I'm 100% with Jenny on this. If you don't want to spend time with someone, you're not devaluing THEIR time by saying it will cost them money to spend time with you. In all sorts of professions that's the way things work--and the profession of dancers is pretty much just that: spending time with their customer in whatever (non-sexual) way the two of them can agree on.
Whether the sugar daddy has his own issues...Sure, maybe he does. But maybe he doesn't. In this case, doesn't sound to me like the guy is looking for a SB due to a lack of self-worth.
I also agree with Lilith that a dancer doesn't have to shoot herself in the foot by telling a guy upfront that their SD/SB relationship isn't going to end up with sex. The only line I'd draw there is that she should NOT lie...If some element of the relationship (e.g. sex)matters so much to the guy, he will persist in questioning until her intentions become apparent. If he doesn't think he can change her mind, he'll probably be done with her. And that's fair. That's better disclosure than you will get from a used-car salesman, and all you can expect from someone who makes a living doing it.
I don't think the comparison with a first date is accurate (since this is an outgrowth of her job as a dancer, it's reasonable to apply the same SEA analysis to the SD/SB relationship). I DO think that the best way for both parties to end up satisfied is if they agree on things going in, but that that path may not be the best way for the dancer/SB to maximize her own returns. So you may have to weigh how much you want to hurt/mislead the guy to get money.
Having said that, I DO think that you should answer questions honestly on your first date! If the guy asks if he's going to have sex with you, I'd think 99% of the time that's pretty easy to answer ("Um...No. I have to go."). That doesn't mean you have to give the WHOLE answer ("maybe later" doesn't have to become "if I have a complete personality change"), but honesty is a pretty low bar.



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