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    First let me say, I understand dancers are dancing to make money and not to find men. I am not the kind of guy who goes in a club hoping to either date a dancer or take one home. They have a job to do and I fully understand that.
    That being said, I was in Vegas recently and a dancer started talking to me and we talked and talked. At one point I even told her "I'm not going to get any dances tonight- so I don't want to take up your work time. Go make some money!" She laughed and stuck around. Finally, I broke down and got 1 dance with her. After the dance she kept dancing, even though I told her I only wanted 1. And she did in fact only charge me for 1. We talked a bit more and I told her I would be in town again soon. She then asked if she could give me her # and if she could have mine. I gave her my buisiness card- she turned it around and kissed it, leaving red lip prints on it. She told me she was marking it, so she remembered that I mattered.
    So is she just taking my # so she can call me and make sure that I come in next time I am in town (As a customer and spend more money)

    Or should I actually call her and break my code of "dancers are being nice to make money." Ha. And believe that she may actually want to see me outside of the club?

    Thoughts?

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    Default Re: What am I supposed to do?

    It sounds like she likes you and wants to go, out outside of work.Especially,if she hung around for free when she could have been making money

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    Well maybe she got your information for when you're in town again so that she could possibly get a new regular customer.

    Or maybe she likes you.

    It can't hurt to see where it goes though.


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    Default Re: What am I supposed to do?

    So do I call her now? and say HI? Or wait til I get back in town? How do I figure out which one it is?

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    How many days has it been? I hate the wait a few days to call, but in these circumstances you might want to wait. a few. Do you know when you are coming back into town? If you did that would be a perfect reason to call her and let her know since SHE did give you her number.
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    I got her number 3 days ago. I will be back in town in 6 days. But if I call and say "I am coming back to town." I'm afraid she'll say "Come on in to the club!"

    Then of course I guess I would know I was jsut a customer- ha

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    Quit being a wuss and call her already!!!












    J/K.You will never know unless you do call her.Go for it!!!
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    wussy wussy wussy .... just call say hi ask for lunch or something?? There done.
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    Call her when you go back and see what she says. If she asks you to go back and visit her at the club, she wants you to spend money on her. If she suggests you meet with her somewhere else, she wants to see you personally. It's very simple.

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    Default Re: What am I supposed to do?

    Tigersmilk said it all... then you'll know... but then, if you want to be a customer, that's always an option tos..
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    Finally, a post where I won't get razzed for doing the exact same thing...........
    Call her, but use some Zen mind control to pace yourself. As much as she might like you and as far as it might go.....if it comes to her choosing between stripping and you, you will get the heave ho. Bear that in mind.

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    Confidence above all - what will happen, will happen. and I agree with Thorn totally, no stripper talk unless SHE leads it there. Expect nothing!
    A lunch date is a great Idea...

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    Default Re: What am I supposed to do?

    sheeeeeeshhhhh!!!!

    You guys read to many romance novels.

    Why,when most tell entertainers NOT to date customers,would we tell or encourage a customer to date an entertainer???

    He isnt from Vegas,she is.
    I have heard that long distance relationships work 99% of the time.....

    NOT!!!!!!!!!

    The object is to have the client leave feeling all warm and fuzzy with the intent of a return visit.
    It sounds like you left on cloud 9.
    It sounds like she did her job,and did it well.

    Im glad you had a good time.

    Call her to say thank you and that you will stop in and say hello when your in town.

    Dont break the fantasy,from either side.

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    The only way I would ever spend that much time with a customer who said he was not going to buy more lap dances is if a) I were interested in him or b) He was the only customer in the club. I would never give my number to a customer who I didn't think I'd be interested in meeting outside the club. (I've never met a customer like that.)

    Yeah, it might not work, but this is, I believe, the first time I've read a post on this board from a customer who sounds like he has a real chance with a dancer. Go for it, Standup.

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    I would say call her when you get to town, and follow where it goes from there. It sounds like you're keeping your expectations low, which is a good thing. You know she's in the club to work and make money - anything more than that should be gravy to you. If you call and she says "hey, come see me in the club" you know where you stand - go to the club and help her make money. You might help make her day too.
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    Default Re: What am I supposed to do?

    Odds are shes just exihibiting good salesmanship for future in-club business. But you wont know until you call. As others have stated, just pick up the phone and let your fingers do the walking. One way or the other, you will know after that.

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    What club in Vegas was it?

    I've gotten plenty of numbers in Vegas, it's usually because they want to set up outside "paid" meetings, if you catch my drift.

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    Quote Originally Posted by standupguy
    Or should I actually call her and break my code of "dancers are being nice to make money." Ha. And believe that she may actually want to see me outside of the club?

    Thoughts?
    This dancer has some excellent sales techniques. I really like the lipstick on the back of the business card.

    Here's a useful rule of thumb: Everything a dancer does is to cultivate you as a customer. Phone numbers. E-mail addresses. Lipstick on the back of business cards. She's a performer and you are the consumer of the performance. Enjoy it for what it is.

    It's very very VERY easy for guys to read signals the wrong way, even when we all know better. Right down to the very last fiber of our being. When a stunningly attractive woman offers her phone number unsolicited, it can turn us into hopeless dweebs. We are suddenly back in high school being offered a phone number by the cheerleader. We stop thinking. Our hearts beat faster. We suddenly sound like dorks. I have a wallet full of back-of-the-cocktail-napkin phone numbers from six cities. I didn't ask for any of them. No, they don't all want to date me outside the club.

    Well, a few do. But you get my drift.

    The trick to maintaining your center of gravity and respect for the dancer at all times is to assume that she means nothing more than business. If she has a greater interest in you, this will come out over time. She'll be the one to make that decision, not you, anyway. No news flash there. So give her a call with all this in mind.

    One final thought. OTC relationships with dancers -- and I mean real relationships, not those involving commercial transactions -- are their own special roller-coaster ride of exhilarating insanity. Every time I get into the middle of it, I swear to God that I will never, ever do it again.

    A lot of good that does me.

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    Follow up: I called the # got her voice mail- and it was her voice not a fake #-ha. She hasn't called back yet. I basically said, "Hey we met last week, (then a little about me and our conversation- just in case she didn't remember) I will b back in town (on this date) and was wondering if you will be around and wanted to get together."

    So we'll see. If she calls back and says to meet her in the club, well, then I know I am in for some good laps and fun which is what Vegas is ab out anyway. If she wants to meet outside the club well, I have some cool shows offered to me in Vegas and maybe we could just have a good time/nice date seeing those. Either way its good.

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    If she doens't call back at all- she has lost money from me at the club and or a nice evening out. So either way she loses that way. Ha.

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    I hope you do hear back from her standupguy. I have become friends with a dancer I have know since March. I live about an hour away so I think that actually helps with the situation. We have gone out for dinner a couple of times, and for breakfast 4-5 times. She always tells me to phone her anytime I want, but I try to only phone when I think she may not be busy. I am a good listener, so after she has heard all of her customers problems, she needs someone to talk to and that usually ends up being me. I only go to see her 1-2 times per month, but she does know that when I am there I am taking time out of my schedule to see her. We have even talked about going to Montreal next year for a couple of days. So I think you can be friends with a dancer as long as she is the one in control, and letting things happen at her own pace. I hope things do workout for you.
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    Jeez, could you guys read any more into this?

    Once, I went into the this store, and there was a guy and he tried to sell me stuff, but I didn't really want the stuff, and I told him I didn't want the stuff, and he said that I should try it anyway, and I did, and I bought it and he asked me out, but I know it was just so he could sell me more stuff.

    Spaz! Dancers are not machines! They are people who are selling things, just like all other people in the world who sell things. On occasion (rarely, just like for anyone else) they enjoy a customer, and wish to see more of him/her. Although anyone who says that a person has "lost out" by not calling them is kind of an egotistical freak in my opinion - still, her tastes, not mine.
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    it's a defense mechanism Jenny, don't read anything into it

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    It's Vegas. Think glitz, glamor and high concept fantasy.

    I'm thinking if you revealed you were a routine visitor, you got the "I can't sell you tonight but I'll set up long-term prospects" pitch. The number she gave you could easily be a "business" line set up to be given to any customer. She probably lets the machine screen all calls on it, and she has a separate line or cell phone for her real personal calls.

    My money's bet on it being a business tactic because:
    1) It was too easy for you.
    2) It was too early for her to trust you.
    3) If it seems too good to be true, it probly is.

    Got your heart rate up though, huh? I say any dancer who can give you this much thrill for such a small initial downpayment deserves your repeat business.

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    Jenny, sorry my sarcasm doens't translate well. I was obviously joking around- I am far from egotistical- I am a comedy performer and writer for god's sake! Trust me we are far from egotistical!

    And yep- it was a fun time in vegas and her sales technique works! I give her credit.

    Funny thing is- I have a few friends who are dancers here in LA and it turns out one of them is going to go dance at the same club I met this girl at. So we may all be hanging out in Vegas at the club anyway. (it's a small world)

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