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    Exclamation How does your BF deal with you Stripping?

    I've been dating my bf now for almost 2 years now and I recently got back into dancing steadily.(I have been dancing for 5 years on and off) My bf who is a musician is going nuts. What is driving me crazy is he loves the fact that i am a stripper but hates the "stripper mentality" according to him...go figure??..
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    Mine deals with it by making me feel guilty. It sucks because then I decide to not go to work, because going will just make me feel worse. I need the money and I've told him that. It gets old telling him everyday the same thing. He lives at home with his mom, what does he have to worry about? I live alone and go to school. Everyone tells me to break up with him, but I just think about it this way: I hate stripping, as soon as I finish school and get a job I'm quitting. So to break up with him over not liking my temporary job would be stupid.

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    Bleh I totally know what you mean..when I was dancing my bf dealt with it by putting me down needless to say we are no longer together (thank god). I have heard the "stripper mentality" BS too. Im sorry he tells that to you and he is dealing with it like that. Guys go both ways alot...waaay to much if you ask me. They like you being sexy and cofident but dont like that you have "changed". They begen to veiw you differently. From my POV if they cant trust me or dont like me dancing then that is their problem. I personally dont have time for games or him having a pissy fit.
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    My boyfriend and I got together while I was a dancer and about a year into the relationship, after many fights and arguments about my job, he gave me an altimatum, stripping or him (and now it makes me laugh because I see the same exact situation on this site almost daily, now I know I'm not alone). I chose him because I was afraid of losing him. But ever since he made me quit, I found myself resenting him for it and hating him because he didn't let me quit when I was ready, instead he forced me to quit. So after a year from going to a shitty fast food job that wouldn't give me my raise to a deli job for firing me for having a sick day, I have decided to go back to dancing and told my boyfriend to either deal with it or walk because we are college students and we are broke. He's not a money saver, so if he's not going to save money somebody is going to have to save. Do what the hell you want. If a man loves you for you, he'll stick around. Mine did, so far anyways.
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    Default Re: How do your BF deal with you Stripping?

    My BF and I have been best friends for the last 8 yrs, when I told him I was stripping he said yes it made him a little uneasy. But he trusts me and told me that what I do for a living could never change how much he loves me... ok I know that was hella cheesy, but it is so sweet ....
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    Default Re: How do your BF deal with you Stripping?

    maybe he just just doesn't like the fact that men are drooling over you. what bf does?
    the slutty one

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    Men are a god damn pain in the ass sometimes...I swear...

    Having a bad day ladies. I'm sure you can relate.
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    It takes time to find a guy that accepts the many facets of your personality. Don't get frustrated at him for not readily being ok with our job and lifestyle. I have found that dating within the entertainment world is comfortable. There is less explaining why we get paid what we do for so little work. I guess in general, men are like lottery tickets you have to scratch alot to find a winner.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bijou
    I guess in general, men are like lottery tickets you have to scratch alot to find a winner.
    That is so true.

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    Wow, i never even gave a shit. I never even thought about it. My kid's mom was dancing when i met her and resumed dancing after the whole pregnancy thing. It never mattered to me a whit. She used to tell me stories about whacko's that would want her to stand on their balls, or dickheads that would grope her and whatnot. I used to laugh about it. She used to tell me about work all the time. I never gave a shit.

    I guess i don't get it. I suppose if i have to expend that much mental energy worrying about what my girl will do/is doing, it's not worth it.

    I'm just not the jealous type, i guess.

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    Always a good feeling when other men pay your girlfriend for a dance. *suckers*

    The fact is, she was just a normal everyday girl, and that is how she was treated. A lot of men want the Stripper fantasy, but can't handle the fact that means other people have to look at her naked.

    Get used to it boys, that's what strippers do, get naked, and get paid.
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    When people [okay, mainly customers] ask me "what does your boyfriend think of your dancing?"
    I always say "oh, he loves it, it gives him something to brag to his d&d group about."

    Not really, I think he's pretty much like madcap, just doesn't care.
    from him: it's easy money from a job with a flexible schedule that is tolerable. she likes it, I like it. there isn't a jealousy issue because I know she's coming home to me every night.
    I know she loves me more than anything and that is more important that worrying about whether I trust her at her JOB. it's just a job.
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    i never cared either i always thought it was kinda hot .I trusted her and it was awsome at one when she stripped but i just always worried when she got off and wouldnt call so i know she was ok.Other than that i think its a job thats about it

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    My husband's cool with it, he loves that I can stay home with him one night if he needs it (he's disabled and has a lot of bad days), plus, he really does brag to his D&D group about it.

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    my SO isn't too crazy about it. but he trusts me and knows that i wouldn't do anything to ruin our relationship. i try not to talk about what exactly happens to me at work, just in general about things.

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    Default Re: How do your BF deal with you Stripping?

    yeah my boyfriend isnt really too into it, i have told a close guyfriend of mine too and he said he loves me more than he could ever dislike what im doing and that all that matters. I just dont get why my bf cant have the same attitude. But oh well. Im learning just to be really quiet about it and not bring it up ever...but its hard cuz im new and really excited about it..
    I think we will get over it. One minute he is nice about it and like oh well whatever, the next minute he is just like calling me "stripper-girl" to bug me. Then again Ive only told him I work in the bar, not that I dance. He still is acting like that. But Im sure he will get used to it. It doesnt seem worth throwing away a 2 1/2 year relationship for a JOB...but if he wants to do that he can make that choice. Worst case scenario: Ill date my guyfriend who was so sweet about it )

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