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    I need some help. I met this guy in August, and he comes to see me usually once a week. He has gotten to be a little out of control, by this I mean he thinks the whole experience is real. Now for the past couple months he is fixed on taking me shopping. This guy is very creepy and I told him right away I won't meet with anyone outside of the club, but he never dropped it. He talks to me in a brainwashing mannor, and it makes me want to just die. I get really creeped out by him, but i continue to talk to him for the money. He is always trying to nose into my business.

    Now the guy has a bogus email I created for him. He send me daily emails about going shopping together and what he wants to buy for me, and then how he will pay all my bills and college. I told him that this would never happen and that I am in a happy relationship.

    He also remembers everything I say, and repeats it back to me weeks later in the exact same way I said it.

    Other than all this he sings to me, and when we go for dances he starts off slow dancing with me, and then sings me more songs. afterwards he will say to me, "Now who else would dance with you like that." and when I say "No one." He will say, "See and i can treat you even better out of here."

    I am sick of his constant kissing on my head, cheeks, hands, etc. and he even tries to kiss me on the lips. Then says, "You should just relax and let me kiss you, I'm a really good kisser."

    the final thing is last Friday when I was going home, he followed me out and then brought me back into the club. He told me to sit with him, so I thought he was going to pay me more. Instead it was more singing, and more trying to convince me to go shopping with him. Then when I told him I was tired and ready for bed, he followed me out again. I looked at the valet for help. So they made sure he was gone first, before they even got my car. Thank god! The next morning he sent me an email asking for a picture of me :X. I havn't wrote back, and no matter what he's not getting a picture.

    I basically want to get rid of him for good. And I want to do it in an email, so I don't have to say it face to face. I know that doing it face to face will make it a long process and he'll come up with more crap (and a big loss of time for me). So does anyone have any suggestions on what I can say without sounding too mean? Maybe a story on how the whole strip club experience isn't real?
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    I'd tell him to stop...If he proceeds, Get a restraining order.


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    Quote Originally Posted by RoseDelight
    I'd tell him to stop...If he proceeds, Get a restraining order.
    For that, wouldn't I have to know his first and last name? I could probably get it from the bouncers I suppose.

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    Default Re: Help me get rid of a creepy customer!

    I think you may need to be a tad mean in order for it to sink in his head. Maybe "break up" with him?

    just say, "Dear so-and-so, I don't want you coming to see me anymore. This just isn't working out for me"

    ???

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    wow...I hope youre makin ALOT of money from him....You cant tell him the SC deal isnt real...he knows that,he wants to get you out of there...Why cant you just deal with him like any other creepy MF that you wouldnt want to date on the outside? GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM ME DICKHEAD !!!! or if youre worried about the money,then youre gonna just hafta put a price on this weird-o-rama fantasy of his,and shine him on..or you could always use them feminine wiles to steer him to some other girl.... (that would be lowwww...but effective) or maybe creep him out..you know,tell him yeah,well go shoppin...I wanna dress you up like a sissy girl and my big bi BF can have yer ass,I love to watch !!! when can we go? (try to be sure he wouldnt actually LIKE that first tho) Maybe tell him hes areally nice guy and you couldnt live with the thought of givin him aids and hep-c etc...that should make him run away...You could try honesty,if he's at all rational,look dude,I'm deleriously happy where I'm at,it aint ever gonna happen,so you need to move on and try some girl where you've got a chance.
    ."A long time ago,being crazy meant something...nowdays everybodys crazy"

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    You should tell him that your boyfriend found an e mail he sent to you and got real upset and asked you to not talk to him anymore,Tell him that you're not interested in anyone other then your boyfriend and to please respect that.If he contiues,tell him you don't appreciate his persistance and if he doesn't stop You will get the manager or call the police and restraining order against him.

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    Call the cops on him, and they'd get it.

    A girl here that I worked with had a guy following her, and 'stalking her' for a while. She didn't do anything and decided to let him cool down for a while. Maybe she thought it'd blow over...I am not sure. He ended up following her home one night and raping her.

    I am not fond of boys trying to be men.

    If he doesn't stop, I'd get the cops involved.

    Best of luck sweetie.


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    Default Re: Help me get rid of a creepy customer!

    how can you get the cops involved when all he did was follow her from the club to her car? Or did I misread something?

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    If after she says "No" and stop.....If he continues, I say get the cops involved.


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    Pretend you don't know him anymore, after the 1 e-mail.... do not react or respond to anything he says or types, no matter what.

    as a matter of fact.... delet and block him, after e-mail is sent.

    make sure management knows he gives you the creeps.

    and walk right past him, as if you have never even seen him before..

    forget the money....

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    Hello!Call the fucking cops!

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    helloooooo??? and what is she supposed to say to the cops? They won't do shit for her at this point. She hasn't even told him to leave here alone yet! I'm sorry but telling her to call the cops at this point isn't very sound advice. She needs to tell him to get lost first.

    but I do like your "boyfriend found the email" idea

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    Default Re: Help me get rid of a creepy customer!

    It doesn't seem as if he's done anything too over the top yet but if he continues to bother her after she tells him to stop, I'd get the police involved.

    Some men in this business can't understand the difference between reality and a pure fantasy. I always get nervous when people don't understand the difference between the two. I don't want my life to be in jeopardy because some idiot didn't understand that.


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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveSexMoney
    helloooooo??? and what is she supposed to say to the cops? They won't do shit for her at this point. She hasn't even told him to leave here alone yet! I'm sorry but telling her to call the cops at this point isn't very sound advice. She needs to tell him to get lost first.

    but I do like your "boyfriend found the email" idea
    Well As I said before....

    If after she tells him and he doesn't stop, I'd call the cops.

    I think that's what tiamaria meant as well.


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    well this is what I think. First of all you need to tell him you no longer want anything to do with him. However you do that is up to you. I do like tiamaria's idea of the b/f finding the email *BUT* consider how stable is this customer? Is he batty enough to want to hurt your boyfriend to remove him as an obstacle? Sorry to sound so pessimistic but I've dealt with a customer or 2 like this before.

    If he does not leave you alone, then you tell your manager and you file a restraining order. Now the guy can't come into the club.

    If he violates the restraining order, THEN the cops will do something. Be aware though, how will this guy feel if you do file a restraining order? Some people go ballistic after that. You really have to gauge the situation carefully.

    Or you could just string him along as a regular for life. Just be mean and bitchy. Tell him to his face "I don't like you." He would probably still love it.

    Whatever you do, keep an eye on your rearview mirror when you go home. Have a plan of who you can call and where will you go if he (or anybody!) is following you.

    good luck and keep us posted!

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    does anybody know if she does file a restraining order, does the defendent have access to her name too?

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    The ones here do.

    It'll say something like," John Smith has been ordered to stay so many feet away from ____ ___"...

    I am not sure about elsewhere....

    There's two types of restraining orders. Order for Harrassment, and order for protection. But to file a complete order she'd have to have a lot of evidence to back it up. Bruises, police reports, doctor's reports, e-mails, etc. You can normally get the forms at a domestic abuse clinic or a crisis center. (Also the cops)....The judge will look over it after it's filed. He'll order a temporary restraining order (Ex Parte).

    After that...The cops would deliver a restraining order to the imbecile. After two weeks tops, The judge will decide if the order should be made official or not.

    It's a long process.

    I hope she doesn't have to go through it though.

    Maybe he'll take the advice you ladies have given, and shoo off.


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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveSexMoney
    does anybody know if she does file a restraining order, does the defendent have access to her name too?
    I don't know how it works in other states, but in the state of Wisconsin, the defendant can get access to the dancer's name if she files a restraining order against him. There is a website called Wisconsin Circuit Court Access and on this website, anyone can type in someone's first and last name and get all sorts of information about a person, and restraining orders are on there. So all the customer would have to do is type in his own name, and he could get the dancer's name if he doesn't know it already.

    Julz, I agree with everyone else, I would tell him to stop contacting you and stop coming to the club. The story about your boyfriend becoming upset over his emails is a good one. There will always be other customers and there becomes a point where the money just isn't worth the hassle.

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    Tell him that your HUSBAND found his e-mails after he got out of prison for Attempted Murder. That will stop him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by julzgulz
    He also remembers everything I say, and repeats it back to me weeks later in the exact same way I said it.
    fixation and obsession! this sounds like a good plot to a bad movie...
    to which you need to write your own ending.

    there is a ton of great advise here, and I think you should listen to others.

    Tell him you don't want to dance or sit with him anymore, and you have no interest in him. second, tell management and the bouncers, and get them involved. third, at least talk to someone at the local station to find out exactly what you do need to do to take action.

    sounds more scarey than creepy....

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    Ok how about this,Your Fiancee' found the e mail,We all agree on this so far,ok,he found the e mail and you told him that It was nothing,That You loved him and don't want to lose him over that,Tell him that your boyfriend then proposed to you!LOL! Because he realized how much he loved you after he read the e mail,Thank the customer say,Thank you If it wasn't for you sending me that e mail He might have not proposed!Tell the creep that You wanted him(your boyfriend) To propose to you for the longest time!That you are so in love with him more then anything in the world and would never jepordize your relationship>>>Or just tell him that your boyfriend proposed to you for christmas!Act so happy about it!Have people help you(other co workers)By coming up and congradulating you.If he is a creep he won't back off,Then you tell him,Are you crazy,I love my fiance' and we are going to be so... happy!

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    Lol. yeah. but just email him all that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tiamaria
    Ok how about this,Your Fiancee' found the e mail,We all agree on this so far,ok,he found the e mail and you told him that It was nothing,That You loved him and don't want to lose him over that,Tell him that your boyfriend then proposed to you!LOL! Because he realized how much he loved you after he read the e mail,Thank the customer say,Thank you If it wasn't for you sending me that e mail He might have not proposed!Tell the creep that You wanted him(your boyfriend) To propose to you for the longest time!That you are so in love with him more then anything in the world and would never jepordize your relationship>>>Or just tell him that your boyfriend proposed to you for christmas!Act so happy about it!Have people help you(other co workers)By coming up and congradulating you.If he is a creep he won't back off,Then you tell him,Are you crazy,I love my fiance' and we are going to be so... happy!
    That sounds good tia!

    After that....Can we drag him out back and beat him up?


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    Yeah!LOL!

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    Concrete boots,Right Rose!

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