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    why don't I like it?

    I wanted to be a stripper all through high school and then when I got to college I went and tried out and got a job on my first audition. I danced four times and for some reason I just felt like I couldn't do it anymore. I called the club and told them I didn't think I could come in anymore. I can't even really explain why I didn't like it. It felt like once I started I instantly felt like a different person and I didn't like that at all. Part of me still feels like I really wanna do it and part of me feels like I made the right decision by quitting. Did anyone else go through this phase of uncertainty? My guess is just that I might be too young still because I'm only 18. I don't know what to do now. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanx.

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    Default Re: why don't I like it?

    No surprise. Lots of girls start dancing and find out it's really a lot more of a job than they thought. It's damn hard work, even under the best of "glamourous" circumstances.

    I'm curious....what did you think about it when you were in high school? What sort of images did you have? What did you do to get ready for dancing? In other words, what sort of bubble did you have that got burst when you actually started dancing?

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    yes. I felt the same thing. I danced p/t for maybe a month when I very first started and then I quit. I just didn't like it. Only to try again 1 1/2 - 2 years later. I danced for 8 years the 2nd time around.

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    i am i that smae situation now. thanx for posting. i don't know what to do either

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    Default Re: why don't I like it?

    The thing is that you might have had an idea as to what stripping was like by watching tv or movies. Lots of times, they glorify that kind of lifestyle or they completely dog it. Usually women decide to strip because they like the "glorified" part of it and think its gonna be great, tons of money all the time, etc. When they get into the business they realize its not all its cracked up to be.

    Maybe you just dont like it. Its not that every dancer loves their job.
    Good luck hun.

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    Default Re: why don't I like it?

    I also had some really off the wall pre-concieved notions about dancing. I thought because I am beautiful guys would throw money at me and I'd be living like a goddess. What a joke. It's the most emotionally challenging job I have ever had. I think you made the right decision in either quitting or waiting. I never would have been able to handle it at 18 - and I give credit to those who can and do. I also didn't realize how much of a bull shitter you have to be, and sometimes that part really gets to me. I love being on stage, it's really the only part of the job I ever liked or fantasized about before I became a dancer.... it will also be the only thing I miss when I quit. ... other than the cool ass bitches I became friends with. But for me, I can't wait til the day I graduate from college and can hang up the shoes for-ever. This industry is filled with so many negative stereo- types not to mention how it changes you even if you never intend to let it. Like you, I always knew I wanted to be a dancer... I auditioned worked a night and never came back for 6 years. Now I do it full time, for almost 2 years. I lived the fantasy but would like to return to reality as soon as possible.

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    Yeah you are all right, I definetely had a preconceived notion about what it was going to be like. Its not the dancing or even the nudity that bothers me. It is more of the part when you are off the stage when you have to talk to the guys and try to get them to buy dances. I guess I am not as good of a people person as I thought. In highschool I thought that most of the money you made was from dancing on stage but that is completely WRONG. Which sucks because that is the only part I liked. I also thought that you would make at the very least 100 dollars a night. But the second night I worked some of the girls that had been working there a long time had to take my last spot on stage because they didn't have enough to tip out. I also hated having to look into the guys eyes when you gave them a lap dance. I feel like I should only let people I really love look into my eyes like that. But I think after I have time to mature a little bit I'll try it again. Thanks for everyones opinions.

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    Default Re: why don't I like it?

    Don't stress yourself or put too much pressure on yourself. You are only 18 and there's plenty of time to decide if you want to give it another try. In the mean time, you can try modeling or maybe even tryout for a pro-cheerleading team. Do something that makes you feel good. If exotic dance on stage makes you feel good, you can try traveling to Canada. I've heard that alot of the clubs there consist of stage dancing and very little lap dancing.

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