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    Thumbs down job dissatisfaction or what?? :P

    I took 10 days off of work [of course it was mostly spent transversing the east coast, but that's beside the point]. My order for new shoes comes in on Monday, I worked tonight [er, technically last, Wednesday night]. I really didn't want to go in. I want to blame it on my club, but I've also noticed I'm just not trying anymore. When I first started it was dead and slow a lot, and I was still making money and tried. I know the top earners for last night made about $100 and I made about $70, really just a difference or a customer or two, but I was just not trying that hard. I approached like 8 out of the 10-12 customers that came in, the first guy I approached bought 2 dances, altogether I got 5 yesses [free dance ticket night] and only 3 no's, but I still wasn't happy or motivated to work. I was talking to my mom seriously about just quitting and working a Olive Garden or something. I'm only in this city for another two weeks, though. In January I'm going to be back in Baltimore, if I'm still whining about working somewhere where on dayshift I can make $300 and only work 7 instead of 9 hours and nobody harasses me about doing my homework instead of talking to customers for free . . . I don't know, maybe I'm not as cut out for this as I thought? I've been at it for 10 months, and there are times I really really like it. I love the stage, I love lapdances, not terribly fond hustling but doesn't really bother me either. I love the stares from other diner patrons at 3am because I haven't had time to scrub off my makeup and tipping the servers THERE well.
    The customers haven't even been that bad either, like sometimes I'll get depressed when I've had crappy earnings and impolite customers, but most have been great [a couple of dork-butts tonight, but not overwhelming, just smile and walk away types]. Just feeling weird.

    Also scraped my leg with my heel, is about 5 inches long. only a bled a bit, stings only a little but honestly looks awful, hate having the 'best feature' marred like that.
    Bah, any encouragement, sympathies, similar experiences, anyone?
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    I'm sorry honey dancing isn't going well for you. I got home from work tonight disappointed too- 3 of my last 4 shifts have been the lowest I've had since I've started. I was saying if it doesn't pick up I want to change something- clubs or whatever since I'm not building a resume or whatever. I think it's the week after Thanksgiving sucks.
    I actually used to waitressed at Olive Garden a couple years ago- I was always refilling those salads and breadsticks. Have you waitressed before? How much you make waitressing depends on how many tables you can handle at once- I could only do 3 at once so I didn't make as much as others. I really hope things pick up for you Luna!
    Sorry you scraped your leg, I have a couple bruises on mine and I'm a bit sore. Hopefully you can go to the Baltimore club where you make more- it's something to look forward to.
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    Nope, never waitressed, was a cashier for a year and that was my only real-world job. I don't think I could get used to not working for tips again. Ha, two weeks ago I was volunteer doula at my mom's birthcenter and the grandfather tipped everyone $20-$50, depending on how much the grandmother approved of them. Too amusing.
    I'm just hoping that once I get done with finals, done with working here, enjoy the holidays and then work somewhere well-paying I'll be a happy camper again.
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    Default Re: job dissatisfaction or what?? :P

    you should come down to nyc

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    Where do you work in NYC? One of those places I'm curious about but not sure - don't think I'm that hot or anything, plus the stage fees + cost to stay in NYC seem prohibitive.
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    Default Re: job dissatisfaction or what?? :P

    Situation dis-satisfaction mixed with a bit of club dis-satisfaction.

    You are going to be leaving the club soon and, in your own mind, to "greener pastures" therefore you are being lack lustre at your current club. I've been there... done that.. looking forward to doing something or going somewhere better... and therefore being a little lack lustre at my current club coz "what's the point? I'm not coming back".

    What I find that helps me during these times when I'm feeling dis-appointed with the club, my earning and/or any part of my current situation.... I take a step back and review my plans. I have a look at what I have accomplished and what I want to accomplish.. I make each little plan in my bigger plan reachable.

    Actually, I do not know what to say to be honest ... all I can say is that I can empathise.

    Sometimes reviewing my plans/goals/dreams doesn't get me out of my rut. Sometimes a complete change has worked for me... by this I mean going to a completely different town/city to work for a short period (usually 2 weeks)... allows me time away from my home club (which I can become endlessing frustrated with due to an incompentant manager-ess)... sometimes a little "time out" from my life (if I'm frustrated with the fact that after taxes and the "rent" I pay the club I might not have much left)... regardless.. I always end up finding a way to get out of my rutt.

    We are here for support. Just that.. well.. realise that you might suffering from a little burn out brought about by really sucky nights at your club.

    On the other hand, you could always get a crappy day job... or even just volunteer or something. You might need to just do something once or twice a week that has NOTHING to do with stripping... so you can gain some balance back... maybe?


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    Luna,
    It seems as if your situation has gotten even more grim. If you would make more money working at someplace like "The Olive Garden" then you are no, you definitely should leave for greener pastures. Hell, I spent a little over $150 on my previous trip to Stilettos and most of that went to two dancers I am friendly with. That's one of my more inexpensive forays. I'm sure you'll probably do much better if you dance in Baltimore, Nanuet, or the GGR. A dancer as hot as you, should be definitely be getting paid.

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    sweetie, if the top earners are making 100 bucks(and you are sure of this) It is NOT YOU, ITS THE CLUB... and its time to move on to a different club.

    I know how far another club is for you right now, but as soon as you move and try a series of clubs you will do better.

    Right now you are in a slump. If olive garden is the answer, then try that until you move.

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    Haha cotton candy. I was a certified trainer at OG myself. I had waitressed there for two years, become a certified trainer for the servers, then a bartender and wine ambassador. I really knew how to move up those OG ranks... LMAO!

    Anyway, you should always be breaking at least one humdred bucks. If not, it's time to move on.

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    I've been in the same situation as you Luna. Tampa is right, it is your club. I was in the same slump 2 years ago and I wasn't making much money at my club. My friend got a job as a doorman at another club and he told me to come check it out and I did. I went from making $100 on dayshift if i was lucky at my old club, to making $400 or more at the new club. When I left dancing and worked a regular job for awhile all I could think about is how I want to go back. You might want to think it over before you decide but concidering going to a different club.
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    Yeah, I've just been pondering on whether it is the fact it is a slump about my earnings or a slump in general attitude towards dancing?
    I mean, I go into work these days, especially midweek, expecting if lucky to make $80-100. Oh, and I went and counted how much I made, $89 - tipped out $35. So, by no means a crappy night by my expectations. But I had already taken a long break and just didn't want to go back anyway - didn't matter that I had new stuff, that I could've geared myself up for working, just didn't want to. got there, had good luck with the FIRST CUSTOMER and still didn't want to even try. I hope it gets better once I can go elsewhere.

    Heehee, the olive garden thing was mostly inspired by one of my classmates being like "guh, the other day I got tipped $100 from one table, I love the holidays." Whereas at my club the holidays seem to slooooow everything down. Is not specifically the olive garden that is attractive, just popped into my head.
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    My fiancee used to work at the olive garden, in both upstate ny and dc. He absolutely hated it in upstate ny, but on a good night woud walk away with a hundred bucks, fifty would be more typical, plus the minimum wage.

    I would go to nyc if youre close enough, and higher stage fees do not equal smaller earnings. You'll be surprised what you could earn just working weekends while in school. If anything is obvious, you need a new club with your earnings, you're too gorgeous to be working your ass off for nothing.
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    I'm sorry to hear that crescentluna I can empathize with you. I hope things get better.

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    Luna, I wished I were closer to where u work as I am in MA. I would defintely come in and get lots of dances with you and try to make your holiday time better,,,,

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    Quote Originally Posted by CrescentLuna
    Nope, never waitressed, was a cashier for a year and that was my only real-world job. I don't think I could get used to not working for tips again. Ha, two weeks ago I was volunteer doula at my mom's birthcenter and the grandfather tipped everyone $20-$50, depending on how much the grandmother approved of them. Too amusing.
    I'm just hoping that once I get done with finals, done with working here, enjoy the holidays and then work somewhere well-paying I'll be a happy camper again.
    if you have never waitressed and you try it after you danced, you're probably gonna ask yourself wtf you are doing there after about a week at the olive garden!! besides having to put up with assholes, for a tiny fraction of what you make at the club where you can tell said assholes to fuck off if you don't like them, you have to do all this crazy sidework most of the time at restaurants. like, after you stop taking tables you still have to clean for an hour. i have these thoughts sometimes but after waiting tables for 8 years and dancing on and off for around 5 years, i dont think i'll wait another table again unless for some reason i can't dance anymore. i'm gonna do it until i finish school, there is nothing else i am qualified to do at this point that i can make this kind of money (even if some days its only 100 bucks) for doing this little actual work, with this kinda flexibility. hang in there girl. maybe you should just try some different places, seems like i remember other posts where u didn't really like that place you're at now?
    Oh, I musta took a wrong turn at Albuquerque.


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    Luna hun, stop blaming yourself. It's the CLUB. No stripper in her right mind will be excited or have a great attitude about going to a place where the top earners are making $100! Most of us wouldn't even bother. I say if you think you'll make comparable or better money at Olive Garden for the next couple weeks, go there. I'm sure after that you'll be more than happy to go back to dancing in Baltimore

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