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    I'm on the verge of getting a sugardaddy. He has sent me huge amounts of money and we haven't gone out to dinner yet. I'm going out to dinner with him in a couple of weeks. I know this is going to take it to another level, so i want to be smart about this. How do I keep him coming for more, when he hasn't gotten anything? How do I subtly ask for money, shopping, etc? I don't want to mess this up..this guy is LOADED.

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    If you want him as your sugar daddie and you want to keep him..be straight and upfront about what you want in return and don't go chnaging your mind.

    you could also try
    Lot's of willing men .

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    he won't last, so prepare for that now

    milk it for all its worth because his expectations will start to increase and his gifts and money will start to decrease. Just remember....nothing is free. Stay firm on this because your relationship is based on getting what you need from each other and he will try to take advantage of you too.

    I started a nice relationship with a sugar daddy last spring. We still see each other, but less frequently, and he's becoming more demanding. Like before we'd have 3 hours dates for $1000. He started asking for more time, which I was okay with. Then the same time for less money. Now he wants me to come see him at 4pm and leave around noon the next day for $700! I did the math...it's starting to be not worth it ($35/hr).

    that site sugardaddie.com was discussed in some length on this site....seemed to be a place where guys looked for omwne who wanted money for sex.

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    These "loaded" guys will give you money and buy you gifts for nothing but friendship.....But it gets old to them, and they move on. Some don't want sex, it's the thrill of giving and meeting women. Call it paid part time gf. Or escort without sex.....Which i am learning all too well about. They will mind fuck you.

    If he is willing, take it, and let him go when it ends. He just finds another. Some guys have many gf's at the same time while a rich wife sits at home waiting.....Sad.

    Pamela

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    I agree with Emily.

    Milk it for everything it's worth. He eventually might want sex, or even a relationship though. A good thing can only last so long until he moves onto something else when he realizes you might not give him what he wants in this 'relationship'..

    I think some men just like the appeal of having a gf, especially a beautiful one. Eye candy, if you must.

    I had a guy offer to be my 'sugar daddy' but I am just not into that myself. My attention span would get shorter, and if sex wasn't involved...Well, it'd get even more shorter. I also didn't want to deal with the drama that this man was all about. He was married, had 3 kids, and wife was pregnant with the 4th. I think he really wanted a 'gf' out of the deal.

    I say ride the ride as long as you can, It'll eventually end.

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    Some good advice.

    I recently met a man who wants something like this from me. He's married and doesn't want sexual relations and is adamnant that he will not pay for sex. However, he wants sexiness (his words), like sweet talk, flirting 'n shit. To bring up the idea of getting him to pay me bigtime for attention, what I said was that I met other men who would pay me heaps for my time in order for me to be sexy and make them feel special (a white lie ). If he wanted to buy in then he had to have money to show for it. Surprisingly to me, he was willing to go with it, practically to outcompete my ''other clientele'' but I won't hold my breath just yet until I see that green. So I guess it's potentially in the making

    At least in my experience from the small chats we've had, it seems like a harmless operation. I did once have a sort-of sugardaddy relationship that went wrong, the man in question started falling for me irrespective of the fact that I stated the terms of the relationship before. He also was willing to spoil me but the emotional side was getting too much to bear. It was a big headache and I'm using that experience to gear this one in the right direction.

    At least when having a sugardaddy, be realistic, they generally are shortlived because expectations from both sides may change - normally emotionally/sexually from the sugardaddy and in monetary terms from the girl. And above all, be safe and careful. You don't want to be exploited nor put your life in danger because of money.

    I hope there are a few more contributions on this thread. I'm continually getting more interested in this topic.
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    I know that it's not going to last forver.. How do I bring up the "terms"? Should I just ask him upfront what does he want and take it from there? I don't want to ask him the wrong way and turn him off, ya know?

    Great advice guys..I'm definitely taking all of it.
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    Well, what are the terms?

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    Hold up latina, is he already sending you huge amounts of money?! That's a pretty good start.

    I don't know, there is no specific way to ask for things. I personally think I am a little too assertive, it won't work for everone. I pretty much told him upfront that although I love his company, I am a working woman and have to earn a living, that I just don't have time to meet customers outside of work unless there is something that satisfies both parties outside the boundaries of intercourse. He asked what I wanted and I said money and to be spoiled. I even outright asked him if he wanted a sugardaddy relationship. He says he's willing to pay as long as I'm showing genuine interest in him as a person and am not using him only for his $$$. I guess what I'm saying is that if you don't ask, you don't get. But although I say this, I've known this dude for a few months now so have had some time to suss out what he wants. If you are in the early stages of developing a relationship with this guy, you could wait it out, he may surprise you first. I just got sick of waiting for this guy to say what he wanted and just jumped in.

    I know now I may sound greedy to some people, but if opportunity is knocking hard on your door, grab it before it goes.

    If you want gifts 'n stuff, just be upfront. I'm no expert and I don't want to condone using people for finances (I'm not saying this is what you plan to do), but he's adult, I'm sure if he wants to do it, he will. You sound like you're aware of potential consequences so good luck. Sounds like you're halfway there anyway.

    Hope this helps some.
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    If I were u, I wouldn't say shit. How do u know your MO (main objective) is entirely the same as his? He may really like u as a person (not just 'cause you're a young hot little thang, but because you have some personality to u) and u telling him u just wanna be on some $$$$ shit with him isn't the best idea. Plus, when you make this offer-you're basically telling him you'll f*** on some money. If u met him on a website or he had a classified ad that said I WILL BE YOUR SUGARDADDY, then its something to be talked about. But you take away all innocence of a potential sugarbaby if you tell him what you want out of the relationship-HE DOES NOT NEED TO KNOW.

    What he needs to know is that-you are young and about your money. And you're trying to pay your way through school, have a nice apartment, finance a new car, and still have time for shopping and fun-whatever you want to tell him. You'll rub his back if he rubs yours first. Most men, if they like you and want to impress you and HAVE MONEY, will spend no problem. If not, they're not worth wasting your time on.
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    Yeah, be COY. Aren't women famous for "playing games and manipulation"? (Bitter man's words.) So......if you lay it down too early, he'll split. Men can appreciate straighforwardness, but when you're trying to get some mutual gift-ing out of eachother, it''ll kill his zeal for giving.
    The one time I was presented with this situation, I had to walk away. It was too damn sad. BUT if something better came along, I'd entertain it.
    Look honey, you won't be young and cute forever. Get while the getting's good, then move on...........

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    But you have to lay it down early if you think he's not pulling his end

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    I could never have a sugar daddy relationship.It's just too much damn work and finesse.
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    true: he won't last, but making it last longer than having to go to bed with him is just keep up on the dinner dates, they're harmless.
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    I went on that site... most of the sugarbabes on there looked like straight up prostitutes OMG! Anyway, I have a similar situation where I met an older man at a bar and have already made arrangements for lunch and shopping (I will eventually have him visit me at the club) I've never done this before, however - I've heard it said many times that the giving ends the moment you have sex with them. I guess thats because at that point there's nothing for them to work towards anymore. So basically you have to provide the illusion that things may happen, but they can't. Kinda sad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lalalatina
    I know that it's not going to last forver.. How do I bring up the "terms"? Should I just ask him upfront what does he want and take it from there? I don't want to ask him the wrong way and turn him off, ya know?

    Great advice guys..I'm definitely taking all of it.
    I'd be up front.

    You have to pay bills like everyone else. I'd let him know that sex/emotions weren't going to be a part of the deal. If he's already sending you money, That's great. Keep it coming! Time will eventually run out on this deal, I say milk it for everything it's worth. Drain the snot out of him! Hah, jk there...sort of.

    I'd ask him what he wanted. Dating, dinners, vacations, etc.....Does he want just a girl he can show off in public?

    Whatever happens....Stay safe, and remember all good things do come to an end.


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    This is the situation.
    I have known this guy for 2 years. I met him at the same time as my friend, but I had to go away for school, and i wasn't into the whole sugardaddy thing, so I told my friend to take care of him and when I come back we'll do a tag team thing.

    I came back and he's taking care of her without sex (i believe her when she says this) and he comes to visit us at the club and she's like "come on, let's do this together".

    So they lose touch and now me and the sugardaddy get in touch again. Not wanting to ruin my friendship, I ask her thoughts and whatever...and she's like"Go get your money. I've had mt share." So that's how this whole thread came about.

    Yes, he has sent me money (thousandS) and I will be going out to dinner with him. He has offered me a life, that I can't do now. He has put this on the table....I join him when he retires (by summertime) on trips around the world....on top of that...all my expenses are taken cared of. I got school (yes he is paying for that) to finish and then I would probably consider it. Man, I don't know this is so crazy...I want to do it right...I want to come out of this with SOMETHING substantial (like money in the bank).
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    Well....Hmm, if he is giving you all this, keep taking if you like. Just be careful that you don't lose you in all this.

    You need you're own independence as well. What if you become too dependent on himand he leaves one day? That would be my worry.

    Good luck hun,

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    It sounds like you're becoming way too independent on this man. Once he's gone, What will you do then? This might not even last a month. Money goes by fast, especially with you being in school and all.

    If he's helping you get on your feet, I understand that.

    But you need to do for yourself as well.


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    If you come out of it with an education, that's great. Aside from that, what you come out of it with is up to you. SAVE the money, don't blow it.

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    Great post Thorn, very true!

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    Ride the wave!
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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    Yeah, be COY. Aren't women famous for "playing games and manipulation"? (Bitter man's words.)

    (a side note....)
    when a woman does it, it's "manipulation". when a man does it, it's just being "persuasive".

    interesting how pitching sales is looked at......!

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    When a woman does it,It's an art!LOL,When a man does it He's scum!

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    I've got a sugar-daddy-regular-customer and I'm going to have to end it soon. There is always a point where they try to get more for less... I wrote about this week's antics in my blog here on sw: - check it out!

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