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    tampafldancer
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    she doesnt sound like a good liar. People like that just make themselves sound crazy.

    Could there be something she is hiding? Like escorting? I just dont understand why she would leave the club like that and lie??

    not even smart lies, stupid lies.

    If anything i would drop her for her LACK OF COMMON SENSE!

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    Maybe try telling her that you will NOT judge her for her past under any circumstances, and if she wants a relationship or whatever with you she needs to come clean.


    ITS Obvious that she was embaressed to tell you about the situation at the massage palor. She lied, and you probally questioned it all along.

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    Default Re: If your S.O. lied a lot, would you end it

    Quote Originally Posted by tampafldancer
    Maybe try telling her that you will NOT judge her for her past under any circumstances, and if she wants a relationship or whatever with you she needs to come clean.


    ITS Obvious that she was embaressed to tell you about the situation at the massage palor. She lied, and you probally questioned it all along.
    well, there was more than passing curiosity on why she got popped, before that, there was only support and maybe just a bit of indifference if she brought up a work topic - guess i needed a bit of distance with shop talk.

    Ok, thank you all sooooooooo much. I get the point and have a lot of the questions in my mind more resolved after hearing all your comments. Common-sense, that was good. So I at least now feel I am keeping it honest with her, because she knows that i accept that as her story, and it's my choice not believe her. She is fairly persistant, maybe thinking I will have a short memory on this, but I know in my heart that my trust has been violated and it is not easily given once betrayed. I think i was really asking if her "stuff" made any sense because maybe I was missing something. I like the perspective that creating an understanding of acceptance regardless of past actions, and that is exactly how i work. I had already told her that exact thing. So again, thank you very much for your careful consideration and thoughts on this.


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    Default Re: If your S.O. lied a lot, would you end it

    Quote Originally Posted by bigteninch
    really curious to find out what people think about how trust affects a relationship and how important it is.

    So the situation is this:

    You find out little things that tell you that your S/O is not telling you the truth about everything but their sexual loyalty. For instance, your S/O takes some paperwork of yours and denies it, but later admits to it. Another example might be that your S/O takes a business card of yours and copies down the information to somehow use for "business purposes" later, but tells you they never saw it - then you find the paper they wrote the stuff on because they were careless and dropped it.

    I need your help with this because this happened to me. I broke up with her, and now she calls a lot, stayed over on my birthday, sends cards, talks about getting a place together, etc. So my mind keeps drifting back to the past.

    would you do?
    I need honesty in a relationship, so if someone lied to me enough times I'd probably run out of patience with them...

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    "Burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, shame on ME!"

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    Default Re: If your S.O. lied a lot, would you end it

    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    "Burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, shame on ME!"
    Right!!!

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    In a heartbeat. Trust is the most important thing in any relationship. It's the whole 'slippery slope' thing. Once you stare lying to someone, it gets easier to continue, and lie about bigger things. Eventually you're just going through the motions of a real relationship.

    Maybe it's possible to be too truthful, I don't know. I often seem to get the 'wrong' answer to the question "How does this look on me?" If you don't want me to say that it looks terrible, then don't ask.

    On the plus side, you know that if I give you a compliment, I mean it. It's not just for the sake of it.

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