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    Has anyone ever had their SO visit them at work? My ex man came in a couple times and saw me dance and I loved it! I didnt really like him gawking at the ladies on stage without me though (I was with a customer) but it was nice having him there for support and I love dancing for him on stage. I also spoiled him in V.I.P with free dances. Also have any of you had ex boyfriends come in the club and you wern't expecting to see them?

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    You know, I never did like it when my boyfriends would come in to see me at work. It was really distracting and I'm not really sure why, but I always feel more akward on stage when someone I know is there. It's weird but I feel much more comfortable dancing for strangers than I do for someone I know.

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    A lot of the clubs here don't allow boyfriends. Jealousy, etc


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    I tried to stay well away from my ex's club when she was dancing. It made her lose her concentration on her job. I didn't like her walking into my work and just sit around having a cup of coffee and a chat, so I wouldn't expect her to like the same.
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    You spoiled your ex with free dances? My ex never came in but my current b/f sometimes did. He never got any free dances though lol

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    I used to see my kid's mom dance quite often, but it was all clandestine. I was there in disguise as a customer. Boyfriends weren't Kosher, but she wanted me to see her and i wanted to see her.

    It got to the point where management figured it out, but by then it was a "don't ask, don't tell" sort of thing. I had pretty much proven myself by then.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveSexMoney
    You spoiled your ex with free dances? My ex never came in but my current b/f sometimes did. He never got any free dances though lol
    LOL!

    I didn't either. I didn't get ANY (at her work, that is).

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    Yeah, I must say that I'd never be cool with having my bf at my work.......way too distracting. Furthermore, it would cause my personal life to "exit my car and weasel it's way into the club"........therefore, I'd lose my "stripper persona".
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    My man used to come up into the club around closing time and I would always be in a dance and he would just glare at me the whole time while he watched me. I hated it. Now when I go back he wants to go with me to the audition...NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO...Not only is it distracting but it looks bad to management. They won't like it one bit.

    Having your man at your work when your a dancer is like being a drug dealer trying to sell drugs to somebody while a cop stands across the street watching you.
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    I just don't get the freebie thing. How did you pass that off on the club? "Oh, don't worry...I know him...I'm just going to give him a few freebies." Didn't you get charged?

    I've never given a freebie. If my SO wants a freebie, he can wait til I get home.

    My club also discourages SO's coming in...too many problems.

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    My club discourages it, tonight I was going to ask if I could go up one last time so my bf could see, but I wasn't feeling too well so I didn't. I'd like for him to see me dance one day. I wouldn't really want him in the club while I'm hustling or something.
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    no way.
    my boy knows to keep the hell out. even if the clubs im at dont have a no bf policy,i tell him they do, cos i dont want him there while im trying to work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RoseDelight
    A lot of the clubs here don't allow boyfriends. Jealousy, etc


    ditto
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    Its odd, I have had several girlfriends that were dancers over the years, and in each case it was different. One would give dagger eyes to any other girl that was looking at me, while another would pay the other girls to dance for me, while another would ask me not to go there because it made her self concious and yet another would expect me to buy lap dances all night, like any other customer. (not that there is a problem with that, but its hard to say no to your lady, especially if you just spent the better part of that afternoon between the sheets )

    I always left it up to the girls descretion. If she no, I wouldnt go.

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    The club I used to dance at where my boyfriend would visit me they didn't track how many dances each lady had, so after the $5 fe to get to thew couches how many dances I did and the fact that he paid me or not was our business.

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    I don't suggest it. Somehow no matter how undercover the couple tries to be the natural chemistry and connection shines through and the customers can sense that a dancers boyfriend or husband is in the club.

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    regulat strip clubs I know don't allow bofriends/husbands of dancers. I work two clubs, one is a table dance, the other a fetish/SM club which is more stage show. I wouldn't want my man around when table dancing, I can't see much use there
    But he is at the dark club some times, when I do a new show or just to have fun himself. It's not much of a deal there, I don't notice more than row two anyway. The cummunity is much more closed there, you know a lot of people in the scene soon sine there are usulay about 90% regulars

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    purgatori-
    Where do you do fetish s&m shows? I would love to do those!!!

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    I like when my bf comes to the club. Unfortunatelly, he's not allowed at the club I work at now. That is their policy. The whole jealousy thing. Kinda sucks, since he isnt the jealous type. But, while we were living in NC, the club I was working at not only allowed bf's and husbands in the club, they let them in for free. It was great!
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    Mine won't come in. He's scurred....
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    Mine came in once with a friend of ours. She wanted to start dancing so he brought her in and I was going to intro her to mgmt and what not. Well, the girl turned in to a bitch and told my bf I was letting some PL suck on my nipples...which I wasn't. Even if I did allow that sort of thing, would I be dumb enough to allow it with my bf sitting so close?! Anyhow, I asked her to leave and he got pissed. Whatever. He's never allowed back in when I'm working, I don't care what the circumstances are. I don't think he should of asked me if I was acting inappropriately while I was working......it killed my flow.

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    I must be mean... Boyfriends are allowed absolutely nowhere near our business in any shape or form except to drop off and pickup the entertainers. The girls are absolutely never to discuss their boyfriends to customers and actually are trained to say that they have none..if pressed, they usually smile and point to one of the other girls and say that's her girlfriend. The girls have to keep the illusion up so that customers FEEL like their fantasy is in front of them. If they want to hear complaining about boyfriends, other girls..they could stay home with their wives LOL

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    TopsnBottoms, that's a stupid idea - not about not allowing SOs into the club, that's a legitimate concern - but telling the dancers to not say they have an SO? I've found that the majority of guys that ask if I have a boyfriend are trying to get into my pants or trying to see what kind of extras I'll provide - ie, if I don't have a boyfriend I'm okay with giving them a blowjob in the VIP, right? Seriously.

    I just say I have a boyfriend if asked, I've found that if I say that I don't have a boyfriend their immediate next question is "well, would you like to go out sometime?" I don't make it a point to tell customers I have one, to the point that if I'm talking about him I'll say "my friend . . . " instead of boyfriend. But when pressed, I'm not going to pretend to be single.
    This guy the other night was even like
    "hi, blah blah, do you have a boyfriend?"
    me: "yes. I do."
    him: "oh, I usually don't talk to dancers that have boyfriends."
    me: "oh? Why not? You get the best of all worlds here, hot girls all interested in you and you don't have to take any of them home to mother."
    him: "Oh, well I always gotta try, once this dancer and I ended up going out for coffee, then dinner another time, a few things happened, it was all pretty good. But then she saw me get a dance with another dancer and got mad and everything fell apart after that."

    I'm just thinking "oh, apparently that went so well you're going to try it again!"
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    Frankly, i don't give a shit if she has a BF or not, and never even bother to ask. Asking a stripper if she has a BF is usually asking to be lied to. Chicks like that usually don't come unattached. If he's a decent BF he knew what he was getting into and will handle it like a man.

    The exception to this is the guys that didn't know what they were getting into. Never cool to start a relationship with a lie. But if their argument is against stripping rather than against being lied to, then they are retards. I can understand being pissed at being lied to, but a job is a job. What does he want, working at a car wash pays dick.

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    i dont like it when my bf comes into a club im working at. i feel obligated to stop what im doing and spend time with him when i could be peeling money out of other's wallets. PLUS... i feel awkward hustling in front of him.

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