a "project" so they can show what they can do with a man that has "potential".

    Men want to ride on their white horseys and say "See how I saved her life from the big mean dragon?"

    If you recognize this pattern, you're halfway there. Step 1 - dump the dude. Step 2 - look for these signs in men in the future...and avoid them...because you know where it's going to end. A loooong hard battle that will more than likely not pan out for you.
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    Now I know why books like He's Just Not That Into You sell so well.
    Idealism is fine, but as it approaches reality, the costs become prohibitive.

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    Ahh Thats exactly whats happening to me...I show interest back & suddenly the guy acts like I don't exist.
    Well, it wasn't quite like that, if he were acting like I hadn't existed, it wouldn't have been an issue. Any guy acts like you don't exist, know that to him, you don't.

    But the bottom line is ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS AND NO MATTER WHAT A GUY SAYS, IF HE'S NOT BACKING IT UP, IT AIN'T THERE!

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    Quote Originally Posted by SportsWriter2
    Maybe you have the XGF's look, and he's hoping you're just the GOOD part of her.
    Bingo!

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    Your best bet is to remain on good terms with this guy.... stay friends..... don't burn any bridges because dj's can mess with you soooooooooooo bad!!!! But completely back away from this guy on any other level. Quit hanging out outside of the club, and go back to a strickly professional relationship. You will be saving yourself alot of drama and embarassment in the end.

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    Ahhh I know I know...CasualObserver- My dad bought me that book recently LoL...It's a great read, but easier read than done!

    Bambi- I will, I know they can effect the flow & he can just as easily tip off other girls to the guy who pulled up in a Porsche instead of me...
    But you guys, I know he's not commitment material...I'm just a little hurt I got rejected for a NSA hook up after all that flirting. It sucks that it's my job to seduce & I can't pull it off in my personal life. Egos hurtin', and its not the first time either. I should just keep my mouth shut all the time & never have an opinion lol

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    Wow, I went through almost the exact same thing as azamber except I did fuck one of my co-workers! And now I really regret it. EvilPixyDust-be glad that you didn't hook up with this DJ or it would be ten times worse. I always thought that I could just screw this guy with no strings attached and everything would be the same, but I ended up really liking this guy and I got really upset when I found out that he was trying to hook up with other girls too. Plus I found myself looking around the club more to see what dancers he was talking to instead of focusing on the customers 100% like I had been doing before. And I'm not usually the jealous type either.

    About 95% of the time when a dancer hooks up with a DJ, bouncer, or manager, it only causes problems. If you think you can screw one of your co-workers or go out with him without getting too emotionally involved, then go for it, but there are many guys who work in this business who will lie to you just so they can hook up with as many girls as they can. The DJs, bouncers, etc. who post on this board are not like that, but there are many who are.

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