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    I was doing my Christmas shopping today (I am one of those people that wait until the day before), and while I was waiting I started talking to this woman. She was in her early 50s, and since the line was so long....I had a conversation with her for a little while.

    She said she had been married for 37 years, had kids, and now grand kids. She spoke about her husband as if it was the greatest love of her life. She spent most of her life with him, and loved him dearly. She then said that he ended up cheating on her and eventually leaving her two years ago.

    Before I could utter out the words "I am sorry"....She said something interesting...."Even If I knew he was going to cheat on me many years down the road and hurt me as much as he did, I probably still would have married him because of the love he gave me"...

    I was surprised to hear that.

    So now I am curious.......

    Say someone gives you 5 minutes to look into the future.....You find out that your SO is going to cheat on you, or hurt you in someway later on in life.

    5 minutes is over, and now you're back to the present time.

    Would you continue your relationship, or end it?


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    The dance by Garth Brooks

    I would post the words,but i would tear up all over the keyboard and electrocute myself.

    Yea,here's my dime,gimmie the dance.

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    Aww, Who knew you were a sensitive lad, MNM.


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    End it.
    One of woman's cardinal rule: Body parts can be fake,everything else has to be real.

    一个女人的枢机规则:肢体可以伪造,一切必须真实.

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    The end.

    Pamela

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    life is way to short to waste it on a side trip... and if that one person, who you could see yourself staying with, comes along - it would suck to be with a dead end.
    Last edited by bigteninch; 12-25-2004 at 11:44 PM.

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    we are talking about 37 years right?

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    No. We're talking about if YOU knew your SO was going to betray you in the future...Would you end it?


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    If it was definate,then I would end it right there to save time for both of us.
    One of woman's cardinal rule: Body parts can be fake,everything else has to be real.

    一个女人的枢机规则:肢体可以伪造,一切必须真实.

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    End it. How could I trust them when I know the end result?

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    Quote Originally Posted by RoseDelight
    No. We're talking about if YOU knew your SO was going to betray you in the future...Would you end it?
    Now i see the whole picture, read it wrong here. Duh. Who woild not end it if they see someone they love cheating on them in the future?

    Takes a tough person (or stupid) to stay if that is the case in my opinion. But i bet there are people out ther who will forgive...Not me.

    BUT after 37 years of marriage, that changes the question for me.

    Probably would have stuck with him. Not sure. Depends on why he cheated. I mena if we are already into 20 years of marriage and kids, homes, etc. Hmmm, good question Rose.
    Pamela

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    37 years in a good relationship is getting hard to find nowadays,i hope i have found it myself.Time will tell.

    I think i would do it,and on the day i knew she was gonna cheat,i would hide her walker or saw her cane in half.

    If she still somehow escaped to cheat on me,i would welcome my new retirement plans that would include not less then 5-6 twenty one year old strippers and a houseboat in key west.

    After 37 years,i double dog dare her to cheat!!!!

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    LOL, MNM! It's disturbing how much you have this planned out.


    --Georg Christoph Litchenberg



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    I would enjoy the ride....
    On the day she cheats, Id make sure to blast a big ole nut in her while she's asleep, make sure she can't shower before the cheating and enjoy the laugh.Then I would take her back

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    Let's see.

    Since I've already watched the whole story go by, I can safely say that if I had been able to anticipate the ultimate cheating, along with all of the other lies, manipulations, deceptions, and just general twisted emotional chaos, I would have walked out of the place that I met her with the first inclination that I had to do so, rather than stopping to talk to a group of people as I got near the door.

    (Or isn't my vision that clear in this hypothetical?)

    It has always amazed me how significant the, seemingly, least significant choices can turn out to be.

    But then, Al Bundy once said, "It doesn't matter which one you pick, it'll be the wrong one". I've always found great comfort in those words.

    So perhaps the ability to see this aspect of the future would have no effect other than to remove the foolish optimism with which we all enter these ultimately unstable arrangements.
    "He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"

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    That is a great question and I already know the answer. Anyone who has cried after a break up knows the answer because there are good things that happen in every relationship before a break up.

    The only constant is change. That has been repeatedly demonstrated to me.

    If I knew there was going to be a year of good times - I would stay for the year. If I knew it to be 37 years - I definately would stay for 37 years. Geez oh pete that is forever.

    People who are looking for the person who will be with them to the end... they will be repeatedly disappointed. Find the happiness where one can, and when that source is dry - find it else where.

    All things are impermanant - whether it be your phone number, your home address, your job, your desires, your accomplishments, your inaccomplishments... change is swirling around us and is in us as we ourselves change.

    That is just the way it is these days, and probably has been for the days past but people refuse to talk about it.

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    RD, this is such a great question!

    We've had some really good threads lately. Damn. The Special Ethical Arena still has me thinking.

    Here's where I end up. I think the relationship would be doomed by the look ahead. This was not my first thought. My initial reaction was to reach out and grab that 37 years of joy and say, "sure, I'd take it."

    But I wouldn't. The woman in the store thinking back wistfully had 37 years during which she trusted the guy. The memories looking back were based on trust, respect, optimism and the rest of the glue that held them together. The look ahead dissolves it because it breaks the spell. He doesn't look so charming stepping out of the shower anymore. You are going to do what to me?

    Aren't all relationships based on a certain amount of optimistic insanity?

    It's good that emotional bonds are so overwhelmingly strong that they overpower our logic and defensive mechanisms. Otherwise, we'd never stick together long enough to perpetuate the damn species.

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    As for me, I would wait for whatever was supposed to happen to well.. happen. I wouldn't condemn him and throw it away prematurely. So many things can affect what you do in the future anyway, so things are bound to change. If I had a very very good 37 years with my hubby, and then he did something like that after all we'd been through, unfortunately I would end it, no matter what. Infidelity is unforgiveable. We both agree on that. It'd definitely kill me, but I'd let him go.

    But, like I said, if I was to look into the future and see that it would be, I'd wait for it happen. I'd enjoy every second up until that point.

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    Would you continue your relationship, or end it?
    Continue, of course.

    Sexual infidelity pales in significance to emotional loyalty.
    Idealism is fine, but as it approaches reality, the costs become prohibitive.

    William F. Buckley, Jr.

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    The most devastating relationships have made me grow immensley as an individual. To throw away the lesson would be foolish....then again so was drowning my sorrows and being bitter after being fu%ked over so badly...it's a toss up, but I'd probably dump his pathetic ass and never look back.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer
    Continue, of course.

    Sexual infidelity pales in significance to emotional loyalty.
    Aren't they one in the same in a committed relationship?

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    end it
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    I think if I knew for certain it would happen I'd leave and walk away. However, I don't regret any relationship I've had, even the bad ones (and there have been many). If I got rid of all the bad ones I might have two in my life so I consider the ones that turned out bad for the fun I did have and what I learned and the strength I gained. Still, knowing that the person would definitely cheat I don't think I'd stay.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Other Owner
    The woman in the store thinking back wistfully had 37 years during which she trusted the guy. The memories looking back were based on trust, respect, optimism and the rest of the glue that held them together. The look ahead dissolves it because it breaks the spell. He doesn't look so charming stepping out of the shower anymore. You are going to do what to me?
    I agree with this. You'd destroy 37 future years of your partner living up to that trust and optimism with that five-minute glance into the future. It begs the question: Who's violating whose trust? And reminds me of the observation that if you feel you have to spy on your partner, you already know they can't be trusted.

    With that kind of future knowledge, can you imagine how accusatory I'd be before the fact?
    "You know darn well what you're predisposed to do!"
    "You're not fooling me; I know you were staring at that clerk with the same goo goo eyes you're going to have for the person of your dreams!"
    "What are you contemplating? Don't tell me nothing!"

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    Anybody can make a mistake, take a turn on the wrong path.

    I'd keep going and see what happens after the mistake. If it's a mistake, we can move on from there. Speaking from experience.

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