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    Default Jr High Style BS

    This is more of a vent mixed with a question...
    Ok, so I've been at my club 2 months.
    Manager has no prob with me, I follow the rules, don't cause trouble, tip well, and so on...
    BUT I have had 3 reliable sources on numerous occasions inform me (I kinda figured anyway), that one dancer & her buddy bartender are always trashing me. One informant is a barback, who can't really defend me because he already gets tipped shitty by bartender anyway.

    It's gets worse too...New waitress is also getting trashed & they told her not to talk to me and 2 other girls..Because we are "dirty dancers". WTF? There aint even private rooms!
    Gee, I must be doing BJ's at blink of the eye speed!
    Jesus you guys...I'm not confrontational, but bullies usually stop once they get called out right? And I can't get fired for telling them to act like women/say it to my face & not 10 year olds in a calm manner. Or is ignoring it(and NOT calling her over when I have a spender) a better route?

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    Some people. Here's goes my pop culture reference: Catty co-workers using "Mean Girls" tactics to screw with other people. Maybe she's the dirty one who's jealous that you are earning your money cleanly and still making more? Too much drama at some clubs these days.

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    Well this is not the first post you have made about drama at your club.

    Girl, get over it. They don't matter.

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    ^^^^^ What TFD says. Also Go on ignore. Stay there. Make $$$$. Go home.

    Good luck.

    Pamela

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    Yeah, you've got to stop worrying about this, though I understand the need to vent. Just forget it and ignore them. And hey, if the customers hear you're dirty you'll probably make some money off of it .

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    Again... why all the drama with people at your club?



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    If you ignore it, it will go away...

    They're going to do it anyways...but the best way to get them back is to not partake in it at all. Do your job, make your money, and merrily take you money home. Screw them. If they are as bad as you say that they are...management knows already. As long as you keep your nose clean, then if anything "catty" happens, management will know who is to blame. If you get involved, then there'll be a question about it.

    Ignore it.

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    yep, im with everyone else on this one. ignore them, make your money... they want to push your buttons, and by acknowledging them, you will be showing them that they have achieved their goal. smile big at them and be *extra* friendly... kill them with kindness (it works.)

    thats an unfortunate part of this industry... women are SO jealous and mean to each other. its ridiculous.

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    Im with the "ignore them"crowd.

    But i also think you may be past that point.I think its time you found a happy home and switched clubs.
    You might be making good money there,but is it worth the headache??
    Im guessing you could make more money working at a club that has a support system(ie bartender/waitstaff etc)and have a much better time doing it.

    This is a very good example of why boyfriends and hubby's of dancers are not allowed in many clubs.
    If you have a catty dancer who doesnt like you for whatever reason(catty dancers always find reasons)and the dancers hubby is the bartender....
    Your screwed,its just a matter of time before something else pops up or your fired.

    Find another club.

    Best of luck.

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    Any SC you go to is going to have these kind of people.

    At my club, some girl was going around telling everyone that my husband didn't want me, he wanted her; and that she was going to take him away from me. Where she got this idea, I have NOOOO idea. She's met my hubby, and said hi, but doesn't even know him.

    People are crazy. You can't stress about it, because the shit they talk doesn't matter as long as you're making money. If it really bothers you, confront them. But it's probably not worth it.


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    pretend they are invisable, or not there at all. even when everything is in plain ear shot.and smile. they are not your friends, so what does it matter ,what they think about you? your there to make money, not friends. listen to pam and the rest. im sure everyone has been through it sometime or another. i wouldnt confront anyone. they arent even worth your time, rite?


    anyways, how would you know what they said about you in the first place,if you weren't listening to gossip. or asking.

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    You can find catty women ( and men too) at any job. Keep your chin up. And dont let them see it gets to you- remember you can always come here and vent it to us instead

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    Ditto to everything the ladies here have said. Just keep your head up, smile, and comfort yourself with the knowledge that these bitches have no life of their own. If they did, they wouldn't have so much time to talk about you.

    *~*~* I sleep with my teddy bear because I know where he's been. *~*~*

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    Girl. Make your money and get outtta there. I say it all the time at my club. Friends i have, that's not why i work there. i'm there for the money. Any friend i make is just a bonus. Seriously though if it causses you that much stress, maybe it is time to look into changing clubs. Best of Luck

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    TFD & everyone I know I'm obsessing I'm sorry
    It just makes me paranoid, like I'm not self conscious enough already about certain parts of my body.

    TFD- You remember the GM? Was he always such a dick?
    Such as saying,"Dye your hair back to how it was befoooore", or when I said I didn't have any lingerie, "What do you wear for your bf?", I don't have one.."Maybe thats why"
    This coming from a guy 1 Whopper away from a massive heart attack.

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    Also, do any of you stay after your shift to hang out at the bar? That's a common thing I noticed from the dancers I spoke of.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EvilPixyDust
    TFD & everyone I know I'm obsessing I'm sorry
    It just makes me paranoid, like I'm not self conscious enough already about certain parts of my body.

    TFD- You remember the GM? Was he always such a dick?
    Such as saying,"Dye your hair back to how it was befoooore", or when I said I didn't have any lingerie, "What do you wear for your bf?", I don't have one.."Maybe thats why"
    This coming from a guy 1 Whopper away from a massive heart attack.
    Wow.. HE never said that shit to me? I wouldn't put up with that! Hmm, maybe thats why i didn't stay very long?

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    I am with tfd. I cant help but think if you arent bringing this on yourself though. Remember dont make friends with these people and you shouldnt have any problems. Maybe jim thinks you dont fit in? Since you dont work his night shifts. Just ignore him. Thats the best you can do with him.

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    You have to stay strong and ignore the BS. Your in this business to make money, not friends.

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    Actual lunch conversation with a cute dancer. Names have been changed to protect... me actually.

    Her: "Last night this guy buys his buddy two dances with me. I never even talked to him before that. Ten minutes later I walk into the dressing room and Tiffany is on her phone with Lexi, saying 'Guess who just stole your customer Dave! You should be MAD at her.'"

    Me: "But Lexi wasn't even working, right?"

    Her: "Right. That's how far Tiffany will go to start something."

    Me: "You should rent Mean Girls some night."

    Her: "Rent it? I OWN it."

    Jr High happens... everywhere. The more your ignore mean girls, the more time you have to make money, which is exactly what pushes their buttons.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EvilPixyDust
    Also, do any of you stay after your shift to hang out at the bar? That's a common thing I noticed from the dancers I spoke of.
    No. I was always very nice to all of the girls I worked with (meaning courteous, not kiss-ass/brown-noser). But, I never went out with them outside of work hours and I never stayed later and drank with them. I am there to work and make money...then go back home to my family. Also, I know that this business if full of cattiness, so the less people know about me, the less they have ammunition for cattiness.

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    I am with tfd. I cant help but think if you arent bringing this on yourself though. Remember dont make friends with these people and you shouldnt have any problems. Maybe jim thinks you dont fit in? Since you dont work his night shifts. Just ignore him. Thats the best you can do with him.>>>

    I didn't even say anything to him after he said that, just blank stared & started talking to my manager who was next to me. I'm very reserved & don't even look at the other dancers, never ask to borrow stuff, or ask how much they made(everyone else does this though) The conversations are "hi" and "goodnight".

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    Your shy and reserved but you've posted before that you hang out with the managers and mess around with the DJ....?



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    i smell jealousy, gotta love it.
    the slutty one

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    Exactly lena. Thats why I said I couldnt help but think she is bringing this on herself. When you hang out with thses people then they talk and others here things and even though you may think these people dont know you, well they are making assumtions about you through what others say. Like I said and venus goddess said, noone can make assumtions about you if you dont hang out with people or get friendly. But its too late for that.

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