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    I am surprised at how many seemingly smart and pretty dancers seem to be unable to see how much their SO is taking advantage of them- while supposedly looking for a job, attending school, whatever.

    How many of you are supporting a guy, and for what reason?

    How many of you have been left in the lurch after he gets what he wants, or after you stopped supporting him?

    How many of you have really enjoyed the benefits of supporting a SO in the long run?

    Truthful answers might be an indication of just how intelligent a stripper really is.

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    A certain percentage of dancers are very insecure, and have low self-esteem. I know that's a stereotype, but it's one that does have some basis in reality. So it's not surprising that type of girl would stick with a guy that treats her badly, thinking she "can't do any better". Also, the type of jerks you've described tend to feed her feelings of low self-worth, telling her she's lucky to have him, that sort of thing. It's not the stripping that makes them stick with the sorry-ass guy, it's their own emotional/mental state.
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    Personally, it's not just dancers who do this. It's women from all walks of life. Trying to say that "just" dancers suffer from this horribly debilitating syndrome is a joke.

    BTW...men suffer from it just as much. In fact, I know a man who worked 2 jobs so that his wife could stay home and put her concentration into her studies...after she graduated college (at the age of 32), she left him for someone "more interesting". Her complaint? He worked too much.

    I find it funny that a lot of people are when strippers are human beings just like everyone else.

    I don't support my SO...in fact, I am not even working right now (well, I am a stay home mom) but when I was working, so was my SO. Before when I had other BF's, I would not stay with any of them if they were not working. So, while there are a lot of strippers who put up with abusive behavior, there are just as many who do not.

    And, if you're hearing a sob story at the club from a stripper trying to make money, there is also a really good chance that it's just a story to illicit the "care-taker" in you to hand over more money. I've heard that before, too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Regular Forever
    Truthful answers might be an indication of just how intelligent a stripper really is.
    They might be an indication of how honest she is, but hey, you're not really in a position to make that call either way.

    This is another huge stereotype along with the one about us all being sexually abused, stupid, slutty, and coke-addled. True for some, I've certainly seen it, but not true for all by a long shot. I've certainly never been in that position, not even close.

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    For about 2 years my husband stayed home with the two oldest children. My son was born early (7 weeks) and need a little extra help. This is a decision that we made together. It was no way "lazy" on his part. I loved it when he stayed home. He did all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and the running around. When I was off from work I could enjoy my family, not just taking care of them.

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    Why do you seem to think that only dancers do this? A lot of dancers do, yes. But a lot of human beings in general do this.

    I, for one have never supported my SO. I couldn't imagine doing that. Nor could he ever imagine himself supporting me. We don't even share bank accounts, I couldn't do that. I am putting myself through school, supporting my daughter, and from time to time shopping at Wal-mart for things I need because something she needs is a lot more important than those hot jeans that were in the display window of a store.

    As much as people would like to think that we're a bunch of 'idiots, sluts, drug whores', etc. We're not. We're actually very intelligent human beings that could eat a person up and spit them out in the next second.

    I wonder about where you got this information from. Did a dancer tell you this? We're also very good actresses as well


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    There is probably a woman in every job field right now who has a husband or bf she is supporting. It's all over. Also alot of dancers these days can hardly make enough money to support themselves, let alone a SO or children.

    Check out our female doctors who see a patient for 10 minutes and charges $100 for her time spent. Now that is who you want to live off. Lol.

    I work at a hospital, and ALL the docs. drive a porsche or a Hummer, the "real" hummer. Now, i don't see dancers driving around in hummers! Not that some of us could not, but this message makes a dancer seem kinda dumb don't ya think. Why would we let a SO live off us......maybe for love, and until he gets on his feet. And this is not called living off us, it's called support. I'll scratch you're back and you scratch mine.....Yes we are smart.

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    Yeah, this question definitely comes off as "why are strippers so stupid as to support a non-working SO?"

    Okay, here's me: I made my boyfriend move in with me to a town with two colleges and a miserable economy. People fiercely compete for the mall jobs - when I worked as a cashier at the grocery store there were several people in my same position with a BA or BS, and one girl with a masters in mechanical engineering - she couldn't find a job in the area. My bf had a well-paying job where he used to live. I don't want him to work weekends because frequently I want to go and try working another city, and don't want to do 3+ hour drives on my own [no, public transport isn't really an option]. So, in this town it isn't surprising someone who doesn't want to work weekends or food service doesn't have a job.
    I'd 1,000x rather have him here with me than far away, even if it meant a larger income.
    Wherever we settle next the job situation has to be better than this one.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CrescentLuna
    Yeah, this question definitely comes off as "why are strippers so stupid as to support a non-working SO?"

    Okay, here's me: I made my boyfriend move in with me to a town with two colleges and a miserable economy. People fiercely compete for the mall jobs - when I worked as a cashier at the grocery store there were several people in my same position with a BA or BS, and one girl with a masters in mechanical engineering - she couldn't find a job in the area. My bf had a well-paying job where he used to live. I don't want him to work weekends because frequently I want to go and try working another city, and don't want to do 3+ hour drives on my own [no, public transport isn't really an option]. So, in this town it isn't surprising someone who doesn't want to work weekends or food service doesn't have a job.
    I'd 1,000x rather have him here with me than far away, even if it meant a larger income.
    Wherever we settle next the job situation has to be better than this one.
    I understand your situation, I'd probably do the same.

    I don't like the context of this question, It could have been asked differently. I would have settled for,"Do a lot of dancers deal with freeloaders, bums, etc for SO?".....Oh well.


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    "Majority"....Hmmmm.

    When I was dancing, I wasn't a mother and I wasn't bitter about any of my exes.

    Frankly, I don't see your point here really.

    You state that most strippers let their boyfriends live off of them, and what not. People in general do, It's not just dancers.

    So what's your point?


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    Quote Originally Posted by Regular Forever
    Sorry, that doesn't come off like what I meant (Love is blind?)
    What I was trying to say is that people in this situation often don't step back and acknowledge how badly they are being treated.
    I don't know how it is in other parts of the country, but here, it seems as though the majority of strippers are single moms, most of whom are fairly bitter about their ex.
    I think the majority of PEOPLE out there, regardless of their sex are bitter about their ex. Shame, but it's true.
    I would also have to disagree that you'd find a greater number of dancer single moms than you would in any other profession. This is an epidemic in our society today and hardly limited to the sex industry.
    I think you are over-simplifying here a lot.

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    My good friend is a family practice physician, fully supporting her husband who is in med school right now. I don't think either of them have a problem with this since education is an investment.

    I've worked with several dancers though that support their loser boyfriends, so I know what you speak of RF. Just remember, there is no specific requirement to be a stripper, or than to be physically up to par, and willingness to get naked. Thus, the industry will attract all types of women looking for make fast cash. In general, I have been suprised at the different type of girls I've met who are supporting some loser, but none of them have seemed like the brightest of bulbs, IMO. Remember, I've seldomly become more than casual friends with dancers over almost 7 years, too much drama....

    I'll bet there are plenty of girls working for minumum wage that are still giving all of their income to their SO......I think you should rephrase the question, considering most of us SW are not the norm......

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    It has happened to me before. Wait, I have allowed this unfortunate situation to enter my life before. I don't care to elaborate on the details.

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    I guess I didn't realize how quickly feathers get ruffled here.
    So, I'll back off and just do some lurking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Regular Forever
    I am surprised at how many seemingly smart and pretty dancers seem to be unable to see how much their SO is taking advantage of them- while supposedly looking for a job, attending school, whatever.

    How many of you are supporting a guy, and for what reason?

    How many of you have been left in the lurch after he gets what he wants, or after you stopped supporting him?

    How many of you have really enjoyed the benefits of supporting a SO in the long run?

    Truthful answers might be an indication of just how intelligent a stripper really is.
    Okay, just because you seem so nice, and not at all like the average customer, I'll tell you the truth... the truth is that we all support awful abusive boyfreinds who refuse to work and beat us if we come home with less than $200. At night we lay in bed and dream of being swept away by a handsome, sensitive man like you who will take care of us and respect us....

    Oh, woops, that's not the truth. Truth is I'm lesbian and single. I've become financially entangled with girlfreinds a couple times, once when one co-signed for my auto loan, and then after we broke up she wanted the truck back (imagine that! I was 16 and stupid.) Another time a girlfreind and her daughter lived with me. We worked about the same # of hours per week, but I made three or four times what she did, so we combined part of our money and I contributed a lot to her daughters clothes/medical bills/etc. When we broke up I paid for her to move far, far away.



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    Heh, I knew alot of women who would never "stoop" to stripping who always supported a man. Perhaps some of these women are drawn into the biz because they see they can make more money to support the leaches they live with. I've also seen plenty who supported a man as newbies and were eventually shown the light by other girls in the biz, and quit putting up with it. At any rate this is FAR from exclusive to strippers. I'm willing to bet that alot of women you guys currently work with are supporting men at home, and they may or may not admit it. I've seen restaurant and factory workers doing it, secretaries and execs doing it, massage therapists (the licensed kind) and a lawyer too.

    I have never supported a man and I never will. And since you seem to know some secret the rest of us don't, I'll let you decide whether you think that's the truth or not

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    I occasionaly work with musicans and, as infrequently as posible, with rock bands. Years ago I was working with this one band - 5 members, none with a day gig - that was trying to get signed. Two of the members had girlfriends that where dancers. These two women paid the rent on a house that the band lived, reheaersed and partied in. One day the band told me that they were breaking up. Seems the girlfriends had wised up to the fact that there was an orgy situation going on at the house (that included their boyfriends) while they were working nights in the club to support these losers. The two dancers dumped the BF's and the band had top move out of the house. These kids were not even 20 years old yet but they learned a leason that everyone has to learn in life. There are givers and takers in all occupations and in all walks of life. People get taken advantage of every day.

    BTW, what do you call a drummer without a girlfriend?
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us
    I occasionaly work with musicans and, as infrequently as posible, with rock bands. Years ago I was working with this one band - 5 members, none with a day gig - that was trying to get signed. Two of the members had girlfriends that where dancers. These two women paid the rent on a house that the band lived, reheaersed and partied in. One day the band told me that they were breaking up. Seems the girlfriends had wised up to the fact that there was an orgy situation going on at the house (that included their boyfriends) while they were working nights in the club to support these losers. The two dancers dumped the BF's and the band had top move out of the house. These kids were not even 20 years old yet but they learned a leason that everyone has to learn in life. There are givers and takers in all occupations and in all walks of life. People get taken advantage of every day.

    BTW, what do you call a drummer without a girlfriend?
    This story strangely reminds me of an ex boyfriend. He was a musician (terrible musician) but he wanted to be signed to a record label. He had no job, lived with his parents, etc. I started dating him because I figured.....Why make a deal about him not having a job? Stupid, I know. We dated for 5 months, He asked me to marry him yet he wanted me to live with him and his parents. He refused to 'get a job'....In his mind, If he got a job...He'd miss out on all of those wonderful phone calls he'd get from record labels begging him to be signed. I never supported him. He paid for his shit, I paid for mine. He asked me to support him a few times but that's not how I swing. I eventually broke up with him.

    Now 4 years later.....He's 34, lives with his parents, no job, and is still waiting to get signed.


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    It's a common tail. Musicians with dreams of being "THE NEXT BIG THING" are afraid that to give in and get a dayjob means giving up that dream. Strangely enough, most of the FEMALE wanna-be rock stars I've known have had jobs supporting themselves-house cleaner, convenience store, hell I worked with one woman who was a dancer during the daytime and singer in a rock band at night.

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    I have never supported a boyfriend but I guess you could say I did support my husband for a bit, and by the way he's no loser.

    He opened a tattoo shop and for about two years I was the soul support for the houseold bills, all the moeny he made had to go back into the shop. My husband and I are partners in every sense and I didn't think twice about doing this. I do know some girls that are supporting their nonworking boyfriends, I get tired of them complainign about it, just freakin' leave 'em!

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    Susan I think it's rather different when one partner opens a business and the other pays the household bills. That's a partnership where you both did your parts to get the business off the ground. A COMPLETELY different thing than paying the bills for some asswipe who sits around the house all day playing nintendo, or whatever the damn games are nowadays

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    Good or bad, stereotypes exist for a reason. It could very well be true that these stereotypical qualities exist in the stripper profession. What should be analyzed is what percentage of dancers have these qualities, and compare that with the percentage of people in the general population. To be more accurate, you would need to break down the different types of strippers you had based on bikini/topless/nude, etc - and compare them with a comparable group of individuals - naturally female and of a typically similar social status and age. You would likely want to specifically choose females in the same age group who work.

    When you're done with that, you can have a study regarding the childhoods and personalities of the men who go to strip clubs.
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    Honestly, My man does not work, We have been together 3 years, he does not work, He is crippled!!!
    He gets disability, but that covers rent, thats about it. If we need help, his parents are always happy to help. They know we are both in school and he cant work, so it is up to me.

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    oh, I will jsut throw this in there, He is not abusive either.

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