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    mine comes in, like ALL the time, and i love it! i feel safer when he's there and i no i have a friend. i dont no whats the deal with most of you girls. he's my good luck charm. i love to dance on stage when he's watching (turn on) and he especially loves to watch my hi contact table dances (ditto). he often gives me tips on technique and helps me get more dances by meeting tables of guys and telling them how hot a dance, "that girl", gives. he sometimes lays out wads of dollars whenits slow and im on stage to encourage the real customers to tip me. but i usually dont lap dance for him, tho lots for his table if its full of guys. he doesnt distract me at all and we have zero jealousy probs, and when we get home and he hears all the nites sexy details, well, get the roll of paper towels cause we be gonna make a mess!

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    crescentluna-i don't think what i do is a STUPID idea. The girls who work for me are intellegant enough to flip a guy asking about her boyfriend to that she is bi-sexual which the guy likes even better. Liking a girl more=more money. We are not club dancers. We do not have time to talk to the customers. We go into a show where there are typically 20-300 guys, expecting a minute to couple minute dance each. Our girls work the room quickly & professional, within the 60-90 minute show. When the show is over, we leave so BJ discussions are irrelevant. The girls show up to work without wearing jeans, no cigarettes in front of customers & no boyfriends. We are a professional company and the girls who work for us have no problem acting professionally and bank way more money than girls in Binghamton as well as most clubs while working less and more safely. I almost never even hire girls from upstate, ny due to the sub-par club scene and lack of professionalism from the dancers. In fact. I probably only hire a small percentage of girls who want to work for me. Many(some, but I've seen it) times a young stripper is a boyfriend's meal ticket as well as the reason for girls stopping dancing. I ALWAYS hire a girl without a boyfriend over one with a boyfriend. I'm not talking out my ass, my business is the busiest company in NY(not an agency) for a reason. Not all boyfriends or husbands create drama so I apologize to those ladies who have cool significant others.

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    Bf in the club = bad. Distracting to the girl, jealousy potential, changes dancer's mood, customers notice, coworkers notice (creates bad rep), etc etc etc. Bad bad bad. My bf knows better than to go to my work. He has to entertain biz associates sometimes and wouldn't dream of taking them to my club if I'm working.

    Most clubs are horribly mismanaged these days but this is one club policy I totally support!


    I also agree it's generally best not to even tell customers you have a man. They are paying for fantasy and their fantasy girl doesn't have a man. The better you are at maintaining the fantasy the more money you make.

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    i dont no whats the deal with most of you girls. he's my good luck charm.
    Most men are the jealous type unfortunatly. Concider yourself lucky that you have a man who isn't jealous because most of us dancers aren't so fortunate. Men have a real problem with other men seeing "what is theirs." So basically, most men want to own our sexuality once the relationship is serious. Most men don't have a problem fucking a stripper but most do have a problem with being in a relationship with one. It's so sad...men feel so inadequate over the most studiest things. Example...I told my man that if he couldnt make more money than me, I had to go and make more money than him. SOMEBODY has to be the damn bread winner. I don't want to spend the rest of my life borrowing money off of each other because we are so broke. FUCK THAT! He got pretty mad when I said that and whenever we get into fights he'll bring up that I always tell him he "doesn't bring home the bacon." Well you don't, sorry hunny. So I'm going to bring it home!
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    Look, I'm not attacking your club/show or saying it is crappy [but thanks for attacking mine in return], just that automatic "I don't have a boyfriend" isn't a good idea. Neither is "that's my girlfriend" because I've tried THAT too and that doesn't always lead to good results either ["well then both you and your gf can party with us after it closes!" or older guys look uncomfortable], that sometimes the plain old truth: "Yes, I'm taken" is the most efficient way to deal with customers. If you disagree, fine.
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    I'm not trying to trash you or your club. New dancers have a great opportunity on this forum to ask, listen & learn from girls who've worked at the Top clubs in the world. There are different ways to deal with customers by different entertainers. I'm impressed by Day in and out, for 14 years, hundreds of dancers have gotten away with saying that they have no boyfriend. This whole business is a game between dancers & customers. Guys know that you are lying but want you to make them think that they are special and have a chance with you. Don't listen to me but listen to some of these girls that are on here and have survived this very tough business with flying colors. My motto: If you are going to take your clothes off, make as much money as you can & BANK IT

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    The best thing to do here is to say you have NO BF. Sorry. But it is. And when customers ask you out, say things like, "I"m only for here" "Oh, but I don't know you very well, etc" or simply laugh it off and change the subject to something sexy. There have been threads on what to say to guys when they ask you out. But it would be better for your money (and for the club as a whole probably) if dancers would say they had no BF. Really, unless there are special circumstances, and you know your customer pretty well and can TELL he'll be cool with it, a dancer has NO business telling a customer about her personal life, whether it's BF, bills, family trouble, gossip, whatever.

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    No BF is the best policy. When I first began dancing, I would admit to having a boyfriend, and lost way too many customers that way. Now I tell them I have a fuck buddy that I'm getting bored of...*hint, hint* Lying 101, its integral to being a great stripper. Sure, admitting you have BF will keep them from asking you out, but it won't stop them from asking for extras, and will invariably stop the flow of money.

    TopsIn Bottoms: so you won't hire a dancer with a boyfriend at all? So you must realize that your employees are lying to you as well? Is that your test? Why do you care if your dancer is attached as long as she tells the end customer she is single??????

    How about this for bullshit: I was recently at the Men's Club in Houston with 2 male friends. The manager was giving me a tour of the place, hoping I would come work for them sometime. One of the male friends is a bit off in the head, was very drunk, and has a huge crush on me. When the manager was taking me to the VIP area to show me the tables, he came up to us and started to confront me, questioning where we were going, and not wanting me to go off alone with manager. Luckily he was yelling at me in Russian, so the manager didn't understand. But I swore to the manager he wasn't my boyfriend and he was confused. It made the situation very uncomfortable, and I hope I can still work there in the future...

    Soooo......ladies, I wouldn't even come to a club with someone who has feelings for me ever again, especially if you are working or auditioning. His jealousy and rage might really mess up your chances of being hired....

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    It REALLY depends. Some boyfriends are cool with it, and I've even known b/fs who are regulars. (When I danced, I was dating one of the bouncers -- that's how I got started!) But MOST boyfriends can't handle it and should just stay away.

    By the way, ONE girl who danced with me was a VERY serious lesbian in a regular relationship with a woman. Her girlfriend came by the club occasionally, and was very OK about it all. She was a bit stand-off-ish, but OK.

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    I have a friend that used to dance in New Orleans and her husband would come watch her and just stare and be happy!

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    my boy has been in twice since i started working. we aren't aloud SO's in my club, so he pretended to just be a customer (he was there with a group of friends). i love having him come in and watch me dance, and i don't mind if other girls talk to him or even if he were to buy dances from them. one night he even pointed out a couple of guys that had been talking about wanting a dance from me, so i could make some money off them. the last time he was in, we pretended he was a customer and went up to hide in VIP because we hadn't seen each other in ages, and it was the only oppertunity we had that week to hang out. at my club we keep all the money we get from lapdances, and no one really pays too much attention to what anyone else is doing, unless it's terribly illegal or something...so i didn't get in any sort of trouble. it was fun, i gave him a few free dances and we had a chance to spend some time together.

    i don't think i'd want him coming in to the club alot though, once or twice is ok, but if it was every week, i would definitely get distracted, and feel bad that i wasn't hanging out with him.


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    From the boyfriends perspective, I don't think I'd go see her at work. No more than I'd go sit by her desk and expect her to just keep working when she used to work in an office setting.

    I have no jealousy issues, but I think it would be self-defeating for me to go watch her dance. It'd be too distracting for her and since we'd have to basically pretend we didn't know each other, what's the point?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bunny
    her husband would come watch her and just stare and be happy!
    I know what you are talkig about. My man loves to se me on stage so he is there sometimes. I think stage work is different here than doing serious lapdance on the floor. That would disturb me.

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    its much cooler than regular work for me. we do an act on stage and afterwards go to a "playground" area for customer service. We even get a share of the entance fee.

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    I absolutely will hire girls who are married, have boyfriends/girlfriends, none of my business really...But if I had a choice, I would hire someone single. My goal is to have as little drama in my company as well as keeping dancer's careers as long as possible. We just do parties and revues where talking to the customers doesn't come into play(no time if you're spending 1-2 minutes with a guy). The bottom line is our top girls make money comparable to top club girls. With money comes problems. I'd prefer to not lose a girl due to her boyfriend/husband changing his mind about her dancing. If you are a dancer first then meet a guy, he knows what you're all about and HOPEFULLY he'll understand you dancing. There are always a few girls working for me that support their boyfriends. Dancing has a higher rate of girls supporting guys simply due to the fact of more money to be made than most typical jobs. I would say the top reason for girls quitting after being burned out is: boyfriends. I hate boyfriends and drunk customers and have become a male lesbian

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    i always made sure no one at the club knew who my bf was by sight, in case i needed him to be there for something important. he always told me though, he would never come see me dance. i think it's a good policy, sice he won't see me hanging around some dude. even the ones that trust the most can get hurt even if they know it's not real. besides, i spoil him enough with freebies at home. i need SOMEONE to practice my ld's on!
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    My man hasnt come in yet. I think he is waiting for me to ask him to come in. I am not sure though, maybe he doesn't want to see me. He says he is happy with my choice to dance as long as i deal with it like a normal professional job, which I do. Should I ask him to come in or wait until he brings it up?

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    I'm married to a dancer, support her have no problem with it, I have seen her in the club. But I will only go in at the end of the night, I dont' want to distract her while see is making money and do not want to see her hussiling. I love to watch her on stage though, so on nights that I am going to pick her up she will try to be on stage the last 20 minutes or so that the club is open. That way she can make her money without feeling weird that I'm watching her give dances, and I get to see her on stage which I absolutely love. Management knows about me and will let me just walk in for free toward the end of the night, and if she was having a bad night if nothing else she can just come and hang out with me and not deal with a customer at the end of the night.

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    When I first started dancing, before we had a baby, my husband would come in and watch me, hang out with mgt, ect. Just have fun being there. He never did cause any problems, and he enjoyed being there, and I enjoyed him being there. It never hurt my earnings, since I didnt tell anyone I was married, but still.

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    It depends on the guy. Some guys are able to handle the fact that you are "working" and that you will pay attention to other men and dance for them. Most guys are not in this group. Most of the time it's better just to leave him at home because you need to be worried about making money not your bf or husband being there.

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    Just want to throw something in there for you folks.

    Ive been a bartender for 13 years going now. I have a really strict policy about discouraging friends and family to come see me at my bar. Why? Because more often then not they fail to grasp that I am working, which requires me to give my service and attention to all the patrons equally. That leaves little time for socializing with friends and family. Many times a friend or family member would leave miffed - "You didnt spend any time with us/you ignored us".

    Its different if they are going there to hang out with either other friends or just to hang out. If they are coming specifically to see me, they leave sorely dissapointed. To devote the attention appriopriate to them I would shortchange the rest of my customers. I cant and wont do that.

    One would suspect that if your boyfriend/spouse is coming to see you dance, they might have the same notions. Even if they are okay with seeing you dancing for other men, they might not gasp that you cant spend loads of time with them, because that will effect the job you are doing, and the money you are making. Nit having yhem come in might save you that sort of conflict with your job and conflicts with your S/O.

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    I have to say that I would not feel comfortable if my hubby decided to come in to watch me. My direction and course would be thrown off. Especially if I'm drinking 'cause then I would just get horny and want to take him home. I've known girls who do have their SO's come in and they have no problem, and then there's the ones that have them come in and spend the whole night with them. At that point, why bother to come work, just go to a regular club. I guess it is just one of those things that depends on the individuals involved.

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    my b/f comes in sometimes (along with those of quite a few other girls i work with) and there are no problems. he knows I'm working and it's good to have an honest opinion about things you could try out on stage or things you did that looked a little wonky etc.

    I don't think I'd ever do free LDs for him though, it would just be too complicated with the fee for it and why would i give him a free dance when i could be getting paid to do one for somebody else and then give him the freebie at home?

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    WHEN MY EX CAME IN I CHARGED HIM EXTRA FOR THE DANCES

    TRYING TO GET THE MONEY BACK THAT HE OWED ME!!!!

    KICKED HIM OUT WHEN WE WERE DONE

    grumble, grumble.... fucker!!!!!!!!!
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    Mine comes in now and then. Hell, he used to live with one of the old managers, before I moved to the state. He used to know the place better than I do!

    But he's cool when he comes in. He gets dances from other girls, tips well, buys drinks. He never tries to hold me up at all. He rocks.
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