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    I had my first night ever at a lap dance club last night and I am extremely discouraged. I embarassed myself a few times (maybe even more than a few)and barely made any money, stemming from the fact that I was learning my way around the club and I was afraid of lap dancing. I did manage to sell two to a customer I already knew from another club and make my drink quota thank god. I felt silly and awkward while doing the dances though. I felt like I was just doing the same thing over and over and getting bored. How long does it take for this awkwardness to go away? I need money dammit!

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    Sorry to hear you had a bad first night. Why do you say you embarassed yourself? You sound like you were just nervous and got a little tensed up. I think its all in your head. You need to go in there with confidence and believe you are HOT!!! and act like it. Remember that when you are there you can turn into another person and leave your regular persona at home. Good Luck!!!!!

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    it goes away...its like any new job, or place, or school, whatever, at first your gonna look like a jackass (not that you did) but then when u know what you're doing and its cake. i try not to take the first few days somewhere new too serious and not worry those few days too much about the money, just getting comfy in the new place. then i buckle down and start really working. hang in there it will get better.
    do you drink? i don't advice getting hammered but for me a drink or two takes the edge off and i dance much better.
    Oh, I musta took a wrong turn at Albuquerque.


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    I did a few things that made me look a little silly...namely, the club is huge, and when I came in, I couldn't remember where the dressing room was, finally a bouncer asked if he could help me and I was like yeah it's my first day and I forgot where the dressing room is. Turns out I was standing right in front of the door. Then later on, they do this showcase thing on stage in front of all the customers, and I had no idea what to do....instead of taking my place at the front of the line I tried to go to the back and everyone was like no no!! The front!! Also I dont' think my dancing was totally up to par because I was getting used to a stage that's set up way differently than others I've danced on.

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    look on the bright side, it coulda been worse right? like once on my first day at a new club i was wearing for the first time some super high shoes, i stepped down off a low stage and missed the second step and went sprawling ungracefully on my ass. geez talk about looking like a jackass.
    or you coulda been on stage dancing away having the time of your life, only to get in the dressing room and see your tampon string hangin out in front of god and everybody...
    thankfully this has never happened to me-word of advice, cut the string so it doesnt happen to you either, lol.

    you are gonna kick ass once you get comfy there, don't worry!
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    Well, when I first started, I was doing a lap dance, and when I was done, I tripped over my own feet and fell over.

    The things that you remember forever, most everyone else forgets in like 3.5 seconds.

    Don't worry about last time...focus on next time. You're gonna be hot, rocking, and make tons of money!!

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    Hey,

    You seem to feel like it was a total disaster so it can only get BETTER !! I find that at times I do combinations of the same moves over and over, it's ok. My first VIP room i was feeling the same way and when the hour was up he got another...I was shocked - Even if you get bored they may not be. Eye contact with a customer helps, smile, pretend he is someone who you are attracted to. Smile, it always seems to release tension, it's hard to feel bad when you are smiling...I agree with being a different character in the club. How you feel inside will emanate from you so when you hit the floor know that you are smart, sexy and hot beyond belief!
    "Whether YOU think you can or YOU think you can't you're right!" -Henry Ford

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    Starfire, keep your head up and keep smiling. Customers like that. It helps if you start with a "Hello my name is..., how is your night going?" If we think your attractive and have the personality to match, we won't hesistate in buying dances, sometimes multiples of dances.

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    One girl I saw on her first night,was dancing at the rail,holding the handrail above,and whacked some dude right upside his head with them big ol' shoes.Oh well,shes been there a while now and shes fine. Remember that if you screw up,dont get upset,just laugh about it !! Might as well,cause its a done deal,and guys like that,we feel bad for a girl if shes embaresed,and when she can just laugh about it,you're just bein real and human,and will gain points for it!
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    You will be fine. I have a hard time going stright into work and be all like "hey baby you want a lapdance.'' I have a decompression period (like in scuba diving) when i first come in I never give a lap until i have went onstage for the first time. Dont worry it will come.
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    it's like bringing a new cat home to meet the old cat, the old protects it's territory and may be a little jealous at first , and the new may be a little frightened but eventually they start to get along and adjusted to there new enviroment
    the slutty one

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    Have you had a dance from another dancer yet? I dont know if they do that there but itll give you and idea of what to do. Besides, some guys like "breaking" you in b/c youre new to the lap dance part. Dont worry about being on stage...like being in a sport itll take time to perfect your sequence of moves. In a dance just look into his eyes and pretend your someone else (if that helps) and focus on him. Dont let things distract you..its his money (if hes a nice guy) then he deserves your full attention.
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    alright, I just worked my 6th night at the new club, and things have definitely gotten better since I started this thread, last night I made the most money I've ever made dancing in a night. (but that's because I switched from a stage dancing to a lap dancing club, and what I made is still small change compared to what some of the other girls make) I'm pretty over my fear of giving dances, now I'm just having trouble selling the damn things.

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    I am glad to hear you are doing better. Keep your head up you are beatuful. You will do fine. My first month was relly hard but i stuck with it and i am glad i did.

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    I'm a new dancer too (been dancing about six weeks) and I was terrified for my first lap dance. The best thing that happened to get me over it was having a good friend come and work my third shift with me; we did a two-on-one lap dance at a discounted price, and told the guy that I was learning. He was so happy to have two beautiful girls paying attention to him, and had enough of a sense of humor to enjoy the fact that my friend was actively coaching me through the whole thing. I basically just mirrored what she was doing, we had a good time, and now I'm a lot more comfortable. I have to remind myself, just as I do onstage, that even though it may be the 100th time I've done a particular move that night, it isn't the 100th time the customer has seen it. My club was underbooked last night, there were only two of us dancing, and even still there were guys who stayed for upwards of six hours and watched us do the same thing onstage over and over again, and kept tipping just fine. The lesson I learned is that, for most guys anyway, looking at beautiful naked women never gets old.

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    Good to here your doing better hun...Keep the money flowin!!!
    you live like an ivy vine
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    that's your flaw
    put down some roots so you can stand on your own
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    Hey y'all... so glad to see this post.. I just finished my second night at a new club, going from peep-show to stage and lap dancing... it's been a bit discouraging to walk out with less than I make as a substitute teacher, but a part of me knows I just need to give myself time to get used to it.... the other part of me (that sometimes forgets such important things!) was really glad to read all of your warm words!

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