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    I just broke up with my bf of nine and a half months. However, since mid-June, we were kind of working on a long-distance relationship and I didn't really care that much, so I did AWESOME in the summer. Stupid me went back to him in September, got all sprung and my money has been shitty since. However, after I left him a week and a half ago, when I go to work, I'm doing a lot better. He would always give me shit about "shaking my ass" and how it was just the most degrading profession, but since I left him, I'm doing pretty good at work.

    So, do you think you do better dancing without a man? Why or why not? Just want to hear some opinions here.

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    Default Re: No Boyfriend=more Money

    I think it depends on the relationship whether or not you make money.If you have a great relationship with your SO,then money can be awesome,but if you are arguing on a constant basis,then you probably won't make nearly as much.
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    I think if you have an asshole for a bf, it will negatively affect your money. But if you have a good one, your money will either not be affected or will increase because you're in a good mood

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    Default Re: No Boyfriend=more Money

    whether it's a boyfriend, family member, or anybody else who is telling you that 'stripping' is degrading, that you are 'trash' etc. , just having negative thoughts left over from contact with such people is guaranteed to affect your ability to do your job well and to earn major bucks as a result.

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    I do better because I am so horney that I want to play with everyone! The guys (and girl customers) seem to sense it. I dance better, sexier, and I am so much more into it. I love dancing anyhow, but it is just more fun now that I don't have to worry about hurting someone's feelings because of my job. I felt guilty before. Now it's just fun!!!
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    Well, for myself I generally tend to do better when I have a bf. I don't mess around with twits who can't deal with my job, so that's not a concern. And when I'm getting laid it boosts my energy and appetite. If I'm single and haven't been laid in a while I start getting sexually frustrated and that screws me up. I also notice I do better on nights just after having some good sex I dunno but I think the guys can smell it on me.

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    I have to agree with Bridgette. If I'm off to work after a good lay, (especially if I showered previously and the smell of sex is lingering) I seem to do quite well. Actually, my boyfriend is driving me apeshit right now, and come to think of it, I did horribly at work last week and we were fighting. Ugh, it's good to be home and have my solitude. He lives in South Dakota, and this long distance shit is stressing me out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pimpy718
    So, do you think you do better dancing without a man? Why or why not? Just want to hear some opinions here.
    Just my 2 cents.
    I have seen COUNTLESS stripper "boyfriends" over the years.
    99.99% are pure shit.

    Most dont have jobs.
    Those that do always seem to lose thier job soon after moving in with a dancer.(and have to start working at the club of course)
    Most have drug and alchy addictions.(the drug dealers in most clubs always seem to be stripper boyfriends)
    Most are abusive,either physical or mental.
    Most leave the relationship with more then they came with.(many steal the dancer blind)

    The proof is in the pudding.

    How many entertainers do you know who have been in the same relationship for 5 years??
    A few out of the zillions you have met???(what does that tell you?)
    Then ask yourself,do you know ANY that have been in the same relationship for 10+ years??Its like finding a needle in a haystack.

    Just go to your own club for the proof,its in the dressing room.
    Ask all the girls who have been in this industry for 5 years...
    Are you still with the same man that you were with when you started dancing?
    Sad odds are,most will say no.
    Then ask if they started a relationship while a dancer before and did it work?
    Most will say yes,then no.

    Then ask them if they are currently in a relationship.
    Most will say yes.
    Ask them if they think this relationship will work forever.
    Again,most will say yes.

    Yes i have met some great guys who were "boyfriends",but even the nice guys seem to come unglued as the months go by,and its always something to do with the job or the J word.
    Yes all the ladies on the forum who are in current relationships will be the ones who beat the odds and live happy ever after with their boyfriends,this warning is for the single ones who are thinking of starting a relationship.

    Its a common thought to go to collage and NOT get married or have kids till you graduate,I wish entertainers had the same thought patterns.

    Its a sad fact,but none the less a fact,this industry kills relationships.

    It would be so much less drama if entertainers just had boytoys and/or girltoys.
    Find um
    feed um
    fuck um
    Kick them to the curb before the sun comes up.

    Im a firm supporter of the "entertainer safe sex bootey call" and would always vote against a "entertainer relationship".

    "boyfriends" are stripper "speedbumps".They slow down the process of an entertainer achieving thier pre set goals.oftentimes,preventing the goals altogether.

    Sorry to the boyfriends who may be reading this.

    Just my 2 cents.

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    I do way, waY, wAY, WAY BETTER when I'm SINGLE!!!

    Fu*k dem boyfriends!! I'll take the $$$$ instead!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigGreenMnM
    It would be so much less drama if entertainers just had boytoys and/or girltoys.
    Find um
    feed um
    fuck um
    Kick them to the curb before the sun comes up.

    Im a firm supporter of the "entertainer safe sex bootey call" and would always vote against a "entertainer relationship".

    "boyfriends" are stripper "speedbumps".They slow down the process of an entertainer achieving thier pre set goals.oftentimes,preventing the goals altogether.
    Just my 2 cents.
    Lol. I give this post a . Thanx Green.

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    Did I do better without having a boyfriend? Well....Hmm. When I started dancing I had a boyfriend but his jealousy/childish acts just got on my nerves. After that relationship, I pretty much played the field. Kind of like what BigGreen said......I had my needs, got my rocks off, and kicked them out the next day. I could never manage a serious boyfriend while I was dancing. The insecurity and jealousy frankly just got on my nerves.

    I am sure there are some men out there that wouldn't get jealous or annoyed so fast. But I frankly didn't find any while I was dancing. They'd be cool for a while but most would get annoyed or jealous.


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    Beh, whatever. I make the most money I've ever made now and have had a boyfriend for 2.5 years. Its not because I have a relationship, its because my skills have improved over time. He isn't happy with my dancing, but he's known about it since we met. I just don't talk much about it. That's fine, ppl's job tend to be boring anyway...

    So ya'll get to hear about it,hehe......

    And no Big Green, don't give me the Opportunity Cost argument because it isn't relevant. I think entertrainers can do fine in relationships. As a matter of fact, it keeps many girls safer and cleaner, as it might dissuade them from taking too many sketchy offers....this is w a cool SO of course....and I guess when I was 21, I didn't exactly date the most mature men, that's what kids do.....

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    In the past, I would have said yes to kick the guy to the curb, but now I have a great boyfriend that is fine with dancing and I have been with him for 4 years.

    I do think it is a hoot when customers go on and on about loser boyfriends when they are usually loser husbands or can't get a girl to go out with them. It is so much easier to point the finger at others.

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    Having a partner who isn't cool with your dancing is a problem in more ways than one. Chances are their are other problems in the relationship also.

    The more stable dancers I know who are married or in long term live together relationships and whose guy has decent income don't seem to face that problem of having a guy who dislikes their dancing.

    These guys see the dancer income as extra savings or welcome help in paying the bills, and they actually go in the club from time to time excited every time they see their mate sell a dance.

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    Well BigGreen, most strippers being very young, will lack experience and tend to date very young guys. Very young guys generally DON'T make very good boyfriends. When I was younger I dated older because the guys my age just didn't get it. Now I'm older I tend to date younger (still avoid the babies, I've just gotten older LOL) because guys my age and older tend to have too much baggage that I prefer not to deal with. Point is, a young stripper dating a young guy is almost ALWAYS gonna have problems.

    Also as we age we (hopefully) get better at picking boyfriends. I know I have. I have always tended to go extended periods between bfs because I won't date em unless they pass the rigorous Patented Bridgette Dating Tests. My relationships have gotten consistently better as a result and I personally have not been with someone over 5 years because I couldn't see myself settling down before.

    In order to remain highly profitable in this business I have found it necessary to move/travel alot and that tends to put a damper on most relationships. I agree that most strippers should hold off on marriage until the dancing is done. Of course it's a choice - consistently profitable stripping career and marriage rarely go together simply because of logistics, and I have made my choice thus far. When the dancing is done I can worry about settling down.

    Most people in these modern times don't find a lifetime or longterm partner until they're in their late 20s or 30s. Most strippers are younger than that. Most people date and have relationships before finding someone to settle down with though. We could consider it practice. So let the strippers practice their relationship skills

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