She's a dancer? did I miss somethingOriginally Posted by stant
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She's a dancer? did I miss somethingOriginally Posted by stant
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It sounds to me like he saw a hot chick, she danced on stage, probably got a LD from her, exchanged cards and words. He is lusting for it. To her he is just another customer to him she is HOTTTTT and he wants more.
you say you are all right with him going to an sc. Well this is what goes on. . The hustle. If you don't want him in an sc with beautiful naked women stripping and getting lap dances then tell him your feelings on this. Be sure to tell him graphically what it is you do or do not like. Guys play this game that if it is not mentioned strongly then it is ok when they know the game all to well. I'm sure he wold not want you out lusting for a guy and getting or giving extras.
Tell him now, talk about it as it happens. Don't even mention the email thing just discuss your boundaires. You are suspicsious (SP) now so you have to do your research on this. Go to the club. Not with a bunch of silly girls but with a friend who will watch with you.
The operative word is talk do not argue. Do not let him get upset with you for feeling jealous if that is how you feel. You are allowed to have what ever feelings you want.
Talk to him.
Too many woman say they don't mind their so's going to clubs when they are not aware of what really goes on.
Find out what goes on in the club he went to. Go yourself. Get a lap dance and find out if you will get extras in the club. rules on extras vary from dancer to dancer to customer. Even when no touching is allowed to certain customers touching is allowed.
Please try to have an open mind and don't get mad. This is something you two really need to talk about. If you don't talk about it he could be on his way to being in clubs all the time and it sounds as if you really don't want to be with a guy who hangs in sc. Which is reasonable.
Strippers have their own life and so do you. If you really don't mind him going and getting lap dances just forget about it. He will get a lap dance you can count on that.
YES - she is a dancer!
Originally Posted by lola8888
I see why you're upset........But it's still a lie, Punish him for that. (withdrawls will bring him back towards the sunlight).....
--Georg Christoph Litchenberg





Guy, lola is not a dancer.
Thanks everyone - I really needed to hear a variety of objective responses.
My revenge? I'm moving on and out. I don't tolerate lies - especially when I've got such an open mind. I've always been the first one to say "I'll do ANYTHING with you - but don;t lie/do things behind my back."
Fuck him - anyway, I'm much better looking and my ass is very sweet.
LOL, Interestingly put!Originally Posted by lola8888
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--Georg Christoph Litchenberg





yeah. you go girl! that's the attitude!
what guy doesn't give there phone number to a stripper, especially the young ones. put it this way, say you go to the concert of your favorite band for the first time, you see them in person, you'd be thinking about that for quite a while. get my drift? he just met his fantasy in person.
the slutty one
that's what I thought... thx for the clarificationOriginally Posted by LoveSexMoney
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Originally Posted by lola8888
.....nice





An ass is an ass is an ass...





I'm with slutty on this one. Most dancers don't give a crap about their customers outside of work. My SO goes to SCs and gets LDs (lol, I got the abbr. goin' all over!!) but it isn't cheating and I certainly wouldn't leave him for liking a dancer that he paid for. I'd rather he enjoy himself instead of wasting his money.Originally Posted by slutty
Because there ain't no tits on the radio
Dont trust him any farther than you can spit.
What is it with guys anyway? some are just plain foolish. I'm gorgeous too and at the moment am struggling with the same situation and if it does not stop I will be moving out.Originally Posted by lola8888
When you have it at home, a hotttttt chick with open sexual prowness why do men want something more?
Well, looks like this one is all done with, but for the record from the first post I think what your guy did (or would have done, or intended to do...) is wrong. Giving his card was wrong. Deciding to go back and see her was wrong. Lying to you was wrong.
That's the probem with being a hot girl- you attract guys that are suckers for hot girls! [/deep thought]
Feature costumes for sale!
I believe it was Chris Rock that said, "no matter how hot the chick, there's some guy out there that is sick of having sex with her".Originally Posted by janazoo
what do you think? even Halley Barrey's husband cheated on her..... some guys (and girls) just take advantage of the beauty around them... pitiful





That's also the problem with not being a hot girl - you attract guys that are suckers for hot girls.Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver
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That's actually an observable phenomenon among many animal species (including ours) - that desire is inversely related to familiarity. Frequency of copulation diminishes over time with the same partner.I believe it was Chris Rock that said, "no matter how hot the chick, there's some guy out there that is sick of having sex with her".
It's also the economy of the egg vs. the economy of the sperm. That is invest carefully vs. invest broadly. Sad to say, but there's a significant genetic component to many of our common day to day male-female miseries. It's also, to some degree (or maybe completely), explains the existence of strip clubs. Our inner moths are always drawn to those oh so enticing, bu dangerous, flames.![]()
You may want to just marry him, then spend a decade or so crushing his will to survive before you re-release him into the wild, though.![]()
"He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"
Can we say Lorena Bobbitt? Just kidding.![]()
--Georg Christoph Litchenberg




You are silly to draw the conclusion he is cheating from this e mail . Why are you reading his private emails?
Aut Pax Aut Bellum
Either Peace Or War




You are silly to draw the conclusion he is cheating from this e mail . Why are you reading his private emails?
Aut Pax Aut Bellum
Either Peace Or War
I think she had her mind made up on what she was going to do before she even posted. I think it's for the best because if there is no trust then there is no need to keep playing games. That's just my opinion though.





The thing is, no matter how hot you are and how much sex you give him, a man will always want to check out other women. Some will be ok with some lapdances or banine flirting, some will want more.Originally Posted by lola8888
The fact that he gave the girl his card and then lied about it (esp a 38yo who should know better) says to me he is not to be trusted and GOOD FOR YOU for dumping his ass!
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