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    I never thought I would get jealous at a strip club. I mean, I AM a dancer and I KNOW the game but it happened anyway. Heres the story...

    Ive been dating this guy for a month and were hanging out and decide to go to the local strip club and have some drinks. Were drinking and tipping on the rail when we each find a girl we like. We decide to each get a dance... goes great. He gets up and goes back to the tip rail and I go outside to smoke.

    I come back in and hes in the middle of a dance.. ok Im thinking... so I sit next to him just to be totally ignored. He continues to drop a couple hundred dollars on this girl while totally ignoring me. Im getting irritated... the dancer notices me and finishes up the dance. I ask him why he was ignoring me (in an irritated way, rightfully so) and he asks why Im so mad.

    WHY Im mad is that this guy had told me for a couple weeks that Im too agressive... like he didnt even want to touch me, youd think I had the plague. I summed it all up to him having some thing about wanting to know someone better before kissing (even cuddling was odd, like he didnt want to touch me)

    Anyway - So now Im like wondering why he pays this girl to grind on him for 20 minutes but wont let me do it for free?!?!? I ask him why hes ignoring me, he says he isnt. Meanwhile did I mention that I ended up buying my OWN drink because he was busy ignoring me? So I walk outside needing to calm down a little...

    I come back in 20 minutes later and watch him get 5 more dances (on top of how ever many he got while I was outside) He then proceeds to look in my direction while walking to the bar and BUYING THE GIRL A DRINK without saying one word to me! Im soooo pissed. Im actually jealous of the dancer that she got to touch him or something like that. I dont even know...

    So I walk up to him and tell him to take me home NOW, arguing ensues, well, me being pissed and saying something and him yelling and yelling and yelling... havent spoken since. This was Fri nite.

    Im not mad at the girl.. I know how they work but I was so jealous and now I feel like crap like what did she have that I dont? Ive pretty much gotten over it since we did only date a few weeks but good Lord what was his problem.

    Do any of you guys understand this guys head? Was it something I did wrong? I have no freaking idea...

    Audrey

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    loose the guy. No class

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    I might be wrong but it seems like this guy doesn't want a relationship with you.

    I may have many faults, but being wrong ain't one of them.

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    Ashamed to say I have been in this spot. The most charitable explanation is that he was seeing if you're bisexual and/or magically impervious to jealousy. I'm sure if the tables were turned, he'd be as mad as you are.
    The hell with him. Appears to be a "tap it and run" dummy. The smart ones won't f*ck up in front of you. Dime a dozen, hun....

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    What she has that you don't? Casual anonymity. He's never going to see her again. He doesn't know her, and he knows she doesn't give a shit about him. He also doesn't have to do anything, doesn't have to participate in his own sexuality.

    Men can be wimps.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena
    What she has that you don't? Casual anonymity. He's never going to see her again. He doesn't know her, and he knows she doesn't give a shit about him. He also doesn't have to do anything, doesn't have to participate in his own sexuality.
    I think this is likely to be on the right track. I have always thought that the famous Charlie Sheen (I think it was) quote about prostitutes, "We don't pay them to have sex with us; we pay them to leave afterwards" is about 90% macho bluster, but there is a bit of truth in it. Many, but not even nearly all, guys find commercial sex (whether at the fantasy strip club level or the real, prostitution level) attractive because it takes off all the pressure to perform, to please the woman, to deal with her afterwards (the Sheen quote), to attract and seduce her, etc.

    -Ww
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    As the Truth eternally reveals itself,
    This very place is the Lotus Land of Purity,
    This very body is the Body of the Buddha."
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    Wow, he sounds like a total assclown.

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    Unclefucker. Loose him.

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    I agree he is insecure with himself. Don't let his "bitchness" effect u.

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    whew... no clue as to what is bouncing around this guys head!

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    I'm confused, too. Sounds like a big A-hole with a little bit of wierdo mixed in.

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    Sounds like he's playing head games. Sounds like it's working.

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    If that was me getting ignored like that, i'd get up & take a cab home. Forget this dude.

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    He is definitely trying to f*ck with your head. Some guys get off on making women jealous...."oooh, look how upset she is that I'm getting all these dances from this chick... she must REEEAAALLY want me!" It's a way for twisted men to stroke their own egos.

    Lose the ass and consider it a blessing that you witnessed his true character so early on You are beautiful - you have nothing to feel self-conscious about over his little display of immaturity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tampadancer
    He is definitely trying to f*ck with your head. Some guys get off on making women jealous...."oooh, look how upset she is that I'm getting all these dances from this chick... she must REEEAAALLY want me!" It's a way for twisted men to stroke their own egos.

    Lose the ass and consider it a blessing that you witnessed his true character so early on You are beautiful - you have nothing to feel self-conscious about over his little display of immaturity.
    I agree %100. He just showed his true colors, which seem immature to me. Audrey don't sweat it, you're a beautiful girl....don't tolerate any guy's crap.

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    I wouldn't ever talk to him again. Clearly he has no idea how to treat a woman. What an asshole! I would've taken a cab home once I saw him getting a second round of dances. No way would I have stayed around for that a second time.

    He's a loser. Lose him.

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    No sane man (sane being the operative word ) would behave like this unless he was trying to end a relationship. But there are nicer and more civil ways of doing that and one woul dhave to be a reall A-hole to behave like this.

    It must hurt like hell, I am sure, and it must have been so embarassing in the club. Thank God this happened so early in the relationship. He is certainly a weirdo and well rid of.

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    A nice dancer once asked me, "Why do guys who could be so good end up being assholes?" Because it's the easiest way out of a relationship.

    You're beautiful and obviously intelligent. You'll never know what his problem is, but it's definitely not worth finding out.

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    To see if you would get jellous

    Do you think he noticed?

    some freaks take pleasure in seeking out to make thier partner jellous.

    If he wanted a threesome, he had a messed up way of going about it.....

    the woman should always be allowed to have control of that type of situation. then invite the guy.

    NOT guy invite the girl...

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    My question is why you stayed with someone who treated you like a leper?

    But, that all aside, he's showing his true colors...they obviously clash with yours, so good riddance.

    Personally, I think he wanted out of the relationship and was too insecure to say anything...so he did it the next best way...he let you do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VenusGoddess
    Personally, I think he wanted out of the relationship and was too insecure to say anything...so he did it the next best way...he let you do it.
    Bingo!

    No reasonable guy truly committed in a relationship would act as blatantly rude as he did that night. Ditch the dude... you can find better!

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    Man, this post made me really angry! For you even to have the openness to go to a strip club and have fun with him together is a charitable attribute. If he's your bf he's suppose to make you feel wanted and special. Even if it was a test any human (male or female) would feel horrible in this situation. This makes me question my choice of profession... Catering to these scumbags!

    I don't think you should do anything about it personally, you’re better than that. This guy will never get a girl he's not paying for with his personality. That is so rude!!!! Even if he didn't like you he shouldn't have disrespected you like that! You are a beautiful woman and most men would be proud to have you by their side. I don't know about you but I believe in karma, this f*cker will get his shortcomings.

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    Well he was acting wierd to her even before this. He wont touch you? I dont know how long you have been seeing this guy but this is his way if showing you he is nit interested. He figures probabaly now you got the hint. Your pretty find someone else. Doesnt sound like you had much invested in him anyways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SportsWriter2
    A nice dancer once asked me, "Why do guys who could be so good end up being assholes?" Because it's the easiest way out of a relationship.

    You're beautiful and obviously intelligent. You'll never know what his problem is, but it's definitely not worth finding out.
    NO KIDDING! If a guy is an ass like that, its your cue to leave and not look back

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    Quote Originally Posted by Muyaha
    I might be wrong but it seems like this guy doesn't want a relationship with you.
    Youd think this huh? But a few days before I was at his place and just didnt have a good time. The next day I told him I dont think we should see eachother anymore and he just told me he needs more time to get to know me but he likes me and thats when we made plans for Fri nite... even more confusing huh? Him not liking me would easily sum it up... maybe he likes games... dunno

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