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    Default Ladies, Why Do This?

    I dropped in for a visit to the club close to my work, and in the way of things, I left a couple of $1s for dancers on stage every now and then. Each time I did so, I did it with the dancer's full knowledge and appreciation.

    In all instances except one, the dancers all skipped saying thank you after their sets were done, but later on came on to me looking to sell private dances. Even given the fact that I wasn't in a private dance mood, I was quite put off by this. They didn't say thank you, but still wanted to sell me a dance later on? I don't think so.

    I would like to ask the folks here if dancers in your club say thank you after you tip them for stage sets and if they don't, what do you say if they come around later on looking to drum up business?

    (PS: at my home club, almost all the girls say thank you afterwards; the incidences of dancers not saying thank you is quite low.)
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    Default Re: Ladies, Why Do This?

    The only time I've ever not thanked a customer at the stage was when the guy was really rude and acted like an asshole. And not only did I not thank him, i didn't accept his tip either.

    Other than that all customers who are nice enough to take the time to tip me onstage will get a "thank you" before my set is done.

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    Default Re: Ladies, Why Do This?

    Depending on how rude/annoying the customer is, I'll always say Thank you. Maybe she was just incredibly busy? Who knows.


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    Default Re: Ladies, Why Do This?

    What do you mean, you "left" money on stage? You mean you just put down a single on the stage every now and then and walked away? You're supposed to hand the tip to the dancer.

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    Default Re: Ladies, Why Do This?

    In some clubs....When a dancer is dancing on stage, Customers will throw money on the stage. After her dancing is over, She'll go and pick it up.


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    Default Re: Ladies, Why Do This?

    Do these girls come by your table and say thank you afterwards or are you talking about a thank you when you slip them the dollar?

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    Default Re: Ladies, Why Do This?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Hyde
    You're supposed to hand the tip to the dancer.
    Not neccessarily. Laying it on the stage was always fine by me.

    but seppiesai, yeah I always said thank you, unless as somebody else said the guy (or girl!) was a complete wanker and I declined the tip altogether.

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    Default Re: Ladies, Why Do This?

    Seems logical to me.

    A guy (say, I don't know, me) tips a girl on stage. She presumes (correctly, in my case) that I have money to spend and might possibly be interested in one or more dances.

    I don't really see the problem here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MissTaylor
    Do these girls come by your table and say thank you afterwards or are you talking about a thank you when you slip them the dollar?
    All the dancers that I tipped saw me do it and said thank you while I was at the tip rail. After their sets were done, they skipped saying thanks to me afterwards. Then later on, they came up looking to make sales.

    The vast majority of dancers in all the clubs I go to do both the tip rail thank you and a thank you afterwards. These girls skipped the afterwards.

    Now, I'm not saying they should come and hang all over me just for a few dollars, but I think it's just a little courtesy that all dancers should follow, especially since they'd came back to me later looking for dances. I know on several occassions I've been known to tip the dancer extra when she comes over to my table to say thank you.

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    Default Re: Ladies, Why Do This?

    Ummm...let's see...

    They all said thank you when you tipped them, stopped by to ask if you wanted a dance later on...

    and you're concerned that they didn't thank you twice?

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    Default Re: Ladies, Why Do This?

    yeah, seppesai, it does seem like you're being a bit anal about this. you said it was only a few bucks. they already thanked you once, you'd like another thank you before they try to make a sale?

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    Like I said, the vast majority of the girls I know do the two thank-you routine, and that courtesy goes a long way. There weren't very many folks in the club at the time, and on other occassions, I've seen several girls in this same club do the two thank-you routine while it's busy.

    Maybe I'm just used to the girls at my home club, who do the double thank-you routine almost automatically.
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    Get over it. They said thanks once. They don't owe you anything. Besides giving a tip during a stage dance is a good way to let her know you want a dance for her. You should be offended that they thought that.

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    Default Re: Ladies, Why Do This?

    I usually thank the guy as he tips, but I don't know how to do it afterwards. Should I go around and say "thanks for tipping" to each guy? How can I do that eloquently? I usually just go say hi to the guys who tipped me, chat them up, and ask for dances. I make a point to do this right when I get offstage so I'm more memorable.

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    Noelle, some of the things I hear are along the lines of "thank you, I appreciate it," or a smile or flirty laugh and a thanks. Some of the girls I know give little kisses on the cheek or a little hug with their thanks. Just that little extra acknowledgement can go a long way.
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    Well at my club we don't have a "tip rail" per say. The guy come up to the stage and gives you the tip, then slithers back into the darkness of a huge club. After stage one, we usually have to do another stage or two, where we see more customers scattered all over the club.

    Afterwards, I will usually be called to do a couple of dances by customers sitting closest to the stage I just got off from. There is no way I can find every customer who tipped me and thank them AGAIN!

    Obviously your home club is small and not too busy. Maybe you should just stay there then buddy?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SeppeSai
    Like I said, the vast majority of the girls I know do the two thank-you routine, and that courtesy goes a long way. There weren't very many folks in the club at the time, and on other occassions, I've seen several girls in this same club do the two thank-you routine while it's busy.

    Maybe I'm just used to the girls at my home club, who do the double thank-you routine almost automatically.
    You gotta be kidding me!!! I thank everyone once, maybe twice if the bill is over a 50.

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    Yeah, there's just no way to go around and thank everyone after each stage set, unless it's totally slow in the club. What we do is look for the customers who:
    1. asked us for a dance while we were on stage
    2. tipped us the best
    and then
    3. everyone else who tipped us.
    If someone gives me a good tip on stage I will most likely go over to thank him again and ask him if he wants dances. But we really can't chase down everyone who gave us a buck or two. And as a customer, when I go to clubs, I:
    1. Never ever give a girl just a dollar on stage (and I apologize if I sound like a bitch, and I swear I don't hold it against guys--it's the norm in a lot of places to just tip a dollar on stage and I'm sure they aren't thinking about it--but jesus, I think it's only right and decent to pony up at least two or three bucks for a stage tip). *
    2. Tell her straight up to come see me for a dance if I want one
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    3. Don't expect every chick I gave a stage tip to to come to my table.
    And I always have fun at strip clubs and don't get my feelings hurt .

    * by the way, I probably don't have to say that here. Uniformly, every male SW/SCJ member I've met has been a good tipper.

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    Default Re: Ladies, Why Do This?

    1. asked us for a dance while we were on stage
    2. tipped us the best
    and then
    3. everyone else who tipped us.
    OK, I'll go with that, then. Thanks.
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    Default Re: Ladies, Why Do This?

    I work in a club that is mostly about stage dancing. We are not allowed to have tips handed to us, while on stage. They have to leave it on the counter around the stage. If someone tips me and is not sitting at the stage, then I definitley thank them afterward.


    I decided not to work at a club I was checking out because on a slow night, I tipped all the girls on stage and did not receive ANY thank you's..from the stage, on the floor or anywhere.

    That in inself made my decision for me.

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    I always say thank you while on stage, or if they walk too far away to be heard blow a kiss or bob my head and smile at them - and might say something if I go to sit down with them afterwards, like "thanks for going up during my stage set!" with a smile. Is not something I consciously try to do.
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    At the club where I go the girls come around during their set and everybody just puts tips right in their garter.Its hardly ever more than a buck,but she'll be around 3 or 4 times during a set. What can I say,we're mostly workin class folks. Not too many big high rollers around here. But they always say thanks,sometimes BS for a second or two. Maybe come around after their set. My experiance is that hardly any of them try to sell me dances though. The girls that Iknow well there usually just come and sit for a while when they want a break or are avoiding an asshole. Its a very friendly little club,and the girls are very friendly always. if i go in without my wife,they always even ask where shes at tonight. The girls here work hard for their $ but they're mostly country girls,and they know that we work hard for our money too. I dont try to play the big high roller,they appreciate what ever I can afford to spend even when its not much. But when they dance, and I tip them,they say thanks or something,but I always thank them for dancing. I appreciate it and they dont owe me a damn thing. I kinda feel like theyre doin me the favor,not the other way around
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    Quote Originally Posted by SeppeSai
    OK, I'll go with that, then. Thanks.
    The customs obviously are slightly different from club to club. A new girl might not have had time to catch on to this rather unusual custom of giving thanks in stereo. Did she otherwise seem attentive and flirty when she approached you for a dance, or did it feel like a stale solicitation? If the latter, no one likes that.

    It is ultimately your call whether or not to make this issue a deal breaker. But I think you're being wise and will have more fun by saying you'll loosen up a bit and interact if all else seems inticing.

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    Did she otherwise seem attentive and flirty when she approached you for a dance, or did it feel like a stale solicitation? If the latter, no one likes that.
    Each of the approaches were of the stale variety, which didn't help.

    I went to see the two ladies who do say thank you in stereo last night, and of the five separate times I tipped the dancer on stage, none of them came over afterwards to even inquire about a dance, let alone say thank you. I was less disappointed this time around.

    On the plus side, the bartender remembers me and had my Coke ready without asking. I liked that and tipped her well for it.

    My two ladies were late and I didn't have time to dance with them, but at least I saw them for a few minutes. Guess I'll have to play it a mite different next time.
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    I always say thank you at the tip rail or give acknowledgement from the stage for a "tip-and-run." If someone is particularly nice, or the only person who tipped during a set, I'll thank them again later on the floor, but this is a rare occurrence.

    It is not a big deal to say thanks twice, but thinking that it is rude not to get two thank you's is rediculous.

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