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    I'm new to dancing and have just moved to an upscale club (thanks to advice from people here). . . Besides the usual body-image issues, intimidation in the face of lots of beautiful women, etc, I'm having a hard time figuring out how to _act_ like a stripper. I grew up doing modern dance and ballet, but nothing in my background has really prepared me for this part of the job-- I'm used to being my blunt, smart alecky self, and was never much good at flirting. Can anyone give me some ideas to work with? I want some sense of how to "be myself" but also get dances. . .

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    Hi there!

    Well you have a dancing background, that will keep you on you're toes just fine! You're best bet is to practice what you see from other dancers at the club at home in front of a mirror. Also listen as well to what top earners say to customers!

    Smile, it's always an invitation! Say hi to all customers sitting. Walk around, be seen. And dress very hot sexy and cute at the same time.....If that makes sense. In other words play up you're best physical features! And let the smiling take over the words pretty much until you get more experience.

    Don't expect to have it all down in a night or week.

    Watch, listen and do what top earners do! You will get it soon!

    Good luck.

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    Being a smart aleck can sometimes work for you as long as you look sweet and sexy. Don't worry too much about "acting like a stripper"--in fact, I would say actively avoid it--and instead concentrate on being friendly and flirty, whatever that means for your personality. Trial and error will teach you what works and what doesn't.

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    Good advice from Pam.

    I am also a bit of a smart aleck and find it works well for me. Lots of guys enjoy a stripper with a snappy comeback. IMO there isn't really any specific way a stripper acts, other than playing up the sexy entertaining parts and playing down the rest. Like an exaggeration of your "best" qualities. Think of a fantasy girl - she is always sexy, always in a good mood, always flirty, coy, entertaining, etc. Never bitchy, mean, sad, mad, etc. That's what you strive for.

    You'll see what parts of yourself work best if you pay attention. When you find something that works, repeat.

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    Lots of guys enjoy a stripper with a snappy comeback.
    This always seems to work for me.
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    I think it's OK to be a bit of a smart-aleck as long as it comes across as friendly and flirty, and not as a put-down. Anything that sets you apart is good.

    A few people have posted here about being told they're "too smart" or "intimidating" ... you might want to take a look at those posts. I had some of these same concerns when I started. I didn't think I had "stripper personality"... but every customer has a different idea of the ideal dancer. For some, you're already it, for others you never will be. For the vast majority, you can adjust to suit them. You just have to figure out how to read people. It takes awhile, but you'll get the hang of it.

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    The key is to remember that you are selling fantasy, everybody enjoys there fantasies if you can work it you will sell it. Have fun with it and watch everybody else have fun too!

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    As always, great comments so far. I'm not a fan of dancers who appear to be making an effort to act "like strippers." I want to feel like I'm talking to a real, friendly human being--who just happens to be beautiful and naked and perhaps on my lap. Snappy comebacks are great as long as they are friendly and fun. My favorite clubs are those in which the dancers are friendly and genuine.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DeepGreen
    I want to feel like I'm talking to a real, friendly human being--who just happens to be beautiful and naked and perhaps on my lap.
    There you go...act like that....pretend you actually WANT to be naked and writhing around in his lap. Once you've convinced yourself, its much easier to convince him you care

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    There you go...act like that....pretend you actually WANT to be naked and writhing around in his lap. Once you've convinced yourself, its much easier to convince him you care
    LMAO... ... I'm not sure whether I was just agreed with or totally slammed... Either way, I find that Katrine usually knows of what she speaks....
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