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    Seriously do. Today I asked him to drop me off at the beauty salon, it was packed so I couldn't get my hair done today. So I walk back out, get in the car & he asks me why I didn't call blah blah. But meanwhile he is talking to me, he is gawking at this curvacious woman wearing tight clothes that was walking in the salon. I thought that was so fucking disrespectful!!! Come on! Act like a married man/DAD in front of your kids at least. My little sister was sitting in the back, so that bothered me the most. I smacked his arm & yelled at him to stop gawking at that women in front me, esp. when we're talking. Shit really pisses me off. This isn't the main reason why though, but this really bothered me. It's been awhile since he's pissed me off. He is the biggest ex. of why i'm scared of marriage/men in general. Sorry, had to vent.

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    Understood.

    I had a psycho mom - Lady Zeno had a runaway father.

    We've found that the best revenge is to not carry their issues further on down the line and treat the family that you make to a warm, healthy, loving environment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay Zeno
    Understood.

    I had a psycho mom - Lady Zeno had a runaway father.

    We've found that the best revenge is to not carry their issues further on down the line and treat the family that you make to a warm, healthy, loving environment.


    I just really hate the stuff I witnessed growing up.

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    I don't like my dad either ! I don't bother with him anymore !

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    Vyanka,

    My dad is not so great lately either
    I use to be so close to him too....

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    I can't offer you much solace, Vyanka, except from a standpoint of age - life gets better as you grow up, leave that vision behind, and make new visions of your own.

    It gets better. Really. It takes time, and sometimes it seems like it really takes too long. But it gets better. The better it gets, the more you can make it really good.


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    I dislike my dad at times. We have a 'love hate relationship' mostly because I am everything he wishes I wasn't. He's a baptist minister here, He lives in this world of...."This is how it should be", and refuses to see anything different. I have 7 other siblings and he is in love with them because they are everything he wants them to be. He looks at me sometimes, and I can sense the 'hatred' he has for me and the life I've decided upon.

    I have never killed, stolen, or hurt anyone intentionally. I think I am a decent enough person but to him, Blah....We didn't talk for a year straight. I was tired of his bullshit.

    With all of that said....

    He's still the first person to be there if I ever need something, or if I ever need a shoulder to cry on. As the years go by, He's starting to realize that "Rose" won't change. He's become accepting of me, and what I want out of life. I respect his feelings, and he respects mine.

    I did get this tongue ring to make him cringe though, Mwahaha


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    Mine never supported me in anything. He would buy me things when I was a kid, but that necessarily mean he supported me or gave me any type of guidance. Was never there for me when I needed him, it was always my mom.


    UGH, he makes me wanna puke.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay Zeno
    I can't offer you much solace, Vyanka, except from a standpoint of age - life gets better as you grow up, leave that vision behind, and make new visions of your own.

    It gets better. Really. It takes time, and sometimes it seems like it really takes too long. But it gets better. The better it gets, the more you can make it really good.

    This is true. Even though i'm at the point of my life right now that everything is so shitty & wont get better. I try so hard not to be negative & keep a positive mind.

    Thx for the advice Jay.

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    *Hugs* Vyanka!

    I think the best lesson I've ever learned throughout my life is that "Parents are human too".....As a child, We expect them to be perfect. You get older, and you start realizing they can fuck up as much as you can.

    My dad isn't a 'cuddling, hugging' person, He doesn't show love by words. I think that'd make him feel like less of a man. Why? No idea. He showed that love through materials, or what not. He still does. I've learned to adjust to it......It's just him.

    I don't know how my mother has managed to stay married to him for 30 years, I'd be ready to knock him across the moon. Heh. Her patience is a lot more longer than mine is.


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    Quote Originally Posted by RoseDelight
    I did get this tongue ring to make him cringe though, Mwahaha
    LOL...

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    Quote Originally Posted by RoseDelight
    *Hugs* Vyanka!

    I think the best lesson I've ever learned throughout my life is that "Parents are human too".....As a child, We expect them to be perfect. You get older, and you start realizing they can fuck up as much as you can.

    My dad isn't a 'cuddling, hugging' person, He doesn't show love by words. I think that'd make him feel like less of a man. Why? No idea. He showed that love through materials, or what not. He still does. I've learned to adjust to it......It's just him.

    I don't know how my mother has managed to stay married to him for 30 years, I'd be ready to knock him across the moon. Heh. Her patience is a lot more longer than mine is.
    THx...

    I don't know how the hell my mom stood with his ass for so long either. UGH! He's given her so many hard times, that I just cannot respect him for it. Just things that I have witnessed, it's tough.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tampafldancer
    Vyanka,

    My dad is not so great lately either
    I use to be so close to him too....
    I was close to him too, at one point when I was a toddler. He has to be the first man that broke my heart.

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    Well.....It's not my marriage, nor is it yours. My dad is a decent enough human being but he's emotionally tiring and draining. On the flip side, He makes my mother smile every single day. I see their love grow more and more each day.

    You say you're scared of 'marriage/men in general'...I understand. But take from your dad's mistakes and learn from them. My dad has always been a fine warning of things that I don't want in someone. But everything he is to my mother is what I want in the future.

    You can learn from every situation.


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    Quote Originally Posted by RoseDelight
    Well.....It's not my marriage, nor is it yours. My dad is a decent enough human being but he's emotionally tiring and draining. On the flip side, He makes my mother smile every single day. I see their love grow more and more each day.

    You say you're scared of 'marriage/men in general'...I understand. But take from your dad's mistakes and learn from them. My dad has always been a fine warning of things that I don't want in someone. But everything he is to my mother is what I want in the future.

    You can learn from every situation.
    Oh yes, I have learned that he is everything I don't want in a man..lol. But I sometimes wish I didn't see the marital problems, & him to be a better dad too....rather then being a cold stone. When I was a kid I wish I had a father like other kids, they'd play with them, talk to them, take them places. Just spending time with them. Thx for the advice too.

    Argh, i'm so sensitive today too....PMS coming it's way. LOL.

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    Aww, I've been there girl! Bless his heart, He doesn't get it Haha.

    *Hugs and love*


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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka
    ....PMS coming it's way. LOL.
    ....I was about to type a reply.....till I read that....
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
    -Humphrey Bogart

    "Sir, if you were my husband, I would poison your drink."
    -Lady Astor to Winston Churchill
    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
    -His reply

    "If God had intended us to drink beer, He would have given us stomachs."
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    Quote Originally Posted by RoseDelight
    My dad isn't a 'cuddling, hugging' person, He doesn't show love by words.
    I'm not big on huggin or cuddling either...But my kids know I love them, I hope.I do special shit with them that they like and I tell them I love them as often as I can, but hugging and cuddlin I just can't do....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka
    Mine never supported me in anything. He would buy me things when I was a kid, but that necessarily mean he supported me or gave me any type of guidance. Was never there for me when I needed him, it was always my mom.


    UGH, he makes me wanna puke.
    The one thing I learned about my father (years after he passed away) was that he loved me very much. Sometimes that love didn't come out in the way that I needed or the way that I thought was acceptable, but in real life, we cannot give our children what we do not have. Each of our parents loves us in their own way. We all do our best and move on. I notice that more now that I have my own child. I love her the best I can and move on. Sometimes the decisions I make may not be in her best interest or not what she wants, but I learn from that and move on.

    I do find it funny, though, that you think that your father shouldn't be "allowed" to look at an attractive woman...do you feel that once a man gets married, he should wear blinders?

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    Bleh, I hate my dad too. I only knew him for 6 years of my life. Met him when I was 4 and then he skipped out on me when I was 10 w/o any kind of notification. Bastard!
    I try to learm from it to know what I want in a husband and a father (one day far far far in the future). Its still hard to deal with when someone says they love you and then they up and peace out on you like you never even mattered?? I still dont get that part.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka
    Seriously do. Today I asked him to drop me off at the beauty salon, it was packed so I couldn't get my hair done today. So I walk back out, get in the car & he asks me why I didn't call blah blah. But meanwhile he is talking to me, he is gawking at this curvacious woman wearing tight clothes that was walking in the salon. I thought that was so fucking disrespectful!!! Come on! Act like a married man/DAD in front of your kids at least. My little sister was sitting in the back, so that bothered me the most. I smacked his arm & yelled at him to stop gawking at that women in front me, esp. when we're talking. Shit really pisses me off. This isn't the main reason why though, but this really bothered me. It's been awhile since he's pissed me off. He is the biggest ex. of why i'm scared of marriage/men in general. Sorry, had to vent.

    Hey Vyanka,My dad does that!It really is disrespectful,and embarassing.

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    Damn....this is really....heartbreaking.
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
    -Humphrey Bogart

    "Sir, if you were my husband, I would poison your drink."
    -Lady Astor to Winston Churchill
    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
    -His reply

    "If God had intended us to drink beer, He would have given us stomachs."
    -David Daye

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    i hate him too, you must have a good reason.

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    So, what's the big deal? He was just looking, he wasn't attacking nor propositioning that woman.



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    *Hugs*

    "Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
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