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    Hi all,

    First of all I think I should give you some background info on me and my situation...: Am 23, A guy, and in London UK...

    About 3 months ago a friend and I went out clubbing, (not a strip club) I have never been to one and now that I am in this situation would feel weird going...Although i having nothing against stripping...!

    Anyways we went out and at about 4 am we were just sitting on our motorbikes, deciding on going home or somewhere else, when out of nowhere the most amazing girl appeared... I felt compelled to speak to her!! And did, she eventually asked for my number after having conversed for 15minutes or so...

    We sent each other text messages for the next few months, and nearly arranged to meet, but never got round to it...

    About 1 month ago, she out of the blue sends me a text message saying that things were hectic in her life and now they are better and asks me if I want to meet her...

    I agreed and arranged to meet her with a few friends, and one of her dancing friends, the night went amazingly, and we eventually had sex, the best I have ever had in my entire life, we just fit well together...(dont know if that makes anysense)

    We have now been meeting more and more regularly, and I am starting to like her very much, she seems to be liking me very much too (we have the deepest conversations, we have a good laugh, and I generally feel really comfortable around her...)

    I dont think I have a problem with the job she does, she is a stripper in one of London's most exclusive clubs, and she made it quite clear that she never sleeps with her clients, (in a weird kind of way I believe her!!!) but my instincts are saying "be careful dude she is a striper!!!"

    I am not very worried about that because I want to trust her since we have such a good connection...

    My main worry though is that she is very much looking for a serious relationship, or so it seems... Do I trust her or do I put up a barrier to protect myself...Is she using me for something I have never even thought I could be used for??? Or is she genuinely interested in me?? She has been dancing for a few years now, so I guess she isn't a newbie...

    Do you think its possible for a dancer to have a normal relationship with someone while they are doing this kind of job??

    I am really sorry to have posted this Extra extra long post, but am just really confused and think that you girls are probably my best bet for inside information...;o)

    Yours,

    Weird situation

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    Have a read around this site. Of course we can have normal relationships. We're human and in the end not that much different from other women. We like to have a good man, we can be loyal and honest, etc etc. The biggest difference is strippers tend to be more confident with their bodies and sexuality.

    And get rid of your preconceived notions about strippers please. The fact that a woman dances with or without clothes for money in no way means she's fucking her customers. Well, other than perhaps raping their wallets

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    Quote Originally Posted by weirdsituation

    Do you think its possible for a dancer to have a normal relationship with someone while they are doing this kind of job??

    Weird situation
    In my experience, the answer to this question depends more on the guy than the girl.
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    It sounds like you've already formed at least a partial opinion on the woman you just met based on the fact that she is involved in an occupation that you know nothing about. Do yourself a favor: Judge her for who she is and not what you've heard about the job she does.

    No one can guarantee that any relationship will work out but you are starting of with one huge strike against it if you can't put you pre-concieved notions aside.

    The major stumbling block right now is you, not her or her job.

    Good luck and hopefully, even if it doesn't work out with this woman, you will learn something from the experience
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    Sounds like any regular relationship to me. I often questioned the moral turpitude and ethical integrity of my graphic designer boyfriend. After all, someone has to draw all that smutty porno graphic art, comic books, and god forbid violent video games and cartoons such as Southpark.

    What if I was dealing with a sociopathic dastard scamp the likes of who havn't been seen since R. Crumb!

    But over time, I let my barrier down against this seemingly unscrupulous vocation, and realized.....

    Dood, its just his job and he leaves his shit at the office when he comes home to me every night! I suggest you think about it in the same manner

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    Depends. She did hit on you asking for you're number in the wee hours. She is paid to flirt and strip. Now, does she want you in the club and paying for a dance? Does she ask for rides to work or to borrow money? Anything here seem like it's not kind of a boyfriend girlfriend situation? Has she asked you just come and watch her at work.... But not paying her?

    Sorry with the questions, but if you are second guessing this, and you seem to be. Feel the situation out like you would any other woman. Because she strips does not mean she will hit on other men. Maybe she really likes you alot! Maybe not. You will know is you by her actions in time.

    People usually know when they are being used, or cheated on. It's that feeling i hear about all too often.

    I say, chill with her, get to know her better. But have a guard up...She slept with you on the first night. And i hate to sound like a prude, really, but you need to watch for signs that maybe she just does this kinda thing, OR maybe she does not, you are the first!!

    Good luck.

    Pamela

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    OH YEAH DUDE be carefull we SLEEP with any and every guy that comes our way man!


    We all just love to fuck strangers brains out left and right... HELL ill take 10 on at a time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




    That aside... not all strippers are whores.. mose are just trying to make a living and or going to school...


    im married with a kid.. if i want ass i got some at home..

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    Seems like this thread probably should have been posted on the Customer Conversation board...but be that as it may... If you go into this relationship with a suspicious attitude or looking for something "wrong" or insidious with this woman, you will probably find some way to convince yourself that the relationship is a bad idea--it's called a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you like this woman as much as you say that you do, treat her exactly the same way that you would treat any person with whom you were embarking on a relationship. Somehow treating her differently or putting up barriers because she is a stripper is guaranteed to cause problems later on. On the other hand, despite your claims to the contrary, it seems like you might have issues with her choice of professions. Are you going to be one of those boyfriends who suddenly finds that he feels very uncomfortable with his SO stripping? If so, maybe you should save you (and her) some grief later on, and just admit that you have emotional issues that prevent you from being happy dating a stripper. Either way, the choice is more likely about you than about her.
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    Dude, sounds like all is good and fine. Yes one can have a normal relationship while dancing - it honestly isn't that hard.
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    dude, you can either be a man and trust her, regardless of her profession, or dont. If you cant handle it, tell her so she doesnt expect a relationship.

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    Default Re: Please give me your help, One confused young man here...

    Don't look at what she does for a living. Just trust your instincts(they never lie) as you're getting to know her(just like any other girl) more day by day.

    And no, not all strippers sleep with their customers & do things. Get that thought out of your head. They're job is to "tease" not "please".

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    Default Re: Please give me your help, One confused young man here...

    Just think this would go better in Customer Convo...so, moving it there...

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    Trust someone until they give you a reason not to. Has she given you a reason not to trust her? It doesn't sound like it. Just because she strips doesn't mean she's more likely to cheat than someone that works in an office.

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    Quote Originally Posted by weirdsituation
    Hi all,
    Anyways we went out and at about 4 am we were just sitting on our motorbikes, deciding on going home or somewhere else, when out of nowhere the most amazing girl appeared... I felt compelled to speak to her!! And did, she eventually asked for my number after having conversed for 15minutes or so...
    OK, perhaps I've become hopelessly cynical, but doesn't this sound exactly like the opening paragraph of a new writer's first shot on the staff of Penthouse Letters?

    "Out of nowhere the most amazing girl appeared?"

    Out of nowhere the most amazing cliche appeared.

    2nd reality check. Guys never, ever call themselves "young man."

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    ^ That seems to happen a lot on here.


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    Default Re: Please give me your help, One confused young man here...

    I generally don't comment on initial posts by curious guests, but...

    I had an amazing girl appear at 4AM when I was in high school. We had sex at least one night a week for a year. Then I got a hot girlfriend and my night girl never came back. I still miss her. I hope she's in someone else's wet dreams now, cuz she was the best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Other Owner
    OK, perhaps I've become hopelessly cynical, but doesn't this sound exactly like the opening paragraph of a new writer's first shot on the staff of Penthouse Letters?

    "Out of nowhere the most amazing girl appeared?"

    Out of nowhere the most amazing cliche appeared.

    2nd reality check. Guys never, ever call themselves "young man."

    You know, that's what I think every time from out of nowhere the most beautiful girl appears. Oh well, one day I'll just learn to accept it.
    "He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"

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    The guy is English, they write and speak more formally. Referring to himself as young man doesn't seem that innapropriate. There are other inconsistencies in the story, but I wouldn't nitpick on that part....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    The guy is English, they write and speak more formally. Referring to himself as young man doesn't seem that innapropriate. There are other inconsistencies in the story, but I wouldn't nitpick on that part....
    Kat, you know I'm crazy about you, but here's how the male mind works: A guy would sooner call himself a cowardly impotent spineless twit than "young man." It's even worse in English culture because it's how the upperclass parents refer to their sons as they are licking their little boys' combs to comb down their hair. It's why the boys end up pulling wings off of flies and torturing underclassmen at public boarding schools.

    Anyway, you're right: it's the rest of the story that's the problem.

    Guys who are approached by beautiful women don't talk like this. Trust me. The sex-on-the-first-date thing is what a guy who doesn't get laid much says. Trying way too hard.

    It's never the beautiful women who are the problem. It's the ugly ones. It's the homely ones. It's the heavy ones. It's the aggressive ones. It only takes two drinks for them to get up the courage and then they are going to come after you.
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    ^ Agreed.
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    Hey,

    Sorry I didn't reply any sooner, but have spent my entire Sunday with her it was amazing!!!

    To the people that replied in beginning of post, thank you, I am very grateful!!! I have spent the whole of Saturday night and Sunday with her and have found that she is even more amazing!!! We defo have a connection!!! I have to say that the main reason why I posted was not only for advice, but also for reassurance... I haven't and dont want to talk about my "Dancer friend" to my mates, they will just put her in the "she must be a whore" category which I definitely dont want!!! So you guys were and still are my best bet to get stuff off my chest in a completely honest way!!!

    To those that got cynical towards the end of the post I have one thing to say to you:

    Smoking Weed makes you paranoid stop smoking, the world is not against you, and there are still some genuine people in the world!!!! Yes even on the Internet!!! Now remember this is not a personal dig at you, I am just explaining that I am genuine!!! Oh and please dont answer back with any insults.... (Kind of pointless wouldn't you agree???)

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    Quote Originally Posted by weirdsituation
    Hey,


    To those that got cynical towards the end of the post I have one thing to say to you:

    Smoking Weed makes you paranoid stop smoking, the world is not against you, and there are still some genuine people in the world!!!! Yes even on the Internet!!! Now remember this is not a personal dig at you, I am just explaining that I am genuine!!! Oh and please dont answer back with any insults.... (Kind of pointless wouldn't you agree???)

    Weirdsituation
    Dude, that last comment was completely unnecessary. You came on to a chat board asking for opinions and you got them. Some you agreed with and obviously some you didn't. If you don't want honesty you are on the wrong board. A blanket insult to everyone who doubted your story is not going to help your credibility here. At first, I thought you might be sincere. At this point I highly doubt it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us
    Dude, that last comment was completely unnecessary. You came on to a chat board asking for opinions and you got them. Some you agreed with and obviously some you didn't. If you don't want honesty you are on the wrong board. A blanket insult to everyone who doubted your story is not going to help your credibility here. At first, I thought you might be sincere. At this point I highly doubt it.
    Yoda, you are right, I did come onto this board and asked for opinion's, but to be compared to a first time writer for playboy or some stuff like that, is not the kind of response I was expecting from the post, I mean I was being very Honest and I thought that showed from the post I typed... obviously not...

    I didn't come on here to have a bitching match, I came here to ask for help and advice, which by the way I received at the beginning of my thread, the fact that I didn't respond to the post for 1 day might have caused those doubts but it doesn't justify them...

    Do you think it is abnormal of me to respond like this???

    Apart from that, I feel that she is an amazing girl, and will definitely give her my trust although I will be careful since my heart has been broken in the past...

    Yours

    Weirdsituation,

    Ps: if in your view I offended anyone unnecessarily I apologise... (Rather rare for a young man...lol)


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    ah...... young love.... i remember what that was like....

    and yes women do hapen to appear out of knowhere... my mum used to do it every time i thought i was gonna get lucky with some pretty young thing

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    out of my system!!!

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