I AM NOT CAPABLE OF MAKING SMALL TALK.
i seriously dont know how.
i never got along with other kids at school or my family so i never really developed social skills. then i started stripping! i was comfortable being nude, was confident in my appearance, and had formal dance training so i thought it was a perfect job for me. i didnt realize there is so much customer interaction. at first the only dances i gave were to customers that asked ME for one while i collected my stage tips, then i got in the habit of just walking up to a guy, introducing myself, asking if he was having fun, and then asking for a dance. i think it only worked if a guy was going to get on anyway - but it didnt change anyones mind who just needed a little persuading.
on this message board and by every woman ive worked with i keep hearing that you need to sit with customers and talk to them for "a while" before offering a private dance. but i dont know what to say!
im 21 sitting with a 50 year old man and i cant find anything in common with him so i have a hard time talking to him - so he starts asking ME questions and i dont feel comfortable answering what i do on my time off or other personal information. i dont want them getting to know me - i just want to do my job well. after that there is lots of silence and then im usually picked on. drunks can be mean, and they usually just dig on me for the same deficiencey ive been picked on for having my whole life.
does anyone have any advice or anything?


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) and she says that good manners and good conversation require a lady (tee hee) to know at the very least what major sports teams are playing games that day and any little interesting current events in recent history (not political or religious but light topics). I was thinking "What old fashioned garbage!" But it really helps. Like really really. In the club and in every day life.



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