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    im pretty new at my club and most the girls make a majority of their money from regular clients. any tips on how to keep clients coming back for me?

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    Conversations. Get to know some of the customers. But if they like you, They'll come back for more I am sure.


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    Don't push me too hard on your first encounter. Grab my attention, and make me want to get in contact with you. A simple smile or eye contact once in a while will get me. A little conversation each time will go a long way.
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    If you want us to be your regular, then you have to be ready for somewhat of a long-term building process...and hopefully you have a good memory.

    Look us in the eye, respond to our questions and comments, appear to be interested, and do not ask (at least not instantly) for dances. Basically, what you are doing is preying on our inability to separate fantasy from reality. When you do these pleasant things, you are taking advantage of the chemical processes that take place in our brains...that give us our pleasure sensations....and while most of us know you don't really see us as all that different, we are still able to feel that perhaps you do. We won't be able to resist buying dances from you, and we will find ways to make it into your club more often.

    But be careful...while doing this, you will also find that periodic fat bastard who wants it to go farther, and becomes jealous when you dance for others...and, god forbid, could become a stalker.
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    IMHOm great comments so far. A few I can add. Be glad to see me. If you remember me from last time I will be flattered as hell. Repeating some comments above--good, honest conversation is key for me. However, that doesn't mean you have to waste your entire evening chatting with someone who isn't buying dances. If I buy a dance, don't be mechanical or look bored--continue to make human connections. Eye contact and smiles are good. I love dancers who laugh with me...either when chatting or during a LD. I know I am a customer, and this is a job for you. It's okay to be honest about that. But for me, I am much more likely to go back to dancers for whom it seems to be a fun job.

    Guys are kind of like dogs--we're not too bright sometimes, and once we find something we like we keep coming back to it.
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    Be nice -- how would you act if you were trying to make a friend under any other circumstances? Make eye contact. Remember their names. Ask some (not too personal) questions and remember the answers.

    Some girls are more flirtatious than others, some pretend they'll date the customer when they "get to know him better." If you go this route, though, you might eventually have an unpleasant scene where you explain that you didn't mean it. There's about a billion posts on here about whether/how to do this.

    Honestly, though, sometimes it seems completely random how a customer picks up on you. You might remind them of their hot second grade teacher, or something else that you have no control over. A regular of mine once told me I looked like his best friend's daughter. He wasn't creepy about it -- said he'd never even thought about it before -- but it was a bit wierd.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grace
    Be nice -- how would you act if you were trying to make a friend under any other circumstances?
    Great answer.

    Ultimately, regulars are all about relationships. The more you invest in that intimate connection (personal interests, shared experiences, music you like, what makes you laugh), the better your odds at establishing something permanent.

    It's usually best to favor the slightly older guys. They are much clearer on the fantasy/reality division, have more money, are more willing to spend it and generally do not ask you out eight gazillion times a night.

    Grace is also right that it's completely random on how a customer picks up on you. That's because guys can generally agree on who's attractive (ever seen the entire male population of SW go nuts every time RoseDelight posts another avatar?), but each of us has a different kind of "look" that gets under our skin. These are our visual vulnerabilities. Dancers with this look can own us.

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    Make us feel special. Smile. Find out what we're looking for (not every guy goes to a strip club for the same reason) and try to provide it if you can. Smile. Be genuinely interested in getting to know us as people, and let us do the same with you. Smile. Call us by name. Smile. Touch us while you're talking. Smile. And finally, here's one that's really easy and rarely done: when we're getting ready to leave, walk us to the door, tell us how much you've enjoyed meeting us, and invite us to come back to see you again. I can count on one hand the number of times a girl has said that to me. And guess what, I always returned if I could. And always remember, guys go to clubs to have fun. The more fun you are to be with, the more likely he is to return. A girl who smiles a lot and has a sunny disposition is more fun to be with.
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    Everything everyone here said, especially TOO, plus:

    --Don't dance with the mechanics of a ditch witch or a tree stump grinder.
    --If I'm spending money on you, be present in the moment.
    --If you can be sincere in your words and actions, do so.
    --If you can't be sincere, pretend with great skill and mastery of persuasion and beguilement.
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    Quote Originally Posted by persephonee
    im pretty new at my club and most the girls make a majority of their money from regular clients. any tips on how to keep clients coming back for me?
    There are several ladies who post here who avoid developing regulars. Too much maintenance and the expectation by the customer of more "services" for less and less money as time goes along.

    If you feel energetic you might want to search back for some of these threads. Interesting reading.

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    Everyone has hit it on the head in this thread. Spend time with a customer and be sincere. I have many regulars who come in just to see me. I care about things that they tell me and remember important events for them or what concerns them in their lives. You won't get a regular by using the old "wanna dance" line.

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    Reading this thread reminded me of a hilarious line, maybe from a movie, "If you can fake sincerity, you can fake anything." Must have been Danny DiVito. Anybody remember? Anyway, good advice for dancers (lol.)
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    I make most of my money off of regulars. I met one of them by just walking by and saying hello while he was at the bar. He stopped me and asked my name, and then he got his drink and went on his way. The next week, he came back and asked if I was working...since then he has been a great customer. So, I would venture to say that being nice to everyone in the club is a plus for getting regulars...not just the guys that are currently getting dances.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR
    There are several ladies who post here who avoid developing regulars. Too much maintenance and the expectation by the customer of more "services" for less and less money as time goes along.

    If you feel energetic you might want to search back for some of these threads. Interesting reading.

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    Such as myself...

    Every regular experience save for on has been awful for me. For the last 2 years I've focused on avoiding them like the plague by working at clubs where they're the exception rather than the rule.

    I think most of the above is good advice, however, even if you do cultivate one or several regulars, try to avoid "counting on" the money they give you. It's very common for regulars to be capricious and just stop coming in to see or spending money on their favorite dancer, for numerous reasons but typically the "I'm not gonna spend any more money to not get laid." Being older doesn't necessarily guarantee they're in touch with the realities of dancing and in one DC club I worked in the OTC was an unwritten rule in order to make money.
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    I have a couple of casual regulars that I don't count on but like to see. 2 came in the other day and I made $360 off them combined, about half of the nights earnings.

    The only way I kept them is by not taking them for everything that they have on them, plus some. That's my MO for almost every other guy, and I think that works out to be most profitable and satisfying for me

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    Quote Originally Posted by FONDL
    Reading this thread reminded me of a hilarious line, maybe from a movie, "If you can fake sincerity, you can fake anything." Must have been Danny DiVito. Anybody remember? Anyway, good advice for dancers (lol.)
    It's also corollary #45 to Murphy's Laws.

    The secret to success is sincerity. Once you can fake it, you've got it made.

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