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    Lightbulb What's in your wallet?

    I thought I would share the results of an informal poll I took over on the "blue site".

    SgtD. posted on different thread here that he usually leaves a strip club with about half the money he had brought to spend. So I asked the guys on the blue site, "what percentage of your budget to you usually wind up spending on a typical strip club visit?"

    If you want to read all the responses, here it is:

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...6&page=1&pp=15

    I got a total of 13 responses with specific numbers and they were interesting. 54% (7 customers) reported that they usually spent at least 80% of what they had planned to spend. Some, much more than that. The main reason stated was that they had an ATF that they went to see and when they had spent what they brought, they left.

    However, 46% (6 customers) reported spending less than half of the money they had budgeted to spend in the club, most only spending about 40% of what was in their wallet.

    Now I know this is not scientific. I'm sure that the guys that post on the blue site are probably alot pickier about who they get dances from and such. But I also would bet that they go to a strip club alot more often that your typical customer too (they are called "junkies" after all). So I figure those two things even out.

    So I have come two conclusions. First, it is worth it to develop regulars. I know some girls on her do just fine without them and think they are more trouble than they are worth. But most girls in most clubs, I think will definitely make more money if they develop regulars. A lot of the guys that said they spend all or almost all of their money on a typical visit also said that when they don't have an ATF, there spending goes way down.

    My second conclusion is that about half the guys leaving a typical strip club have money in their wallets when they walk out the door. Ladies, this situation can not be allowed to continue. We just cannot have all these men leaving the club with their back pockets bulging with cash. It's bad for their posture and bad posture leads to back aches and lots of medical problems. So in the name of public health, lets get out there and hustle harder. Let's not rest until every last $20 bill is tucked safely into our garters where it belongs!

    In all seriousness, the responses did make me realize that next time I fell like complaining that things are too slow, that there are men leaving the club every shift with money to spend.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Thorn
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    LOL I think you mean EXclude.

    I agree many guys leave with $ in their pockets because they don't see anything to their liking, can't get the girl they want, or somebody pissed them off.

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    I just wanted to thank Destiny for coming over to the dark side to seek our input. You all are always welcome.

    Quote Originally Posted by Destiny
    Now I know this is not scientific. I'm sure that the guys that post on the blue site are probably alot pickier about who they get dances from and such. But I also would bet that they go to a strip club alot more often that your typical customer too (they are called "junkies" after all). So I figure those two things even out.
    Another thing that I might add is being on a website dedicated to strip clubs, the SCJ guys, and probably most guys on others strip club BBSs (TUSCL, Z-bone, etc.), are a bit more atune to the traps that the clubs sometimes set for us (like the ridiculous ATM fees and credit card surcharges), therefore we know that iits not in our best interest to whip the plastic out should the evening progess a little better than we expected it to when we walked into the club.

    A trip to the club (esspecially a new club) can really be a crapshoot sometimes. To make sure I have enough clams to cover the evenings festivities, I've usually found it a good idea to bring a tiproll that is considerably larger than what I expect to spend, but will be prepared to spend should circumstances dictate it (like I meet the girl of my dreams and she wisks me off to the VIP room). On the other hand, if things aren't going so great or I'm just not feeling up to it, I know that the money will always be good on another night. To be truthful, if I spent 40% of my tiproll, that would usually be a sign that it was probably a satisfactory evening, nothing spectacular, but nothing disapointing either.

    Then again, I'm earmarking about $375 for the big birthday bash on Tuesday and expect the fave to take at least half of that herself. So 40% in that case might mean disapointment. In any case, its best to be prepared. I don't want to have to do a repeat of last year's Mini Moon Pie debacle.
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    I usually bring about $500 with me when I go to a club--occasionally less, but never more.

    The problem is that even when I buy, 5, 10, 15 dances in a row, I'm not usually there long enough to spend what I bring, what with stage sets and bathroom visits and drink refills, et al, and especially since I have yet to find a VIP room that satisfies the CO CPD value proposition.

    I agree many guys leave with $ in their pockets because they don't see anything to their liking, can't get the girl they want, or somebody pissed them off.
    This has happened to me far more often than not, but like Destiny said, I'm picky.
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    Um, I bet I can get the whole $500 before you leave

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    ^ House sold, B, and I'm mostly done moving.

    We'll talk soon.

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    This is very interesting because it relates to an experience this last weekend. Typically, I go to a club with my wife, and bring about $600-$700, and am happy to spend it. There are two reasons why I might not, however. The first is if I cannot find a dancer to my liking, which is rare at the club I frequent.

    The second is more common, and happened this weekend. I had loads of cash in my pocket, and was looking to spend an hour in VIP with my wife (about $400 plus tip). We had spent a few hours in the club stage tipping, and had found two dancers who we both found very attractive. However, despite our best efforts, it was very difficult to get either to come over to us. Both my wife and I are very friendly, attractive (i.e., not gross), and both tip very well on stage. However, both dancers that we liked were off chatting with guys who were clearly not spending anything (regulars or not, I'm not sure). We waited for about an hour, trying to get their attention with no luck. I was just about to walk out of the door, annoyed, with $500 in my pocket unspent, when finally the dancer we had been asking for (through the waitress) finally came over.

    This doesn't seem all that uncommon. We come club with lots of cash and are dying to be relieved of it by a dancer who we find attractive--but the dancer seems intent on chatting up some guy who more often than not does not buy a dance at all, or buys one $20 dance. Now, if the guy is a regular, then that makes sense I suppose. But otherwise, the dancer is losing the opportunity to walk out with my $400-$500, in return for spending ages talking to some guy who is not spending a dime.

    So, there is something to be said for Destiny's comment: you "cannot have all these men leaving the club with their back pockets bulging with cash." Often I'm sitting there with my pockets uncomfortably full of bills, just begging to be "stripped" of my cash. If I could only find a dancer to come over to us... I feel like I should walk in the club with a sign on my back that says, "Please take my Money"...
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    However, both dancers that we liked were off chatting with guys who were clearly not spending anything (regulars or not, I'm not sure). We waited for about an hour, trying to get their attention with no luck. I was just about to walk out of the door, annoyed, with $500 in my pocket unspent, when finally the dancer we had been asking for (through the waitress) finally came over.
    This has happened to me many times. Usually, they're younger dancers hanging out with gangsta wannabes and the like who spend nothing but have some apparent appeal. So I inevitably find an older dancer that appreciates what CO brings to the table.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DeepGreen
    This is very interesting because it relates to an experience this last weekend. Typically, I go to a club with my wife, and bring about $600-$700, and am happy to spend it. There are two reasons why I might not, however. The first is if I cannot find a dancer to my liking, which is rare at the club I frequent.

    The second is more common, and happened this weekend. I had loads of cash in my pocket, and was looking to spend an hour in VIP with my wife (about $400 plus tip). We had spent a few hours in the club stage tipping, and had found two dancers who we both found very attractive. However, despite our best efforts, it was very difficult to get either to come over to us. Both my wife and I are very friendly, attractive (i.e., not gross), and both tip very well on stage. However, both dancers that we liked were off chatting with guys who were clearly not spending anything (regulars or not, I'm not sure). We waited for about an hour, trying to get their attention with no luck. I was just about to walk out of the door, annoyed, with $500 in my pocket unspent, when finally the dancer we had been asking for (through the waitress) finally came over.

    This doesn't seem all that uncommon. We come club with lots of cash and are dying to be relieved of it by a dancer who we find attractive--but the dancer seems intent on chatting up some guy who more often than not does not buy a dance at all, or buys one $20 dance. Now, if the guy is a regular, then that makes sense I suppose. But otherwise, the dancer is losing the opportunity to walk out with my $400-$500, in return for spending ages talking to some guy who is not spending a dime.

    So, there is something to be said for Destiny's comment: you "cannot have all these men leaving the club with their back pockets bulging with cash." Often I'm sitting there with my pockets uncomfortably full of bills, just begging to be "stripped" of my cash. If I could only find a dancer to come over to us... I feel like I should walk in the club with a sign on my back that says, "Please take my Money"...
    Same thing happens when my BF and I go to a club or if I go alone.

    If I go alone I'll usually put a stack of money on the edge of my table in plain view of any dancer that looks over......guess how many girls come up tp me for a tip.......0. None. Nada. (Unless of course there are girls I've worked with before and then they know the drill). Sometimes I make a game of it and tell myself that the first dancer to approach me will get the whole stack. Everytime I've played this game I went home with all the money still in my possesion. I don't know why dancers in my area don't ask women for tips more often. I know when I'm working I talk and flirt with everyone and ask everyone for money.

    If I'm with my BF, the same thing happens. We put money on the table in plain view and no one seems to want to get paid.

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    I answered on the blue site that I typically spend less than half. So one day I took the money I didn't spend and made out a check in that amount to Habitat for Humanity. They sent me Roofus, the mascot teddy bear, which I gave to my ATF former dancer, who's very health conscious. On the gift card I wrote, "I sleep with my teddy bear because I know where he's been." She loved that line.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darcy Hawthorne
    Same thing happens when my BF and I go to a club or if I go alone.

    If I go alone I'll usually put a stack of money on the edge of my table in plain view of any dancer that looks over......guess how many girls come up tp me for a tip.......0. None. Nada. (Unless of course there are girls I've worked with before and then they know the drill). Sometimes I make a game of it and tell myself that the first dancer to approach me will get the whole stack. Everytime I've played this game I went home with all the money still in my possesion. I don't know why dancers in my area don't ask women for tips more often. I know when I'm working I talk and flirt with everyone and ask everyone for money.

    If I'm with my BF, the same thing happens. We put money on the table in plain view and no one seems to want to get paid.
    No kidding... My wife and I will sit at the stage with stacks of cash in front of us, tipping 2-3 times what other guys at the stage are tipping. We go back to a table and I have gone so far as to take out a big stack of $20 bills and "count" them to see how much I have. I figure that's pretty obvious. We laugh that the dancers are working so hard with most guys to get a single $20 dance, when we'll happily drop hundreds in one evening....but so few dancers bother to come up and talk with us.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer
    This has happened to me many times. Usually, they're younger dancers hanging out with gangsta wannabes and the like who spend nothing but have some apparent appeal.
    Yes, and the end of their shift they are all in the dressing room complaing about how dead the club was and that they didn't make any money.
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    Actually, I'd love to chime in here because this is the exact topic I discuss with club owners and managers when they ask me about our class. It's an unfortunate answer I have to give them, and it's very much the truth. We are frequently asked, "If you were to come into our club and train all our students, how can ALL of them make more money? It doesn't make sense." Actually, it does. Here's why and kudos to Destiny for posting this thread.

    About a year ago, I started interviewing guys going into clubs to deterimine patterns on how they spend. I noticed that guys almost always walk in to a club with a pre-determined budget in their mind. It might be $1000 it might be $50 and of course some guys just want to come in, have their Bud-Lite and watch the Packers game. Aide from category 3 though, guys really do have a budget in their head either strongly in their conscious mind or on a subconscious level, they all know what they're willing to spend.

    This being said, let's say for the sake of argument that we have 100 guys inside of Club X right now. Across the board, the average budget is $100 per guy. Obviously some are going to be more and some less, but let's say it's $100 for this argument. This means that there is a big pie of cash in the club at this very moment totaling $10,000. Now some dancers are very effective at taking a larger slice of that $10,000 pie, and as we all know, the vast majority of them are not (about 80% as per the Pareto Principle). Let's focus on one of the 80% though. Here you have a customer sitting in the club for 20 or even 30 minutes and not one dancer has come up to him...I see it ALL the time in the clubs, busy or slow, or perhaps all that have approached him was the "wanna dance" girls and he blows them off. Eventually he gets bored and is looking at his watch every 30 seconds. So here comes one of the "wanna dance" girls, and this guy is bored out of his mind. He agrees to a dance and buys two or maybe even three dances from her. He then says he's done, pays her $60, finishes his beer, and walks out.

    Now, remember, this guys was happily willing to spend $100.00 but because most dancers in most clubs have no clue how to sell, he only spent $60.00. This means that $40.00 of his money walked right out the door. It was money that was WILLING to be spent, but wasn't for the reasons stated above. Now, multiply that by our 100 guys and this means that $4,000 walked right out of the club.

    Now, anyone who's worked in a club for a while that with the exception of a few people, most guys don't spend 6 or 8 hours in a club. Many of them want to come in, have some fun, and leave. It's about an hourish. So let's say that every hour the full complement of customers changes. In a 6 hour shift, that's $24,000 that literally just walked right out the door...it was money that was WILLING to be spent, but was never taken because the sales staff...er dancers, never did their job to the full level of effectiveness to make that happen.

    When I usually explain this to managers or owners the first response is (after they pick up their jaw from the floor) is "Holy s**t, I never thought of it that way."

    Just food for thought.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Destiny
    ....So I have come two conclusions. First, it is worth it to develop regulars. I know some girls on her do just fine without them and think they are more trouble than they are worth. But most girls in most clubs, I think will definitely make more money if they develop regulars. A lot of the guys that said they spend all or almost all of their money on a typical visit also said that when they don't have an ATF, there spending goes way down.
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    Regulars vs. No Regulars

    This seems to be a common theme on this site. My personal opinion is that having regulars or not having regulars will not necessarily effect how much you make, but rather how you choose to make it. In other words, I think dancers can be successful both with or without regs.

    For example, I'm a regular and I often go in to visit my favorite dancer. One Sun. afternoon, when it was moderately busy, I stopped in for a visit. My favorite dancer likes to socialize and prefers to work with regulars, while her friend has had a few bad experiences with them and feels in general they are more trouble than what they are worth. Luckily for me, she didn't have any other regs that day, so she basically hung out with me all afternoon; we had lunch, watched the TV, played some video game, conversed, and generally just relaxed and had a good time. Every now and then, when her friend wanted to take a quick break she would come over and join us. By the end of the day, they both made the same amount of money. Except her friend had to hustle all afternoon, was dog tired, and had to work with several customers. My fav. made the same amount, and basically just had to hang out with me.

    Now there have been other afternoons when it's been REALLY slow, in which case my fav. having a regular did much better; while there have been other days when it's been busy, and her friend went home with nearly double. In the long run though, they seem to even out.

    In my opinion having regs. is usually a trade off. They tend to be a little needier and expect to hang out with you for longer periods of time than the average customer. So the extra time you spend with a reg. is time you loose when you could have been working other customers.

    If a dancer works busy night shifts than she may have no need for regs., while a dancer who works slower day-time shifts may be a little more dependant on them. Just my two cents.

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    Now in terms of spending habits. I usually go into a club with a preset amount to spend ($300-$500). If my favorite dancer is there, I'll most likely spend my budget, unless she's just very busy, and in those cases, I'll leave to come back another time. If my favorite doesn't happen to be there, I might not hardly spend anything except for the cover, one drink and a few stage tips; maybe about $20 and leave with the rest. Although my time at the club will also be greatly reduced.
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    Quote Originally Posted by verfolgung
    If my favorite dancer is there, I'll most likely spend my budget, unless she's just very busy, and in those cases, I'll leave to come back another time.
    This means she's making more money than she would have hanging out with you. Granted, in slower times or when she doesn't have other customers, she does better to hang with you. But when money is flowing you get tossed aside. Regulars are only good for slow shifts. For girls who prefer this type of hustle and quieter shifts, regulars are necessary for steady income. For those of us who don't have the patience for slow shifts and all that schmoozing, regulars are a burden and cost us money - and more tiring.

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    Yes hun after dancing 9.5 years in more clubs than I am years old, I am quite aware of the situation in podunk clubs. I'm also aware that even in those clubs, on busy shifts, dealing with regulars is not profitable. I've worked some seriously podunk clubs. And I don't work in Las Vegas, Tampa or NYC. Well, I HAVE worked in Vegas but prefer other areas - lately there's too many girls and not enough custies most of the time. Currently I work in lil ol' Baltimore and I don't have a single regular, yet I manage to be a top earner every night. Even when it's not so busy, I work the whole room and do as well or better than the girls sitting with regs for half an hour+ before getting any dances

    Oh yeah...if you want to see some REAL podunk clubs with no tourism and a never-changing customer base, try Carthage, MO. I was a top girl there too, with NO regulars. HOURS away from any sort of civilization. Heh, that place was interesting
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    Quote Originally Posted by Thorn
    DG, you are missing something, I think.

    Some dancers have probably experienced this so chime in if I am correct in my assumption.

    Couples that come into clubs can be cool, well situated in their emotional being, and looking to have fun. They can also be a drama waiting to unfold and drag the dancer along for the ride.

    If I had a dollar for every wanna be lifestyle couple I have seen where the guy pressured his partner into doing something she wasn't really ready to deal with, or where the woman or man thought they were ready to deal with concepts of possessiveness and jealousy, only to have it blow up in their faces. {poof}

    I can well imagine it would make any dancer leary of approaching couples.
    You'll get no argument from me...I totally understand that there are lots of couples in SC who can be unpleasant. I've seen many. However, my wife and I are generally very obvious about having a great time. We are laughing all night, she is tipping both with me and by herself at the stage. We do everything we can think of short of standing up and yelling "Hey, we love being here...will someone please take our money!!" My point is that we try to make it very obvious that we have money, are having a good time, and want to spend it--but it still is hard to get dancers to approach us.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Destiny


    My second conclusion is that about half the guys leaving a typical strip club have money in their wallets when they walk out the door. Ladies, this situation can not be allowed to continue. We just cannot have all these men leaving the club with their back pockets bulging with cash. It's bad for their posture and bad posture leads to back aches and lots of medical problems. So in the name of public health, lets get out there and hustle harder. Let's not rest until every last $20 bill is tucked safely into our garters where it belongs!
    LOL!

    Great post! Great responses as well. Unfortunately boys, sometimes the patrons that get looked over are sitting in the dark corner with their head buried in their drink.

    I understand that many of you are shy, but this is a stripclub, you're not going to get rejected as long as you have money. Seriously, as good as it makes you feel to have throngs of girls approach you so you can happily reject them, if you want the star of the club, you might have to be somewhat proactive, even if its just to ask the waitress or even a bouncer, to call her over.

    This principle applies doubly to couples. I will approach couples with no problem, but if their expressions on their faces scream, "hit on my spouse and I'll beat your ass", then I will walk by, wave, smile, try to get attention, but I don't want to bother them.

    Friday night I was talking to a waitress, and a guy came up to us and just asked me if I wasn't too busy, could I do some dances for 2 couples. Hell yes!

    I have a couple of very casual regulars that don't expect much from me timewise, and are always good for around $100 dances and will buy me red bulls. Anything more than that isn't worth the investment in a potentially ugly RIL situation.

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    I understand that many of you are shy, but this is a stripclub, you're not going to get rejected as long as you have money. Seriously, as good as it makes you feel to have throngs of girls approach you so you can happily reject them, if you want the star of the club, you might have to be somewhat proactive, even if its just to ask the waitress or even a bouncer, to call her over.
    This seems so academic, and yet so many complain about not being approached.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    I understand that many of you are shy, but this is a stripclub, you're not going to get rejected as long as you have money. Seriously, as good as it makes you feel to have throngs of girls approach you so you can happily reject them, if you want the star of the club, you might have to be somewhat proactive, even if its just to ask the waitress or even a bouncer, to call her over.

    Real men who step up to the stage with a few bucks and do their own dirty work will soon not have to worry about leaving their seats to attract attention. When I was at your club, this worked like gangbusters.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer
    This seems so academic, and yet so many complain about not being approached.
    Yeah, we try all the usual tricks--asking the waitress to find the dancer we are interested in, asking the dancer while on stage to come over afterwards, etc. We're not shy. In most all cases, the dancer knows we are interested in seeing her (we can see, for example, the waitress approach her and point us out). However, there is often a choice made to keep chatting up the guy(s) she is with--even if the dancer has been over there for quite a while and no one is buying. Maybe the guys are regulars--who knows. All I know is that more than one dancer has missed out on lots of our money because--even knowing we are interested in her--she has chosen to stay with guys who are not spending a dime.

    Last Friday, we finally gave up on one very attractive dancer, after we had talked to her on stage twice (indicating our interest), tipped her on stage like crazy, and sent a waitress over to find her. The entire time (over two hours) she was talking to the same guy on the corner of the bar; a guy who never bought a dance--not one. Maybe I'm missing something...but that doesn't seem like good business sense to me. Later that night we spent $400 in VIP with another dancer and had an awesome time... If the first dancer had approached us, the $$ would have been hers in a heartbeat.

    There are certainly pleasant exceptions. There is one dancer who always recognizes my wife, and always approaches us instantly, knowing we will spend on her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Thorn
    DG, you are missing something, I think.

    Some dancers have probably experienced this so chime in if I am correct in my assumption.

    Couples that come into clubs can be cool, well situated in their emotional being, and looking to have fun. They can also be a drama waiting to unfold and drag the dancer along for the ride.

    If I had a dollar for every wanna be lifestyle couple I have seen where the guy pressured his partner into doing something she wasn't really ready to deal with, or where the woman or man thought they were ready to deal with concepts of possessiveness and jealousy, only to have it blow up in their faces. {poof}

    I can well imagine it would make any dancer leary of approaching couples.

    Now why dancers aren't approaching single females...

    I can only guess that it has to do with sexual preference and the, "Does it make me gay if I dance for a woman?", question. [By the way, the answer to that is, "No, it doesn't"]
    I must disagree... as goes for my experience, at least. I find that couples generally are very friendly and willing to spend. Those who are 30+ are usually very behaved, well dressed, good tippers, and know the drill. I DO see the jealous girlfriends who come in with their boyfriends to pacify their wishes, but generally these are very young people who don't have any money to spend in the first place - so I steer clear entirely.

    And I really don't think many dancers worry about "being gay" if they dance for another female. I'm not really into women, but if I had to choose between dancing for a male and a female, without money being a factor, I'd choose the female. Hands down. Women are generally less threatening and more respectful.

    Just my

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    one more thing...

    I think the reason that dancers sometimes don't approach women or couples is because women can be far more intimidating to a dancer than men (Especially if they are an attractive female)

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    When I go to a stripclub, I spend every dollar I bring. I just can't help myself around naked women. I just throw money at them.

    I guess I can't really be of any help to determine why some guys don't spend it all.

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    When I first started going to my fave SC, I went alone and occasionally had a few of the dancers approach me. I generously rewarded those brave girls with lotsa $$$$. It didn't take long for the other dancers to see me getting many dances and spending freely, and sure enough they started to stop by and ask if I'd like dances too (perhaps word of mouth from the first dancers helped as well). Since I wasn't with a male companion, perhaps I didn't pose the couple "drama" threat that is so well known to scare the dancers away.

    As for the "fear of gay" aspect....oh pish posh!
    (BTW...I totally agree w/ your assessment, tampadancer).

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