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    I am trying to write a story about a stripper. I was going to post in Customers, but I myself am not a regluar customer.

    I live in L.A. and it seems from the local paper, (LA Reader), that ALL the strip clubs offer lap dances. Does this mean that ALL strippers, at least in L.A., also do lap dancing? What I need to know most is this: is there a such a thing as a successful stripper in a city like L.A., who ONLY strips, and never has physical contact via any kind of dance, etc.

    I have also seen a thread or two on this board about strippers and significant others (SO) or boyfriends. They seemed to be mostly about the problems in these areas. Do any strippers have a boyfriend who is just great and is mostly okay with the stripper's line of work? (This relates to my lap dancing question, since I am thinking it would be easier for a bf/SO to deal with a girlfriend who only strips, otherwise has no physical contact.)

    Just so you know, the tone of what I'm writing is that the stripper is the main character and a real hero, and terrific woman as well. So, I'm not just asking these things to denigrate anyone in the profession.

    Any response is much appreciated,
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    I've gone to LA often, and there are several strip clubs that only offer stage shows. Successful? Eh, Give or take. I would think she'd make more money with lap dancing but I guess it could happen. (I am sure you'll probably get more feedback on this).

    SO others being okay with their partners stripping? I've had several boyfriends do well with it. It just depends upon the person in general. Is he insecure? A jealous type? Has a hard time trusting? Sometimes it's hard to have a relationship when you're a dancer but sometimes you strike gold and find someone that is completely supportive of whatever you do.


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    RoseDelight,

    Thanks for your response. I hope I will get several points-of-view. I'm impresed by the openness about the issues discussed here. I'm finding out the strippers and the clubs are more varied than I imagined and they are as individual as the people working in or running them.

    I realize now that I also meant to ask about unions, again, esp. as they might be in L.A. I had never heard of the idea of sex workers forming unions, and I'm wondering how that has affected the industry -- progress for the dancers? a lot of progress? an uphill battle?

    Anyway, thanks again.
    StripperCurious

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    Have you not actually gone to a club in your area to see what it's about?

    I can remember reading Striptease by Carl Hiaasen and then there was a series of stripper detective novels, and what cracked me the hell up was that both authors made a point of mentioning that their protagonists "didn't do table dances" and still raked in the bucks. My ass. I guess it's more likely somewhere like Portland or somewhere where you are on stage all the damn time. If you didn't do lap dances in Texas, you would make jack shit.

    Of course there are strippers with good SOs. Read more than a thread or two.

    Unions are not a factor in this business for 99% of us.

    And finally, what is up with all of the writers who come here who can't be bothered to go meet some real live strippers and talk to them. Any decent writer would be getting his ass to the club to do some real research on the subject.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward
    And finally, what is up with all of the writers who come here who can't be bothered to go meet some real live strippers and talk to them. Any decent writer would be getting his ass to the club to do some real research on the subject.
    You know, sometimes I think the people posing the questions are serious about the work and just want a way to hear from strippers all over the country without having to do all the traveling, but other times.....I just get the feeling that they aren't even writing a book, or screenplay, or anything and are just curious about stripping for personal reasons but don't have sack to just say so.

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    RoseDelight, I live and dance in L.A, and am curious to know which clubs you're talking about that only offer stage shows with no laps. I haven't encountered any, except maybe Forty Deuce, but that's a burlesque nightclub, not a strip club.
    Coralynn

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    Sorry about the poor choice of words. When I asked in the first post "is there a such a thing as a successful stripper in a city like L.A., who ONLY strips, and never has physical contact via any kind of dance, etc."?

    I didn't mean "successful' as in raking in the dough. I meant "successful" as making enough to get by and pay the bills. Sorry if that caused any confusion.

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    StripperCurious, hi.
    I think it's all about esteme. My gf is someone I choose to give my love to. I am someone she chooses to love. It is just a job, and whether or not she does LD is not important. For her to make good money, she needs to interact with customers. When she chooses to come home and share her time with me and I with her, it is because we want to. I will admit that I don't like visiting a club she is working, but it is mostly because when she is working, time is money - it is the reason she is there - and I don't want her to lose money.

    The way I really look at it is that my life is full and I have enough going on to keep me busy. Once when we going in different directions, I decided to not include her in mine. I still had plenty to do and had full life without her. We continued to talk, we found we really enjoyed being with each other. We are back in each others life and stripping has nothing to do with it.

    you could apply this same angle to actors who kiss, embrace, and then go home to thier husbands...... get it?

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    Default Re: Q's: stripping /w no phys contact? & stripper boyfriends?

    In an ideal world there would be many more no-contact clubs.

    My girlfriend must give fairly high-contact lap dances in order to make any money. If there was a way for her to avoid grinding and still make decent money, we would both prefer it, however it's not a big deal except when the guys get grabby, which pisses her off to no end. Unfortunately this happens a lot--most guys have a hard time restraining themselves when their dicks are being rubbed, even through a couple layers of cloth. And if they are allowed to touch at all, you can bet that a whole lot of them will try to touch anywhere they can.

    Add liquor, and other dancers in the same clubs giving up extras (thus putting severe pressure on the clean dancers to conform), and you have a recipe for a very difficult environment for the weak-hearted to survive. Most dancers last about 6 months, from my experience, and most dancer boyfriends either have varying degrees of trouble with it, or are busy trying to fuck other dancers.

    Personally, I love the fact that my girlfriend dances, especially when I have the opportunity to play music for her and talk her up. I focus on the beautiful, erotic performances she gives onstage, which are still a magnificent sight to behold. The lap dances are a necessary evil.
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